Yes or No : would you be pissed

sperkins68 wrote: »

I'd be pissed with the std part. The cheateing part after that long ya it would hurt but depending on how far into the relationship I was at the time would determin how upsert I'd be at that. And I personally don't believe in the once a cheater always a cheater statement. She probly was afraid of ruining there relationship so kept it a secret and it was probly eating away at her so she finally let it out.

that's a lot of probablys

that's why i think how this came out matters. was it a woman who buckled under the weight of 10 years of lying? was it a woman who used this as a weapon in an argument? or maybe the guy she cheated with was threatening to tell her husband so she had to tell him before he could.

or maybe he found out from someone else. the OP doesn't say the woman even told him.

are we sure this was the only time? i mean she lied once, what's to stop her from lying more? should he trust her if she says "yes. this was the only time"?

wolverine66 wrote: »

sperkins68 wrote: »

I'd be pissed with the std part. The cheateing part after that long ya it would hurt but depending on how far into the relationship I was at the time would determin how upsert I'd be at that. And I personally don't believe in the once a cheater always a cheater statement. She probly was afraid of ruining there relationship so kept it a secret and it was probly eating away at her so she finally let it out.

that's a lot of probablys

that's why i think how this came out matters. was it a woman who buckled under the weight of 10 years of lying? was it a woman who used this as a weapon in an argument? or maybe the guy she cheated with was threatening to tell her husband so she had to tell him before he could.

or maybe he found out from someone else. the OP doesn't say the woman even told him.

are we sure this was the only time? i mean she lied once, what's to stop her from lying more? should he trust her if she says "yes. this was the only time"?

A lost of trust can be repaired in a relationship but what about in a marriage with that much time from the discretion. I don't tolerate either situation.

I'd be pissed that he called at 4:25a too!

yopeeps025 wrote: »

Becka4prez wrote: »

Cheating before you're married, I can let that slide. STD? I would be pissed!!

So you be find if you knew about the affair before marriage?

Letting it slide and being fine with it are two different things IMO. It would definitely "slide" to the back burner until the STD argument was handled first.

I would be angry. I'm the violently angry type, too. It wouldn't be a good moment for them, maybe their last if I got infected with their disease.

more hurt than pissed , relationships are built on trust