single! and wondering

I feel the same way!

First off, you need to get some sleep hun! :flowerforyou:

Second, you should never settle...you will find the right person for you soon enough. xoxo

ya!

I feel this way sometimes when I'm lonely, but then I remember that my main focus right now is to work on myself.I can. I first need to learn to unconditionally love myself and be completely comfortable in my skin, before I could even think about letting someone in my life. Cheesy, but true.


Crystal

I used to feel like that. Now I don't. And no, I haven't entered a relationship.
I've just realised that if I place so much importance on it, and lower my self-esteem as a result, I'm not going to appear as attractive a person.
I've only started having romantic feelings towards ANYONE in the past year (and I'm 21 now). I've wanted a relationship for longer, but didn't really know what it entailed.
I worried about reaching 25... 30... 35... without having a relationship. I worried about when I got older: where would I live that I could support the mortgage of on my own? Will I grow old lonely and forgotten? What happens when my other friends get married and start spending time with other married couples instead of single me?
Now I see the problem was in myself. I didn't feel attractive, partly because I was obese, and partly because I was not confident in my intellectual capabilities. Now that I'm losing weight, I feel more attractive than I did when I was originally the weight I am now. Now that I exercise frequently I feel less like a bundle of flab and more like a fit, healthy human being. I'm at university and am starting to grow confidence in my ability to do my degree well.
So what about relationships? Surely I'm wanting a relationship more than ever now I feel more ready for it? Well, I am not in a relationship yet (for one, I barely see any friends right now for reasons I won't go into at the moment), but the main thing is I don't really care anymore. Sure, it would be great to find someone, but it's also great if I don't.
And I think that appears like a more attractive quality than anything else.

I feel this way all the time, but I am very picky and will not date just anybody. There has to be a connection both physically and emotionally in order for me to spend time on somebody. One of these days I'll find somebody that meets my expectations and until then, I'll have fun going through the ones that dont! haha.

People shouldn't settle, the right person will come along when you least expect it.

I felt this way for a long time, and the thought still crosses my mind that I may never meet "the one." It's depressing, but I have to believe I will find him someday. And being single for as long as I have been, I know I will never take him for granted.

And I agree about not settling. People say it's unreasonable to have an "ideal" person in mind because you'll never find them, but I think that's crap. Any person who is self-aware has things they are not willing to compromise on when it comes to the person they are going to spend the rest of their life with, and those non-negotiables are almost always character issues, not physical traits. If you settle for someone who is less than your ideal in terms of their character, there's no way you will ever be happy.

I can't speak from personal experience, but I would imagine that being married to someone you don't really love and who doesn't really love you has to be way lonelier than being single.

I do the "he's too good for me" thing myself, and I know it's stupid. I'm a catch, and I'm not afraid to say so. When I meet a guy I really like and we seem to hit it off, I think "Awesome, I found a great guy. Maybe he'll call and ask me out." If he doesn't, I think "I'm probably out of his league," when the truth is that he likely just didn't feel the same way, and that doesn't make me unworthy, nor does it make him a bad guy. I have to try to keep that thought in the front of my brain.

Ditto!!! Been single awhile and am pretty much guessing that I will be this way forever

Oh well :huh:

I agree, I'm at a point where romance really isn't on my radar. If it happens, great. But I've come to realize that I've got a lot to be happy about ... I have a healthy body that I grow prouder of every day, I have a great job, a nice roof over my head, food on my table, and people in my life who love me despite all my flaws. If being single is my biggest problem, then I'm pretty lucky.