Breast feeding and weight loss is hard

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I'm not exclusively breast feeding anymore but I did while going through this and was breastfeed my then almost 2 year old on top of it. Still breastfeeding my youngest. With my second I started my weight loss journey and now I'm down about 60 lbs! If you want you can add me and ask away :) I know it's hard to do both. Just remember you do need to take in a little more calories while breastfeeding for supply :) not much just enough for you milk to keep coming. I always found if I tried to eat what would be recommended minus the breastfeeding my supply would dip. Then I would be pumping to get it back. It was easier to add 100 calories instead of the pumping.
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  • Ctmish78
    Ctmish78 Posts: 7 Member
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    I have a toddler (3) and I'm ebf my 6 month old. I'm finding it hard to cut back on cals because I'm starving all the time!! I added 400 to my daily allowance..... Looks like it will just be slow going.
  • meritage4
    meritage4 Posts: 1,441 Member
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    It gets easier after 6 months when baby is both and food and breastmilk. Hang in there
  • sunshine8711
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    Hi ladies, I'm a ftm my son is 8 weeka.. I'm currently breastfeeding and supplementing. I admit at first i relied heavily on formula so I'm trying to get back at it and hopefully I can get to the point where I could ebf. I'm trying mother's milk and fenugreek to build my supply back up but I was wondering if maybe it could mean I'm just not taking in enough calories or water.
  • 86muffintop
    86muffintop Posts: 69 Member
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    I am mostly bf, with a 2 oz formula bottle every other day or so (my baby is 7weeks right now). I have added 400 cals to my allowance like @Ctmish78‌. @sunshine8711‌, we should be drinking a lot of water everyday. My nurse at the hospital said I should drink AT LEAST 3 of the hospital water cups they give you (32oz) daily. I remember after my first, by the time I was done bfing at 7 mos, I ended up under my pre-preg weight. We'll see if that happens this time. Feel free to add me. My diary is open (and a mess). :)
  • KHaverstick
    KHaverstick Posts: 308 Member
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    Totally agree. I've heard so many say that the weight just "fell off" while breastfeeding. Not the case for me. With my first, I really didn't lose any weight until after 12 months (when I stopped pumping), because before then if I cut back on calories, my supply would dip and I wouldn't be able to pump enough for her daycare bottles. After I stopped needing to pump, we continued to breastfeed on demand at home, and I was actually able to cut back on calories and start losing weight. It still took me 2.5 years to lose all the extra weight. We kept BF until she was nearly 30 months. With #2, my supply was overall better, and I was able to find a happy medium where I was able to maintain supply and (slowly) lose weight. I had lost almost all of the the extra weight by 12 months. Then gained some back, and have now lost almost all of it again. But, yeah, it took some trial and error to find what worked for me, and I never saw the weight drop off easily. I think maybe if I'd been able to stay home and keep BF on demand without needing to pump, it might have been a different story, but that wasn't the case for me.
  • LKArgh
    LKArgh Posts: 5,179 Member
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    Hi ladies, I'm a ftm my son is 8 weeka.. I'm currently breastfeeding and supplementing. I admit at first i relied heavily on formula so I'm trying to get back at it and hopefully I can get to the point where I could ebf. I'm trying mother's milk and fenugreek to build my supply back up but I was wondering if maybe it could mean I'm just not taking in enough calories or water.

    Milk production is based on demand, especially this early when you are building your supply. Unless you are nursing at least 10 times at this age, at least 15 minutes per side, with absolutely no upper limit (20 hours on and off the breast is normal for a baby this young, nursing 15 or 20 times a day is normal too), no amount of water, calories or supplements will help. Every oz of formula you give one day, is unfortunately one oz less your body makes the next days. So, nurse first, and nurse a lot, and then supplement, cutting out a bit of formula every day. Eat as your normally would, drink whenever you are thirsty.
  • BabySteps2Healthy
    BabySteps2Healthy Posts: 2 Member
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    I'm a FTM with a soon to be 7month old.. I have had difficulty with bf-ing since the get-go so by 3 months when I went back to work I started supplementing 50/50. My supply is ridiculously low.. and I'm thinking its time I just wean him completely as I just keep getting frustrated etc. I'm also desperate to get some resemblance of myself back.. I need motivation in all aspects - both with bf-ing and with getting in shape etc. I am exhausted at nights so if I am too tired to eat a real meal for dinner I feel like that lack of calories is affecting my supply AND making the pounds stay on.. I am NOT someone who lost weight from nursing.. maybe if I didn't go back to work but that's not the case for me. :(
  • wizzybeth
    wizzybeth Posts: 3,573 Member
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    Totally agree. I've heard so many say that the weight just "fell off" while breastfeeding. Not the case for me. With my first, I really didn't lose any weight until after 12 months (when I stopped pumping), because before then if I cut back on calories, my supply would dip.

