Anyone ever lose a very close pet?
RedArizona5
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Its been the worst week of my life. I lost my rabbit just this past monday at 3-5 is when he passed. He was alone in his last moments and scared probably. he was our family and he was 9 years. I hear from people had a good long life. We were friends, buds. I miss him so much and the grieving is burdening me and need some help from the community? I eat sporadically. For example,*I haven't eaten breakfast today, and I can eat but i don't feel like eating nothing. I just want to hang out in his room and pretend he is still here because I don't want to forget how his fur felt and how nice his fur smelled. Im a huge mess. I don't want to be by myself and when i am i cry. One may not understand and think I'm sound* like a kid crying over his puppy. I took care of this bunny, I was his mom-ok not his real mom it was a figure of speech but hope you understand. I have all these milestones without him like going to the grocery store for the first time and not having to worry to get him his pet grass 
which was his FAVORITE, Going to class yesterday for the 1st time without checking his water levels and petting him just catching up with him and him licking my hand to tell me he loves me or coming home from classes yesterday knowing his bedroom light won't be on was really surreal everything is so surreal. He was there during holidays when know one even called on me to wish me well just him and i so caring for him to make sure he was never sick and always comfortable took energy and it was pure joy to be there for him-he listened when know one did, he reacted to my touches and welcomed my presence. He was a kind and curious animal that always had to scope things out-it was his personality and i miss it to death </3 . Any support, thoughts and prayers are very welcomed. I can't stop crying. My lil bud is gone forever-I don't feel like logging my food even though i should-just lost the care to do stuff now, and worried it won't pass. Im told it will but will it really? Its going to be months I'm afraid to really get over this and worried that my weight will be affected. Not really caring about it though because i miss him so much AK this stinks so damn much.
which was his FAVORITE, Going to class yesterday for the 1st time without checking his water levels and petting him just catching up with him and him licking my hand to tell me he loves me or coming home from classes yesterday knowing his bedroom light won't be on was really surreal everything is so surreal. He was there during holidays when know one even called on me to wish me well just him and i so caring for him to make sure he was never sick and always comfortable took energy and it was pure joy to be there for him-he listened when know one did, he reacted to my touches and welcomed my presence. He was a kind and curious animal that always had to scope things out-it was his personality and i miss it to death </3 . Any support, thoughts and prayers are very welcomed. I can't stop crying. My lil bud is gone forever-I don't feel like logging my food even though i should-just lost the care to do stuff now, and worried it won't pass. Im told it will but will it really? Its going to be months I'm afraid to really get over this and worried that my weight will be affected. Not really caring about it though because i miss him so much AK this stinks so damn much. 0
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He was ;..( he really was ak crying lol can't see keyboard. um he was a blessing. I actually have been doing just that yesterday i without though was kissing the top of his back and his neck was the best kissing spot-he had baby fur (colic?) between his ears(holland mix rabbit with a flat dark brown face and dark brown floppy ears. He resembled a little bear cub almost and he was just the coolest darn rabbit. I won't be surprised the vet office and staff won't miss him.
Vet said he doesn't see older rabbits much. which says a lot and I'm sure we helped him gain better experience with our bud.
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People who haven't experienced this often don't understand how wrenching and painful this can be. I swear, I'm having difficulty maintaining my composure at my desk, remembering when we had to put down Maxie, our fat old (13 years old? 14?) that we adopted when she was maybe 10, and who to her last days still acted like a puppy.
The pain eventually becomes less acute, but never quite goes away, and the hole in your heart never quite fills in. But in time, the happy memories crowd out the pain you're feeling right now. Here's hoping you heal soon.0 -
Oh, I'm so sorry for your loss. It sounds like he was part of your family. Take the time you need to grieve, and remember your happy memories. He had a long, happy life with you.0
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YES. It's a horrible experience. I find I rarely even talk about it because even just typing this, I automatically tear up. Pets are such a huge part of us. I always like to think they will be around forever, but, sadly, not the case. Losing my dogs (two Dalmatians who made it to ages 13 and 15) helped me become a more gracious person. I make every effort to find the good in things and be thankful for all the good things. I am soooo glad I had the time I had with them and would not trade it for the world.
