So my dad died suddenly 3 days ago....

I am so sorry to hear about your Dad. I have not been through anything like this before, so I guess take this however you wish, but I don't think you need to have the added stress of tracking, working out, etc. on your shoulders at the moment. Take time to grieve in whatever way suits you. My guess is that between your cold and your heartbreak, you probably will have a hard time overeating.

Keeping you in my thoughts.

So sorry for your loss. Forget counting calories, let yourself grieve.

As someone who went through three of this last year (mother, close cousin and friend), take one day at a time. Your emotions are going to be all over the place and the last thing you need to worry about is calorie counting to add to the stress you are under.

So sorry for your loss!

My dad died suddenly on Mother's Day 12 years ago. I know how such a sudden thing can rock your world! I would say be gracious in thanking people for their kindness when they bring food. But, most people understand that grief doesn't always make people hungry. DO eat to maintain your health, but don't eat out of a sense of duty to those who have brought food! Hang in there. Cherish time with your family and the warm memories you have of your dad!

losing a parent just plain sucks. Take care of you. People make you food because they want to comfort and nurture you. Eat it if that is what you want to do but if not don't feel like you have to. Say thank you - put it away and deal with it later. Freeze it, give it away, take some to to a neighbor or family who needs it and just explain you have too much.

I'm so sorry for your loss. If you feel like you need a break from counting calories, please take one. Maybe it would help to set a date on the calendar to start again? If you really feel like you must continue, maybe just eat to maintenance and give yourself a lot of grace.

I'm sorry for your loss. It might actually be beneficial to continue tracking, because it will give you something normal in the midst of the chaos. I don't think people will be offended if you don't eat the food they bring. If they are, there's something wrong with them. And try to get back into exercise when you can. It can be difficult, but it helps with depression.

I've walked your path. In a span of 8 months, my husband and both of my biological parents died. Only one was expected...my mother. Let yourself grieve and don't worry about food tracking. If you aren't hungry, you don't have to eat what other have brought. Eat WHAT you want WHEN you want to eat. Take it a day at a time...there will be times you'll need to take it a minute at a time. I like LucyAndKay's idea of kissing your hand to remember your dad. If there is grief counseling available, please take advantage of it!! It helps you understand that your devastating feelings are NORMAL!! Our crazy society has the "okay, you've grieved for 3 days...get over it" type of attitude that comes from people being given only 3 days bereavement leave. Everyone experiences grief differently because everyone had a different relationship with the loved one who has died.

Over time, you will smile more and remember more of the happy times. Cherish those memories!! You will also have things that trigger a "grief attack" (that's what we called them in group grief counseling). THERE IS NO TIME LIMIT TO GRIEF! Accept your emotions when they hit you and don't berate yourself for not "getting over" the death of your father. Some people find that things they think are "silly" will trigger a grief attack...or one just hits. It's okay...it's normal. In 19 more days, I have the 4th anniversary of my husband's death. I have no idea how that day will be for me...I will just take it as it comes. I'm sure I'll smile & laugh at some of the wonderful memories (I know I'll laugh at what we wore when we got married as I look through the wedding album...it was the 70's) and cry my eyes out because I miss him so much.

I will hold you in my thoughts and prayers. You'll be okay...your dad would want you to be okay. Let others reach out and help you in the ways that they know how. It's hard to know what to do or say and sometimes people do or say the wrong thing without meaning to.

Most of all...be true to yourself and your feelings!!

<hugs>

I'm so sorry for your loss. The most important thing is to take care of YOU. Mentally and physically. If counting calories and macros is soothing for you, go do it. If it adds stress, you certainly can take a break. Calorie counting will still be there after you've given yourself a chance to breathe. For the food, people are being nice. Accept it graciously and eat it. Or don't. There is no wrong answer. When you are ready for the health train again, we'll all be here supporting you.

I am so very sorry for your loss. I agree with the others. You are grieving and you need to give yourself permission to simply take care of yourself. I hope you have family and friends who can support you and I hope you reach out to them, and to us. We can be a strong cyber-shoulder for you right now. Bless you

Oh, I'm so sorry for your loss. I agree with not adding any more stress to your already overwhelmed heart. Live and love for today. You can't be told how long you'll need before things get back to "normal" because that's so individual. You'll be in my prayers.

Condolences. Please take the time you need to grieve and take care of yourself. MFP will still be here when you're ready.

So sad to lose your dad. Priorities. Rest. Family. Love. Dieting and weight loss is an intensive activity. You can set it aside to deal with later.

I just want to echo, I am so sorry for your loss.