ONE YEAR: Much to celebrate, but struggling

Amy3935
Amy3935 Posts: 94 Member
edited November 17 in Success Stories
It's been one year (well tomorrow will be), since I logged my first full day on MFP and committed to serious weight loss. And I've had success beyond my wildest dreams, losing (at my peak) 60 pounds. If you'd told me a year ago how much I'd weigh today I would have cried with joy. But if you'd told me six months ago how much I'd weigh today I would have cried with frustration.

My first six months on MFP I lost 50 pounds. And since then I've lost around 10, with some current fluctuation leaving me around 57-58 down overall. But I'm so stalled. Plateaued. Attached to a glacier. I understand that I've done things that are the reason - I got sloppy with my diary, I cut down on my cardio. But I've been trying - I switched up my workout, I'm working on upping it now, I'm trying to be as faithful as possible to logging (for religious reasons I can't log Friday nights/Saturdays and those are also my worst days). But still, the scale doesn't budge. Or worse, it rises.

I'm so happy with what I've done so far but I'm so frustrated and upset at not moving forward. I've worked to add weight training and I feel stronger and hope I'm adding muscle but the scale doesn't move and I don't feel thinner either. I've come so far, but I'm still clinically obese, I'm wearing a 12-14 size and I just want to keep going.

Open to any advice! And of course new friends :)

Stats:
Height: 5'2"
Starting weight: 226
Weight Nov. 2014: 178
Lowest weight: 166
Current weight: 169
Ultimate goal: 135

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Replies

  • mizzzc
    mizzzc Posts: 346 Member
    first of all congratulations! That is an amazing feat.

    Secondly do not feel frustrated. This is more a learning experience than a weight loss journey. I have not even lost 60 pounds in the last year and a half. I am constantly fluctuating. BUT I am at least slowly creeping down. Something that has helped me tremendously lately is:
    1. Taking measurements and restricting my weigh in days (no longer everyday but once every 1-2 weeks)
    2. Walking during my lunch breaks and every day after work.

    Especially since the weather is so nice lately.

    Good luck :)
  • karen_fitzgibbon
    karen_fitzgibbon Posts: 736 Member
    A massive congrats on your awesomely amazing loss!!!!! Unfortunately I can't help you with breaking your plateau. But hopefully someone can help you
  • bijouchocolat
    bijouchocolat Posts: 164 Member
    Come back here!!! Focus and get it together. You are fabulous in your own right. You don't even need anyone to tell you this.

    Losing weight then keeping it off is even harder. Just start over again with small steps, journal everything if need be. Your triggers, do you know what they are? What's your line of defense? Keep your healthy snacks around you at all times.

    Then start back slowly. Starting over is fine, just remember that you can and will succeed. You are in the process of doing just that.

    Love
    Maria
  • jessiruthica
    jessiruthica Posts: 412 Member
    You've made amazing progress! Well done!

    Do you want to keep losing? Then you have to come at it with the same vigor that you did for those first 6 months. You say you know you've been looser on logging, so maybe tighten that back up again. Then on the days you can't physically log in to the site, can you log in a notebook? For me, logging is about being conscious of what I'm eating. Maybe if you're logging, just not on the site itself, it will help you with being intentional about what you eat.
  • DirrtyH
    DirrtyH Posts: 664 Member
    Have you made any adjustments to your calorie goal?
  • Amy3935
    Amy3935 Posts: 94 Member
    Thanks all for your encouragement.
    You've made amazing progress! Well done!

    Do you want to keep losing? Then you have to come at it with the same vigor that you did for those first 6 months. You say you know you've been looser on logging, so maybe tighten that back up again. Then on the days you can't physically log in to the site, can you log in a notebook? For me, logging is about being conscious of what I'm eating. Maybe if you're logging, just not on the site itself, it will help you with being intentional about what you eat.

    I can't log in a notebook either, but in the beginning I just had such stronger self control, and basically stuck to goal. Now, I sit down in front of a plate of cookies and before I know it I've had three.

    DirrtyH wrote: »
    Have you made any adjustments to your calorie goal?

    No, I've been at 1200 since the beginning. There were times when I was more consistently under that and they were more successful times but honestly, I just get too hungry to stick to that.
  • SeriouslySta
    SeriouslySta Posts: 458 Member
    edited May 2015
    I agree with the above advice. I think that if you are frustrated enough to make this post, you could be frustrated enough to take a good, long look at the behaviors that are preventing you from reaching your goal.