I have two kitties now (easier to travel with than the dogs) and one of them is just like one of the dogs (personality-wise). He just reads me and makes these cute little noises when he comes up to me or just sees me down the hall. Love those little furballs.
So very sorry for your loss. I can really say it gets better with time, I think you have to make a conscious effort to make yourself feel better. Best wishes - my heart definitely goes out to you.0 -
We just had to put down our dog about a month ago. The picture I am using is her in the Vets office on that day. (She was a shy old pup and this is the only picture I have of her) She was 16 years old and I miss her dearly. I have 2 other dogs that have helped me through the loss, but it still hurts. So I know what you are going through and I am sorry for your loss. I hope the coming days and weeks find you are remembering all of the good times with less hurt.0
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Give yourself time....no one says you have to stop grieving...you are mourning the loss of a loved one. Remember him, he was a big part of your life for 9 years! I still miss all the animals in my life, they have been my children. You'll know when you are ready to move on...you might even consider another rabbit in memory....when the time is right. Remember the good times
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Losing a pet is the worst =(
I lost my beagle a while back and it was so hard. It took a while but eventually the memories that caused such sadness brought smiles. I still tear up thinking about her. Be thankful for the time you had with your precious pet. Sounds like he lived a good long life thanks to you.0 -
My heart goes out to you. I am in tears reading your description of him. I lost my Rottweiler Sam in 2001 when he was 12. Until then I was a dog person who had cats and when he went I became a cat person who has dogs. I am just now thinking about the next dog who will be "mine" and have all my heart. But you will heal; give yourself time and don't let anyone else decide for you how long it will take. Regarding food? I am also like you in that when I'm depressed I don't feel like eating. Just eat what you can, but try to make your choices healthy ones so that you get optimum nutrition until your appetite picks back up. Good luck to you!0
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So sorry....I can't imagine. I have two wonderful dogs who are my children and I know I'll be a basket case when they go. Take your time, you can't put a time limit on your grief.0
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First, I'm very sorry for you loss. I hope you find healing soon.
I lost my first horse in a barn fire so I know how you feel about not being able to say goodbye and when you say your little bud must have been scared. It has been five years for me and the pain and guilt when I let myself think about it is the same as it was the day that he passed. That being said, it does get better. Not easier but better.
I would recommend you have a little funeral for your bunny so you can say goodbye. My friend who also lost a horse in the fire and I did this and it gave us closure.
Eventually you will start to focus on the happy times you had with your little bud and what you learned from him. Think about all the years you had with him instead of your loss.
Losing anyone you love is never easy so don't let anybody minimize your feelings, especially if they've never lost a pet.0 -
I had a puppy that my mother let me have (she has links to dog breeders). I was living with my parents over a summer between college semesters and this little puppy really, really bonded to me. We started doing everything together and I started bringing her to training classes.
At the end of summer, when she was only 10 months old, we entered an obedience competition and ran away with first place in the beginners class. No one even came close to us.
She did everything I asked her to, and made a huge fuss whenever I left her alone.
A year later, when I was working the following summer, she suddenly passed away during the day while I was at work. I forgot my phone at home, so when my flatmate called me to tell me she was acting strange I didn't get the message. It was a perfectly normal day, but when I got home she was gone.
We determined she had a cerebral hemorrhage and even if I were there, or got the message, there would have been nothing we could have done.
She was only 19 months old.0 -
I had a dog that we had to put down about 8 years ago. She was an awesome pet/companion. She was with me through some very tough times and a period where knowing she needed attention was the only reason I got up in the mornings.
We have three dogs now that we love and knowing that someday we'll have to deal with the loss of each of them can be overwhelming.
I'm sorry you're going through this. It will get better, it just takes time.0 -
I'm sorry for your loss. Your buddy sounds like he was a big part of your life. Take your time and grieve, and don't pay attention to anyone who tells you to just get over it. *hugs*
I agree with the above saying that people who haven't gone through it just don't get it. I lost my cat I had for 15 years a couple of years ago, and I still get a little teary-eyed when I think of him. He was a cranky fella who made Grumpy Cat look like Pollyanna, and could count on one paw the number of people on this earth he liked. I was lucky enough to be one of them.0 -
It's heartbreaking to lose someone we love and that loves us unconditionally.
