Men...what physique do you find attractive on a woman???

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  • Athos282
    Athos282 Posts: 405 Member
    Physique isn't such a big deal, though I admit that the gymnast physique excites me little nothing else if we're going on physique alone. Oh how I love a strong set of legs on a woman! And how I would love to have the physique of gymanst, myself:

    stronggymnast.jpg

    But more than that, I've found that a woman's facial attractiveness largely influences how attractive I find the rest of her body. I have to be able to get lost in her eyes, melt when she smiles, and to be able to talk to her for hours or not at all. But now we're straying to the 'it's what's inside that counts' territory and that wasn't the scope of this thread.
  • royaldrea
    royaldrea Posts: 259 Member
    royaldrea wrote: »
    fatcity66 wrote: »
    fatcity66 wrote: »
    mojohowitz wrote: »
    body-fat-percentage-men-women.jpg


    I'll be honest and take the beating. Around 20% body fat regardless of pear, hourglass, triangle, etc shape. I'm closer to the 25% guy. :(

    I'll take the woman that is in the 15% to 45% range as long as she has a pretty face and big boobs (real for a relationship, fake is okay for a ONS)....oh and the booty has to be sitting up & not droopy.

    Wow, just wow...

    What?? I find women attractive....and boobs...big ones...and booty- I don't mind if it shakes, as long as it sticks out instead of me having to lift it myself.

    I just find it amusing that the dude with 30% bf has the strictest criteria.
    That's usually how it is...carry on.

    Clearly the correct answer was, "I like girls...no women...with a kind heart and beautiful eyes. But I don't care about how her eyes actually look, as long as they radiate her inner beauty. Anything else is seriously irrelevant to me".

    but that's not "physique".

    sigh
  • vadersaysno
    vadersaysno Posts: 1,965 Member
    royaldrea wrote: »
    And I know there's the 2/10 would bang yucky guy meme, but real question are people not allowed to find other people more physically attractive than others because they themselves are not deemed to be at their peak?

    Sort of related, but this may be why when people in relationships lose weight, their partners become insecure - because they may feel as though that person is only with them because they were the best they could do at that time, and as soon as they have options they'll take 'em.

    Apparently we're not allowed to find certain physical features attractive on others. For as much as women complain about being "body shamed", I couldn't help but notice when I stated what I actually like, the first reaction of the one chick was to go with the body-shaming and pointing out "30% body fat", which also means she had to go and look at my profile page and seek it out to make a crappy comment. Judgmental much? I don't even care about that. Obviously I'm not attractive to her- and that's perfectly fine and dandy by me. My wife finds me quite attractive.
  • ScorpioJack_91
    ScorpioJack_91 Posts: 5,241 Member
    Women who are either curvy or athletic looking. Average can do it for me as long as she has a nice @ss to go with it. Fat/obese....negative.
  • kami3006
    kami3006 Posts: 4,979 Member
    I don't understand how having preference (and saying them when asked) is body shaming.
  • MarissaPalm
    MarissaPalm Posts: 123 Member
    I'm just gonna leave this here...

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dlZsGpWJmos
  • fatcity66
    fatcity66 Posts: 1,544 Member
    royaldrea wrote: »
    And I know there's the 2/10 would bang yucky guy meme, but real question are people not allowed to find other people more physically attractive than others because they themselves are not deemed to be at their peak?

    Sort of related, but this may be why when people in relationships lose weight, their partners become insecure - because they may feel as though that person is only with them because they were the best they could do at that time, and as soon as they have options they'll take 'em.

    Apparently we're not allowed to find certain physical features attractive on others. For as much as women complain about being "body shamed", I couldn't help but notice when I stated what I actually like, the first reaction of the one chick was to go with the body-shaming and pointing out "30% body fat", which also means she had to go and look at my profile page and seek it out to make a crappy comment. Judgmental much? I don't even care about that. Obviously I'm not attractive to her- and that's perfectly fine and dandy by me. My wife finds me quite attractive.

