How do I resist old habits?

Gonna have to learn to speak up for yourself. If they still give you large portions, just eat half or whatever portion you want, and leave the rest - maybe they'll get the message.

As ana said - you can't blame them for what you're putting in your mouth.

Or toss it in the trash without offering the unwanted half. That may make a better statement lol

Tell your Mom before she makes breakfast so there isn't anything to feel guilty about. No thanks, or the eggs and turkey bacon are great but I'm having fruit with it this morning. I'm all about honest with Mom and husband , if you don't tell them they will never know. Just remember there is a way to do it where it can sound like you are blaming them or a way to do it where it sounds like hey I really need your help on this temptation. Good Luck!

Eat the eggs and the bacon and leave the waffles. Tell her not to make waffles anymore because you're trying to lose weight.

Eat half what your husband brings home and box the rest for later. You're an adult. They won't change if you don't speak up.

It's not a big deal if it fits your calories though, obviously.

You are married but your mom makes you breakfast every morning?

I would grow a pair, say I am changing my lifestyle and I can't eat this anymore for the sake of my health.

I had to tell my mom repeatedly till she got it. Then she pouted for awhile. She has since moved on to the stage... "well if you insist we serve veggies you make them!". The only veggie she knows is potato.

My sister and I have taken over cooking more at her house and the meals are getting better.

Still no luck with the wife. She brought home cookies, chips and other junk food. I do the grocery shopping and cooking so it doesn't happen often but its hard ignoring all that food in the house.

I'm sorry, let me reiterate. "Mom makes a breakfast" One would assume if they actually read the statement it would mean one meal.

So again, is that what you're reading or judging? Either way, it shoud be of no concern to you or anyone else. My living arrangement wasn't up for question or debate.
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I don't think anyone means to judge your living arrangements at all! I think it's just that, from your original post, it sounded as though your mother made you breakfast every morning, so one person, (or a few) suggested you make your own breakfast daily.
If your mother only sometimes makes you breakfast, or if always, it doesn't matter. What matters is that you speak openly and honestly with your spouse and mother to tell them your trying to lose weight and you would appreciate the support. Tell them what you need from them (help with smaller portions, different choices, whatever) and tell them that this is something you want for yourself. And you appreciate their help, and appreciate their opinions, but you're going to eat what you want and how much you want.
Your choices, in the end, should be your own.

I don't think anyone meant to judge your living arrangements! Honestly, that has nothing to do with eating at a calorie deficit anyways

pengy7583 wrote: »

I have been doing pretty well with keeping under my calorie goal and making better alternatives for food. I love how I am feeling. I'm learning how to eat and I'm loosing weight.

My family however has not gotten use to my lifestyle change. Mom makes a breakfast already prepared for me before work, 2 boiled eggs, 3 turkey bacon and 3 buttered waffles. Instead of declining or telling her I only want half the plate, I eat it all so I don't hurt her.

In the evening, I told my husband specifically what to get for me for dinner. He brings back a large this and double that because in the past, that is what I'd get and eat and he thinks getting me large instead of small is better. Instead of throwing it away or denying it, i eat it. I felt so guilty. I am still under my goal however.

But how do I gain the courage to say no or not eat what my family bring/prepare without being hurtful or wastful?

For one, you may want to re-assess your definition of healthy...having a boiled egg (a nutrient power house) and some turkey bacon and a waffle (even with butter OMG) is a perfectly healthy meal. Saying you want half is called "portion control" and it's just about the most valuable lesson you can take from all of this...food elimination rarely works in the long run...portion control always does.

Also your family is in a routine/habit as well...you just have to be open and honest with them, there's no way around that.

Beyond that, hitting your calorie goals is numero uno...if you're doing that, you're doing fine. Don't sweat the small stuff.