Did you lose weight for yourself or somebody else?

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  • Alidecker
    Alidecker Posts: 1,262 Member
    It started all about me and I have become more selfish with my time...saying "no" to things like happy hour or dinners out so I can get my gym time in. Granted, there is parts of doing it for others also. I was single before, I am still single but would like a real relationship. I needed to boost my confidence and love myself before I can expect to attract someone that may love me.
  • Alidecker
    Alidecker Posts: 1,262 Member
    jpaulie wrote: »
    for my cat. it couldn't sit on my stomach without rolling off.

    That's funny...my dog has gotten some benefits from my weight loss. He gets longer, more frequent walks and I hare the couch better with him when we are just being lazy :smiley:
  • VeryKatie
    VeryKatie Posts: 5,961 Member
    edited February 2015
    Tons of people lose weight for someone else. They lose weight so their children will have a mother or father later in life, they lose weight so their friends and families don't have to experience loss, they lose weight so they won't be as likely to burden their loved ones. All those reasons are for other people, but they come from a place of caring and love and are effective motivators.

    Me? I lost weight because of no one. I did it on a whim... it's weird. Maybe my motivation just changes way too frequently to be anything very specific. It was very much a case of "well, she's doing it... I'll join her" with my friend. I had some interest, I just don't know why...
  • sullus
    sullus Posts: 2,839 Member
    edited February 2015
    Yes.
  • rschluet
    rschluet Posts: 3 Member
    For myself and my family. I have a 5 year old that I want to be around for for as long as I can!
  • Bukeelaka
    Bukeelaka Posts: 70
    SteampunkSongbird wrote: »
    It's hardly a surprise that some people do it to feel like they are more attractive for their partner/crush/hook-ups/whoever. People make changes and 'improvements' etc. to their physical selves for other people all the time. We wear cologne and perfume to smell nice, bras so our boobs look more perky, lipstick to make our lips more noticeable, smart clothes to impress, the list is endless. It's no biggie, and no 'miserable' thing either, it just is.

    I really like this^^^
  • Jolinia
    Jolinia Posts: 846 Member
    Definitely for me, but partly in hopes of meeting somebody else. So far no luck with that part. But at least now I can conceive of someone actually seeing me naked in the future.
  • daw0518
    daw0518 Posts: 459 Member
    edited February 2015
    That's an interesting question, actually. I'm doing it for myself, but I was motivated by a run in with an ex (AKA, we slept together) a little over a year ago. I was so self conscious & embarrassed about the fact that I had probably gained 30lbs since the last time we were together. It was definitely the push I needed.
  • ckays82
    ckays82 Posts: 8 Member
    Me defiantly! I wanted to feel better to be active and healthy, so it only made since that I needed to use that as motivation to keep at it on a daily basis. I feel better physically and and I have more energy than I ever felt before. It even helped my asthma, which I'd had since a little kid. My clothes fit better and noticed that I stand up straighter due to all the running and strength training I do. All good things!
  • yusaku02
    yusaku02 Posts: 3,472 Member
    Me.
    I was disgusted with myself. Being out of breath from taking the stairs, my gut pushing away my leg when trying to clip toenails, heavy breathing from just sitting on the couch watching tv.
    So I lost 45 pounds and ran a marathon.
  • SarcasmIsMyLoveLanguage
    SarcasmIsMyLoveLanguage Posts: 2,668 Member
    Good question. A little of both I suppose. My first priority is my own health and happiness, but I'm certainly a better wife, mother, friend, etc. now that I got myself right.
  • jane837
    jane837 Posts: 68 Member
    I definitely did it for myself -- it does take a certain amount of selfishness! Friends have had to get used to me being less available for spontaneous drinks/dinners out, my husband has had to get used to me spending less time with him so I can work out, etc.
  • many_splendored
    many_splendored Posts: 113 Member
    I had to do it for myself, but I'd be lying if I said I don't want those I love to be proud of me.
  • mscheftg
    mscheftg Posts: 485 Member
    jpaulie wrote: »
    for my cat. it couldn't sit on my stomach without rolling off.

    Yes!!! <3

    I'm doing this for myself... because when I've tried doing it for others, I failed. I look in a mirror or down when I'm naked and hate what I see.

    BUT... I'm not going to lie... part of my motivation is to be thinner because I want to meet a man, get married and build a family.
  • 3shirts
    3shirts Posts: 294 Member
    I like to think it is for myself but I do have to admit that I have a certain external locus of self image. I already feel quite healthy now as I regularly cycle, run, play badminton and practice aikido but I want to feel happy with how my body looks too and a lot of that comes from how I want others to see me.

