320 pounds on 1,700 a day?????

My first suggestion is to change your weight loss goal to 1 pound per week and add in exercise. If you burn calories, you can eat more since you're already at a deficit.

Also, in the long run, having exact counts on your calories is going to help you out a lot. I would suggest getting a food scale so you can measure your food and not quick adding your calories.

Take it slow. Cut it down little by little until your body adjusts to eating less. I first started by cutting out 200 calories per week until I was down into a good range. You might do something similar until you get to your calorie goal for losing one pound per week

ditsyblond17 wrote: »

I'm eating a pretty well balanced macro diet. Today, my protein was 111g. Carbs was high only after my binge. That's mostly what I crave in evening. So glad to see Maybe I should up them. Its funny, I knew my BMR was closer to 2,200 BUT MFP said 1,700 to lose 2lb a week. And just to eat back exercise calories. Maybel I will bump up to BMR and see What happens. you guys have No idea how much I appreciate the insight. I just cried for about 15 minutes to my boyfriend about how I'm going to give up. His suggestion, bump up calories You guys rock.

You shouldn't be eating under your BMR even for weight loss. You BMR is the amount of calories your body would burn in a day if you did absolutely nothing (basically the calories needed to keep your vital functions like brain activity, breathing and pumping blood).

You've said your current weight but I don't think you've mentioned your height, age and activity level.

I see you've opened your diary now. I think you could definitely add more veggies in. Try to have 20-30g of protein, some veggies and some healthy fats with every meal and see if you feel fuller. Just as an example, I like to snack on veggies instead of fruit because you can have 4 medium carrots for the same amount of calories as a small banana.

I agree that you should drop your target to lose 1lb/week. Better to aim for a moderate weight loss and avoid the binging than to go for a higher loss and negate your deficit because you're starving and it causes you to over-eat. You do have a lot to lose and could get away with a larger deficit to begin with - but it doesn't seem to be working for you. Changing your deficit to 1lb/week will give you a higher target - you don't have to hit it every day if your not hungry but the option will be there if you are (so mentally you won't feel like you've blown the diet and want to give up). Little tweaks like this will help you with long-term loss

I used to weigh 335+ and have lost half my bodyweight. So here's some heart-to-heart advice.

1. The beginning of your diet is the hardest part. So congratulations, you took that big step! It's hard, but from here it only gets easier with time. Hand to heart, I'm not lying. IT ONLY GETS EASIER. So stick it out.

2. So ... you need to let some time pass. However hungry you feel, examine that sensation. Learn to pay close, mindful attention to your body's signals. Don't just react to them. You'll start to notice things like different KINDS of hunger, that require different interventions (sometimes you just need to drink something; sometimes you can just ignore it and wait for your next meal to come up; sometimes eating a light high protein/fiber snack is what you need, etc.). Also, you may very well find that your hunger is a short-term thing. It's not unusual for those of us who are morbidly obese to have hunger signals that are very weird, and seem to wax and wane for no reason. I'm not an expert, but I'm told it has something to do with hormones produced by bodyfat, and also from hormones produced from burning bodyfat. In my case, I often find that I'm hungry for about 2 weeks, then everything settles for a while until I make an adjustment to my diet or workout plan. Then I'm hungry again for 2 weeks. It's weird, but once I recognized the pattern it was a lot easier to deal with.

3. As long as you are in fact actually eating (1700 calories sounds okay assuming you're sedentary, though personally I'd recommend a higher goal like 2000), it's okay to feel hungry. You're eating at a deficit -- of course you're hungry. It doesn't mean there's something wrong. It doesn't mean u gun die. Relax.

4. You're probably going to need to experiment carefully to find what works for you over the long term. Everybody is a little different in what triggers them to overeat, what makes hunger worse, what makes it go away. The balance of fiber, protein, fat, and carbs is where it's really weird. Most people find that getting a larger proportion of calories from protein, and a reasonable amount from fat, helps a lot. 100g of protein sounds good -- it would not hurt to eat more protein if you can though. Also, looking at the carbs in your diet, work out the proportion of those that are fiber. Then try to raise that level! For most people, getting about 10% of their carbs in fiber form is a good start. More is better if your system can handle it. Personally I get 20%, but then I happen to really like a lot of high fiber foods like beans and fruit.

5. 1700 is very aggressive. Think about how worn down you're going to feel mentally as well as physically from that. Just because being obese means you can "afford" to lose aggressively at first doesn't mean it's a good idea. If you have a lot of weight to lose, of course it's totally normal to want your "diet" to be over as fast as possible and want to rush it. But let's be honest, even if you do successfully lose aggressively, you're going to be working at this for a long time. Do you want to be miserable the whole time? Trust me, your mindset now is totally different from where it will be in a few months, if you stick with it. There comes a point where you realize that dieting aggressively and being miserable for 12 months sucks way, way harder than dieting moderately and still enjoying your meals for 24 months does. And also, seriously, once that first 40 lbs is off (if not sooner) you're gonna feel SO GREAT. Don't sabotage yourself by making yourself so miserable that you can't sustain it.

I took a look at your diary. Don't feel bad - you are trying very hard and this isn't going to change in a day. What's done is done, and as long as you're willing to try again tomorrow you haven't failed.
I would suggest you increase your calories to BMR for now, or at least 2000cal. IT will be a slower loss, but a loss is still a loss, and once you get more confidence in counting and balancing so you're not hungry you can creep back, or start some exercise.
Use these calories to have a snack between lunch and dinner, add in more carbs and have a treats. There's only two days to go on, but I would suggest finding a better side for dinner than the pilsbury biscuits (they're not very filling, and have that addictive salt and fat that makes even a strong willed person overeat).

Chin up. You can do this.

On a different note, the problem I see is the mental side of this. You say that you "can't" overcome your binges and that you "can't" lose weight. But your body absolutely can! Your body is going to do what it's supposed to do. What you said about this being mental is 100% correct. Nothing bad will happen to your body if you don't binge. It sounds like you need a support system and add in some positive self- talk. If you need more help, speak with a professional about the mental side of this, because your body is completely able to lose the weight. You just gotta get your brain on board.

Also- get rid of the food in your house that you are binging on! Step 1! If it's not there, you can't eat it!

YOU CAN DO THIS! I BELIEVE IN YOU!

I am a binge eater as well. I don't lose well with aggressive deficits because like you, they lead to binges. My weight loss was much more effective with a moderate deficit because I don't have the binging problems and I can maintain the deficit. When I binge, I end up eating way too much and blow any deficit.

Even though you can "afford" a large deficit, mentally, it probably isn't worth it for you.

When I first started losing weight, I found I had to get away from oatmeal in the morning. As much as I loved it, it didn't sustain me even with a lot of protein added in. I started out my morning with yogurt and nuts, instead, and followed it with an egg (or two) toast, cheese, and coffee with half and half. Now, almost a year later, I can have some oatmeal or a half cup of shredded wheat biscuits with milk, but I still don't find them quite as sustaining as I do higher fat/higher protein choices.