DO YOU MISS YOUR EX? BECAUSE I DO

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  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
    Yep, I missed him for a long time, even though I walked away. It was for the best, but that doesn't mean he wasn't a great person. I still think back to my time w/him fondly.

    I heard that how some women feel when the ex know how to lay the pipe.
    Did a plumber tell you that?

    Actually it was women who told me that. One in particular was cheating on her current bf with an ex. I don't know if these women were plumbers.

    See now, if YOU knew how to lay the pipe properly, these women wouldn't be telling you their life drama and would be letting you work with their plumbing.
  • 365andstillalive
    365andstillalive Posts: 663 Member
    halobender wrote: »
    So firstly, yes, I do miss some of my exes. One most of all, because she was sweet and beautiful. She was also childlike, however, and that got old real quick. So as much as I miss her it could never, ever work again.

    Also: Laying pipe is a term used all over North America, at least, even if it isn't as popular in some places as others. It's a phrase with which I'm familiar, though I tend to only use it when I'm purposely being tactless.

    It is most frequently a euphemism for sex and I can tell you one reason it fits that better than ... the other: In the act of sex you're "laying pipe" by inserting a cylindrical object which acts as a flow pipe into something, at which point it is no longer exposed, as with plumbing. The other one, then, by comparison doesn't even make sense! Plus talking about BMs is gross.
    Btw, "Beefsteak" didn't sleep with you, because she didn't like you that way. The "friend zone" is this magical place you've made up in your head because you think that you're entitled to sleep with any female friend of yours based on the fact that you're 'a nice guy' and when they don't want to, your ego can't take it. I'm not saying her behaviour was on point either (though I think the bubble schpeal was her telling you to F off), but common bro.
    I totally see where people are coming with this thought process on the term "friend zone" but I'm just not sure it *always* has to be that the guy saying it is a *kitten*. To be honest I didn't read the initial post and I'm not really responding toward that, just the term itself. Sure, it's typically used by the dbag "nice guy" types, but I do feel as though the friend zone can just describe where a relationship between two people lies.

    I'm in the friend zone with this girl, I guess; she likes me but she has a boyfriend and though I like her it's not like I'm going to be a creep toward her. I'm just a friend and though that may expand in the future if she and her boyfriend don't work out, I'm not blaming her for "putting me in the friend zone" or what have you. It just is what it is. And if her relationship doesn't work out and we still stay only friends, that's fine, too, as I'm not so pompous as to think I'm the next guy "in line" or something.

    To that end, however, I kind of think that's the difference in "friend zone" being a "negative term" and otherwise being just "a term". If my example simply exacerbates the concept and usage of that term, let me know, 'cos while typically I think it is a pretty lame term in most contexts, I simply don't feel as though it always has to be, y'know?

    To an extent, I agree with you; context obviously matters. My comment was made mostly based on how he was condemning the girl for sleeping with a mutual friend after the girl had expressed she wasn't interested and only wanted to be friends with him, and kept using the term friend zone all the way through the paragraph.

    I don't think that you're using "friendzone" properly in your example, only because it doesn't mean the culturally constructed connotation. I wouldn't say that you're in the friend zone; I'd just say you have a friend, who's a girl, that you're interested in.
  • angela_eva13
    angela_eva13 Posts: 200 Member
    Everyday!
  • Dagoberto8878
    Dagoberto8878 Posts: 15 Member
    After al those comments something it's sure, they gonna be part of our lives forever because thanks to those people we all are ex.
  • halobender
    halobender Posts: 780 Member
    I don't think that you're using "friendzone" properly in your example, only because it doesn't mean the culturally constructed connotation. I wouldn't say that you're in the friend zone; I'd just say you have a friend, who's a girl, that you're interested in.
    And yet in my opinion that's the exact definition of friend zone! :P I simply don't like that it almost seems as though people are suggesting to only be a friend with someone is a bad thing. And that's where the negative connotation comes in, as some folks are using it to describe situations in which they want more and since nothing more will ever come of it, they're "in the friend zone," and they use this term to deride someone for not giving them what they want. The girl in my example already gives me what I really want, and that's a friend with whom I can have nice conversations and so on. I would like more but I certainly am not going to deride her for having a boyfriend, or even if she chose to date someone else. That's just silly to me :)

    Just because some jerks have used it in such a way that it has the connotation most are relating to it doesn't fully change it. I'm trying to think of other terms which people have misused to such a point that they also have a negative connotation even though they shouldn't, but nothing immediately comes to mind. I've been drinking. But there are those terms! :)
  • _Tink_
    _Tink_ Posts: 3,845 Member
    Helllll no, I don't. Why would I miss an abusive bastahrd?
  • yopeeps025
    yopeeps025 Posts: 8,692 Member
    Pu_239 wrote: »
    brower47 wrote: »
    Pu_239 wrote: »
    Which Ex?

