How do you deal with being called too skinny?

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  • daw0518
    daw0518 Posts: 459 Member
    edited February 2015
    I had an aunt ask me if I lost weight over the holidays, & then she proceeded to tell me to "be careful and not lose too much weight or you might start to look sick". I've only lost 20 of the like 80 pounds I want [& need] to ultimately lose, and I'm still in the 'obese' category of BMI. I was just like "yeah, don't worry, I know what I'm doing."
  • xmusicloverr
    xmusicloverr Posts: 100 Member
    My mom and so many relatives tell me the same thing. My collarbones are super prominent now, but I'm not even in a healthy bmi yet. I usually say something along the lines of "haha nice try, you're gonna trick me into developing hypertension"
  • WeaTheRgrlx0x
    WeaTheRgrlx0x Posts: 48 Member
    She doesn't have a problem calling me skinny, but would never call her niece on my uncle's side overweight. Thanks daw, keep on trucking:) I've gotten where I want and need to be, and I'm thankful for everyone's help. It'll help to look back on the responses and know that I'm right and It's okay.
  • ebr250
    ebr250 Posts: 199 Member
    I would ignore them and change the subject.
  • WeaTheRgrlx0x
    WeaTheRgrlx0x Posts: 48 Member
    I know xmusicloverr, my grandmother takes medications for bp, to lower blood sugar, cholesterol, my father takes bp and sugar meds. I don't want to end up like that. I already went through Grave's disease, I don't need to add more autoimmune diseases into the mix.
  • pita7317
    pita7317 Posts: 1,437 Member
    Same situation here with ONE friend. ( who is thinner than I at her height). She gets almost angry about it. I just don't get it. I have tried telling her what others have mentioned, at perfect weight for my height, etc. Does not help. I have decided if she ever brings up the subject again I am just going to tell her I am done with the discussion and if she would like to continue she will be talking to herself because I will get up and walk away or hang up. I don't need a friend ? Who cuts me down or is basically telling me I look terrible (too skinny) after over a year + of 100% effort to get to my goal weight .
    I know you are dealing with family which is different but I know your frustration with this.
    How can you get compliments from at least a dozen other people including my husband and then deal with her being the one and only negative one ? Ridiculous and uncalled for.
    I am proud of what I have accomplished. End of story.
    Good luck to you on dealing with your family.
  • sofaking6
    sofaking6 Posts: 4,589 Member
    WeaTheRgrlx0x wrote: »
    Hello, my name is Parthena and I come from a big fat Greek family. My grandmother and my aunt tell me I'm too skinny even though I'm perfect for my height. I gained weight after having my thyroid totally removed for Grave's disease and having finally gotten down to where I need to be. How do you deal with it? I eat enough, I love to walk, which they tell me not to do. I just can't deal with it anymore. What do you do?

    I hug and kiss them and ask them to say it again, and again, and again. Then I tell them I'm not eating again until I lose 40 pounds because I love it SO MUCH when they tell me how skinny I am.
  • WeaTheRgrlx0x
    WeaTheRgrlx0x Posts: 48 Member
    haha:)
  • pita7317
    pita7317 Posts: 1,437 Member
    Sofaking6. Love it ! Lol lol
  • cocmares
    cocmares Posts: 27 Member
    edited February 2015
    Codilee87 wrote: »
    When I was told that I would just challenge them to an arm wrestle and win, then tell them that they were too skinny lol
    Lol love this!
  • kbmnurse
    kbmnurse Posts: 2,484 Member
    Poor you.
  • deviboy1592
    deviboy1592 Posts: 989 Member
    WeaTheRgrlx0x wrote: »
    If I ever stand up for myself, I get told I'm lying, and I need to stop having an "attitude," but It's perfectly fine for them to say whatever to me, however hurtful.

    Just tell them "I love you for who you are, not what you weigh and walk away." Do what makes you feel happy and stay healthy, they were groomed at a time when the bigger you were the richer and happy you would be. They don't understand and may never understand the lifestyles that our generation has adapted, btw, windex doesn't heal cuts.
  • WeaTheRgrlx0x
    WeaTheRgrlx0x Posts: 48 Member
    I'll try that! Thanks for the advice. And I've never tried windex for cuts, haha, I love that movie:)
  • MadisynRain
    MadisynRain Posts: 20 Member
    I was naturally thin until I started my ED. So it makes me feel bad when I get called too skinny because I'm trying to put weight back on
  • deviboy1592
    deviboy1592 Posts: 989 Member
    edited February 2015
    charliescenesgirl wrote: »
    I was naturally thin until I started my ED. So it makes me feel bad when I get called too skinny because I'm trying to put weight back on

    Piece of advice, get the Fitbit, for the longest time I couldn't figure out why I was so skinny, I lifted, ate everything I could see. Always weighed at 172. Got fibit, damn thing told me I was burnin between 3000 - 4000 calories a day. What?!? So I upped my intake and now I'm eating about 4500 cal a day and now I'm up to 185 and counting. But if your not having that problem, forget my message and have a nice day.
  • miriams76
    miriams76 Posts: 138 Member
    Tell them your weight. Show them on a BMI calculator that's it's a healthy weight for your height. Show them that your bodyfat % is within the recommended range. Then (loudly if they've tried to shame you), ask them to share their weight so they can see if it's in a healthy range or not. They won't bother you again.
  • WeaTheRgrlx0x
    WeaTheRgrlx0x Posts: 48 Member
    I should try that devil boy, It might surprise me. And thanks Miriam:)
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