Break-up during weight loss

Eating is only a very, very temporary 'relief' to the pain you are feeling. You will feel TWICE as bad once you start recovering from the heartbreak and realize you've gained 10 pounds due to stress eating. He's not worth it!! Don't sabotage yourself and undo all your hard work.

pandyjambo
I would think that many of us eat when we are upset, which is why we are overweight. We are also aware of it. Your comment was not exactly helpful.
lisasp4
It has been a long time since I was in your shoes (being dumped that is). Yet, I remember the soul deep pain of it. Start small, just some exercise moves or stretches. As you achieve this one thing, be proud of who you are and what you have accomplished! Then move to another - like making a healthy breakfast. Smile while you eat, knowing another great person is out there waiting for the new you.
You can do it! I have confidence in you.

lisasp4 wrote: »

Today I was dumped.

All I want to do is lie in bed, cry and eat.

How am I supposed to motivate myself to do anything?

Has this happened to anyone else recently? Did you eat to numb the pain? I don't want to destroy all my hard work but I just don't want to do anything.

I had a breakup right before I started my latest stint on here (almost at a 400 day streak). Messy breakup, not the best relationship, slightly relieved I was out, ect. I let myself eat what I wanted to for a short period afterwards, before throwing in the "I'm sad" towel and starting on here.

Give yourself the time to grieve the loss of the relationship. If that means having an extra scoop of ice cream, or treating yourself to a nice dinner, so be it! If you're stressed about gaining, continue to log, and plan those splurges into your intake. I also found that working out and changing up my intake helped me feel loads better about moving on from that relationship. I know it's really hard to find the motivation right now, but even getting up to do a 10 minute walk outside can do wonders to help clear your head.

I would say to take it easy today. You've just been through a huge shock. Make sure you do something nice for yourself today, because you deserve it.

Today it is ok to be in crisis mode. I am so sorry you are going through this. Take today to grieve and cry and reach out to friends. Try not to overeat...but be gentle with yourself. Grief and loss need time.
Perhaps by the end of the week you will be in a place where you will be motivated to want to look hot and attractive again. It can be incredibly motivating.

Have a little bit of chocolate or a dessert if you need to. But get to the gym and work that sadness right out of you! (Trust me, I've cried on the elliptical after a break-up. It happens.) It'll boost your confidence. You can buy a new awesome top to go out in. Not only will you feel great, but you will also look hella hot for that new boyfriend who realizes how truly amazing, smart, and beautiful you are. Good luck!

Sorry about getting dumped. It sucks.
Emotional eating is a hard habit to break, but it won't make you feel better. (Believe me, I've tried).

Exercise is a good emotional and confidence boost when your life sucks. You probably don't feel like it, but forcing yourself out for some sweating can get some positive endorphins going, and help you sleep better. Even going for a walk can do you a lot of good.
Hang out with friends.
Go for a spa day.
Write in a diary.
Set a mini goal for something, something you can do in a week or two, and work toward it. Accomplishing things for yourself can be another way to boost your mood and confidence.

In short, do things for yourself. Remember how great you are and how worth your own time you are.

And, allow yourself to cry. Watch sad movies curled up in bed or listen to sad songs. Hug a teddy bear/pet/friend. If you want something comforting to consume, try hot tea. Drink lots of water, too.

Sorry to hear about it When I went through my last breakup I definitely did eat a little of the pain away but I really wanted to lose weight so if I ran into him again he'd see what he was missing lol so I kept it in check. I did the really cheesy thing where I left notes for myself all over my house. I put them all over my bathroom mirror especially so I'd see it first thing in the morning. Things like "You deserve love", "You are beautiful", "You will find love when the time is right" etc. Totally cheesy but it helped. I also took up more exercise and tried to keep myself busy, went out with friends more, took a class etc. Don't sabotage everything you've been doing. Take it day by day and know it will get better.

missiontofitness wrote: »

lisasp4 wrote: »

Today I was dumped.

All I want to do is lie in bed, cry and eat.

How am I supposed to motivate myself to do anything?

Has this happened to anyone else recently? Did you eat to numb the pain? I don't want to destroy all my hard work but I just don't want to do anything.

I had a breakup right before I started my latest stint on here (almost at a 400 day streak). Messy breakup, not the best relationship, slightly relieved I was out, ect. I let myself eat what I wanted to for a short period afterwards, before throwing in the "I'm sad" towel and starting on here.

Give yourself the time to grieve the loss of the relationship. If that means having an extra scoop of ice cream, or treating yourself to a nice dinner, so be it! If you're stressed about gaining, continue to log, and plan those splurges into your intake. I also found that working out and changing up my intake helped me feel loads better about moving on from that relationship. I know it's really hard to find the motivation right now, but even getting up to do a 10 minute walk outside can do wonders to help clear your head.

I would say to take it easy today. You've just been through a huge shock. Make sure you do something nice for yourself today, because you deserve it.

I think all of this is great advice. It's not the end of the world if you take some time to be gentle on yourself. I wouldn't recommend not logging, but consider switching back to maintenance for a little bit while you find things other than food that sooth you. (Not exactly an easy task.)

For me, it was running. For you, it might be boxing, lifting, running, or even something I can't think of.

I am so sorry that you are going through this...it really is sad. Let yourself stay in bed and sleep and have a pity party TODAY. Then get yourself to the gym or start exercising or something. Once you are exercising you will release some happy hormones and you may start feeling better. If you are exercising, you may also want to eat better. Don't let this set back set you back everywhere.

I get dumped, often, sometimes I give up on everything and other times I have lost weight at a break up by walking it off. I just walk and keep going, like I could walk away from all my trouble, run away from it all for a while. my heart has so many stitches, bandaids, duct tape holding it together, I truly understand your pain.
Re-read your post as if a stranger wrote it, what would you say to her? what's your advice? Trust yourself and follow your own advice.
I hope your pain subsides quickly, I am truly sorry we have this is common