    About Friday/Saturday: Perhaps on Thursday (or pre-sundown Friday) you could prepare all of your food for Saturday, lay it out ready, and pre-log it? Either the planning/preparing or pre-logging should help; both together should really keep you from going off track (and then giving up)!

    If you're a person than munches throughout the day, maybe try putting little notes on things that say what you're eating when. (My friend has been a big self-saboteur, and has been doing this when she travels and is away from her computer. She is much less likely, she says, to go crazy foodwise from feeling like she's getting away with something when she "can't log.")
  • try2again
    try2again Posts: 3,562 Member
    You look amazing and are doing a great job! I find it hard to believe you would still be considered obese. There's an interesting thread right now about taking a break from weight loss for a while and focusing on maintaining to give your body time to adapt and "reset" before moving on. That doesn't mean giving up your good habits or not logging, but just not focusing on a loss. I think there's a lot of wisdom behind that. I lost 40 lbs a few years ago and sort of got distracted. I mostly maintained the loss, until the last year or so when a few lbs began to creep back on. Now I'm back at it and I'm thinking it's actually a pretty smart way to go. Anybody can focus and lose a quick 20-30 lbs, and as long as you keep it off, you can always do another batch later and likely your body will be more responsive to it. Not an expert... just my thoughts :)
  • phantasmagical
    phantasmagical Posts: 66 Member
    I gotta say...you look amazing! Way to go! I'm so impressed with your accomplishment and the changes in your progress pictures. And I hear you...those last few (or 10, or 20) pounds toward your end goal are hard. I've felt stuck for the last 6 months, but am slowly inching toward the mindset that I just need to buckle down and get it done. Best of luck to you!
  • DirrtyH
    DirrtyH Posts: 664 Member
    Amy3935 wrote: »
    Thanks all for your encouragement.
    You've made amazing progress! Well done!

    Do you want to keep losing? Then you have to come at it with the same vigor that you did for those first 6 months. You say you know you've been looser on logging, so maybe tighten that back up again. Then on the days you can't physically log in to the site, can you log in a notebook? For me, logging is about being conscious of what I'm eating. Maybe if you're logging, just not on the site itself, it will help you with being intentional about what you eat.

    I can't log in a notebook either, but in the beginning I just had such stronger self control, and basically stuck to goal. Now, I sit down in front of a plate of cookies and before I know it I've had three.

    DirrtyH wrote: »
    Have you made any adjustments to your calorie goal?

    No, I've been at 1200 since the beginning. There were times when I was more consistently under that and they were more successful times but honestly, I just get too hungry to stick to that.

    Oh yeah, definitely don't go less than 1200.

    Have you considered taking a break? You could try reverse dieting back up to maintenance and just stay there for a few months. Give your body a break, some fuel, "re-set" yourself, and then start again in a few months?
  • try2again
    try2again Posts: 3,562 Member
    try2again wrote: »
    . Anybody can focus and lose a quick 20-30 lbs, and as long as you keep it off, you can always do another batch later and likely your body will be more responsive to it.

    Don't know why I chose that number- just thinking about my own situation. Clearly not everyone would even need to take off that much :)
  • kailadriel
    kailadriel Posts: 75 Member
    congrats on making it one year! It's really impressive you haven't gained what you have lost, and you should be really proud of that.

    As for stalling...you could try to switch to fruit/veggies for shabbos snack time. Or you could make yourself tupperware containers of pre-measured treats to enjoy. It's a little extra work before hand, but it will be easier to know where you are throughout the day and work accordingly. And as for shabbos meal, just make sure there are lots of veggies for you to choose. You can do this!
  • NikkiLexi
    NikkiLexi Posts: 6 Member
    The key for me is logging. Can you determine your Friday/Saturday food on Thursday? Then tweak the day on Sunday? I plan a week at a time (I'm crazy type A personality) I just go in and tweak the day (I didn't get around to eating that apple I planned or I was extra hungry so I added PB to the apple etc. I'm new in this journey but I've successfully lost this 80lbs before...clearly I sucked at maintenance lol

    Anyway, great job on all your hard work. Come at it again and you will win :)

    Nikki
  • try2again
    try2again Posts: 3,562 Member
    Amy3935 wrote: »
    Thanks all for your encouragement.
    You've made amazing progress! Well done!

