I'm giving up already

Please don't give up. We all have times when we think it would be better to just quit, but you'll just end up being upset at yourself for doing that. Celebrate the little things that you've been able to change. It may take you a bit to get into a new way of eating, but each positive change you make brings you closer to where you want to be. The only way you can fail at this is to give up. NEVER GIVE UP!!!! We are all here to support you. Feel free to add me as a friend. I'd be happy to help you! :flowerforyou:

YOU ACTUALLY LISTEN TO PEOPLE WHO TELL THIS THAT CRAP? THEY OBVIOUSLY AREN'T FRIENDS, SO WHY WOULD YOU CARE WHAT THEY SAY? STUFF YOUR FACE, GET HEART DISEASE, DIE A YOUNG AGE, OR GET HEALTHY, YOU CAN'T BLAME YOUR DECISSIONS ON OTHER PEOPLE.

No one can hurt you unless you give them permission to do so!

You said yourself you are negative enough about yourself you don't need to hear it from anyone else. LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF ENOUGH TO CHANGE! Have you ever seen someone who takes all kinds of comments and harsh criticism and it never seems to phase them or get them down? THEY CHOOSE TO NOT LISTEN TO IT. They hear it but they are not LISTENING to it - they are not AGREEING with those harsh words and anyone who said that to you should be slapped. PERIOD! I saw on your profile where you said it was your MOM who said that to you? Sounds to me like she's got some issues. You should tell her that YOU are a direct REFLECTION of HER! She made you the way you are so if she has anyone to blame it is herself! You do not have to take that any longer. You are a grown woman (I'm assuming, didn't catch your age) and you have the right to choose who you let into your inner private circle. She may be biologically your mother but you don't have to keep her in your life if she's continuing to hurt you in so many ways.

You have to take this one day at a time - and even one meal at a time in the beginning. Don't make too many changes at once or you will feel overwhelmed and that nothing is the same an that it's too hard. Damn right it's hard - if it wasn't why bother? Start by just logging whatever you eat without worrying about counting everything and keep a blog or journal where you can write about how you feel and why you're eating if it's outside of meals. If you're feeling stressed and just eating more write about it. If your hurt and angry about someone or something, write about it. I love to write letters I call "Letters I'll Never Send" because it's in those that I'm free to say all the reactive, responsive, mean and nasty things I'm thinking as they come out whether or not I mean them or how much they'd hurt someone to actually hear. It's such a release!!

Once you have an idea of how much you're actually eating, then you can start to make small changes. If you're sedentary, start to walk 15 minutes a day for a week or two and then start to increase it by 15 minutes. The point is to move consistently, even if the amount of time or distance isn't much. You will get stronger, have more stamina and be able to do more. Give your body a chance. Just being more active even eating however you are now, will help you get your body into weight loss mode. At this point I wouldn't worry about eating back exercise calories because you're not modifying your diet any.

After that (should take 2 weeks to a month to get situated) you can start lowering your calorie intake. Say you're eating 2500 calories a day doing what you're doing now. Set yourself a goal (don't worry about what MFP says) to take off 500 a day and change 1 food item (like switching from white bread to wheat bread). Small steps will take you so much farther and on a less stressful path than trying to change everything at one time. I know. I did this myself. I tried to change too much to fast and crashed emotionally and physically but the small changes did stick with me and now it's all second nature. I'm trying to overeat today and I can't do it to the extent that I want to. I'll be lucky if I hit maintenance levels today after exercise.

This is a "diet" in that you are changing the way you wish to eat, not something you will do short term to lose weight. You will need to look inward and really start to face the things you've been running from for a long long time. You might even need some professional help on that end and that's ok too.

We all need help. If we didn't none of us would be here. None of us would be friending anyone and none of us would be posting on message boards! Your post is a cry for help just like someone who says "I wish I was dead" or "I'm going to kill myself". You've only picked a different weapon.

Please Please Please feel proud that you did this for 5 days!! yes in the big picture, it's not so much but right here and right now - it's EVERYTHING!! Just like a baby learning to walk those first steps are the hardest. There will be times when you fall and even get hurt. But would you stop the baby from learning to walk? NO! You pick them back up support them and encourage them to keep moving! Before you know it they're running all over! You need to treat yourself like a child learning to walk and be patient, loving and supportive of yourself. If you don't love you, who will? In the end all that matters to you, is YOU and yours is the ONLY opinion that really means anything. You have to be happy with who you are no matter what ANYONE (Including mother) has to say about it.