    There has been quiet a few, but only 3 girls stand out.

    1. Amorkaflika
    2. Jackanorititis
    3. Beef steak

    ... everyone deserves a fair chance> i just told this girl i can't. SHe was coming to cali where i live, but she didn't stop by she went down south(where the other guy lived). I found out she saw him. It suddenly hit me a few months back, foul play must have been going on there the entire time. But do I miss her? Not really, i do search for her sometimes through fb, but never can find her.

    ...

    SO in the end... no one knows what the future will bring, such as the situation with jackanorititis and myself. I won't see beefsteak for about a year, maybe I would have improved myself to a differently level that she might interested, but I don't know if i'd even give her that chance. Jackanortistis, I think we will end up together in the end, maybe not now, maybe not 5,10, 15 or 20yrs... but in the end... i thik we will be together

    holy crap i wrote a lot.

    Dude.

    I hope you're being satirical here. If so, congrats on the super creepy Ex satire post.
    haha, yeah that does sound a bit creepy. I didn't mean it like that. The first part, about me searching. I know people do that, sometimes people tell me they been searching for me, I do the same for some people.
    Wat?
  • yopeeps025
    yopeeps025 Posts: 8,692 Member
    edited May 2015
    Reevoslady wrote: »
    Pu_239 wrote: »
    I felt i got out of the friends zone a bit, things where picking up, then something happened. She tried to FZ me again, I was like, "no that's not going to happen, you put me in a cage when you say that."
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    Pu_239 wrote: »
    Pu_239 wrote: »
    Which Ex?

    There has been quiet a few, but only 3 girls stand out.

    1. Amorkaflika
    2. Jackanorititis
    3. Beef steak

    I met Amorkaflika online, I went down to see her a few times i live in cali she lives in AZ. Things where good, but there was this guy like in the shadows, she told me nothing was going on with him. Eventually we "broke up" but still talked and In my mind, us breaking up meant nothing, i still saw us together. She kind of stopped talking to me, so i blocked her online trying to force her to call me. But then i started to sense the break up, i gave someone another chance. Amorkaflika found out, she called me crying and begging to come back, I never felt it was right, to dump someone to get back to your ex, everyone deserves a fair chance> i just told this girl i can't. SHe was coming to cali where i live, but she didn't stop by she went down south(where the other guy lived). I found out she saw him. It suddenly hit me a few months back, foul play must have been going on there the entire time. But do I miss her? Not really, i do search for her sometimes through fb, but never can find her.

    This beautiful scottish girl jackanortititis was down in america from scotland, met her, had the best relationship ever with her for 9 months. SHe had to go back, we tried to make it work but it just didn't. I started a computer repair company to get enough money to go see her, the day we got on cam, I was going to tell her I have the money to se her. Before I even got that out, she's like "I have a date with someone." That was the end of it. It was pretty bad for me. This was 9yrs ago. But we kept in touch off and on, we started talking agian, like everyday. i still talk to her after 9yrs, she is with a guy, has 2 kids. Yet we still care for eachother, but the situation for us just isn't right. People would always say, "you 2 will end up like the story in the note book." Never seen it, but who knows what the future brings.

    Beefsteak, this girl from school(this is most recent). I liked her a lot, she was my bestfriend, but she just gave me the run around. "I am not ready for a relationsihp", I felt i got out of the friends zone a bit, things where picking up, then something happened. She tried to FZ me again, I was like, "no that's not going to happen, you put me in a cage when you say that." she's like, "no you're not in a cage, I am in a bubble" We decided to go on a valentines day date, but she cancelled 2 times. Just all these excuses, last month I met this guy, and she met him at the same time. He goes to our school. I found out that they "got it on" which is pretty messed up cause that guy was my friend and he knew how i felt, and her lies and excuses... Do miss her? To some degree, but at the moment, can't stand her.

    I was obviously hurt, reviewed some psychology material, It frankly said, "if you're hurt, find out what you want/need and work towards it." Made me realize i want a good girl, decent looking. To maximize my options I have to better and maximize myself, this is where I am at in the moment of my life. I turned that negative crap she did, to probably the most productive things of my life. It was a hit of reality honestly.

