How often do you eat out during weight-loss phase?

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My daughter and I eat out for dinner 4 or 5 nights a week. She actually needs to gain about 5 lbs, so I find it easier to take her out to her favorite places so I know she'll eat something filling.

For me, it's been really tough. I can find something healthy to eat at most places we go to, but accounting for every calorie is tough, and sticking to my diet is even tougher when tempted by so much food. You just don't know exactly how much something weighs or what other things are going into the meal that aren't listed on the menu (butter, oil, etc.). I've been tempted to bring my food scale with me so I can make sure that the 6-ounce filet does indeed weigh 6 ounces.

Do any of you find it tough to go out to eat when you're actively in the weight-loss phase? I'm on 1,200 calories a day with about 65 lbs to lose, so I don't have much wiggle room with calories. Should I cut back on eating out for a bit? I feel like I should be able to handle eating out, but I've woken up too many mornings with swollen fingers from too much sodium and all the other great things that eating out can bring on. I'm not a failure if I can only eat at home for a while, am I?
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  • hollyrayburn
    hollyrayburn Posts: 905 Member
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    Why 1200?

    When you go out, eat half, tack on a few couple hundred extra calories to be "on the safe side" and always look for the healthier options. The grilled chicken has a lot more protein and a lot less calories than the cheesy pasta dish, steamed broccoli is just as good as french fries (in a different way, lol.).

    Nothing wrong with eating out so long as it fits into your decifit, and you keep a good ratio on your macros.
  • k2mexox
    k2mexox Posts: 72 Member
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    Every once in awhile should be fine. But if your doing it that much it's not healthy. Even trying to choose the healthier options has loaded calories in places you would expect as well as other non healthy ingredients such as your sodium intake you noticed. If your daughter needs to gain weight there is a much healthier way to do it then to eat out. A person that weighs 150 pounds on a diet of lean meats proteins , vegetables. Is way more healthy than a 150lb person on a diet of McDonald's. Just because it fits into your macros does not make it healthy.
  • Sophsmother
    Sophsmother Posts: 83 Member
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    I always choose the healthy options and stick to protein and veggies. But too often I find that the portion sizes just look huge or the veggies are glistening from something that I didn't ask for.

    I also find myself taking bites of my daughter's food, which typically has more fat/carbs so she can gain some weight per her dietician's plan. It just tastes that much better than mine. For her needs, eating out is easier since she has many options to choose from, so I know she'll get a full meal in her. But for me, it's like an alcoholic having to sit in a bar every night and order water. The temptations so early in my weight-loss phase are just killer.

    I think I've answered my own question ... eating out is just too hard for me right now.
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,874 Member
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    I only eat out maybe 5 or 6 times per month total. Couple of date nights per month with my wife and usually a Sunday lunch with my boys.

    This is regardless of my weight control goals. In my experience, eating out a lot makes both losing weight and maintenance difficult.
  • berlynnwall
    berlynnwall Posts: 669 Member
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    In reality, eating out that much is not healthy, for you or your daughter. That sodium isn't great for her either. I know that is not what you asked though, so I will not go on about it. Here are some ideas:

    -You could pick up something for your daughter and make yourself a separate dinner at home.

    - You could research higher calorie dinners that you could then modify so that she was getting more calories than you - i.e. chili and cornbread, but you eat just the chili and don't eat the bread, or at least not as much bread.

    - You could ask your daughter's pediatrician (Im assuming this is a child and not an adult daughter?) for recommendations on supplements like pediasure or ensure if he feels she needs to gain.
  • Sunshine48205
    Sunshine48205 Posts: 41 Member
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    k2mexox wrote: »
    Every once in awhile should be fine. But if your doing it that much it's not healthy. Even trying to choose the healthier options has loaded calories in places you would expect as well as other non healthy ingredients such as your sodium intake you noticed. If your daughter needs to gain weight there is a much healthier way to do it then to eat out. A person that weighs 150 pounds on a diet of lean meats proteins , vegetables. Is way more healthy than a 150lb person on a diet of McDonald's. Just because it fits into your macros does not make it healthy.