    Yup, I fell for that "You'll get your figure back more quickly if you breastfeed.."

    Yeah, if you want the figure of a butternut squash with gigantic ta-tas...lol

    I'm glad I breastfed, but I didn't lose an ounce while doing it....I was hungry alll the time.

  • dydn11402
    dydn11402 Posts: 95 Member
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    i am currently ebf a 2 month old. i am under my calories (what mfp gave me to lose one lb a week plus 500 for the nursing) every day and working out 5 days a week (not eating back my exercise calories) and nothing! i have been at the same weight since 2 weeks post partum. if i let up even a little, i gain weight. i just dont understand this. it is so so frustrating. im almost 3 weeks into counting calories and will give it maybe a week or two more before lowering them by 100 or so to see what happens. i guess im just one of those ppl who hold onto fat while breastfeeding unfortunately. if anyone has any insight, i would appreciate it.
  • kimzy132124
    kimzy132124 Posts: 75 Member
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    wizzybeth wrote: »
    Totally agree. I've heard so many say that the weight just "fell off" while breastfeeding. Not the case for me. With my first, I really didn't lose any weight until after 12 months (when I stopped pumping), because before then if I cut back on calories, my supply would dip.

    Yup, I fell for that "You'll get your figure back more quickly if you breastfeed.."

    Yeah, if you want the figure of a butternut squash with gigantic ta-tas...lol

    I'm glad I breastfed, but I didn't lose an ounce while doing it....I was hungry alll the time.

    Lol I felt like that with my first. Packed on sooooooo much weight. I won't even look at pictures of myself after that. But with my second I was lucky and was able to graze with helped a lot and I craved a lot of fruit. After I just continued out of habit. After my second I came out weight less than I did when I went in. Now I weight less than I did when I went in with my second but I still need to loose another 80...
  • kimzy132124
    kimzy132124 Posts: 75 Member
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    dydn11402 wrote: »
    i am currently ebf a 2 month old. i am under my calories (what mfp gave me to lose one lb a week plus 500 for the nursing) every day and working out 5 days a week (not eating back my exercise calories) and nothing! i have been at the same weight since 2 weeks post partum. if i let up even a little, i gain weight. i just dont understand this. it is so so frustrating. im almost 3 weeks into counting calories and will give it maybe a week or two more before lowering them by 100 or so to see what happens. i guess im just one of those ppl who hold onto fat while breastfeeding unfortunately. if anyone has any insight, i would appreciate it.

    This is actually normal. Your weight will change depending on how much milk you are making because it does weight something. I found I dropped a lot at the 6 month mark when my milk really regulated. But I found it so much better to buy a pair of pants that was one size too small and then instead of stepping in the scale to put the pants on and measure those. It's all those damn hormones lol. I always said I feel like a cow and now I'm actually a cow haha! I just enjoyed the process. I was doing what I felt was best for my kids and sometimes that came with little weight loss. That was something I was willing to kind of give up, but not to give up trying because eventually you see the results. Maybe try to cut it down to 400 calories. I only added 100 to 200 calories depending on what my kids were demanding from me.
  • kimzy132124
    kimzy132124 Posts: 75 Member
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    I'm a FTM with a soon to be 7month old.. I have had difficulty with bf-ing since the get-go so by 3 months when I went back to work I started supplementing 50/50. My supply is ridiculously low.. and I'm thinking its time I just wean him completely as I just keep getting frustrated etc. I'm also desperate to get some resemblance of myself back.. I need motivation in all aspects - both with bf-ing and with getting in shape etc. I am exhausted at nights so if I am too tired to eat a real meal for dinner I feel like that lack of calories is affecting my supply AND making the pounds stay on.. I am NOT someone who lost weight from nursing.. maybe if I didn't go back to work but that's not the case for me. :(

