How do you react when people tell you that you have lost enough?

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Robbnva
Robbnva Posts: 590 Member
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I don't feel like I have, yet people tell me I don't need to lose anymore. Its kind of annoying. I have at least 20 more to go.
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  • yesimpson
    yesimpson Posts: 1,372 Member
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    It depends who's telling me it and what they mean by it, and what my weight actually is.

    Someone you work with, when you mention your weight loss efforts = quite possibly they're just giving you a compliment and saying you look good now.

    Parent/close friend/partner = are they concerned about your health, or are they unused to seeing you slimmer?

    If you know that losing 20lbs will make you happier with your appearance, won't make you underweight, and you feel you can get there and sustain it healthily, doesn't matter what others think to a large degree.
  • coueswhitetail
    coueswhitetail Posts: 309 Member
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    I think people's body images have become distorted due to seeing so many overweight people now. I think it makes people think being overweight is normal, it's like as a society we have changed our "what is a normal weight standard". I had someone tell me the same thing recently but I have at least 20 lbs more to lose. You asked what I tell people when they say that, I didn't say anything really....just moved on to another conversation. Just do what is best for your health and don't worry about other people.
  • Robbnva
    Robbnva Posts: 590 Member
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    Yeah, in hind sight I've been guilty of saying the same to people, I think its a way to compliment the person in a round about way. My wife says she thinks I'm fine at my weight, but I'm not even under 200 yet. I could probably get to 175 if I wanted to, but I want to get to at least 185 personally. When I look in the mirror and see the fat still on my stomach, I know I'm not done losing. Even 185 is considered overweight which is ludacris to me.
  • Alassonde
    Alassonde Posts: 228 Member
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    People tell me I'm underweight. I'm 5' 4" and currently 125 pounds. I have very little muscle mass (working on that!) so I do have more fat than most people probably would at that weight (all on the stomach). I do think it's a skewed image of "normal"....most of the people I know are overweight or obese and they all seem to think I'm underweight. I would like to lose a little more fat (like at the most 5 pounds) but I don't actually tell anyone that or they will go on about how I'm "anorexic".
  • Francl27
    Francl27 Posts: 26,371 Member
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    Yeah everyone is telling me that and it's driving me nuts. I'm 133 pounds at 5'5", sure, I have some muscle, but still, I could still easily lose 5-8 pounds of fat.
  • Lizzy622
    Lizzy622 Posts: 3,705 Member
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    My husband wanted to know when I was going to be off my "diet" and start eating "normally" again. My answer was "never". Eating "normally" is what made me gain the weight and I am never doing that again. My "diet" food is my "normal' food now. Sometimes people say you are too skinny because they want you to go back to the old habits that they were more comfortable with.
  • librarydebster
    librarydebster Posts: 177 Member
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    Just don't tell them u r working on losing more. Just say u love being active and that your body will adjust as it needs to. Do whatever u think is healthy for u.
  • aprilwatkins96
    aprilwatkins96 Posts: 7 Member
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    I agree that our societal standard for healthy weight has been altered, even though there is so much discussion about the epidemic of obesity. I think it is important to focus on what is best for you. As long as your goals are healthy and reasonable for someone of your size, then keep working towards what you want for yourself.
  • jennifershoo
    jennifershoo Posts: 3,198 Member
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    Lift your shirt and show them your fat rolls. That shuts them up pretty fast.
  • wizzybeth
    wizzybeth Posts: 3,578 Member
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    I just say oh thanks, you're sweet. And ignore it.
  • rileyes
    rileyes Posts: 1,406 Member
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    Some people don't like change. You're messing up their world. :wink:
  • Josalinn
    Josalinn Posts: 1,066 Member
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    As long as your doctor says its ok or needed, keep losing. But at the same point try not to focus too much on "the fat on your stomach." It's hard, and I am the Queen of Selfcritique. It is so hard to take a step back and say, "Yes I still need to lose, but I look great!"

    Most people say I don't need to lose weight because I have defined waist. So my favorite is when people say, "Oh you look great, you don't need to lose anything!" and I look them square in the eye with the most deadened face and reply, "Actually, I am 20 pounds over weight and have 30% bodyfat. My grandfather had diabetes and died at 64. So I really do need to lose the weight." It shuts them up nicely.
  • bettybing1
    bettybing1 Posts: 162 Member
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    The lightest I've ever been was about 2 years ago, I was about 136lbs and a UK size 10/12. I'm 5'4" so really at that weight i was towards the top end of my BMI. People were really weirded out by my smaller size despite the fact that several of my friends were, and are still, slimmer than me. No one was used to a smaller me and I was nowhere near eating problem territory but still had the "I think that's enough now" guff - it's perspective at the end of the day.
  • kbmnurse
    kbmnurse Posts: 2,484 Member
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    MYOB
  • Josalinn
    Josalinn Posts: 1,066 Member
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    kbmnurse wrote: »
    MYOB

    My brain translated this to "make your own booze." And I thought "that's not helpful at all!"
  • Roxiegirl2008
    Roxiegirl2008 Posts: 756 Member
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    I smile, say I am working really hard and say thank you for noticing.
  • kmorgan221
    kmorgan221 Posts: 206 Member
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    My response is always the same. "Really, I was just thinking you could lose a few more."

    When they're insulted, ask them why what they said wasn't insulting.
  • Robbnva
    Robbnva Posts: 590 Member
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    Josalinn wrote: »
    kbmnurse wrote: »
    MYOB

    My brain translated this to "make your own booze." And I thought "that's not helpful at all!"

    Idk, it could be ;)
  • kamakazeekim
    kamakazeekim Posts: 1,183 Member
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    My family and co-workers have been telling me not to lose any more weight. I just smile and nod. I know what they are saying is coming from an area of care and concern. I have lost a dramatic amount of weight in a relatively short amount of time. I am only 5'3 and weight just under 130 pounds....I'd like to lose 5 to 10 more pounds.
  • silentKayak
    silentKayak Posts: 658 Member
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    If they're not close to you, just say, "Thanks, I feel good these days." And maybe even if they are. It's none of their business.

    You've made amazing progress - congratulations!

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