Someone asked my husband...pregnant
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I believe the comment I always remember on this topic is, "Never ask a woman if she is expecting unless you see a baby coming out of her." :happy:
Love it!! True...true!0 -
Lol, I have the opposite problem with my Mum-in-law. Every time I see her, she says I look like I've lost weight (which comes from a good intention, I guess). I've weighed roughly the same since the day I first met her, so I have to wonder just how fat she pictures me when I'm not around.
I HATE when people do that... I had someone ask me about a week before I started MFP if I was losing weight. "You look slimmer today." It was difficult to tell her that no, I'm the heaviest I've ever been. *sigh* Always makes me wonder how large people think I am. It's depressing.0 -
I understand your pain...after loosing 30 lbs someone asked me, while on a date with my husband, did I have a baby in my tummy!!!! I've only had 2 kids and my daughter is 1 year. I had been feeling so good about myself and that really brought me down.
Hugs to you....0 -
The real question is why was your husband dumb enough to TELL you? If it were me I wouldn't have said a damn thing.
from the way she related the story, maybe she was standing there as it happened?0 -
With all three kids of mine, I was asked shortly after birth when I was due.... I get it, you still have a tummy after... but with 1 and 3, I HAD THEM WITH ME. Stupid people. I have a 6 week old baby and you are asking me when I'm due. It definitely hurts. I'm sorry about that.0
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This happened to me after my 3rd he was just over a year old. It was my birthday. My husband took me to Kohl's to buy me some clothes for my b-day. After trying on clothes and feeling like crap. The clerk asked if I was pregnant and what I was having. I just looked at my husband and walked out. Cried all the way home.
Like other people have said let it be a motivator. Sorry that happened to you. It's so hurtful.0 -
Sigh - this story reminded me of the day I checked out of the hospital after having my first son. I was standing in the doorway of my hospital room, and a hospital volunteer came to the room to interview me about my stay.
She asked, "Is she in there?" I asked, "Who?" She said, "The gal in the room - who just had the baby." TWO DAYS after I had the baby, I looked like a friend of the new mom!
I wish that were still true today.0 -
The day I went back to work after having my 2nd daughter, I had a co-worker stop and ask when I was due. My baby girl was 8 weeks old and I had dropped 40 pounds or so from my pre-pregnancy weight. I was floored. He played it off that it was because I was sitting and he couldn't see my stomach and since he worked nights (police officer) that he didn't know I had her already... I let it slide because he's always been a super-nice guy around and to me, and he probably honestly had no clue...0
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It was the head bell-ringer at church who did it to me, on behalf of a group of his friends!
I just said 'No, I'm just fat!' and lost 20 lb
Now I have a colleague I wonder the same about, but I just bite my tongue!0 -
Today, someone asked my husband if I was pregnant. My baby is almost 9 month old. He played it off, and said "I hope not"
That right there is motivation to lose the weight.
that has happened to me from some random lady in safeway 2 years ago I WAS 16!!!!! "when are you due" (i have polycystic ovary syndrome and insulin resistance which i wasn't aware of at the time) but i hold alot of excess weight around my middle once its been said the fear does not go away unfortunately so hopefully when i finish loosing the rest of my weight maybe it will go away lol i laugh only because its nice to know other ppl have experience that (it's not a nice feeling....) keep up the good work
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Fortunately no one has asked me when I was due, or if I was pregnant. IDK how I would react to that.......:laugh:
It's good motivation indeed. I'm sure when people ask this they mean no harm, but yet maybe are a little misguided and should think before they speak. Good luck with your journey!0 -
I've been asked in the past, and like somebody else on here my response was "no, I'm just fat." However, I don't think any rudeness was meant by it, I just think the person concerned just didn't consider what the reaction might be if I wasn't pregnant.
Having said that, several of my male friends, when travelling on the London tube, have always said that they'd rather let a pregnant woman stand than a fat woman cry...0 -
I like jimmy carrs stance and its the one I take (talking about public transport and why he doesn't give up his chair) ' I'd rather see a pregnant girl standing then a fat one sat down crying'
Just spotted the post above, damn pages not loading fully lol0 -
I don't ask precisely for this reason! Heh. I have a former coworker who was pregnant last year and she told me she and her husband were having dinner at a Fuddruckers and the cashier kept looking down at her stomach. My coworker felt uncomfortable, but didn't say anything. A few seconds later, the girl says, "I'm sorry, I just can't tell... are you fat or pregnant?"
I still can't believe someone would ask that! The nerve of some people.0 -
Omg I had someone said that to me before and it was embarressing. So it will be your motivation to help with weight loss and I still remembered that and it will help me has well. the person before me that is awfull!! I don't like it when people do that!0
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I've had this so many times and as a mum of 4, I do carry extra weight around my belly but it's so annoying. The last person to ask was my next door neighbour and the kick up the butt I needed to lose some lbs, actually. It's very embarrassing though and something that's brought me to tears a few times now0
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I had that happen to me too at Home Depot, the guy helping me load up my car asked how far along I was and I just went with it, it would be too embarrassing to say I wasn't.0
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That was a turning point for me when one of my clients (hairdresser) asked me how far along i was. He was a regular client. It was an eye opening moment. A little bit after that is when I made a promise to myself to get in shape. 9 months later i'm still here on MFP working out and logging. Take that as inspiration!!0
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My son's teacher wasn't fat at all, but she looked pregnant. It's a good thing that I never asked when she was due....over the course of the school year there was no pregnancy or baby announcement. A year later she did get pregnant and have a baby. I guess she carries excess weight in her stomach and still had a few pounds from her first child - who was about 2 years old.
Thank god I know what not to say or ask.0 -
The real question is why was your husband dumb enough to TELL you? If it were me I wouldn't have said a damn thing.
So true. I would LOVE for my BF to keep that **** to himself... and maybe casually suggest that we should go to the gym next week or something.
But hey, you're really strong for not breaking down. If someone asked me if I was pregnant, I wouldn't eat anything for a week :P0
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