Binge Eating Disorder (B.E.D.)

GoodThymes
GoodThymes Posts: 1
edited November 14 in Motivation and Support
Hello! I am new to this website and have recently started to take control of my B.E.D. Are there any others on here that have dealt with this eating disorder that have helpful hints & tips? Or just a friendly soul to chat with occasionaly? :smile:
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  • tat2cookie
    tat2cookie Posts: 1,899 Member
    I have struggled with it my whole life. I just come out and say that I did have wls in January. But I still have urges, I just physically can't do anything about it now or I'll get violently ill. But before I had the surgery I was working on getting it under control. I started by making myself write down everything I ate during a binge just so I could see how much I was actually eating. 5000calories is what I was putting away in one of my binges! Next I kept reach of when I was binging. I noticed it was usually around 2-4pm. So I would try to go take a walk or get out of the house during that time. Next I quit buying stuff that I would binge on. No chips, candy, cookies, cheese, ect. It's not allowed in the house. Pretty soon if I had a binge attack I'd either have to do it with a head of broccoli and hummus or I'd just not eat cause there was nothing I wanted to pig out on.
    My wake up call was one night when we got pizza and I was working really hard on my eating and only had one slice. When everyone was done eating one of my girls made a comment about there being an entire pizza left, we usually don't have any left. Then it occurred to me that I would eat an entire pizza by myself!
    It's something that I struggle with every single day. It's help to know that I'm are not alone in this. Feel free to add me :)
  • Hearts_2015
    Hearts_2015 Posts: 12,032 Member
    Definitely have had issues. I think there might be a group on here of BED, not sure if the group search function is working yet but you might take a look.

    :) Welcome, so glad you're here !
  • Hearts_2015
    Hearts_2015 Posts: 12,032 Member
    Waiting to hear back, I'll let you know if I find the group.
  • rhiannajohnson2015
    rhiannajohnson2015 Posts: 6 Member
    I am interested in a group too....have always struggled with BED. I have gained and lost 50 pounds several times. A vicious cycle.
  • Hearts_2015
    Hearts_2015 Posts: 12,032 Member
    Waiting to hear back, I'll let you know if I find the group.

    Currently MFP is without a Group search feature so it's been difficult to find the group. :# I'm almost positive their is one as I've seen it in the past.
  • MindySaysWhaaat
    MindySaysWhaaat Posts: 401 Member
    I have struggled with binge eating for about 9 years now. I'm currently doing well, but it took me a while to get into the right mindset. I had to reinvent my relationship with food. I have had to learn to forgive myself when I slip up, and to try not to feel guilty for eating. I take it one day at a time, and I am focusing more on portion control/moderation, and not worrying so much what I'm eating as long as it's within my calorie goals.
  • Hearts_2015
    Hearts_2015 Posts: 12,032 Member
    I have struggled with binge eating for about 9 years now. I'm currently doing well, but it took me a while to get into the right mindset. I had to reinvent my relationship with food. I have had to learn to forgive myself when I slip up, and to try not to feel guilty for eating. I take it one day at a time, and I am focusing more on portion control/moderation, and not worrying so much what I'm eating as long as it's within my calorie goals.
    <3
  • coney724
    coney724 Posts: 12 Member
    Hi there. You can add me. I've developed a binge eating habit about 7 years ago and it's gotten worst as the years went by. Currently I am 18 days binge free but I still get the urges. I struggle back and forth a lot and need support from others!
  • mary1217mfp
    mary1217mfp Posts: 4 Member
    I cannot believe I have finally found this! Feeling grateful
  • gwenpally
    gwenpally Posts: 20 Member
    I hear you!! I'm guilty of yoyo-ing over the years (about 15) and binge-eating is defs something I need to change for life! I can do quite well for a few days then I'll allow myself a treat and there's just no stopping me. It's like I can be good again when all the treats are gone, but I'll wait til then. Doesn't help that I'm an emotional eater and as a female, I get emotional a lot. Unfortunately I can offer no solutions either but if anyone has any suggestions, I'm all ears!

    Also, welcome Good Thymes. I'm new-ish as well (again). Going to do better this time though!
  • Hearts_2015
    Hearts_2015 Posts: 12,032 Member
    I cannot believe I have finally found this! Feeling grateful

    <3
  • saladfairy
    saladfairy Posts: 10 Member
    I began binge eating around the age of 14, when I first tried to diet (i.e. starve myself). I would cycle days barely eating and days where I couldn't control myself. it turned into bulimia about 2 years ago, which got progressively worse until a few months ago. I hardly ever purge anymore, but the bingeing is a daily struggle! Slowy, *slowly* growing past it.
  • shannonbun
    shannonbun Posts: 168 Member
    I haven't really truly binged since I started MFP (76 days and counting!). There were some days I ate very unhealthily due to stress/anger/what-have-you, but I made it fit into my calorie goal. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to add me!