    If you want to keep breastfeeding then try pumping and freezing. If you can't do it anymore then no need to feel guilty. Good job mama for making it how long you did! Pat yourself on the back because most mom don't do it past 3 months. No one should look at you any differently. I continued because i couldn't literally afford formula. By 6 months breastfeeding was killing me. I was tired all the time, wasn't eating right. 6 months is actually when life starts to get a little better lol. They start to take in some solids so your boobs get some of a break, as well they start to sleep a little more thank god!
  • kimzy132124
    kimzy132124 Posts: 75 Member
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    I am mostly bf, with a 2 oz formula bottle every other day or so (my baby is 7weeks right now). I have added 400 cals to my allowance like @Ctmish78‌. @sunshine8711‌, we should be drinking a lot of water everyday. My nurse at the hospital said I should drink AT LEAST 3 of the hospital water cups they give you (32oz) daily. I remember after my first, by the time I was done bfing at 7 mos, I ended up under my pre-preg weight. We'll see if that happens this time. Feel free to add me. My diary is open (and a mess). :)

    Lol mine has been a mess as well... I was doing well for a while but my son went through his sleep regression and have been in zombie mode especially with my training regiment. And the flu just tried to take us all out lol. Sent a friend request
  • kimzy132124
    kimzy132124 Posts: 75 Member
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    Ctmish78 wrote: »
    I have a toddler (3) and I'm ebf my 6 month old. I'm finding it hard to cut back on cals because I'm starving all the time!! I added 400 to my daily allowance..... Looks like it will just be slow going.

    It is. I was lucky to not have supply problems so I didn't have to take in all those extra calories at all. Which helped with my second. It was a lot of the snacking and forgetting I smacked. I have very attached children, my son being the worse. He also a huge kid. 90% in hieght and 95% in weight. He eats all the time and forget if he sees you eating! So sometimes I can't track of I actually ate enough and some days I don't eT what I should due to haveing 2 toddlers.
  • kimzy132124
    kimzy132124 Posts: 75 Member
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    meritage4 wrote: »
    It gets easier after 6 months when baby is both and food and breastmilk. Hang in there

    Lol my son is 1 1/2. I breast feed until they are ready to stop within my own limits. My daughter was a little over 2 when I was able to convince her to get off. My son isn't showing any signs of slowing down. I've been thinking of trying to dry out my milk so I can get my body back. I've been a cow now for 3 years. I'm ready to not be leaking lol
  • dydn11402
    dydn11402 Posts: 95 Member
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    im actually wondering if the inability to lose weight while nursing is connected to not ovulating. according to what ive read, the weight loss is connected to the hormones involved in lower estrogen levels, prolactin, and progesterone. would love to take a poll...are the women who cant lose weight ovulating? or no periods? because if thats the case, then when you get your period back you should be able to lose weight. if i remember correctly from my past exeriences, i think i was finally able to lose weight at that time but im not absolutely sure because i wasnt paying attention to this at the time.
    anyone notice this trend?
  • kimzy132124
    kimzy132124 Posts: 75 Member
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    Hmmm that is an interesting thought! I have always had trouble losing weight ovulating or not.
  • KHaverstick
    KHaverstick Posts: 308 Member
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    I got my period back at 4 months postpartum the first time, and it was either 5 or 6 months pp the second time. I'm not sure when I actually started ovulating, though, because I wasn't charting at the time. It could have been periods with no ovulation for some period of time. But I didn't start losing weight any faster when my periods returned. Interesting thought, though.
  • Brightstar4031
    Brightstar4031 Posts: 50 Member
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    I have exclusively breastfed for 6 months and find my body holds onto 10lbs no matter what I do. I believe that its the bodies way of protecting the milk supply from famine. It is truly frustrating. I have a few close friends who lost 10lbs right after weaning their babies..
  • kimzy132124
    kimzy132124 Posts: 75 Member
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    I can't say if that's what it is because i have been a cow for over 3 years now...