I can't do it :(
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Monna2 -- You can do this!! Listen to everyone on this feed. You have tons of experienced weight losers giving you advice.
Incorporate some type of physical activity into your day. If you are self-conscious about exercising at a gym, Leslie Sansone has walking dvds that you can purchase (or you can go to youtube and try out some of the work outs before purchasing) and walk in the comfort of your home. YOU have to find ways to get in the physical activity. You just have to keep at it every day gradually increasing your mobility and stamina.
You have to make the sacrifice for YOU and YOUR health and body, not your family. Losing weight requires you to be selfish, because while your family talks about you eating too many carbs, they may be ordering pizza, etc., with little thought to how this affects you. Like YolliB said, I haven't cut out any of the foods I like either. I log them in MFP food log and I eat them in moderation. I will walk an additional ten minutes or I'll go into my backyard and run in place for ten minutes to balance it out. Do one mile in your neighborhood walking around the block as many times as necessary before dinner or after dinner or both. GET A PEDOMETER! It will help you see how active you really are. I started off after getting out of the hospital, walking five minutes, then 10 minutes, then 15 minutes. I kept this up and eventually I was up to walking 3 miles a day.
Like everyone else, I'm not a pro. These are the things that have worked for me and I have lost 32 lbs.
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I feel like that at times too, but I keep telling myself that I can do it and I started walking everyday so I am feeling like I am doing something positive whether the scales say so or not. Add me as a friend if you wish. The one thing we all need for success is support, so I will help if I can. Take care!0
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Knowledge is power. I wish I had known 10 years ago some of what I know now. Find out what does work for you. I struggled for 35 years before I found what worked.0
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I really appreciate all your motivating rePlies.0
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Come on Monna! You only have one life, and you can do it.
Educate yourself about nutrition and exercise. Get some really inspirational people onside. Cut out the dead wood in your life, and ignore the negative people. Do something positive towards your goal every single day. Read the stories here. I was an obese wreck a year ago. Now I'm not. I did it and so can you. Justmake the decision to do it, and do not give up!
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You can do it. But do it for you. Go on facebook & join some of the low carb groups. They will help support you, cheer you on, congratulate you for small achievements. And they have awesome recipes & ideas to keep you going, and keep your food interesting.
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YOU CAN DO IT. Like someone already said, it starts with wanting it and educating yourself about the goods and not so goods of the food choices you make.
When I started this journey, all I did the first couple weeks was log what I was consuming. No change in choices.
When I started to see patterns and what was causing me the most calories that I was taking in. The light went off. I knew what to do. Let me tell you, 1200 calories from beer a day is not easy to just walk away from.
I am on a 1500 calorie per day plan. 1200 calories of beer does not fit. Its gone, period. If I didn't want to make this change, I would not have. I want it. I think you want it too. You can do this!!0 -
People have different kinds of issues with weight loss, and I think there are different ways of dealing with it, depending on what they are. What are your issues? Some examples:
- emotional eating
- being convenience-minded, and having a hard time planning in advance (this was my thing - I'd not think about food until I was hungry, and would then just go for whatever was around right then, and usually by that time, I wanted lots of high-cal things)
- lack of knowledge about nutrition and/or cooking
- undiagnosed medical issues; medication
I think people will be able to help a bit better if you can give us some more details. (I can't speak to emotional eating, but I'm sure there are many here who could.)0 -
@monna2:
I definitely can relate to what you are feeling. I have also been struggling with this for 15+ years and it feels like I am not going anywhere. 8 years ago, I lost about 50lbs and felt so good.. but still did not feel good enough. Then I gained it all back, plus some. So starting over again, is so discouraging. BUT, i'm still here. Just like you!
Carbs are my best friend. And emotional eating. It is completely normal. Go for a walk every day, walk up and down the stairs 20 times, watch a exercise video on youtube (go slow). See if there is a pool you can swim at? DRINK WATER! Walk in place while you watch a show on TV. All of the little things add up.
I get it. I really do. And being on here, is so helpful. Everyone is so supportive and gets where you are coming from.
YOU HAVE WHAT IT TAKES!!!0 -
Screw your family. You aren't doing it for them. You do it for yourself. I struggle too with losing weight. I should lost about 50lbs. My body just doesn't let go and I bust my *kitten* at the gym. I love sweets. Its an issue but I try hard to control it.
I've been going to the gym 3/4 times a week since October. I lost 5lbs since January. OH WOW 1 POUND A MONTH! Which is actually the most amount of weight I lost ever. (Been on and off since I was 17). Let me tell you what I did differently.
