Of course I want some sesame chicken and fried rice. Stop asking.

hydrocooled wrote: »

So I'm biking yesterday. Pushing peddles like a champ. Looking forward to a bowl of homemade veggie stew and my phone rings. It's my partner who's got a hankering for Chinese. He's about to go for takeout and he wants to know if I want anything.
?! Dammit of course I do. I will take one of everything on the menu. Dear lord why, Oh why couldn't he just go on without me. And before you ask, this is New Orleans, there is no healthy option on a Chinese takeout menu and he knows it.
Here's the thing, my partner is that one-lil-meal-won't-hurt-you guy and he's kinda right but I sometimes feel like he's (unwittingly) trying to sabotage my efforts.

Do you sometimes feel the people around you are not being helpful in your journey towards health?

How do you get them to respect your new lifestyle?

How much support can you reasonably expect from close family and friends?

Advice please because Im seriously about to drop kick the next friend who says I look great and then offers me gourmet doughnut.

The only support I expected from the get go from my husband was not pressuring me to eat when I didn't want to or pressure to skip exercise for a non-necessary reason. He has always supported me in those ways. He does more, which I appreciate and which includes weighing out my food if I'm not home in time for supper and he has to make me a plate, considering what kind of food I am likely to want if he's planning the meal, telling our daughter not to bug mommy while I'm exercising, etc. I love that he does all of that and I make sure that he knows it.

I, personally, don't think that checking with you to see if you want something to eat is a terrible thing. I mean, it was a phone call. He wasn't prying your mouth open and pouring food down your gullet. If my husband is running out to McDonald's, he'll usually ask if I want a coffee and if I don't, I don't. But sometimes I want a coffee and a quarter pounder and that gives me a chance to say so. It's not undermining me for him to be considerate and ask if I want anything. I like to assume positive intent when it comes to communicating with my husband and it generally is the best route to go.

hydrocooled wrote: »

So I'm biking yesterday. Pushing peddles like a champ. Looking forward to a bowl of homemade veggie stew and my phone rings. It's my partner who's got a hankering for Chinese. He's about to go for takeout and he wants to know if I want anything.
?! Dammit of course I do. I will take one of everything on the menu. Dear lord why, Oh why couldn't he just go on without me. And before you ask, this is New Orleans, there is no healthy option on a Chinese takeout menu and he knows it.
Here's the thing, my partner is that one-lil-meal-won't-hurt-you guy and he's kinda right but I sometimes feel like he's (unwittingly) trying to sabotage my efforts.

Do you sometimes feel the people around you are not being helpful in your journey towards health?

How do you get them to respect your new lifestyle?

How much support can you reasonably expect from close family and friends?

Advice please because Im seriously about to drop kick the next friend who says I look great and then offers me gourmet doughnut.

Hahaha! Sorry, that made me laugh. Good advice from the previous posters. Yes, it's hard to turn down food you really like, but placing the blame on someone else very rarely helps.

I look at it this way, if you'd come home from your ride and he was eating Chinese food and didn't even offer to get you anything, would you be mad? I say, just appreciate the phone call with the offer. If there is a way to have him get you or make you something else, suggest that. Otherwise, at least he thought to ask, right?

I honestly can't remember the last time I ate fast food, yet every time my husband goes to pick some up he'll ask me. He knows I don't like it, nor does he want me to eat something that would make me sick, but I'm thankful for the thought.

In New Orleans? mmm, cala cakes at the Coffee Pot...wait, where were we? Just assume the best as to his motives, and be proud that you exercised that willpower muscle to say no. And don't let him dish up your plate.