    It's not healthy to worry what other people think but, try as I might, that is always a nagging concern. I'm getting better with it though
  • RunTimer
    RunTimer Posts: 9,137 Member
    Definitely, for myself (though Mi bellasposa definitely likes the now me).
  • CherylynBen
    CherylynBen Posts: 34 Member
    For me and my health. Actually, my fiance likes bigger girls. Not that I'm small (yet) but I constantly ask if my getting fit and thinner is going to be attractive for him. He said he'll love me either way. All the insecurities are my own, though. I do believe he will love me, either way and, frankily, if he doesn't or wants to run off with a bigger girl when I get thin, it's his loss. Even if he didn't like it, my health comes first, not what others think. I don't want to die young and my son deserves to have his mom around for a good, long time :smiley:
  • sweetteadrinker2
    sweetteadrinker2 Posts: 1,026 Member
    For me, somewhat. But mostly because my doctor says that I shouldn't get pregnant before i'm down to a healthy weight.
  • WednesdayJanuary07th2015
    WednesdayJanuary07th2015 Posts: 163
    edited February 2015
    CherylynBen wrote: »
    For me and my health. Actually, my fiance likes bigger girls. Not that I'm small (yet) but I constantly ask if my getting fit and thinner is going to be attractive for him. He said he'll love me either way. All the insecurities are my own, though. I do believe he will love me, either way and, frankily, if he doesn't or wants to run off with a bigger girl when I get thin, it's his loss. Even if he didn't like it, my health comes first, not what others think. I don't want to die young and my son deserves to have his mom around for a good, long time :smiley:

    Sadly attraction isn't a choice, for instance I am straight; yet I attract more women/than men & it makes me feel prejudice, when I reject women; otherwise I have no issues with homosexuality. I believe that a lot of people mistake attraction with superficiality. If it isn't a choice, it's attraction. If it's a choice, it's superficiality.
  • nxd10
    nxd10 Posts: 4,570 Member
    edited February 2015
    It's all about me - my health, actually. But my husband enjoys it. He never even hinted I should. Now I hint he should. And he is. For HIS health.
  • elysianlune
    elysianlune Posts: 18 Member
    For myself, I want my body to get closer to my aesthetic ideal.

    Oh, and for health and fitness. Why not?? :p
  • cotewalter
    cotewalter Posts: 111 Member
    Definitely for me! Health reasons. At mid life it definitely isn't about good looks. It's about extending life and making it worth living.
  • FitPhillygirl
    FitPhillygirl Posts: 7,124 Member
    For my health....
  • TheSatinPumpkin
    TheSatinPumpkin Posts: 948 Member
    for me and my wife.
  • crystalflame
    crystalflame Posts: 1,049 Member
    I started losing weight for my ex, who thought I was too fat as a size 8. Also for my eating disorder, who I sometimes have to treat like a separate person to stay sane. I've ejected both of them from my life now, because yeah, that was miserable. But I also don't think most of the people losing weight for others are like me. They want to be around for their loved ones.
  • sassy_pae
    sassy_pae Posts: 23
    At first, I am doing it to make myself look good and attractive in the eyes of the people around me... But then, I'd realized that I should do it for myself. To learn to love myself and do my best to make myself proud. To become fit and healthy.
  • JordisTSM
    JordisTSM Posts: 359 Member
    Both. I need to do this for myself, but I also need to be around for my daughter.
  • obscuremusicreference
    obscuremusicreference Posts: 1,320 Member
    jpaulie wrote: »
    for my cat. it couldn't sit on my stomach without rolling off.

    oh my god you win who cares why anyone else is losing weight

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  • jenniferelizabethwiseman
    jenniferelizabethwiseman Posts: 72 Member
    Little bit of both. I want to do it for a lot of personal reasons, but I'd be lying if I didn't admit I also want my husband to want me more. How he feels about me is important to me, and I don't think there is anything wrong with that--he loves a lot about me, but not my size right now.
  • Spiderkeys
    Spiderkeys Posts: 338 Member
    I think for long-term maintaince weight, should really by for yourself, I mean if you were originally happy as you were, then it be horrible denying yourself foods, etc.

    No one cared or hardly ever commented when I was obeise, just only I cared, so myself was 100%, I do miss the days when I can enter a fast food outlet anytime I felt like it, but been on maintaince now for a yearm havent put on a pound yet, and just feel I obviously lost my weight for the correct reasons.
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