Sending you healing hugs
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Yes its the similar to a bereavment, so plenty of us understand how devastating it can be. Hang in there and think what a fantastic life you gave your companion.0
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I'm sorry for you loss. I have lost 2 dogs, they were both part of the family and like my own children. They all have unique personalities that you will never replace or forget, try to think of all the happiness they brought you. You will never forget them, but it will get better.0
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You lost a member of your family, of course you will be upset for a long time. I am so sorry for your loss.
You can never replace him, but maybe, when you feel you are ready, you can rescue another animal in his honor. I'm sure he would like that. *hugs*0 -
Oh this makes me so sad for you! I am so sorry for your loss. I lost one of my dogs when I was 14 and we had her since I was 6 so I was pretty devastated. The only thing I had to remember is just because they are gone in body, they are never gone in spirit. I'd sit in my room and close my eyes and imagine her there and I would just talk to her. Tell her I miss her and love her and that one day I'll see her again. When I found out she had passed I remember it was raining and I told my mom "It's raining because Nikki is crying because she sees us sad and doesn't want us to be sad" and it made my mom cry but also made her feel good at the same time.
It's never easy to loose a pet you are close to but in time it will heal. If you need anyone to talk to please feel free to message me. You got us all here for you!0 -
I teared up a little. I would be so heart broken if my cat Monty died.0
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I know just how you feel. When I lost my late pug I was in such distress that my mother actually flew across the country to be with me. She let me express my grief as much and as long I needed to. I was so sad for you reading your post, but it's such a good thing to let it out. I thought I'd never get over my pug dying--and I probably never totally will--but I've recovered and the pain has transformed into good memories of when she was alive, and that makes me happy. Your loss is very real and profound. Try to eat a little and take care of yourself; it's so easy to neglect ourselves when we are in pain. But most of all, give this time. It might hurt for a long time, but it will ease, I promise you. Your love for your pet is a beautiful thing, and it makes sense that you feel overwhelmed. Hang in there and take care.0
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Pets are such loyal family members, it is so hard to let go. They love so unconditionally. A friend of mine lost her dog a few months ago, I went home and snuggled mine a little more. I have no idea how I will deal with the inevitable day that I lose my baby. He is 9 right now and acts like a puppy most days.
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People who haven't experienced this often don't understand how wrenching and painful this can be. I swear, I'm having difficulty maintaining my composure at my desk, remembering when we had to put down Maxie, our fat old (13 years old? 14?) that we adopted when she was maybe 10, and who to her last days still acted like a puppy.
The pain eventually becomes less acute, but never quite goes away, and the hole in your heart never quite fills in. But in time, the happy memories crowd out the pain you're feeling right now. Here's hoping you heal soon.
Thank you ;…( now Im crying again. Im sorry for your loss and glad to know I'm not alone :….(
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Yeessss, this!! :..(BigLifter10 wrote: »YES. It's a horrible experience. I find I rarely even talk about it because even just typing this, I automatically tear up. Pets are such a huge part of us. I always like to think they will be around forever, but, sadly, not the case. Losing my dogs (two Dalmatians who made it to ages 13 and 15) helped me become a more gracious person. I make every effort to find the good in things and be thankful for all the good things. I am soooo glad I had the time I had with them and would not trade it for the world.
I have two kitties now (easier to travel with than the dogs) and one of them is just like one of the dogs (personality-wise). He just reads me and makes these cute little noises when he comes up to me or just sees me down the hall. Love those little furballs.
So very sorry for your loss. I can really say it gets better with time, I think you have to make a conscious effort to make yourself feel better. Best wishes - my heart definitely goes out to you.