    Do you want to keep losing? Then you have to come at it with the same vigor that you did for those first 6 months. You say you know you've been looser on logging, so maybe tighten that back up again. Then on the days you can't physically log in to the site, can you log in a notebook? For me, logging is about being conscious of what I'm eating. Maybe if you're logging, just not on the site itself, it will help you with being intentional about what you eat.

    I can't log in a notebook either, but in the beginning I just had such stronger self control, and basically stuck to goal. Now, I sit down in front of a plate of cookies and before I know it I've had three.

    DirrtyH wrote: »
    Have you made any adjustments to your calorie goal?

    No, I've been at 1200 since the beginning. There were times when I was more consistently under that and they were more successful times but honestly, I just get too hungry to stick to that.

  • try2again
    try2again Posts: 3,562 Member
    No, I've been at 1200 since the beginning. There were times when I was more consistently under that and they were more successful times but honestly, I just get too hungry to stick to that.
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    Sorry- accidentally hit the post button the first time. Why were you at 1200 "from the beginning"- was that what MFP gave you? That's a very low number and I'm not surprised you've grown unsatisfied with it. I would definitely want a break from that!

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  • Amy3935
    Amy3935 Posts: 94 Member
    Yes, MFP gave me 1200 from the beginning. I'm pretty short. I try not to eat back workout calories, I see it as more of a buffer, and I do go over sometimes (clearly).
    I remember in the beginning I would go to sleep feeling hungry but I was losing so I was happy. I just can't get back to that point, willpower-wise.
  • kimberlyhurt
    kimberlyhurt Posts: 128 Member
    Slow and steady is the way to go. I've been 5 years or more on this path and I'm down 85lbs. If you want to see major changes I would suggest heavy lifting. Also you've got to get serious about keeping your calories in check or you'll get nowhere. You can burn a couple hundred calories in an hour at the gym, and eat twice that much in 20 minutes. There is no outrunning a bad diet. But, that being said, you can average your calories out in the week. I try to stay abut 200 calories under budget mon-fri so I can have an extra 1,000 guilt free calories on the weekend. best of luck to you!
  • DirrtyH
    DirrtyH Posts: 664 Member
    Amy3935 wrote: »
    Yes, MFP gave me 1200 from the beginning. I'm pretty short. I try not to eat back workout calories, I see it as more of a buffer, and I do go over sometimes (clearly).
    I remember in the beginning I would go to sleep feeling hungry but I was losing so I was happy. I just can't get back to that point, willpower-wise.

    Yeah, willpower is only going to get you so far. What you do to lose weight needs to be sustainable, even if it makes things go slower. I really do think you should take a break for awhile, regain your footing and then try again. See if this time you can lose weight eating a little bit more so that if you stall out again you have some room to cut. Google reverse dieting.
  • slucki01
    slucki01 Posts: 284 Member
    Congratulations on your progress so far. Many people wouldn't have been able to get as far as you have. When you have a lot of weight to lose (I do too), it's a long haul and it can be hard to maintain the dedication/motivation. For me, when I lose a bit of my motivation and see the scale start to rise, I get scared that I'll gain it all back -- that's enough to kick my but in gear. I find that weighing/measuring/logging is the key for me. I log everything, even when I fall off the wagon and that seems to help. I've lost 36 calories in the past 8 months and I'm also at 1200 calories. I eat back 1/2 of my exercise calories most days. I'm not usually hungry but, for me, socializing is my biggest challenge. It seems like everything involves food or alcohol and I have to make hard choices. Hang in there -- just remember what life was like before you lost the weight and keep working on it.
  • girlviernes
    girlviernes Posts: 2,402 Member
    You've made great progress!! I would say pre-logging for friday/saturday and really setting some goals for portions on those days. What is going on in your mind when you give yourself permission to eat more than usual on the shabbat?
  • lisele03
    lisele03 Posts: 133 Member
    Congrats on your successes thus far! You look great! Your story resonates with me because it is MY story! I, too, lost 55 lbs. in the 1st year – most of it in the 1st 6-7 months. Since I reached my goal of 55 lbs., I’ve stalled…big time – even tho’ I want to lose another 25 lbs. by the end of this year. For me, it’s the lack of mental fortitude…I’ve lost my steam and, like you, have quit exercising as much and I’m eating a little bit more than I use to. My strategies of late are :
    • Lowered my weight loss goal to .5 lb/week (vs. 2 lbs.) This has subsequently raised my cal. allowance a tad, which has helped.
    • Pre-plan/log my days every morning. This has especially helped when I know there are special occasions or weekends involved
    • Jump into my walking clothes as soon as I get out of bed – it helps get my walk in before the day takes over.
    I’m hoping that with the nicer weather I will feel more energetic to exercise and step up my routine. I have to remember – I will have to do this for life in order to succeed long term – and that’s my goal… Good luck to you - Just keep on doing the right things!
  • Amy3935
    Amy3935 Posts: 94 Member
    You've made great progress!! I would say pre-logging for friday/saturday and really setting some goals for portions on those days. What is going on in your mind when you give yourself permission to eat more than usual on the shabbat?