    Some things that I found helpful for myself were to get all the foods I would binge on out of my dorm room. If they weren't around, I'd have to go buy them, and I'd have time to cool off and evaluate if bingeing was worth it (never is). Also, I bought some measuring cups and use those to eat some foods I'd binge on if I didn't have my 'preferred' bingeing foods around. So for, say, peanut butter--if I ate from the jar with a 1/3 tablespoon measuring cup, I knew I could have 6 scoops for a serving. That way, I wasn't eating spoonful after spoonful and could at least monitor myself.
  • tekkiechikk
    tekkiechikk Posts: 375 Member
    I've also had BED for a long time and have yo-yo'd so many times in my weight, but just now (at age 51) am realizing that the main trigger for me is anger. I binge out of anger, not loneliness or boredom as a lot of people do. So recognizing the trigger is a big step- record when you binged and how you were feeling at the time, that should help you recognize when the next one could possibly happen.
  • FoodFitnessTravel
    FoodFitnessTravel Posts: 294 Member
    I am still struggling. Sadly, where i come from, it's not considered to be an eating disorder. Eating disorders in developing countries are rare (as most of the people simply didn't have enough junk food growing up, as it was more expensive than home cooked meals, candy is still way more expensive than fruit etc.), and anorexia and bulimia are the only EDs they have heard of.
    I started struggling with BED when i was 19, when i tried to shed a few pounds for the first time, going on a crash diet. I've learned a lot since then, i don't do crash diets, i don't starve, i work out. I still binge, every week for one or two days, and i get angry at myself and feel ashamed, embarrassed. I really want to overcome this and start living like a normal person, and especially since i feel like i'm undoing week's work by bingeing during weekends. I found that i HAVE to plan an activity during the weekend and not stay at home because i'm most definitely going to binge.

    Oh btw i saw a psychologist about my problem and he said "why don't you try eating when you're hungry and stop when you're full"
    Yeah, thanks a lot.
  • xandralaw
    xandralaw Posts: 50 Member
    Wow - this is totally me and I'm so glad to be reading this. I didn't use to be like this but it is getting worse. It used to be a 15 lb fluctuation over 6 months, but most recently I've put 40 lbs on since Sept (after taking off 30).

    I have to find a way to stop this, to stop eating so fast I don't taste food, to stop hiding the food I eat (I know every drive thru on my way home from work and have alternated my use of them so the people who work there won't recognize me).

    I am just starting this week and could use any support out there and I'll gladly support others. I'm starting with a meal plan and a no drive-thru goal for the week.
  • 81Katz
    81Katz Posts: 7,074 Member
    It sounds kinda lame but I have been using a calendar and I mark a smiley face on each day I stay on track (binge-free). It gives me something to strive for and look forward to at the end of the day knowing that I did well and get to put my smiley face on. I had 1 day last week where I binged and I marked a big X on the day, I hate seeing that X now, makes me wish I had not binged (obviously) and it also makes me want the next smiley face more.
  • Hearts_2015
    Hearts_2015 Posts: 12,032 Member
    edited March 2015
    81Katz wrote: »
    It sounds kinda lame but I have been using a calendar and I mark a smiley face on each day I stay on track (binge-free). It gives me something to strive for and look forward to at the end of the day knowing that I did well and get to put my smiley face on. I had 1 day last week where I binged and I marked a big X on the day, I hate seeing that X now, makes me wish I had not binged (obviously) and it also makes me want the next smiley face more.

    Funny because I was looking for my stickers earlier to put a cute one up! Then I read your post. ;) How about if you don't mark the binge days at all, no fun sticker but also not beating yourself up with an ugly giant X either?

    We can look forward to see all the stickers and the days that might not have a sticker, we already know what happened. As time passes more and more stickers are in a row... it feels good.

    What do you think? No I don't think it's lame at all but think you should go buy a pkg. of fun and colorful stickers.. try Hobby Lobby, Micheal's..they are super cheap there and have tons of variety in the sticker section.

    Let's try and have fun with success! (*)

    If anyone wants to join that B.E.D. group on MFP...the link is up above. I've joined it very recently but haven't gotten active there yet. ;)
  • rubyrubytuesday
    rubyrubytuesday Posts: 65 Member
    I concur with the big ugly X idea being mean to yourself! Everyone slips up and the fact that you're trying (and still doing really well) is awesome. Yay for smily faces though :smile: (you get one from me!)
  • ohiotubagal
    ohiotubagal Posts: 190 Member
    Glad to find this thread! I'm in the B.E.D. group but it doesn't seem to be very active. Let's get on over there and liven the place up! lol

    I love the calendar idea. I have started using green/yellow/red on my calendar. Green = binge free day, yellow = overate but stopped a binge, red = binge. But now after reading your posts about the red X, I may just use the green and yellow.