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I lost my big furbaby a year ago. He was an 18 year old big black cat that had been through more with me than most people I know, and was always there. (Many nights he went to sleep with me with tear stained, wet fur). He was put to sleep in our home after a tumor that got so big he couldn't eat. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to do (I'm actually losing a little composure here at my desk thinking about it). It gets better, but it takes time. It's absolutely okay to grieve a pet like a loved one, sometimes they are just as big a part of our family and grieving is grieving. Here's hoping you find peace and know that even though you weren't there, he knew you loved him. Animals are like that.0
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He died from cancer, and was true he was strong after a tennis ball tumor from his right thigh and a popcorn tumor from his near his tear duct on his right *eye was removed and he healed not a moth later from his eye healing-he was dying-he left us. Cancer favored his right half.I lost my big furbaby a year ago. He was an 18 year old big black cat that had been through more with me than most people I know, and was always there. (Many nights he went to sleep with me with tear stained, wet fur). He was put to sleep in our home after a tumor that got so big he couldn't eat. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to do (I'm actually losing a little composure here at my desk thinking about it). It gets better, but it takes time. It's absolutely okay to grieve a pet like a loved one, sometimes they are just as big a part of our family and grieving is grieving. Here's hoping you find peace and know that even though you weren't there, he knew you loved him. Animals are like that.
I wonder if the cancer that spread and eventually to his lungs which stopped his breathing (in hindsight we saw why he was breathing hard at the vets) if the cancer clogged his right side of the lung or both-will have to ask today if i decide to get the courage to talk to vet with out bawling. Or will ask when we pic his ashes up monday. The vet is proving a very nice cherry wood box free for his ashes. I won't be able to contain myself.
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I read EACH n EVERY response. I relate to all of you who mentioned any relation to pets you love or had loved. I could personally hug everyone who has and will reply. I will read these again for comfort when i need too-i will def. need too. I have 3 candles going in his room with his picture. I usually put a votive where i last saw him when before i left for ever that day and i start sobbing when i think of getting his decent sized tarp like pen out of his room-his somewhat dirty bedding is there , his pet toy/friend/comapnion/lover was put by his side and the toy * not moved since the day and and i just don't want to know that i have to rid of it. I don't want to see how the room looks with pen gone-i don't want* that aaaaaack. I don't want anymore pets, i won't. He stole my heart and now broke my heart. I pretend he is still in his pen lots. When we gone for our first walk-my hubby and i we saw extra more rabbits and one so close-closest ever. I lost it then and there saying he is with us in spirit and can feel him ;_________( I want him back so badly.
Hugs-all of you Hugs
I visit his pen and move his bedding around-analizing and think and wishing but also understanding he couldn't be with us forever and we have lots of memories. Just never wanted to let go.0 -
I am so sorry for your loss. *hug* Losing a pet is traumatic. My cat and dog are my children. They were the only thing that kept me going when my Husband passed suddenly. They say time heals all wounds. That's not true. The pain will never go away, but when you are ready your heart will start to remember the moments filled with love, snuggles and silly antics more than the sadness and heartbreak. Someone above suggested adopting a rescue in his memory. Maybe one day you will find yourself ready to love a new pet.0
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Whats worst is its finals week. My buddy couldn't wait a week longer.0
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Last October I had to witness my 10 month old puppy get hit by a car. It was the worst thing I've ever had to experience, I'm just grateful I was with her in her final moments. Losing her was awful and I'm still struggling with it. She was my best friend, we did everything together, she even went to work with me every day. Even though it has been months, it hasn't gotten easier. I cry less, but I still feel the emptiness without her. All I can recommend is to try to take care of yourself and let yourself grieve.0
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Thank you notnikkiissixx.
Yikes Im sorry you had to witness such a tragedy. Must have been awful. I will def. feel the way you do. I def. feel empty gr8 I'm crying again jeez. I feel very empty. I said, a couple of times, how maybe it would have been better i never got marshmallow. I got him for free at a farm in august of '07. He was the one that was in the back cuddling and being cuddled by other bunnies. Not sure if it was his family but either blood or not he his personality def created himself a pack. His personality was just a magnet. I would take him out when he was younger at my apartments before i married and moved in with my hubby and people would think it was a puppy. One person said as they approached him "oh wow i thought you had dog" to their surprise. I just don't think we will have any pets.
Hubby reminds me to not think regretfully and that marshmallow loved us and we gave a life someone could never have given-a life with attention, cuddles, respect, food, treats, warmth, sanitation. Many animals go very neglected today-of all times today. You'd think humanity would have learned by now?
My heart is aching hard.
I cannot handle it anymore. and to replace the sadness for marshmallow with sadness for a new pet to me would be betrayal. He was that special to me. My 1 and only Marmellow. lil buddy, buddy-uddy.
Pets have so much love when its the right one. Truly magical how an animal can capture our soul, amazes me truly.0
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