Things that people just SHOULDN'T say!

You are not "FAT" you are just short!
You are proportioned for your body type!

If you are out with a group of people and the best looking one says, "OH, don't worry you look great!" I have figured there motive out. I lose weight become healthy and fit, they now have compettition!

You are older it is bound to happen sometime or another! ( referring to being fat)

Don't worry you look great, it is on the inside that really matters! ( OK, this is true, we all know we should be treated for who we are and not what we look like, BUT SOCIETY DOES NOT SEE IT THIS WAY)

Wow the dryer must be shrinking your clothes, because they are fitting really tight!

Congratulations, when are you due?

:laugh: I had that happen to me!!

Yep, had that happen to me also..

I also get the "You don't need to lose weight", "You look fine", and my fav! "You're just tall"...(6'3)

Well i am guna throw a spanner in the works now..................BIG TIME

Whats wrong with paying someone a compliment if it is deserved. Being a gentlemen is it wrong that I say someone looks amazing in their photos.

If someone looks good should you not tell then???????

I have my reasons for loosing weight and its cause I know deep down that I am not happy and I always say after the compliment that they must feel the same as me and they have there own motivations.

With my clothes on I look OK, but off is another story. I think we all can say that cant we????????

I think with my close friends on here by asking them that question you find out what really makes them tick, what really is their motivation then I can help them and support them on that motivational path.

Summer holiday right, cool, u got the bikini yet, keep that in mind, is the picture of the villa on your biscuit cupboard.

Maybe thats just me but I cant go into a full blown MFP friendship being able to motivate them by saying yer I can see why you wana loose weight.

please don't slate me. maybe my close friends on here can back me up, PLEASE.

I hate that i weigh 280 lbs and my mother says i need to lose 10 lbs but that is enough. WHATEVER mom. i know she is either dilusional or trying to be nice but seriously? come to the damn gym with me!!! and i love when right in front of me she will call a size 12 woman fat on tv, or herself, a size 10 woman, fat, and then i'm like.....if they are fat, what do you REALLY THINK of me?

my husband loves me and finds me sexy at this weigh, and 80 lbs lighter when he met me 6 years ago. he is allowed to tell me what he really thinks, and i do carry this weight well and i am incredibly proportionate, and its okay for HIM to say those things, but he also knows i am obese and i need to be HEALTHY not SKINNY. so here i am!
people say stupid stuff all. the. time. i think they are jealous. seriously i have started this journey and told a couple people about it and they all overweight to some degree and the first thing they give me is an excuse why i shouldnt lose weight, and then an excuse why THEY shouldnt/dont have to/dont have time etc. i think they are jealous of the courage it takes and the motivation it takes to make life change.
just my thoughts. :-)

Oh, and "Your Goal Weight is very low". Yes, that's because I'm practically a midget and have small bones.

What I hate is...
Oh you're doing so well do you want one of these? (producing a pack of brownies!)
When I say no I get 'just have one, it won't hurt. Go on!'

To me it would hurt because I'm trying to lead a healthier lifestyle and lose weight and people trying to give me sweets and treats after I've said no is quite offensive to me.

I hate this too, especially as I usually cave if they offer it to me more than once ><

Oh, and "Your Goal Weight is very low". Yes, that's because I'm practically a midget and have small bones.

I definetly agree with this one. I say I want to lose 50 pounds and they say WHERE? That's too much weight to lose... then I say,"Well I'm 180 and 5'3". Then I get the,"You carry it well!" (Still a compliment, it's still feels kind of sucky for some reason.)

The WORST: "Your just thick/bigboned".

"You can have just one, it won't hurt you." I don't like being pressured into accepting a food I don't want. If I say no, it doesn't mean I don't really want it and I'd prefer if you'd refrain from trying to convince me to eat it. Because I probably will.

Oh the whole telling me what I can/can't/shouldn't eat -- usually coming from the queen of unlimited breadsticks at the Olive Garden. Ahem, yes Mom, I'm talking about you. Love you!

The one that gets me is "you've lost a lot of weight, I can see it in your face." YEAH? I dropped 50 lbs, what was I before, a stinking chipmonk?!?!? **But in all fairness and seriousness, this is usually said at the office where NO ONE would dare mention my backside for fear of H.R.

OMG!!! Yes i've had women come up and ask me when i was due...and my child is 13yrs old....*blank stare* really? Or the one that i'm hearing from my mother inlaw and sister inlaw..now mind you they are only 105 soaking wet ok...now i put my husband and son on a clean eating diet and in 30-60 days my husband had lost all his weight and my son just slimmed right on down nicely. Well she looks at me and says...are you dieting also? I look at her like she had a 3rd eye in her head, and mind you i just came back from the gym working my *kitten* off and she says that? I told her yes i was and I WAS LOSING WEIGHT CAN'T YOU SEE? Then she says oh well you know men lose faster than women...and she has said this everytime she sees me, her and her evil daughter....LOL everyone else that knows me knows i'm on my journey and i'm doing very well with it and ppl can see and they tell me everyday...but not her, i told her to keep on never saying it to me, i told her that keeps me motivated, because God knows i want to please my mother inlaw...*insert blank stare here*_________!

your not fat your just tall ( am 6'2)

I'm 6' almost 6'1" and have a broad build. I hate the "you just have a large bone structure"

"Wow, are sick? is something wrong? You don't have cancer do you?" Seriously. A few people had the gall to say that to me, when I was at my lowest (after gastrc bypass) Like I could do anything about it. We lose what we're supposed to lose and then we "bounce back" a few lbs. Boy, was I glad to see 165 again. (size 10). Even my ex, was an jerk about it and "ordered "me to stop losing. Notice I said EX. I should include the extra 240 lbs I lost, when I booted his *kitten* out the door!!!:laugh:

your not fat your just tall ( am 6'2)

I'm 6' almost 6'1" and have a broad build. I hate the "you just have a large bone structure"

I know sweetie. Everyone in my family have that large frame German bone structure. I am 5'5" and I was the shortest of everybody, but we're all large framed. It just the way G*D, made us!! My lil sister is 5'10, brother was 6'2", the other sister was 5'8" I hear ya, girl....:happy:

My SO is the main culprit when it comes to my weight loss road block. I make a point not to really share my weight loss to anyone because of the things people say, but this fool loves to do the self sabotage.

Two nights ago he brought home Oreos and Hot Cheetos. Last night it was leftover chocolate cream pie from Coco's. Now usually I have better self control, but when it's in there awhile I'm tempted. And I don't tend to buy unhealthy food because it's not like I want to see him gain weight either, we're both packing some pounds.

But when I first started he was convinced I wasn't eating; he had it in his head that I should be eating the same amount he does (him being 6' and I'm only 5'2").