    I am reading Shrink Yourself by Dr. Roger Gould right now and have learned a lot about BED. He talks a lot about the period of time between the desire to binge and when you actually start. Something I am trying is to say what I am feeling out loud when I feel a binge coming on. For example, tonight I'm at work and there is a pan of yummy homemade dessert in our break room that has been calling my name all evening. I found myself obsessing over it. I realized that I was planning a mini binge on my break and said to myself, "I am tired and antsy and bored with my job right now. I am ready to go home." By the time my break came I was able to eat my yogurt instead of the dessert and avoid the binge.

    Anyway...just a few thoughts. Please feel free to add me as a friend, and add a message so I know you saw me here. :)

  • Crystallee145
    Crystallee145 Posts: 147 Member
    I've struggled with this for about 10 years. It started with emotional eating annf has progressed. Ive read books about mindful eating and they guve great advice. I struggle with the follow through
  • twichele
    twichele Posts: 8 Member
    Feeling guilty as charged
  • snapdragon1231
    snapdragon1231 Posts: 36 Member
    Lots of good stuff. I have been seriously working on this for a few years now. The calendar idea is good one I do agree that the big red X may not be a great approach to some people. A friend from a BED support group always said to be kind to yourself after a binge and hard on yourself before.
    Some approaches that my group found helpful
    -some people binge more when calorie counting, and some find it comforting.
    -For the non calorie counters a good tactic was to put your food on a plate, enjoy your meal and break the habit of seconds, and picking at food.
    -I used to binge terribly at night, I had success by not eating anything after dinner, if I had dessert it was at the table within an hour after dinner. It was almost painful not to eat after dinner then one day I noticed I didn't even think about food after dinner. I went off the rails on that and am working toward it again. Liquids are okay.
    -A little list of reminders like, this feeling will go away, the urge is uncomfortable, but wont hurt me, The more I resist the stronger my resistance becomes, the more I give in the weaker my resistance becomes. I had an alarm on my phone to read this list periodically throughout the day.
    -Most people agreed that labeling any food as bad, or eliminating foods completely was a set up for a binge. That is not to say reducing sugars and carbs were not helpful, but saying I can never.......


    That's all I can think of, these were things that either I or another member found helpful.
  • xandralaw
    xandralaw Posts: 50 Member
    The counselor I am working with also said not to label things as bad, it only fuels the guilt and the shame which can perpetuate the bingeing. Easier said than done of course when after a binge you feel awful physically - but its all about a mindset change I guess.

  • -some people binge more when calorie counting, and some find it comforting.
    -For the non calorie counters a good tactic was to put your food on a plate, enjoy your meal and break the habit of seconds, and picking at food.

    Calore counting and Weight Watchers have done both help and hinder me. When I refuse the guilt I feel when I calorie count, it can lead to my worst binges. I was once 150 lbs, and now I am so embarassed by the 30 pounds I've gained in the last 2 years. I'm hoping to start acknowledging my binging habits, and realize when to stop my meals. Dinner is my worst time, as I pack a lunch daily and stay away from the work cafeteria.

    My fiance is so strong with his eating habits, and I'm hoping by our wedding in a year, I can really get a grip on my binge eating and live a healthier life for myself.

    Anyone else feel like home is where the problems come up for binge eating?
  • It's really hard to admit this but I think I'm a binge eater. Everyday I come home and it all happens so fast! I barely know what's happened until I've eaten a lot of food but I'm going to try to break this habit. Food seems to be the only thing that makes me feel better, the only thing that I look forward to at the end of the day... Is that really sad? I know that I need to stop but some days, my cravings for sugar are so bad that I cry! Well done anyone who is or has lived with these things! This is really hard! I think it's important that you go in with that mindset, not that it's too hard, but that it is really difficult because then, you won't give up when it's not easy.
  • melodyis4reals
    melodyis4reals Posts: 186 Member
    I love sugar too. Sometimes it's all I think about. To stop the sugar cravings, buy a ton of fruit at first. Every time you want some thing sweet, eat a piece of fruit. You get natural sugar, but also fiber. Stop eating sugary cereals, drinking juice, soda, and limit your bread intake to two slices a day. Bread is just sugar in disguise. After a couple of weeks, limit yourself to three pieces of fruit a day. Once you get use to that, then you're good to go. In my experience, eliminating all desserts and candy and substituting with fruit is the way to go. As much has I like to think one cookie won't hurt, I feel like it does- I always want more then one. Sugar is an addiction, like heroin. I too am addicted to sugar.
  • N4T4L1E130
    N4T4L1E130 Posts: 4 Member
    I have struggled with this for most of my life. There are a lot of factors that influence whether or not I lose control, but the thing that is most helpful to me is avoiding junk food. If I stick to healthy foods, I am more likely to maintain control of my portions. After a bit of success I'll try to enjoy a slice of pizza, a burger, or some wings, which almost always sends me into a backslide. Right now I'm trying to make some substitutions that can help with a craving, like cauliflower crust personal pizza or buffalo cauliflower bites. I'm hoping to avoid relapse with this change. Good luck to you @GoodThymes , and thank you so much for sharing!!!! Btw, this thread led me to finding a support group, so double thanks!!
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