    ^^^What she said
  • jemhh
    jemhh Posts: 14,261 Member
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    I eat out at least 3x/week and have never found it difficult or that it impedes weight loss. We go often enough that it isn't a big deal. I rarely (as in maybe 3-4 times a year) get a dessert or appetizer. I generally go for baked or grilled meat, salad, and some sort of veggie side(s).

    How old is your daughter?
  • Sunshine48205
    Sunshine48205 Posts: 41 Member
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    I'll go out to eat once I meet a short term goal for my weight loss. Right now I'm tring to get under 200lbs (25lbs to go) Once I reach 199 I'm going to Olive garden to celebrate, it's my favoriteeee! Next will be 175, then 150. I don't really have the need to go out to eat like that but it is tastey.
  • orlandodenise
    orlandodenise Posts: 54 Member
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    I only eat out once every three weeks and even then only healthy options. I never ever eat take out - too processed, salty and fatty for my liking
  • dawnna76
    dawnna76 Posts: 987 Member
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    I eat out once a week. mostly out of neccesity, on night when we run low on time after taekwondo. i solo parent two young boys (6&7) cause dad works out of town 20 days a month.

    4-5 days a week is alot! you need to cook more at home that you both can eat. not to mention while your daughter may be underweight now, your not really setting her up for good eating habits in the future when unfortunatly eating habits do catch up with us.

    I usually make something for my boys that they will eat that and that is higher calories or fat for thier skinny bottoms. They like bean and cheese burritos, homemade personal pizzas, tuna fish sandwhich and chips etc.

    I eat roasted veggies and eggs, or something else that fits my plan. I also make extra veggies for them.

  • Sophsmother
    Sophsmother Posts: 83 Member
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    jemhh wrote: »
    I eat out at least 3x/week and have never found it difficult or that it impedes weight loss. We go often enough that it isn't a big deal. I rarely (as in maybe 3-4 times a year) get a dessert or appetizer. I generally go for baked or grilled meat, salad, and some sort of veggie side(s).

    How old is your daughter?

    My daughter is 10 and is an extremely picky eater. No matter what I cook for her, which is usually something she has picked, she takes 2 bites then hates it and asks for something else. When we go out, she doesn't do that, so we started eating out 5x a week, which lead to a nice 15lb gain for me since Christmas. so for the last two weeks I've been doing 1,200 calories a day to lose the extra 65 lbs I have to lose. But the eating out is torture for me this early in the game.

    I meet with my dietician tomorrow, so I'll lean on her to get us back on track.
  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,426 Member
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    I eat out once a week.
    If my dd doesn't like what I cook she has a sandwich, yogurt, cereal or fruit.
  • Timorous_Beastie
    Timorous_Beastie Posts: 595 Member
    edited March 2015
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    I usually don't go out to eat more than once a week. Sometimes less.

    How about trying to recreate your daughter's favorite restaurant meals at home? Get her involved with the cooking. When I was a very skinny, very fussy eater kid, I tended to eat more of something when I helped make it.
  • lemurcat12
    lemurcat12 Posts: 30,886 Member
    edited March 2015
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    I eat out at restaurants (the ones I go to have no nutrition information) once or twice a week and have since I started. (It's part of my social life and something we do before going to a play or concert or to try new restaurants/old favorites.) I usually consider those my more indulgent meals--I try to order wisely (most of the time) and keep in mind that restaurants add more butter and have larger serving sizes and act accordingly, but eating out as much as you are would make this a lot harder. (I did this when my calories were 1250, but used exercise calories, sometimes from earlier in the week too, to cover the meals then, because it's really hard to account for most restaurant meals with those calories alone and still eat reasonably the rest of the day).