A little background story, I've been dating a fitness nut for a year. He got me into protein shakes. I started drinking muscle milk in January.
In the morning I eat 2 eggs always mixed with some fresh spinach and a cup of coffee (milk, no sugar: if you take it with sugar ween yourself off it, buy packets to help)
Between breakfast and lunch I drink 1 scoop of muscle milk mixed with 8oz of water. It had 16 grams of protein and 150 calories. Not only does it help me keep full for a while, i end up eating less a day. For lunch I always have a piece of meat. And as much veggies as possible. Seasoned and spiced up. If I have carbs it is brown rice.
Sometime after lunch I go to the gym. Drink green tea. It gives me some energy. Helps curb that appetite. And after the gym. I'll drink another muscle milk shake. It helps with recovery. It keeps me full and sometimes I'm not even hungry for dinner. Or I'll eat a bowl of cereal with a scoop of chia seeds and a scoop of flax. I loved the ancient grain cheerios and the protein cheerios are also amazing but it has 17 grams if sugar....
The weight loss is slow. But that's not really a bad thing. It will be easier to keep off
The awesome thing about the muscle milk is that it curbs my sweet tooth. With chocolate, German chocolate cake, cookies and creme, get something rich that won't make you want cake later.
Dont look at it as losing 130lbs. Look at small healthy things you can do that can help you in the long run.
As for the gym, CARDIO AND WEIGHTS! cardio doesn't have to be anything crazy. You just need to get your heart rate up. Walk on an incline for 30 minutes. Start slow and build your way up. Also building muscle will speed up your metabolism.
If I can do it, you can do it. Let's do it together!0 -
The first step is just doing it. The second step is to keep doing it. The third step is to never stop doing it.
You can get into it gradually. If you try and change everything all at once, you're likely to have a difficult time adapting to the change. Instead, take a few weeks to implement some lifestyle changes. Take a walk after dinner. Eat more veggies. Cut down your portions. After you feel like you've got that down, try using this site more intensively, using your food diary and trying to start a workout regiment.
A lot of it is attitude. I don't mean to sound mean about this and I realize that simply telling you to change your attitude isn't going to make you change your attitude. But if you try and see things more positively, things will go better.
It's a lot a matter of perspective. I used to get down about my weight a lot too. I would work out and be diligent with my diet and at the end of the week, I'll have lost less than a pound. If you view it like that, like all this work and that's all I have to show for it, then you're going to be down about it. Rather, something people told me that made me feel much better about it was: "You didn't gain it all in a day. Don't expect to lose it all in a day, either." That really put everything more in perspective for me, personally. I had to realize that going on a weekly basis, the change is going to be very gradual, and there's not going to be any instant gratification. However, it's a matter of working for a period and then looking back. It's a really reflective process.
Last week, I only lost .2 kg, and I was pretty down about it. But there were two things I had to remind myself of to keep myself going. First was the fact that in the previous 2 weeks, I had lost 3 kg. So even if I hadn't lost a lot -that- week, I'd still lost something, and that's something I should have been proud of. The other thing I had to keep in mind is that it's an ongoing process. Just because I'd only lost .2 kg -that- week didn't mean I was never going to lose anymore. In fact, I've lost almost another whole kilo from there. But I had to stick with it. I couldn't quit. If I had quit, I could easily have gone right back where I was. The moral here is that even if you only lose a little, or hell, even if you -gain-, slightly, quitting won't lose you any weight. Again, it's a matter of sticking with it. If you keep at your plan, no matter what the number on the scale, always think, whenever you have a tough workout or eat a less than satisfying meal, think to yourself, "I'm doing this for my health." Even if you don't get instant payoff, in the long-term, you definitely will if you're sticking with it.
One of the things that's really helped me on this site is the forums and friending people. Having people who are in the same boat as you builds a sense of comradely which can motivate you to continue. And hearing people who have been there and improved their lives can inspire you to want better for yourself. I see you have a number of posts, so you're most likely not a stranger, here. Use these tools to their full potential.
I want to say that you -can- do it. There isn't a single person out there who is incapable of losing weight. It may be more difficult for some than for others, but it is possible for anybody and everybody. But you have to start. Starting is the hardest part, but once you get started, it gets much easier down the road.
Maybe try starting with small goals. Adding onto what I said above about making small changes. So, tell yourself, I'm going to do something active today. Don't even think tomorrow and the next day and so on. Just say to yourself that you'll do it today. Then when you're finished, promise yourself you'll do the same tomorrow. End your day with that same promise.
I know I kinda went all over the place with this post. But to recap:
Make small changes
Set small goals
Try to change your attitude
Try and see it a different way
Use this site as a resource
Make and keep promises to yourself
Stick with it
Don't stop for any minor setbacks
Just do it
You CAN do it! Best of luck! I hope to see you giving it your best effort very soon!0 -
<- older than you
<- failed more often
<- as much to lose
<- done it
<- got a lot of help. I got a referral from my doctor.
<- made one small change at a time
Two things to do with your family. Set boundaries and tell them to get out of your business. Then when you are ready to make some changes, do it for yourself. Privately.0 -
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Atkins...Atkins....Atkins0
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You CAN do it.
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1080242/a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants/p1
^Good place to start.
Don't listen to what others have to say about your diet, because guess what, everyone has an opinion. You do you, let them do them.
Read this link, then read it again, and again. Think of this as a learning process, have fun with it. Don't make it a chore. I love reading MFP and have learned so much by spending time on here, there is no better place to start then reading this link
Here is another great link: I know it seems like a lot of reading, but it will be worth it!
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1296011/calorie-counting-101/p10 -
One of the most challenging ways to approach weight loss, in terms of long term success, is to hate the process. If you're hating the process and feeling discouraged, try to find changes you don't hate and that you can enjoy. Build slowly on small successes.0
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Your mind is limiting your body. You can get healthy if you convince your mind that this is the right thing. It won't be easy. Sometimes it'll just plain suck. You'll get hungry, cranky, sweaty, and sore, but that's ok. Every little change is a step in the right direction. Take it day by day. Start every morning being positive about this experience, "today, I will eat healthy, today I will take a walk, today I will drink water instead of soda." It doesn't have to be a huge change every day.0
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I am not a frequent contributor but when I am feeling the need for motivation I spend some time on here reading people's big and little success stories. It really, really helps me to get myself headed back in the right direction. I have a lot to lose as well but I am working on ten pound goals one at a time. I reached the first one and am working on another. Even if it takes a year I am determined to get to a healthy weight and MFP is one of the things I use to help me succeed. You really can do it!0
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Saying you can't do it is a self fulfilling prophecy.0
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I have to count every carb that goes in my mouth because I am a diabetic. It got easier as time goes on. I've been on my journey since December and I've lost at least 51 pounds. The longer I've been trying the less hungry I get. People say when you change your behavior after a week it becomes habit. I'm setting small goals for myself so I don't get overwhelmed because I have over 200 pounds to lose. It would be depressing if I looked at the whole picture. Don't listen to negativity from people. Just focus on yourself. 0
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I tried for like 7 years and the scale kept creeping up.... and then something clicked. For me, it was making a definitive decision to do this thing- and do it right. No more "I'm eating only raw foods" no more "i'm getting up at 4 am to work out for two hours before work".... i decided to do something reasonable, sustainable, and honest. I counted calories, I kept tabs on my exercise, and I made it balance out. When the scale started to go down, i felt rewarded. I kept that pattern going. If I was invited out for pizza, I planned in advance- how much pizza was I going to eat? How many calories over my goal was that? How far do i need to run/walk to make it balance out? ...that's what I did. And it worked like a charm and in about 5 months I lost 30 lbs that I was (at one point) convinced I would never lose.
You can do it.0 -
Knowledge is king. Your body can't keep the fat if you eat at a deficit. Cravings can be tough, but only caving will make it difficult to lose weight. People can be stupid, and carbs do not make you fat, too many calories make you fat. Punch them in the face to get out some frustration!0
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Every single time you say "I can't," say "I won't" instead, and see how your attitude changes.
You can't lose weight? No, you won't lose weight.
You can't stop yourself from eating over your calorie goals? No, you won't stop yourself from eating over your calorie goals.
The only person standing in your way is you, period.0 -
I'm a bread monster I absolutely love it! But it's no good for me and I've discovered that I actually enjoy eating other things instead. I'm trying to re-train my mind to eat more good fat and cut the carbs down. Do it for yourself and don't let your families unhelpful comments put you off. Take care of yourself and don't go on a diet just change some old habits. That's what I'm attempting to do lol0
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Since I started my new lifestyle earlier this year, there have been many many times I got discouraged and was ready to throw in the towel, but I continued to log every single day, and move a little more each month.
I am a carbaholic too One interesting thing I learned was if you only change your habits by 100 calories a day (one slice of bread).... That alone will give you about a pound loss per month.... Or 12 pounds by the end of the year. But just think, saving 250 calories a day will equal around 2 pounds per month or. 24 pounds a year..... 500 will give you a magical 1 pound per week..., 52 pounds in a year. Start small. I did and I know you can too 
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