    I'm thinking, man that cookie looks delicious, I want one, ok two, well just three, that's it. Honestly throughout the week I keep lots of healthy food around and I plan out what I'm going to eat but the weekend is based around meals with family and friends, and I'm not going to skip them and once I'm there I lose the control I had.

  • ar9179
    ar9179 Posts: 374 Member
    Yeah, I think you're just mentally done and need a break from trying to lose. I've started month 5 and feel the same way! Definitely know how to eat, but don't have the same motivation to stick to it diligently. Severe restriction loses its appeal and I don't know how you've handled 1200 for that long!

    I agree with the others who mentioned reverse dieting up to, or close to, your maintenance level. Add in 100 calories a week until you're there, then relax for a bit. Focus on living your life for a while and getting in your favorite exercise. After the break, the control you feel you've lost won't seem like such a chore.

    When you're ready, set your calories at a more sustainable level and take your time. If you think about it, you aren't seeing progress with what is happening right now. Setting up a 0.5lb/week loss will at least get things moving toward your goal and you won't have that burn out looming.
  • Xpecta
    Xpecta Posts: 451 Member
    You've done great!!! Sorry to hear about your stall. So so discouraging when that happens!! I don't really have alive, but I like what others have said about taking a break and just focusing on maintenance or how you feel. :) As long as you keep in mind its a lifestyle, and keep doing what you're doing, you'll eventually get to where you want to be!
  • vanessalillian82
    vanessalillian82 Posts: 350 Member
    First up, congratulations on your success so far. You're doing an amazing job! Plateaus suck, but they're usually a sign that our body has wised up to what we're trying to do, so it's time to find new and exciting ways to trick it (in a healthy way!) :smile:

    Something I've read on the forums time and time again is "eat more to lose more". Being at 1200cal seems to work for a while, but there's pretty much nowhere to go from there. You'll see "TDEE - 20%" written a lot, which means that you calculate your total daily energy expenditure, like, what your body ACTUALLY needs, and then reduce that by up to 20% (but no more) to lose weight. There are heaps of calculators out there but this one seems to be pretty popular http://iifym.com/tdee-calculator/ and the thing to remember is that your TDEE will shift as you lose weight, because your body is spending less energy moving itself around. I've been doing TDEE for a while and slowly losing weight, but the pace of weight loss is okay by me because it means that I don't have to be crazy-strict with what I eat and can, for example, go out for dinner a couple of times a week (as long as I'm sensible about it).

    Two threads you should definitely read are http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1235566/so-youre-new-here/p1 and http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1080242/a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants/p1

    Lastly, there is nothing to stop you from logging your meals ahead of time, or afterwards. I often plan what I will eat if I will be out of phone service for a day or two, or before going out for dinner - I'll find the restaurant's menu on the internet and choose what I will order ahead of time. I log it using generic items and usually multiply what I think will be the serving size by about 1.5 to make up for not actually measuring the serving and for extra butter etc. that you don't know is in the food. That way I know what sized servings I should be putting into my body, and what foods I should be eating. And if you're spending that time with your family, you can ask them ahead of time what they are cooking and work out what constitutes a serving of it, and then make up for it at the gym on Friday morning and Sunday. Haha, that said, I know that there is nothing quite like pressure from family to eat seconds, and thirds, so be strong!

    Good luck beating your plateau :smile:
  • Amy3935
    Amy3935 Posts: 94 Member
    Appreciate all the replies.
    It's kinda funny how the advice seems to be split - half thing I need to buckle down on logging and restricting and others say I should relax take a break and come back to it when my body isn't in restriction mode anymore. I have been thinking about that actually.
    I think to start I'll switch the app to losing .5 pound a week, which will give me about 1300 calories, and see how that goes.
    Thanks!
  • weightofgold
    weightofgold Posts: 17 Member
    DirrtyH wrote: »
    Have you made any adjustments to your calorie goal?

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