    I also from time to time end up buying lunch when I'm at work, which might be more similar to what you are talking about. I go to places (like Pret a Manger) where I have calorie counts and can choose options that aren't that different from what I might make at home in calories and ingredients. I think this is okay (if more expensive than I'd recommend) and shouldn't affect your diet. But warning bells are set off by the statement about portion size and being tempted by what your daughter eats--it sounds as if you are probably going to end up consuming more calories than you want and that it would be easier to reduce the number of nights you go out for a while.
  • melodyesch
    melodyesch Posts: 49 Member
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    Before I started, my DH and I ate out A LOT. But I'm finding that I would rather cook at home so that I KNOW what's going into my meals. We eat out once per week and even though I budget my calories for the meal I'm going to have (the same one each week), I really am just hoping my estimates are close. That's too uncertain for me 4-5 times per week.

    Good Luck with your daughter. I'm not a parent so I don't understand having a fussy eater who will only eat in restaurants.
  • callsitlikeiseeit
    callsitlikeiseeit Posts: 8,627 Member
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    several times a week.

    still losing consistently.

  • berlynnwall
    berlynnwall Posts: 669 Member
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    jemhh wrote: »
    I eat out at least 3x/week and have never found it difficult or that it impedes weight loss. We go often enough that it isn't a big deal. I rarely (as in maybe 3-4 times a year) get a dessert or appetizer. I generally go for baked or grilled meat, salad, and some sort of veggie side(s).

    How old is your daughter?

    My daughter is 10 and is an extremely picky eater. No matter what I cook for her, which is usually something she has picked, she takes 2 bites then hates it and asks for something else. When we go out, she doesn't do that, so we started eating out 5x a week, which lead to a nice 15lb gain for me since Christmas. so for the last two weeks I've been doing 1,200 calories a day to lose the extra 65 lbs I have to lose. But the eating out is torture for me this early in the game.

    I meet with my dietician tomorrow, so I'll lean on her to get us back on track.

    If your daughter is 10, she can make her own food. I don't mean that you should never cook for her again and send her off to college now or anything, but I do mean that if she wants to be picky and "hates" everything, she can go make a sandwich.

  • CA_Underdog
    CA_Underdog Posts: 733 Member
    edited March 2015
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    My daughter is 10 and is an extremely picky eater. No matter what I cook for her, which is usually something she has picked, she takes 2 bites then hates it and asks for something else. When we go out, she doesn't do that, so we started eating out 5x a week,

    1. Have you discussed this with your pediatrician? Did you ask for a referral to a specialist?

    2. Can you learn how to cook tastier foods from what she's eating when you're out? E.g., perhaps they're using 85% lean ground beef and you're using 98% lean ground beef.

    3. Are you eating at places with published calorie counts? If so, you know what she's getting, and hitting your targets should be easy. There will always be some variation in portion sizes of real food, and that's okay, so long as there isn't a consistent pattern of oversizing portions.

    3. Cheese. Is. Amazing. It can make broccoli palatable.

    4. Peanut Butter. Is. Amazing. It can make carrots palatable.

    It must be frustrating, going through a phase where she won't eat your cooking. I've had kids sometimes refuse a meal, but never to the point they lost extreme weight.
  • kazminchu
    kazminchu Posts: 250 Member
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    We eat out once a week or so, sometimes less, sometimes more. It doesn't affect my diet much as I tend to try to compensate for it on my other days.

    On a side note - however hard it may be, pampering your child like that is only going to make things harder for yourself. Let her go hungry a couple of weeks, she'll come around and start eating properly. Get her involved with cooking, and try to find out what she likes.
    If you don't break her habit now, it'll only get worse until she refuses to eat entirely. Eating out that often isn't healthy, for either of you.
  • MaitreyeeMAYHEM
    MaitreyeeMAYHEM Posts: 559 Member
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    Once or twice a week. It may be a healthy choice one day and not so much another day. It all depends if I know I'm working out that day and to see if I can eat it.