I still look fat

pinnkkk
pinnkkk Posts: 10
edited November 16 in Motivation and Support
I've lost 34lbs. I'm 6lbs away from my goal weight . I now weigh 131. When I started I weighed 165. I still see myself fat. I thought I'd be proud of myself for what I've done on my own. I'm still not happy an comfortable with myself.

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  • arditarose
    arditarose Posts: 15,573 Member
    I'm sorry to hear that. That's a huge loss. I actually have about the same exact stats as you. Sometimes I feel chubby still--but progress pics say otherwise (sometimes). Have you taken any? I'm sure you look great.
  • cheyenne__brown
    cheyenne__brown Posts: 25 Member
    I understand how you feel, no matter what weight I am I always feel the same. As you see yourself every day, any change is going to be gradual, so you won't pick up on the difference as much as someone who sees you less often. Have you tried looking at pictures at yourself before and comparing them to now? You have lost a lot of weight, so a lot of change will have occurred and I'm sure you look amazing! Getting used to and changed body can take some time though, try looking in a mirror picking up on the things that you really like about yourself and have improved and just be kind to yourself sweetie
  • pinnkkk
    pinnkkk Posts: 10
    Thank you :) yea I've taken pic. Thank you girls. I have been trying to be more positive an to love myself. I guess the weight affected my brain more than I thought.
  • arditarose
    arditarose Posts: 15,573 Member
    pinnkkk wrote: »
    Thank you :) yea I've taken pic. Thank you girls. I have been trying to be more positive an to love myself. I guess the weight affected my brain more than I thought.

    It can be an emotional process. I was looking at myself recently and I broke down crying, realizing I am the smaller I have been in my "adult" life. I weigh less than I did in middle school.

    34 lbs is a big loss, really.
  • pinnkkk
    pinnkkk Posts: 10
    It really is a big loss. I'm happy for you an your loss. I know those were happy tears. I know what you've went through to get where your at. It's hard work.
  • pinnkkk
    pinnkkk Posts: 10
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  • pinnkkk
    pinnkkk Posts: 10
    This is me before and after.
  • arditarose
    arditarose Posts: 15,573 Member
    Holy! Huge difference. Absolutely stunning.

    How tall are you?
  • SoLongAndThanksForAllTheFish
    SoLongAndThanksForAllTheFish Posts: 831 Member
    Thats a very big difference, good job so far!
  • pinnkkk
    pinnkkk Posts: 10
    Thank you :) I'm very short 4'11. My goal is 125 that's 40lbs. I should weight 94 to 124or something like that. Lol! It's easy to dress up at home, but to go in public is hard.
  • arditarose
    arditarose Posts: 15,573 Member
    You're almost there! I know working on confidence and loving your body is hard. But really, you should be proud. You look great. Enjoy yourself every bit of the way to your goal. It's the only body you're going to get and you are really taking great steps to taking the best care of it you can.
  • vixtris
    vixtris Posts: 688 Member
    If you aren't happy with your body, you may need to re-evaluate and maybe just keep up what you are doing until you are happy with it. Great job on your weight loss!
  • Dgydad
    Dgydad Posts: 104 Member
    Girl, you look GOOD! If you aren't content with your self-image, sure, you've got work to do. But really - what's left is much more emotional and psychological than physical. Lose that last 6 pounds; do it b/c it's the goal you set. But find some support for the other stuff. That's where you're biggest opportunities are! ;)
  • American_Beauty
    American_Beauty Posts: 20 Member
    I'm going through this now, started at 168, now at 143.5, first goal is 135 and final 125. Just shy of 25 pounds gone, and I do this often; I agree with everyone else, you look fabulous! I too am short, towering in at 5'2" and even though others see it, I struggle thinking the same thing, you've got this honey, we just have to have our brain see ourselves in a different light. <3
  • RodaRose
    RodaRose Posts: 9,562 Member
    Congratulations on the hard work you did to lose weight. <3
  • pinnkkk
    pinnkkk Posts: 10
    Thank you very much everyone :) I will for sure keep it up. I've changed my lifestyle alot. I really believe working on loving yourself is the hardest part. I wasn't ready for this part. I thought everything would automatically fall into place. You girls have made me feel good by noticing my hard work. I truly appreciate all your kind words :)
  • gle8442
    gle8442 Posts: 126 Member
    You look great!!! But I understand your pain, too. I've lost 45 lbs and I am at a normal weight for my height now, but I still look (and feel) fat. I look at photos of women who are my same height and weight, and they look much slimmer than me! Sometimes this bothers me a bit, but I also have to realize that we are all different. In my case, my frame size seems to be really small (the cut off for a "small frame" is a wrist size of 6 inches, and mine has actually gone from 6.25 down to now 5.5) Also, maybe I need to put on more muscle! I haven't reached my goal weight yet, but I am treating it like an estimate only, I will see how I feel when I get there.
  • amy8400
    amy8400 Posts: 478 Member
    Your before and after photos are great. Congratulations on your super transformation. You look beautiful!

    I lost 34 pounds as well. I'm 5'5" and started at 188. Today I'm 154. I still see myself as being a little too heavy too. (I never say "fat"...it's such a downer).

    I want to lose another 10 pounds but also build and tone muscle. I'm finding that weights are helping me achieve a tighter, toned feel. Have you tried weight resistance machines, floor exercises or lifting?

    You are so close to where you want to be. Stay focused, work hard and give yourself credit for being a success!
  • pinnkkk
    pinnkkk Posts: 10
    Thank you :) I have not tried lifting. That maybe something I should consider. Great advice.
  • arditarose
    arditarose Posts: 15,573 Member
    edited April 2015
    pinnkkk wrote: »
    Thank you :) I have not tried lifting. That maybe something I should consider. Great advice.