Tell mom you're taking a time out from her. She's done raising you and now it's time for you to fly like she could never teach you!!
PLEASE DON'T GIVE UP!!

Don't give up on yourself - because that is what it would be. Not giving up on a diet because it's not a diet. It's about meal-to-meal choices and time management. We all have good days and we all have bad days. The goal is for the good to start to become the norm and the bad days to become little blips in the process. I hope you think twice about your journey to becoming more fit & healthy. I'd be glad to be your friend along the way!! Julie

Don't give up! Prove whoever said those horrible things to you wrong. You CAN do this!!

Don't let one person decide your faith. You've gone a week that's great. One day at a time. You are now part of a team. Quiting is not an option. You are not doing it for that person you are doing it for YOU. We are here for you. We've all fell off the wagon before (or we wouldn't be here now) but we dust off and get back on. Don't give up . If you found yourself in a weak moment log on , someone will be here for you.

C'mon buddy, don't do it!

I did exactly what you're thinking. I PUT ON another 20-30kg (44-66lbs) when I did... You don't want that do you? 5 days is a terrific start, and I envy you. Keep going, lose that weight, feel better about yourself! Become the envy of everyone around you, make them proud, make YOURSELF proud.

You can do it, you know you want to lose the weight!

and it's not even been a week. I just got told to "stop kidding myself that I'm ever going to stick to this diet", and y'know what? They were right. Who am I kidding? I'm a greedy pig and five days is nothing in the great scheme of things. So what if I've lasted five days? I feel stupid for ever thinking I could do this. I might as well go stuff my face with food now. I don't know why I'm posting this really. Sorry.

just because they think this of you and tell you this does not make it true! you can be however you want to be. you can do it and feel good about yourself and they will have to admit they were wrong. even if you already binged you can still get right back on it and be succesful! sending you peaceful, happy, positive thoughtsxo

HI there,
According to the BMI tables, at 5 ft 11 in and 158 lbs, you have a normal BMI of 22. I read your profile and the comments you made about your body. Maybe you just need to 'tone up' and look at yourself in a different way. Remember: it's not what is said to you but rather how you react that is important. :flowerforyou:

It makes me sad that you feel that way! You are worth it and you CAN do this. It is not about being perfect every day. Just focus on keeping your food log and believe that the voice in your head that says "yes, I can " is louder and stronger than any other!

Dont give up!! As others have said...dont think of it as a diet...IT IS A NEW LIFE STYLE!! I have been on my journey since February!! I have lost 47 pounds to date! I am a single mother of three and it is not easily eating right & getting my exercise in! I had people that put negative thoughts in my head like you not going to stick to this "diet" .....keep your fat pants you might need them....u look like you put on a few pounds!! Day by day I keep proving them wrong!! The biggest thing for me is to write everything down u eat!! I also do have my kids that motivate me in some way or another! PLEASE DON'T GIVE UP!!

Thank you so much everyone. I *don't* want to give up but the comments were especially hurtful to me as they were from my own mother. I'm going to stick this out and prove her wrong.

No one has the power to hurt like family. Good on you for deciding to stick it out - but do it for YOU - the best of all reasons. You're worth the effort!

That's an awful extremely unsupportive thing to say!!!! Seriously what do they even know! Don't give up! If you fall off your diet just get right back on because we all have slip ups. You've just got to keep a positive attitude. It's difficult to lose weight but EVERYONE is able to do it if they put their mind to it. It's been hard for me too but I don't see myself giving up anytime soon and you shouldn't either.

HI there,
According to the BMI tables, at 5 ft 11 in and 158 lbs, you have a normal BMI of 22. I read your profile and the comments you made about your body. Maybe you just need to 'tone up' and look at yourself in a different way. Remember: it's not what is said to you but rather how you react that is important. :flowerforyou:

Amen to this! Please, please pay attention to those posters who have advised you thus. The things that will increase your happiness are a fit, strong, healthy body, and a healthy self-image, not fewer pounds on a scale, or smaller clothes.

and it's not even been a week. I just got told to "stop kidding myself that I'm ever going to stick to this diet", and y'know what? They were right. Who am I kidding? I'm a greedy pig and five days is nothing in the great scheme of things. So what if I've lasted five days? I feel stupid for ever thinking I could do this. I might as well go stuff my face with food now. I don't know why I'm posting this really. Sorry.

i think we have all felt this way . Please don't give up... and as my good friend Jannie says when people are getting me down, "do you want me to come over there and get all Jersey on their a**?":grumble: