I'm giving up already

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  • iamhealingmyself
    iamhealingmyself Posts: 579 Member
    i think we have all felt this way . Please don't give up... and as my good friend Jannie says when people are getting me down, "do you want me to come over there and get all Jersey on their a**?":grumble:


    LOL from the transplanted Joisey Gurl
  • noxx27
    noxx27 Posts: 18 Member
    I know at times it is hard and other times it seems almost impossible, but ever journey begins with a single step. And often the journey worth traveling are often traveled alone! Not because our friends don't care but because often they are afraid of you doing it alone or afraid of you leaving them behind. So know that you can do this and you can succeed its all just a single step..... its not an hour, a day, or a week, just one step....... then another.

    I know you can walk so I know you can do this!

    Just one step at a time, and you will reach your destination.

    Feel free to friend me if you need support. I'm always here to help. Keep walking.... and you'll make it there!


    Have faith,
    Eric
  • AJelinski
    AJelinski Posts: 36
    Don't look at it as a diet. Diet is a four letter word. Look at it as a lifestyle change.
  • bmw4deb
    bmw4deb Posts: 1,324 Member
    Do it for you!! just let the ugly people be your motivation! you can do it
  • Mtsidad
    Mtsidad Posts: 242 Member
    Amen to all those who say "it's tough but don't give up."

    I'll offer this: this isn't a success/fail class. There is really no "failure" here other than the failure you want to attach to your own self.

    Here is my OPINION: You are a complex person with many options for satisfaction. Some of them (the desire to be in better health) conflict with others (the desire for satisfaction through food). Plus you have toxic people around who shame you when you fail (and it seems want to help you fail).

    You can't deal with the desire to get healthier if you let toxic people tell you how to feel. I can't help you with that.

    You CAN choose to get healthy. The fact that you started this program AND you posted here of your failure means YOU STILL HAVE CONTROL. I emphasize this because a lot of people will tell you that you are a failure because you failed. But we all fail - all the time. Just that some of us realize that failure is a part of being human and making choices.

    Don't think you can do this the rest of your life? Then pick a smaller goal. Choose smaller objectives. Don't go for the "I will lose 100 pounds by Christmas!" type of thing. Go for "I will exercise 10 minutes a day and keep my fat count under 50gm" (or whatever it is). Pick something only a LITTLE bit more than just existing. Hit that. FEEL GOOD ABOUT IT! Celebrate the success!

    Then pick a slightly harder goal.

    I purposely picked 20 pound "mini-goals" for myself because the thought of 18-24 months just to get down to my normal weight is overwhelming. But I can do 2-3 month mini-goals. And if I don't make the goal right away, I've only just missed a small goal and I can try a little harder, rather than think OH MY GOSH MY LITTLE ATTEMPTS ARE DOING NOTHING.

    I'm real sorry you are feeling down, and I don't blame you, and I won't add to that. I just hope you can look at yourself and love yourself enough to do what YOU want and not what your so-called support group wants you to do.
  • lestahling
    lestahling Posts: 36
    Don't give up!
    Small steps!
    It is the journey, not the destination.
    You are not going to be perfect!
    And these things take time.

    I was reading your profile and it made me feel quite sad how you are putting down yourself and your body. I would really really encourage you to start the mental transformation journey along with the physical one you want.... When you lose weight, your mind will not magically jump into "Oh wow I'm awesome" mode.

    You are a worthwhile person. You are beautiful and if i, a stranger, can say this, What do you think your friends and family think? :}

    There will always be bumps in the road, we just have to rise above them :)
  • schooch11
    schooch11 Posts: 2
    Don't give up on yourself. I've been there. I've started so many times telling myself that I'm going to do this and after a little while I eventually quit. I've just started MFP recently and I am determined to do it this time. Also, don't let negative comments get you down and make you think "maybe they're right, I can't do it." Do it for yourself and nobody else. It's you that you have to please and no one else. Good luck and hang in there, it'll be tough but you can do it.
  • RhonndaJ
    RhonndaJ Posts: 1,615 Member
    There's some great support here, and they're right. You can do this.

    Some days will be hard, some days will be easier, some days you won't do as well as you'd like, other days you'll surprise yourself. The key is not giving up.

    I'm sorry your mom was harsh to you, sometimes those closest to us are our harshest and most unfair critics, I wish I knew why that is. But just because they're close to you, doesn't mean they know just how much you're capable of.

    Hang in there.
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