    Lifting helps you maintain lean body mass while you're in a deficit, instead of losing a lot of muscle along with fat (which is what happens in a deficit), you'll lose less. Not only will it help you be stronger, it really helps with aesthetics and feeling fit.
  • Mapalicious
    Mapalicious Posts: 412 Member
    Hey!

    You know I had much the same situation - and then I discovered toning! I started doing just basic ab/back/chest/arm exercise videos from youtube on a mat at home. I toned up my stomach (it's no where near abs, but it's tighter, without the pooch), and my arms, and all around my torso and back. My weight stayed the exact same while I did this (I was cutting a tiny bit) but I fit in smaller clothing, and looked much better!

    Maybe you want to give that a try? Toning your core can go SO far!

    But either way - you've done absolutely amazingly so far, you look excellent, and I imagine you feel healthier? Kudos to you!
  • pinnkkk
    pinnkkk Posts: 10
    Thank you so much. Tomorrow starts a new week, and the beginning of my toning.I'll check out youtube videos after work tomorrow :)
  • arditarose
    arditarose Posts: 15,573 Member
    pinnkkk wrote: »
    Thank you so much. Tomorrow starts a new week, and the beginning of my toning.I'll check out youtube videos after work tomorrow :)

    Great! Just a little tip...not a huge deal, but there's really no such thing as "toning". Muscle HAS tone, but you cannot the change the tone of your muscle. You can lose fat to reveal muscle, while lifting and doing resistance training to maintain the muscle you do have :) Let us know if you have any questions!
  • pinnkkk
    pinnkkk Posts: 10
    Thank you. You've taught me alot. I really just know my basic weight loss stuff. Staying within my calories, and excercise. I've never been this far with weight loss. I will let you know if I have any questions. Y'all have helped me so much :) Thank your everyone for your support.
  • sarahrbraun
    sarahrbraun Posts: 2,261 Member
    pinnkkk wrote: »
    Thank you :) I have not tried lifting. That maybe something I should consider. Great advice.

    Lifting is definitely something you should consider!! I've been lifting for 3 years, and it's the best choice in a long time!

    About 10-12 years ago I was about 150lbs. I wore a snug size 12. I gained almost 80lbs. At my heaviest I wore size 18 pants, at least an 18/20 in shirts (depending on brand, it could be bigger ), and a 42DD bra. I'm currently a loose 12/snug 10 in pants, a large shirt in ladies, and a 38DD bra...at 190lbs. That's right. I was a snug 12 at 150lbs, but a very loose 12 at 190lbs. The difference? I lift heavy.

    Plus, being a shorty at 5'2", people don't expect you to be strong. For some reason petite = delicate flower. So when I'm throwing a 50# bag of chicken feed over my shoulder, or getting ready to squat or deadlift more than I weigh, people are in awe.
  • eva_svi
    eva_svi Posts: 24 Member
    Congrats on your weightloss - you look amazing! Now it's more about loving yourself and maybe adding a bit more muscle to shape your body the way you want? Personally, I feel way better about myself if I add some strength training to the mix. It doesn't have to be in the gym, try looking up bodyrock tv or zuzka light channels on youtube ( for free) or download some bodyweight training apps (i use gain fitness and fitstar)
  • spicy618
    spicy618 Posts: 2,114 Member
    pinnkkk wrote: »
    I've lost 34lbs. I'm 6lbs away from my goal weight . I now weigh 131. When I started I weighed 165. I still see myself fat. I thought I'd be proud of myself for what I've done on my own. I'm still not happy an comfortable with myself.

    That was my starting weight and you are at my goal. I wish I could be where you are. :) I would concentrate on strength training and tighten it all up. You are so close, don't get down on yourself now.
  • scottacular
    scottacular Posts: 597 Member
    pinnkkk wrote: »
    I've lost 34lbs. I'm 6lbs away from my goal weight . I now weigh 131. When I started I weighed 165. I still see myself fat. I thought I'd be proud of myself for what I've done on my own. I'm still not happy an comfortable with myself.

    Sounds like you might have body dysmorphia (google it), I weigh just over 10 stone and have similar emotional difficulties when viewing myself. You look great by the way, good job.
  • huango
    huango Posts: 1,007 Member
    edited April 2015
    pinnkkk wrote: »
    Thank you :) I'm very short 4'11. My goal is 125 that's 40lbs. I should weight 94 to 124or something like that. Lol! It's easy to dress up at home, but to go in public is hard.

    I hear you completely.
    I'm also 4'11" and my end goal weight keeps moving because I have trouble liking what I see in the mirror.

    I started at 128.5 (on 1/1/15), and I lost over 14#, and am 114.4.
    I'm aiming to lose another 5-15#, but over the next 6months-year.

    Everyone has different goals.
    Mine are:
    1. build more muscles by heavy lifting, so that I look leaner and less "sausage-ie"
    2. by having more muscles, I get to eat more.
    - so instead of just eating ~1200calories a day when I get to goal weight and switch to maintenance, I hope to eat 1600-1800cals/day (yes, for my short height, that's a lot of food!)
    3. to look good in a swimsuit.
    - I look good in clothes right now, but it's a different matter once you peel off the clothes.

    You've done a great job so far.
    Think about what your real end goals are. It doesn't have to be a number on the scale.

    Amanda
  • maasha81
    maasha81 Posts: 733 Member
    When I reached my goal weight I was still disappointed. I realize the brain takes a while to 'catch up' to my new body. I eventually started to lift weights for a leaner look and quite happy with the progress. I lift 4 times a week and do cardio or HIIT 2 to 3 times a week.

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