Stay-At-Home Moms 12/1-12/7

Is there room for one more in here?

I'm a mom to two wonderful little girls, ages 8 and 5. Natalie and Jennifer keep me moving a lot....and having their dad around is like raising another kid:laugh: :laugh: except that I can make that "kid" sleep on the couch when he p*sses me off. We have had our share of problems lately, and we are trying to work through them but it is really difficult for me right now. It's hard to cater to everyone all the time and I feel as if everybody takes me for granted. I have very little time for myself, that's why my daily workout is so important. It's one of the few things I do just for ME.

Off to do my Slim in 6 "Burn it Up!" video....my legs and abs will be thanking me later.:laugh:

Hi ladies!

D's mom - I say be as b***hy as you want to be. That's what we're all here for, to support each other through the good and the bad and the b***hy. Let it out girly!

GTO - Welcome! I feel the same way about my workout.

And on that note, ladies, DH got paid on Wednesday, and he gave me the money for a babysitting pass, so I was able to go yesterday and today. And yesterday I stuck to my calories for the first time in...Well, let's just say a while. :bigsmile: I feel much better now that I can work out. I'm in a lot better mood and just feel...good. I also raised my calories to 1 pound a week. That's the best I can do for the holiday season.

Something bothering me though: Today at the gym, I brought Darrell up to the daycare and went to do my hour on the elliptical. When I came out, he was sitting at the front desk with a man I had never seen before. :huh: So I freaked out a little, went up and calmly asked what happened to the daycare lady. He said she had to go so he was taking care of Darrell. I didn't see any harm in it, but I was only 20 feet away in the cardio room. Someone could have checked with me to see if I minded, because honestly I would rather have cut my workout short than leave Darrell with someone I had never seen before. So there's that. What would you guys have done in that situation? Should I have made a scene or said something about it?

Lori - Has Harley been doing any better with her naps?

I have to share something with all of you. This is Darrell's picture for our Christmas card:



Don't you just want to eat him up? I do. :bigsmile:

Loki,
Darrell is a cutie. I don't know that I would have made a scene but I would have been uneasy about a stranger watching my child, especially a man. We have a rule in our church that men can not help in the classed with children under 6. I think that's a good rule. It makes me feel better anyway. They should have at least told you and let you meet the guy first.
Welcome GTO!
I have an appointment with a midwife at three. Can you say nervous? She's just going to talk with me and maybe draw some blood. I know it's not a big deal and I will be fine, but I still get nervous! I don't have to decide to use her services right now. I do hope that I like her and she doesn't get on my nerves. lol I'll post later and let you know what they find out. I hope to be back doing my push ups tomorrow! :laugh:
MM

Harley is snoozing on the ottoman again. I didn't get up. (I don't want her to roll off or the dogs to get her.) But I still got coupons clipped and my grocery list made. So it is progress.

Hey what about stay at home dads

Hey, I think everyone is welcome! You have the same challenges we do! How old are your kids?

Loki-thanks for permission to be b***hy :flowerforyou: Sometimes men are just so stupid. No offense bull (welcome!) Granted my bad mood started the whole ordeal yesterday but the sh** that came out of his mouth just made it worse! And sadly the majority of the argument was over the HRM I want :sad: Oh it's a long story.....

But I'm trying to get into a better mood...at least until he gets home and then honestly I hope to NOT be here. So in my attempt to be in a better mood I'm trying to focus on some positives. (1) I'm starting to feel muscles in places that they weren't before..Ok ok ok I know they were there but I couldn't FEEL them underneath all the fat. Fat is still there but muscles are getting stronger (2) I'm finding I have better balance during my workouts. As you may or may not know I'm a Turbo Jam junkie and we do a lot of kick boxing moves. When I first started I was trippin and stumblin and havin a hard time finding my balance. Now I'm doing better...connection to the muscles strengthing I think so (3) I am wearing a shirt today that I haven't worn since last fall....granted I was pregnant and couldn't even think about getting it on, but I put it on about 2 months ago and it looked terrible. Today it fits much better. Belly is still stickin out a little but hey I'll take what I can get. (4) I'm on the road to losing my goal of 2 lbs this week. If I can just be good over the weekend I'm hoping to weigh in on Monday at 192...or maybe even 191!! (5) While showering a song popped into my head and it made me smile
"I'm a survivor, I'm not gonna give up, I'm not gon' stop, I'm gonna work harder, I'm a survivor, I'm gonna make it, I will survive, Keep on survivin'" (Destiny's Child- Survivor). This is what I need to think about during my workouts. I'm not going to quit! I'm going to work hard. And even though sometimes it IS hard I'll make it through and keep on survivin!!!

Okay now I feel a little better

Loki-Your baby boy is so cute! I love his little grin.
Loree- your right getting her to sleep somewhere other than your arms is a good start. It gets better I promise!
MM- I hope the appointment goes well.
Bull-Welcome again. Sorry I jumped on the men as soon as you joined. It's one of those days :happy:

Gotta get my son off to school and then I need to run to the store and return some things I bought :grumble:

allenhm-welcome. I just read your profile...you crack me up!!! WTH tummy roll :laugh: Your story sounds similar to mine; overweight parents, overweight life, baby weight etc etc etc. I was 188 when I got preg, 220 something at 40 weeks, came home at 215. This was my second child...I was still holding about 15 lbs from the first one and he's 6!!! I was determined to drop the preg weight so as soon as the doc cleared me at 6 wks post partum I got serious. So far 20 lbs plus a little that I'm not gonna count until I weigh in on Monday (don't wanna jinx myself) I'm almost to pre preg weight and then I need to get to pre preg weight from the first one and then I still need to lose about 10-15 lbs.