    Sorry, I got you mixed up with the Mojo guy that originally posted the BF pic. I haven't looked at your profile.
    I just think it's hilarious that fake boobs are ok (in your opinion) for a ONS but not a relationship...like wut?? LOL
  • kami3006
    kami3006 Posts: 4,979 Member
    fatcity66 wrote: »
    royaldrea wrote: »
    And I know there's the 2/10 would bang yucky guy meme, but real question are people not allowed to find other people more physically attractive than others because they themselves are not deemed to be at their peak?

    Sort of related, but this may be why when people in relationships lose weight, their partners become insecure - because they may feel as though that person is only with them because they were the best they could do at that time, and as soon as they have options they'll take 'em.

    Apparently we're not allowed to find certain physical features attractive on others. For as much as women complain about being "body shamed", I couldn't help but notice when I stated what I actually like, the first reaction of the one chick was to go with the body-shaming and pointing out "30% body fat", which also means she had to go and look at my profile page and seek it out to make a crappy comment. Judgmental much? I don't even care about that. Obviously I'm not attractive to her- and that's perfectly fine and dandy by me. My wife finds me quite attractive.

    Sorry, I got you mixed up with the Mojo guy that originally posted the BF pic. I haven't looked at your profile.
    I just think it's hilarious that fake boobs are ok (in your opinion) for a ONS but not a relationship...like wut?? LOL

    LoL. It's a nice place to visit but he wouldn't want to live there.
  • vadersaysno
    vadersaysno Posts: 1,965 Member
    fatcity66 wrote: »
    royaldrea wrote: »
    And I know there's the 2/10 would bang yucky guy meme, but real question are people not allowed to find other people more physically attractive than others because they themselves are not deemed to be at their peak?

    Sort of related, but this may be why when people in relationships lose weight, their partners become insecure - because they may feel as though that person is only with them because they were the best they could do at that time, and as soon as they have options they'll take 'em.

    Apparently we're not allowed to find certain physical features attractive on others. For as much as women complain about being "body shamed", I couldn't help but notice when I stated what I actually like, the first reaction of the one chick was to go with the body-shaming and pointing out "30% body fat", which also means she had to go and look at my profile page and seek it out to make a crappy comment. Judgmental much? I don't even care about that. Obviously I'm not attractive to her- and that's perfectly fine and dandy by me. My wife finds me quite attractive.

    Sorry, I got you mixed up with the Mojo guy that originally posted the BF pic. I haven't looked at your profile.
    I just think it's hilarious that fake boobs are ok (in your opinion) for a ONS but not a relationship...like wut?? LOL

    It's okay...the fake boobs thing...well I could date her if they were like really big and she was a stripper. I'd want to make sure she was able to pay for them herself...plus I'd know that she gives really awesome lap dances. Plus the fake ones would have to be for a ONS anyway, since my wife's are big naturals.
  • blueyellowhorse
    blueyellowhorse Posts: 708 Member
    edited May 2015
    There's no point in threads like this because it shouldn't matter what guys like, as long as you like your body, and most of the guys dodge the question anyway.
  • mianineteen87
    mianineteen87 Posts: 112 Member
    This is just silly! Men want her to look like a super model but curvier in all the right places, naturally beautiful with brains.
  • TheBeerRunner
    TheBeerRunner Posts: 2,777 Member
    Doesn't matter too much to me to be honest. Well proportioned body and a nice face are good, but personality and smarts win every time.
  • kjm3579
    kjm3579 Posts: 3,974 Member
  • yopeeps025
    yopeeps025 Posts: 8,680 Member
    royaldrea wrote: »
    And I know there's the 2/10 would bang yucky guy meme, but real question are people not allowed to find other people more physically attractive than others because they themselves are not deemed to be at their peak?

    Sort of related, but this may be why when people in relationships lose weight, their partners become insecure - because they may feel as though that person is only with them because they were the best they could do at that time, and as soon as they have options they'll take 'em.

    That second portion can be true in some cases. Then you would have to question the relationship to being with. Maybe it was a nothing better to do relationship. Or maybe the person losing weight just is not happy looking in the mirror.

  • malavika413
    malavika413 Posts: 474 Member
    edited May 2015
    Honestly, I really wish there was one definitive answer to this question. I've set my goal weight everywhere from 135 to 105 (I'm 150 now) completely unsure of what will look good and what my boyfriend will like.
  • malavika413
    malavika413 Posts: 474 Member
    I'm just gonna leave this here...

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dlZsGpWJmos

    I really don't know if I can believe this. I just know it'll be a long, long time till I go to any beaches with my SO.
  • yopeeps025
    yopeeps025 Posts: 8,680 Member
    Honestly, I really wish there was one definitive answer to this question. I've set my goal weight everywhere from 135 to 105 (I'm 150 now) completely unsure of what will look good and what my boyfriend will like.

    There will never be a consensus of what men like or what women like. People are not the same.
  • malavika413
    malavika413 Posts: 474 Member
    edited May 2015
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
    Honestly, I really wish there was one definitive answer to this question. I've set my goal weight everywhere from 135 to 105 (I'm 150 now) completely unsure of what will look good and what my boyfriend will like.

    There will never be a consensus of what men like or what women like. People are not the same.

    Understood, it would just make things easier.
  • goingtobefit2015
    goingtobefit2015 Posts: 408 Member
    otey743 wrote: »
    I'm willing to bet that although everyone is being politically correct in this forum, in reality everyone is attracted to a certain physique more than others.
    Really I like all women sometimes I see a big girl and I'm like damn she's gorgeous. Then I see a skinny girl and I'm like damn she gorgeous. I see beauty in women . All shapes and colors . Real talk .

    Nice!! Well said!
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  • Melroxsox
    Melroxsox Posts: 1,040 Member
    people care too much what other people think of them. Just get healthy and stay healthy for yourself :)
  • yopeeps025
    yopeeps025 Posts: 8,680 Member
    I'm just gonna leave this here...

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dlZsGpWJmos

    There is so much that is different in the video. For example, to say that men cannot recall when they saw beauty I feel is completely wrong. I am sure I can text a friend a say

    "Yo you remember that one girl five years ago?"
    him= "the one with the big *kitten*?" Yeah I remember"

    But main point of the video was when he talked about It doesn't matter. 100% true unless you with a guy that is tempted to stray.

  • malavika413
    malavika413 Posts: 474 Member
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
    I'm just gonna leave this here...

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dlZsGpWJmos

    There is so much that is different in the video. For example, to say that men cannot recall when they saw beauty I feel is completely wrong. I am sure I can text a friend a say

    "Yo you remember that one girl five years ago?"
    him= "the one with the big *kitten*?" Yeah I remember"

    But main point of the video was when he talked about It doesn't matter. 100% true unless you with a guy that is tempted to stray.

    Yeah, I didn't believe the thing about men not remembering women. That's bull. But I highly doubt it doesn't matter.
  • yopeeps025
    yopeeps025 Posts: 8,680 Member
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
    I'm just gonna leave this here...

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dlZsGpWJmos

    There is so much that is different in the video. For example, to say that men cannot recall when they saw beauty I feel is completely wrong. I am sure I can text a friend a say

    "Yo you remember that one girl five years ago?"
    him= "the one with the big *kitten*?" Yeah I remember"

    But main point of the video was when he talked about It doesn't matter. 100% true unless you with a guy that is tempted to stray.

    Yeah, I didn't believe the thing about men not remembering women. That's bull. But I highly doubt it doesn't matter.

    If it does matter than that is on the guy you are with. Not all men are cheating because a women looks physically better than what the men is with.

    Actually I am weird. I can actually recall almost every single woman that I like. This dates back to the third grade when I was 9. Can I recall every single women I was physically attracted to? There is no way.
  • 365andstillalive
    365andstillalive Posts: 663 Member
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
    I'm just gonna leave this here...

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dlZsGpWJmos

    There is so much that is different in the video. For example, to say that men cannot recall when they saw beauty I feel is completely wrong. I am sure I can text a friend a say

    "Yo you remember that one girl five years ago?"
    him= "the one with the big *kitten*?" Yeah I remember"

    But main point of the video was when he talked about It doesn't matter. 100% true unless you with a guy that is tempted to stray.

    Yeah, I didn't believe the thing about men not remembering women. That's bull. But I highly doubt it doesn't matter.

    So here's the thing that I constantly remind women, as someone who used to be very insecure myself.

    HE'S WITH YOU.

    The girl he oggled a bit at the mall; did he climb in the car and take her home with him? No, he took you.
    The girl he checked out on the beach because her bikini top was a little bit too small for her boobs; did he run up and grab 'em? No (but he'll probably grab yours later if you play your cards right)

    To an extent, it's human nature. And if it's something your SO does that bugs you, have a discussion with them about it. My present SO (because i'm bisexual) used to point out other women he found attractive almost in this, 'so like, wanna have a potential three-way' type context and that super offended me, so like an adult, we talked about it and he doesn't do it anymore. I'm just not naive enough to think that means that he isn't still noticing those women (or dreaming of three-ways; I'm just happy I'm still involved with that fantasy in a sense lol).

    Unless your SO is turning around and saying, "I wish your *kitten* looked like hers," I think you're probably okay.

  • malavika413
    malavika413 Posts: 474 Member
    edited May 2015
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
    I'm just gonna leave this here...

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dlZsGpWJmos

    There is so much that is different in the video. For example, to say that men cannot recall when they saw beauty I feel is completely wrong. I am sure I can text a friend a say

    "Yo you remember that one girl five years ago?"
    him= "the one with the big *kitten*?" Yeah I remember"

    But main point of the video was when he talked about It doesn't matter. 100% true unless you with a guy that is tempted to stray.

    Yeah, I didn't believe the thing about men not remembering women. That's bull. But I highly doubt it doesn't matter.

    So here's the thing that I constantly remind women, as someone who used to be very insecure myself.

    HE'S WITH YOU.

    The girl he oggled a bit at the mall; did he climb in the car and take her home with him? No, he took you.
    The girl he checked out on the beach because her bikini top was a little bit too small for her boobs; did he run up and grab 'em? No (but he'll probably grab yours later if you play your cards right)

    To an extent, it's human nature. And if it's something your SO does that bugs you, have a discussion with them about it. My present SO (because i'm bisexual) used to point out other women he found attractive almost in this, 'so like, wanna have a potential three-way' type context and that super offended me, so like an adult, we talked about it and he doesn't do it anymore. I'm just not naive enough to think that means that he isn't still noticing those women (or dreaming of three-ways; I'm just happy I'm still involved with that fantasy in a sense lol).

    Unless your SO is turning around and saying, "I wish your *kitten* looked like hers," I think you're probably okay.

    Forgive me if I'm asking too many questions, I'm just inexperienced here.

    But isn't it sometimes due to laziness? Like, a man would prefer being with someone else but knows they'd either strike out or it's too much effort to pursue another? So they end up settling for someone less-than-ideal--the girl they already have?
  • yopeeps025
    yopeeps025 Posts: 8,680 Member
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
    I'm just gonna leave this here...

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dlZsGpWJmos

    There is so much that is different in the video. For example, to say that men cannot recall when they saw beauty I feel is completely wrong. I am sure I can text a friend a say

    "Yo you remember that one girl five years ago?"
    him= "the one with the big *kitten*?" Yeah I remember"

    But main point of the video was when he talked about It doesn't matter. 100% true unless you with a guy that is tempted to stray.

    Yeah, I didn't believe the thing about men not remembering women. That's bull. But I highly doubt it doesn't matter.

    So here's the thing that I constantly remind women, as someone who used to be very insecure myself.

    HE'S WITH YOU.

    The girl he oggled a bit at the mall; did he climb in the car and take her home with him? No, he took you.
    The girl he checked out on the beach because her bikini top was a little bit too small for her boobs; did he run up and grab 'em? No (but he'll probably grab yours later if you play your cards right)

    To an extent, it's human nature. And if it's something your SO does that bugs you, have a discussion with them about it. My present SO (because i'm bisexual) used to point out other women he found attractive almost in this, 'so like, wanna have a potential three-way' type context and that super offended me, so like an adult, we talked about it and he doesn't do it anymore. I'm just not naive enough to think that means that he isn't still noticing those women (or dreaming of three-ways; I'm just happy I'm still involved with that fantasy in a sense lol).

    Unless your SO is turning around and saying, "I wish your *kitten* looked like hers," I think you're probably okay.

    Forgive me if I'm asking too many questions, I'm just inexperienced here.

    But isn't it sometimes due to laziness? Like, a man would prefer being with someone else but knows they'd either strike out or it's too much effort to pursue another? So they end up settling for someone less-than-ideal--the girl they already have?

    If men are doing than then no wonder divorce rates are so high in the USA. You have an interesting way of think that men don't really do. Also I think there is not a definite answer as I keep thinking about your question.
  • malavika413
    malavika413 Posts: 474 Member
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
    I'm just gonna leave this here...

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dlZsGpWJmos

    There is so much that is different in the video. For example, to say that men cannot recall when they saw beauty I feel is completely wrong. I am sure I can text a friend a say

    "Yo you remember that one girl five years ago?"
    him= "the one with the big *kitten*?" Yeah I remember"

    But main point of the video was when he talked about It doesn't matter. 100% true unless you with a guy that is tempted to stray.

    Yeah, I didn't believe the thing about men not remembering women. That's bull. But I highly doubt it doesn't matter.

    So here's the thing that I constantly remind women, as someone who used to be very insecure myself.

    HE'S WITH YOU.

    The girl he oggled a bit at the mall; did he climb in the car and take her home with him? No, he took you.
    The girl he checked out on the beach because her bikini top was a little bit too small for her boobs; did he run up and grab 'em? No (but he'll probably grab yours later if you play your cards right)

    To an extent, it's human nature. And if it's something your SO does that bugs you, have a discussion with them about it. My present SO (because i'm bisexual) used to point out other women he found attractive almost in this, 'so like, wanna have a potential three-way' type context and that super offended me, so like an adult, we talked about it and he doesn't do it anymore. I'm just not naive enough to think that means that he isn't still noticing those women (or dreaming of three-ways; I'm just happy I'm still involved with that fantasy in a sense lol).

    Unless your SO is turning around and saying, "I wish your *kitten* looked like hers," I think you're probably okay.

    Forgive me if I'm asking too many questions, I'm just inexperienced here.

    But isn't it sometimes due to laziness? Like, a man would prefer being with someone else but knows they'd either strike out or it's too much effort to pursue another? So they end up settling for someone less-than-ideal--the girl they already have?

    If men are doing than then no wonder divorce rates are so high in the USA. You have an interesting way of think that men don't really do. Also I think there is not a definite answer as I keep thinking about your question.

    I mean, I'm going off my limited experience observing men. Obviously I'm young so the guys I've met aren't indicative of the whole population. Many guys I know complain about the dating process and how much work it is, so it makes sense why they won't want to pursue every attractive woman out there, especially if they've already got someone mildly attractive to them.
  • 365andstillalive
    365andstillalive Posts: 663 Member
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
    I'm just gonna leave this here...

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dlZsGpWJmos

    There is so much that is different in the video. For example, to say that men cannot recall when they saw beauty I feel is completely wrong. I am sure I can text a friend a say

    "Yo you remember that one girl five years ago?"
    him= "the one with the big *kitten*?" Yeah I remember"

    But main point of the video was when he talked about It doesn't matter. 100% true unless you with a guy that is tempted to stray.

    Yeah, I didn't believe the thing about men not remembering women. That's bull. But I highly doubt it doesn't matter.

    So here's the thing that I constantly remind women, as someone who used to be very insecure myself.

    HE'S WITH YOU.

    The girl he oggled a bit at the mall; did he climb in the car and take her home with him? No, he took you.
    The girl he checked out on the beach because her bikini top was a little bit too small for her boobs; did he run up and grab 'em? No (but he'll probably grab yours later if you play your cards right)

    To an extent, it's human nature. And if it's something your SO does that bugs you, have a discussion with them about it. My present SO (because i'm bisexual) used to point out other women he found attractive almost in this, 'so like, wanna have a potential three-way' type context and that super offended me, so like an adult, we talked about it and he doesn't do it anymore. I'm just not naive enough to think that means that he isn't still noticing those women (or dreaming of three-ways; I'm just happy I'm still involved with that fantasy in a sense lol).

    Unless your SO is turning around and saying, "I wish your *kitten* looked like hers," I think you're probably okay.

    Forgive me if I'm asking too many questions, I'm just inexperienced here.

    But isn't it sometimes due to laziness? Like, a man would prefer being with someone else but knows they'd either strike out or it's too much effort to pursue another? So they end up settling for someone less-than-ideal--the girl they already have?

    If you're ever with someone who makes you feel like they're settling for you, that's a red flag that isn't the relationship for you. But you need to balance that with the idea of, are you just honestly over thinking things?

    In my experience, when it comes to the dating world, if a man (or woman for that matter) doesn't want to be in a relationship, they just leave (sometimes gradually, sometimes all at once). It's a bit different when you get to the more complicated stage where say, you've lived together for a few years.

    Without knowing your back story, it sounds like you're projecting your own insecurities about yourself onto your relationship. Know that at any weight or other qualifier, you are worthy of love, respect and the level of commitment you're looking for.
  • malavika413
    malavika413 Posts: 474 Member
    edited May 2015
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
    I'm just gonna leave this here...

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dlZsGpWJmos

    There is so much that is different in the video. For example, to say that men cannot recall when they saw beauty I feel is completely wrong. I am sure I can text a friend a say

    "Yo you remember that one girl five years ago?"
    him= "the one with the big *kitten*?" Yeah I remember"

    But main point of the video was when he talked about It doesn't matter. 100% true unless you with a guy that is tempted to stray.

    Yeah, I didn't believe the thing about men not remembering women. That's bull. But I highly doubt it doesn't matter.

    So here's the thing that I constantly remind women, as someone who used to be very insecure myself.

    HE'S WITH YOU.

    The girl he oggled a bit at the mall; did he climb in the car and take her home with him? No, he took you.
    The girl he checked out on the beach because her bikini top was a little bit too small for her boobs; did he run up and grab 'em? No (but he'll probably grab yours later if you play your cards right)

    To an extent, it's human nature. And if it's something your SO does that bugs you, have a discussion with them about it. My present SO (because i'm bisexual) used to point out other women he found attractive almost in this, 'so like, wanna have a potential three-way' type context and that super offended me, so like an adult, we talked about it and he doesn't do it anymore. I'm just not naive enough to think that means that he isn't still noticing those women (or dreaming of three-ways; I'm just happy I'm still involved with that fantasy in a sense lol).

    Unless your SO is turning around and saying, "I wish your *kitten* looked like hers," I think you're probably okay.

    Forgive me if I'm asking too many questions, I'm just inexperienced here.

    But isn't it sometimes due to laziness? Like, a man would prefer being with someone else but knows they'd either strike out or it's too much effort to pursue another? So they end up settling for someone less-than-ideal--the girl they already have?

    If you're ever with someone who makes you feel like they're settling for you, that's a red flag that isn't the relationship for you. But you need to balance that with the idea of, are you just honestly over thinking things?

    In my experience, when it comes to the dating world, if a man (or woman for that matter) doesn't want to be in a relationship, they just leave (sometimes gradually, sometimes all at once). It's a bit different when you get to the more complicated stage where say, you've lived together for a few years.

    Without knowing your back story, it sounds like you're projecting your own insecurities about yourself onto your relationship. Know that at any weight or other qualifier, you are worthy of love, respect and the level of commitment you're looking for.

    I could be projecting, yeah. I just don't want to be naive and believe in unconditional love and all that stuff. And I'm not really commenting on my relationship, I'm just trying to get an idea about the general male population.
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