    SO in the end... no one knows what the future will bring, such as the situation with jackanorititis and myself. I won't see beefsteak for about a year, maybe I would have improved myself to a differently level that she might interested, but I don't know if i'd even give her that chance. Jackanortistis, I think we will end up together in the end, maybe not now, maybe not 5,10, 15 or 20yrs... but in the end... i thik we will be together

    holy crap i wrote a lot.
    Here is the TL;DR:

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    Funny thing is, i was just talking to her about this right now, told her what i said. Her reply was, "i think we might end up together" It's just to bad, that a lot of people have never experienced this type of connection with someone.

    It worries me that a woman who's married, with two kids is having a conversation with you about how you might end up together.

    That speaks volumes right there.

    But based on your original post, you may be perfect for each other.

    Btw, "Beefsteak" didn't sleep with you, because she didn't like you that way. The "friend zone" is this magical place you've made up in your head because you think that you're entitled to sleep with any female friend of yours based on the fact that you're 'a nice guy' and when they don't want to, your ego can't take it. I'm not saying her behaviour was on point either (though I think the bubble schpeal was her telling you to F off), but common bro.
    interesting. She like homewreckers
  • Dagoberto8878
    Dagoberto8878 Posts: 15 Member
    _Tink_ wrote: »
    Helllll no, I don't. Why would I miss an abusive bastahrd?

    WELL THAT IS DIFERENT YOU KNOW BUT WHEN THINGS WERE GOING RIGHT AND YOU HAVE TO LEAVE HER JUST BECAUSE THERE IS A BIG CHANCE TO MAKE A LOT OF MONEY AND THEN YOU REALIZE THAT I WASNT WHAT YOU REALLY WANT FOR YOUR LIFE,

  • 365andstillalive
    365andstillalive Posts: 663 Member
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
    Reevoslady wrote: »
    Pu_239 wrote: »
    I felt i got out of the friends zone a bit, things where picking up, then something happened. She tried to FZ me again, I was like, "no that's not going to happen, you put me in a cage when you say that."
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    Pu_239 wrote: »
    Pu_239 wrote: »
    Which Ex?

    There has been quiet a few, but only 3 girls stand out.

    1. Amorkaflika
    2. Jackanorititis
    3. Beef steak

    I met Amorkaflika online, I went down to see her a few times i live in cali she lives in AZ. Things where good, but there was this guy like in the shadows, she told me nothing was going on with him. Eventually we "broke up" but still talked and In my mind, us breaking up meant nothing, i still saw us together. She kind of stopped talking to me, so i blocked her online trying to force her to call me. But then i started to sense the break up, i gave someone another chance. Amorkaflika found out, she called me crying and begging to come back, I never felt it was right, to dump someone to get back to your ex, everyone deserves a fair chance> i just told this girl i can't. SHe was coming to cali where i live, but she didn't stop by she went down south(where the other guy lived). I found out she saw him. It suddenly hit me a few months back, foul play must have been going on there the entire time. But do I miss her? Not really, i do search for her sometimes through fb, but never can find her.

    This beautiful scottish girl jackanortititis was down in america from scotland, met her, had the best relationship ever with her for 9 months. SHe had to go back, we tried to make it work but it just didn't. I started a computer repair company to get enough money to go see her, the day we got on cam, I was going to tell her I have the money to se her. Before I even got that out, she's like "I have a date with someone." That was the end of it. It was pretty bad for me. This was 9yrs ago. But we kept in touch off and on, we started talking agian, like everyday. i still talk to her after 9yrs, she is with a guy, has 2 kids. Yet we still care for eachother, but the situation for us just isn't right. People would always say, "you 2 will end up like the story in the note book." Never seen it, but who knows what the future brings.

    Beefsteak, this girl from school(this is most recent). I liked her a lot, she was my bestfriend, but she just gave me the run around. "I am not ready for a relationsihp", I felt i got out of the friends zone a bit, things where picking up, then something happened. She tried to FZ me again, I was like, "no that's not going to happen, you put me in a cage when you say that." she's like, "no you're not in a cage, I am in a bubble" We decided to go on a valentines day date, but she cancelled 2 times. Just all these excuses, last month I met this guy, and she met him at the same time. He goes to our school. I found out that they "got it on" which is pretty messed up cause that guy was my friend and he knew how i felt, and her lies and excuses... Do miss her? To some degree, but at the moment, can't stand her.

    I was obviously hurt, reviewed some psychology material, It frankly said, "if you're hurt, find out what you want/need and work towards it." Made me realize i want a good girl, decent looking. To maximize my options I have to better and maximize myself, this is where I am at in the moment of my life. I turned that negative crap she did, to probably the most productive things of my life. It was a hit of reality honestly.

    SO in the end... no one knows what the future will bring, such as the situation with jackanorititis and myself. I won't see beefsteak for about a year, maybe I would have improved myself to a differently level that she might interested, but I don't know if i'd even give her that chance. Jackanortistis, I think we will end up together in the end, maybe not now, maybe not 5,10, 15 or 20yrs... but in the end... i thik we will be together

    holy crap i wrote a lot.
    Here is the TL;DR:

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    Funny thing is, i was just talking to her about this right now, told her what i said. Her reply was, "i think we might end up together" It's just to bad, that a lot of people have never experienced this type of connection with someone.

    It worries me that a woman who's married, with two kids is having a conversation with you about how you might end up together.

    That speaks volumes right there.

    But based on your original post, you may be perfect for each other.

    Btw, "Beefsteak" didn't sleep with you, because she didn't like you that way. The "friend zone" is this magical place you've made up in your head because you think that you're entitled to sleep with any female friend of yours based on the fact that you're 'a nice guy' and when they don't want to, your ego can't take it. I'm not saying her behaviour was on point either (though I think the bubble schpeal was her telling you to F off), but common bro.
    interesting. She like homewreckers

    Oh yeah, y'know, they're my favourite people.
    I think the only person I like better is an arsonist, and that's a whole 'nother type of homewrecking.
  • _incogNEATo_
    _incogNEATo_ Posts: 4,544 Member
    _Tink_ wrote: »
    Helllll no, I don't. Why would I miss an abusive bastahrd?

    WELL THAT IS DIFERENT YOU KNOW BUT WHEN THINGS WERE GOING RIGHT AND YOU HAVE TO LEAVE HER JUST BECAUSE THERE IS A BIG CHANCE TO MAKE A LOT OF MONEY AND THEN YOU REALIZE THAT I WASNT WHAT YOU REALLY WANT FOR YOUR LIFE,

    Don't yell at her!
  • yopeeps025
    yopeeps025 Posts: 8,692 Member
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
    Reevoslady wrote: »
    Pu_239 wrote: »
    I felt i got out of the friends zone a bit, things where picking up, then something happened. She tried to FZ me again, I was like, "no that's not going to happen, you put me in a cage when you say that."
    e52a86845d2fe0d746d31447b819967a6c1c2501182ed9d588890f78041058e3.jpg
    Pu_239 wrote: »
    Pu_239 wrote: »
    Which Ex?

    There has been quiet a few, but only 3 girls stand out.

    1. Amorkaflika
    2. Jackanorititis
    3. Beef steak

    I met Amorkaflika online, I went down to see her a few times i live in cali she lives in AZ. Things where good, but there was this guy like in the shadows, she told me nothing was going on with him. Eventually we "broke up" but still talked and In my mind, us breaking up meant nothing, i still saw us together. She kind of stopped talking to me, so i blocked her online trying to force her to call me. But then i started to sense the break up, i gave someone another chance. Amorkaflika found out, she called me crying and begging to come back, I never felt it was right, to dump someone to get back to your ex, everyone deserves a fair chance> i just told this girl i can't. SHe was coming to cali where i live, but she didn't stop by she went down south(where the other guy lived). I found out she saw him. It suddenly hit me a few months back, foul play must have been going on there the entire time. But do I miss her? Not really, i do search for her sometimes through fb, but never can find her.

    This beautiful scottish girl jackanortititis was down in america from scotland, met her, had the best relationship ever with her for 9 months. SHe had to go back, we tried to make it work but it just didn't. I started a computer repair company to get enough money to go see her, the day we got on cam, I was going to tell her I have the money to se her. Before I even got that out, she's like "I have a date with someone." That was the end of it. It was pretty bad for me. This was 9yrs ago. But we kept in touch off and on, we started talking agian, like everyday. i still talk to her after 9yrs, she is with a guy, has 2 kids. Yet we still care for eachother, but the situation for us just isn't right. People would always say, "you 2 will end up like the story in the note book." Never seen it, but who knows what the future brings.

    Beefsteak, this girl from school(this is most recent). I liked her a lot, she was my bestfriend, but she just gave me the run around. "I am not ready for a relationsihp", I felt i got out of the friends zone a bit, things where picking up, then something happened. She tried to FZ me again, I was like, "no that's not going to happen, you put me in a cage when you say that." she's like, "no you're not in a cage, I am in a bubble" We decided to go on a valentines day date, but she cancelled 2 times. Just all these excuses, last month I met this guy, and she met him at the same time. He goes to our school. I found out that they "got it on" which is pretty messed up cause that guy was my friend and he knew how i felt, and her lies and excuses... Do miss her? To some degree, but at the moment, can't stand her.

    I was obviously hurt, reviewed some psychology material, It frankly said, "if you're hurt, find out what you want/need and work towards it." Made me realize i want a good girl, decent looking. To maximize my options I have to better and maximize myself, this is where I am at in the moment of my life. I turned that negative crap she did, to probably the most productive things of my life. It was a hit of reality honestly.

    SO in the end... no one knows what the future will bring, such as the situation with jackanorititis and myself. I won't see beefsteak for about a year, maybe I would have improved myself to a differently level that she might interested, but I don't know if i'd even give her that chance. Jackanortistis, I think we will end up together in the end, maybe not now, maybe not 5,10, 15 or 20yrs... but in the end... i thik we will be together

    holy crap i wrote a lot.
    Here is the TL;DR:

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    Funny thing is, i was just talking to her about this right now, told her what i said. Her reply was, "i think we might end up together" It's just to bad, that a lot of people have never experienced this type of connection with someone.

    It worries me that a woman who's married, with two kids is having a conversation with you about how you might end up together.

    That speaks volumes right there.

    But based on your original post, you may be perfect for each other.

    Btw, "Beefsteak" didn't sleep with you, because she didn't like you that way. The "friend zone" is this magical place you've made up in your head because you think that you're entitled to sleep with any female friend of yours based on the fact that you're 'a nice guy' and when they don't want to, your ego can't take it. I'm not saying her behaviour was on point either (though I think the bubble schpeal was her telling you to F off), but common bro.
    interesting. She like homewreckers

    Oh yeah, y'know, they're my favourite people.
    I think the only person I like better is an arsonist, and that's a whole 'nother type of homewrecking.

    Pu you sound like a very interesting creepier. Almost like a oblivious creepier. She has friend zone you for life. If she is married watch out for lawsuits or worst the husband.
  • LittleMissMissy6
    LittleMissMissy6 Posts: 36 Member
    I had to leave my country but i think I'll come back, doesn't make sense have your packet full of money and your soul empty

    This is so true. Money at the end of the day doesn't mean much. Happiness does. But to answer your original question, yes I do. Not as in I want to be back with them but I wonder how they are. It's not easy stopping contact with someone you once cared about so much. In saying that I've never had an awful breakup. If I did I might change my mind haha.
  • FabulousFantasticFifty
    FabulousFantasticFifty Posts: 195,638 Member
    How do you even know my Ex??? :tongue:
  • malavika413
    malavika413 Posts: 474 Member
    Noooo. He's still a friend that I talk to now and then, but he was a pretty awful boyfriend. I'm happy I moved on.
  • DayvKnight
    DayvKnight Posts: 27 Member
    I have never had an ex and never will
  • Dagoberto8878
    Dagoberto8878 Posts: 15 Member
    I had to leave my country but i think I'll come back, doesn't make sense have your packet full of money and your soul empty

    This is so true. Money at the end of the day doesn't mean much. Happiness does. But to answer your original question, yes I do. Not as in I want to be back with them but I wonder how they are. It's not easy stopping contact with someone you once cared about so much. In saying that I've never had an awful breakup. If I did I might change my mind haha.

    I agree with you there are 3 things that we need money health and a person to share with all the things that we have even good and but moments. Or can someone says something like im happy to come back home after a long day of work and see that nobody is waiting for me at home? I don't know if some people are happy with their loneliness but I was more than happy to come back home after work and see her eyes.
  • Dagoberto8878
    Dagoberto8878 Posts: 15 Member
    _Tink_ wrote: »
    Helllll no, I don't. Why would I miss an abusive bastahrd?

    WELL THAT IS DIFERENT YOU KNOW BUT WHEN THINGS WERE GOING RIGHT AND YOU HAVE TO LEAVE HER JUST BECAUSE THERE IS A BIG CHANCE TO MAKE A LOT OF MONEY AND THEN YOU REALIZE THAT I WASNT WHAT YOU REALLY WANT FOR YOUR LIFE,

    Don't yell at her!

    HahaHa I didn't
  • Dagoberto8878
    Dagoberto8878 Posts: 15 Member
    DayvKnight wrote: »
    I have never had an ex and never will

    You will be an ex that is your destiny lol