Anyway...WELCOME!! Jump right in, strike up a conversation!

Here's my update:
I really liked the midwife. She was nice and informative. I didn't like all of what she had to say though, not because I disagreed but I didn't want to hear it. I am on bed rest pretty much. She said limit my activities and take it easy. No exercise for at least several weeks if not up to 12 weeks! UGH!!! I'm gonna get fat! She said to limit things like grocery shopping. Oh that will be fun. So maybe I can limit myself to 15-20 minutes of activity a day. She took blood to check my progesterone level and said she could also check HCG's but it wasn't necessary because it cost a lot more. Anyway, that's a portion of what she told me. I need to go tell hubby now.
MM

MM-Do any of your local grocery stores have delivery service? You can shop online and then have it delivered right to your door. I don't know if they charge for the service but in your case it might be worth the money.

3BB- I love that the knowledge of pizza gets you to exercise For me it's any food. If I want to eat throughout the day I have to get my workout in. Do you guys have Papa Murphys?? I love their deLITE pizzas because I can have 2 or 3 pieces and still be under 600 calories.

Well it's amazing what anger can make you do. It made me dust, clean carpets, wash bedding, fold laundry, and burn calories. I managed to not be home when he got here. I picked up my son from school and then we went to the library. By 5:30 we had to come home though, cuz I was starving and so was baby. DH had dinner made (fattening enchiladas...I swear he doesn't think about things before he makes them. He knows I'm trying my hardest to drop this weight. UGH!). So I fed the baby without talking to him and then ate dinner without talking to him and now I'm on my way to WalMart without him. I know the silent treatment is childish but my mother taught me if I don't have something nice to say don't say nothing at all......and right now I have NOTHING nice to say to him.

Well it's amazing what anger can make you do. It made me dust, clean carpets, wash bedding, fold laundry, and burn calories. I managed to not be home when he got here. I picked up my son from school and then we went to the library. By 5:30 we had to come home though, cuz I was starving and so was baby. DH had dinner made (fattening enchiladas...I swear he doesn't think about things before he makes them. He knows I'm trying my hardest to drop this weight. UGH!). So I fed the baby without talking to him and then ate dinner without talking to him and now I'm on my way to WalMart without him. I know the silent treatment is childish but my mother taught me if I don't have something nice to say don't say nothing at all......and right now I have NOTHING nice to say to him.

Sorry you are fighting with DH (or your NSDH - not so darling husband - right now ). I know what you mean though. When my DH and I have a fight, I kind of close in on myself and just want to be alone and curl up into a ball away from him. I don't know what happened (and I'm not asking) but I know I feel better once the fight is settled even if the actual discussion part makes me feel lousy. So I try to talk it out with him to get it over with.

Lyn - sorry you're having such a bad fight with your dh. I hope you're able to get cooled down enough to talk about it so it can blow over. Drawn out fights are the worst, imo. I'm the opposite of you & Lori. When we get in fights, they're often over very quickly b/c I'm TOO vocal about them. I follow him around until he sits down & talks to me about it. I'm too busy to be angry.

Lori - the ottoman is a start! Maybe try putting her pack & play near the ottoman & pop her in there the next time. yay!

MM - I'm sorry you're on such strict bed rest situation right now. It'll work out. DH might not like it, but he'll have to deal. The house will still be there after you're done being on bed rest. So what if it gets messy. Your baby is more important! *hugs*

Loki - LOVE the new Darrell pic! I want to squeeze him!! I would have had issues with the strange man with my son, too. Maybe the next time you go, say something to them about if the regular lady needs to leave, clear it with you first. I wouldn't have handled it very well, but wouldn't have caused a scene.

Allenhm - welcome to the group! :flowerforyou:

Off to have a day. Got my workout in & had breakfast so 2 accomplishments down for the day. I'm just ready for AF to leave so I can start losing weight again! BLECH!

AF? 'splain.

I know the silent treatment is childish but my mother taught me if I don't have something nice to say don't say nothing at all......and right now I have NOTHING nice to say to him.

Maybe I should try that....hah, yeah right. I am beginning to think that men have cornered the market on childish behavior....and that they think it's only wrong when we do it.

Marla - Aunt Flo, menstration, time of the month, the curse, shall I go on? :bigsmile: I'm not a fan right now so it has been called every name in the book. I just need to remember to be thankful b/c without it, I wouldn't have been able to have children. That's the right way to look at it, right? :laugh:

MM - Your husband will adjust. Good luck folding that laundry! If you're only on bedrest until 12 weeks, that won't be too horrible. Less than 2 months to go...at least it is during the winter...I'm trying for positives here!

GTO - I agree with you! My dh does some pretty childish things. Well, more like anti-parenting things, I would call them. He acts like he's one of the kids like thinking they should be all wound up 10 min. before bedtime. Like they'll go to sleep direclty after wrestle time with daddy. Goof ball.

Lyn - glad you got it all ironed out! I agree. Life's too short.

actually, without it you'd be having more children!!:bigsmile: