cooking got picky eaters
Romyarts2014
Posts: 201 Member
Hey guys,
So dinner time is getting pretty boring
My man doesn't like veggies. He literally has me cook fried chicken , gyros wraps, fries, pizza, fried snacks, burgers everyyyydayy. As well as the kids, they are still young 1 & 3 the oldest loves spinach with potatoes so we make that for them at least 2 times a week and it's really just about all the veggies I can get into them.
I am the kind of girl who would love to eat a baked potato with a steak and some green beans.
He just wants meat
The girls just want meat (and the youngest is getting even more picky on that)
I don't know what to do. We are about to move into our new home . Would like to get us all on a healthier eating lifestyle.
I have talked to my hubby about other things I can make for him that include veggies
His answer
Yeah just see if you can find a recipe with some meat... than I say with what veggies
He says none. Sometimes a paprika and maybe some onion.
I am Def at my end. I would love to eat healthier again but I also don't feel like cooking two meals
Thanks
So dinner time is getting pretty boring
My man doesn't like veggies. He literally has me cook fried chicken , gyros wraps, fries, pizza, fried snacks, burgers everyyyydayy. As well as the kids, they are still young 1 & 3 the oldest loves spinach with potatoes so we make that for them at least 2 times a week and it's really just about all the veggies I can get into them.
I am the kind of girl who would love to eat a baked potato with a steak and some green beans.
He just wants meat
The girls just want meat (and the youngest is getting even more picky on that)
I don't know what to do. We are about to move into our new home . Would like to get us all on a healthier eating lifestyle.
I have talked to my hubby about other things I can make for him that include veggies
His answer
Yeah just see if you can find a recipe with some meat... than I say with what veggies
He says none. Sometimes a paprika and maybe some onion.
I am Def at my end. I would love to eat healthier again but I also don't feel like cooking two meals
Thanks
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Don't make two meals! Prepare a meal for the family, with protein and vegie sides. Your husband can either eat them or make his own alternatives. Your kids can learn to expand their palates - they won't starve!
Get creative with the sides - mixed roast vegies, pan fried Brussels or Cabbage with bacon, grilled Mediterranean style vegies, interesting salads, steamed vegies drizzled with cheesy sauce..
Or dishes that incorporate everything meat/vegie curry or stew, or bolognese sauce (served with cauliflower rice or steamed greens), soups, frittata, filo parcels, homemade vegie pizza with salad, homemade burgers and baked fries etc...0 -
Broccoli in a cheese sauce made with low fat milk. Sauté broccoli in a little butter add a little flour cheese then milk in that order. Thickens into a tasty low cal cheese sauce. My four year old gobbles it up. I use frozen or fresh broccoli. Tbsp of butter and flour for 4 servings of broccoli. Salt to taste.0
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Spouse;
Here is dinner, eat it or go hungry, your choice.
Don't like it, make you own.
Children;
You have no choice at all, you eat what is served, or go hungry.0 -
Cook for the health of your kids, hubby sounds lost.0
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Romyarts2014 wrote: »Hey guys,
So dinner time is getting pretty boring
My man doesn't like veggies. He literally has me cook fried chicken , gyros wraps, fries, pizza, fried snacks, burgers everyyyydayy. As well as the kids, they are still young 1 & 3 the oldest loves spinach with potatoes so we make that for them at least 2 times a week and it's really just about all the veggies I can get into them.
I am the kind of girl who would love to eat a baked potato with a steak and some green beans.
He just wants meat
The girls just want meat (and the youngest is getting even more picky on that)
I don't know what to do. We are about to move into our new home . Would like to get us all on a healthier eating lifestyle.
I have talked to my hubby about other things I can make for him that include veggies
His answer
Yeah just see if you can find a recipe with some meat... than I say with what veggies
He says none. Sometimes a paprika and maybe some onion.
I am Def at my end. I would love to eat healthier again but I also don't feel like cooking two meals
Thanks
How does he literally have you make fried chicken , gyros wraps, fries, pizza, fried snacks, burgers everyyyydayy. that's a lot of food to cook every single day0 -
The only veggies my husband eats are pizza sauce, spaghetti sauce, ketchup, and mashed potatoes.
We still make one meal but the three of us (we have a daughter) eat different amounts of each dish. For example, we might have chicken and mashed potatoes and peas and salad. He'll eat chicken and a lot of mashed potatoes. I will chicken and peas and salad. Our daughter will eat two bites of chicken and a boat load of peas and salad.
If he is hungry later, he makes something for himself.0 -
beemerphile1 wrote: »Spouse;
Here is dinner, eat it or go hungry, your choice.
Don't like it, make you own.
Children;
You have no choice at all, you eat what is served, or go hungry.
Yep.0 -
Agree with the above. I would just make dinner (if you're looking for good recipes check out Skinnytaste.com) and if he doesn't like it, well then he can make something else. My son is a super picky eater (he's 1.5) but I Just give him what we have and if he doesn't eat it, he doesn't eat it. He drinks his milk and eats a lot during the day so he's not starving.0
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I make one main entree for a meal, and always provide a simple veggie and fresh fruit on the side. The kids know their dinner needs to always include the veggie & fruit (if they want a treat or any extras), and to at least try the entree. My husband is a healthy eater, but doesn't necessarily want "a little of everything" at mealtimes. My kids like their veggies simple- raw carrots & dip, plain (finely chopped) spinach salad w/dressing, broccoli & cheese, or in soups.0
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Acg67, nice helpful comment. Obviously she doesn't fix all of that every day. Hopefully this was an attempt at you being funny.
Romyarts2014, I had a similar dilemma with my husband, except that he loved pasta in addition to meat. Fortunately, a work trip to Japan where he had no choice in what was available to eat - and that included plenty of odd veggies - completely changed that as he eats about anything now.
The kids at 1 & 3 shouldn't be directing what you fix. I agree with posters above that say they will eat what you have or go hungry. It's hard the first few times, but eventually they will find they like other things, but as long as they can get away with choosing what they want, they have the upper hand. I will also say if possible, get them to help pick the produce when you shop & participate in cooking. The 3 yr old should be able to help rinse the veggies, put the pieces that you cut in a pan, etc. It takes patience, but kids who help cook actually are more inclined to eat what they fix. Go through recipe sites & magazines to find other ways to serve veggies or sneak them into food they like...many recipes have finely chopped or pureed veggies added into the sauce, etc. Boiled mushy broccoli is about the worst but I found that sauteeing it in a bit of olive oil & low sodium teriyaki sauce made it fabulous.
As for hubs, before the Japan trip, I fixed what he wanted & used the meat more as a side dish for me. I just made the veggies that I loved. Fix the fried chicken, just don't fry your piece...cook it in the pan before you add the oil for his. Make side dishes you love & use his main course as your side. Hopefully if the kids start trying things, he will too. If not, you can still eat healthy without too much extra effort. That extra effort is worth it for your family's health.
Good luck!0 -
honestly, I don't think there's any point forcing foods on a grown man. I know it's hard but you're not responsible for his health- if he wants to eat those foods that's his choice. I would keep cooking the same for him. It's possible that in time he may decide he wants to try some of the yummy, healthy things he sees you and your children eating. In my experience though, essentially nagging him to eat better is going to send him down the path of greater resistance..
In terms of the kids, though, I would be including more of the veggies, fruits and 'healthy' foods that they already enjoy (eg. spinach, potatoes..) by incorporating them into slightly different meals. I would also look into the recipe books which are designed to 'hide' veggies in the food if you need a way to ease them in to it. ETA: agree with the idea of getting the kids involved, I took this out of my original post because I wasn't sure if they were old enough but even if they pick out a fruit at the market simply because they like the colour, they're more likely to try and enjoy it instead of feeling like it's a chore. Obvious but it's worth asking them what their fave fruits and veggies are or what they like the look of (might even work with the hubby :P )
This doesn't really save you on the having to cook several meals front though. Preparation is key for this- I'd batch cook things to refrigerate or freeze for either him or you and the kids so you can just nuke them in the microwave or whatever. Not to be rude but things like fried chicken, fries, pizza, burgers don't really take much preparation or could be prepared in advance and then shoved in the oven or whatever.. it's more of a matter of time management IMO.
good luck
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beemerphile1 wrote: »Spouse;
Here is dinner, eat it or go hungry, your choice.
Don't like it, make you own.
Children;
You have no choice at all, you eat what is served, or go hungry.
Absolutely!!! My hubby knows I cook what I like to eat, and it is healthier, if he cooks I know it's unhealthy/crap. If my children (17 & 10) don't like what I'm cooking they go without, the only concession I make is that I will cook extra types of veg so we all get what we want/like. My family has always been told you will eat what you are given and be grateful. Once your children are of school age then they are too old to be pandered to, give them what you want them to eat and don't allow any snacks/treats if they're not eating proper food.0 -
beemerphile1 wrote: »Spouse;
Here is dinner, eat it or go hungry, your choice.
Don't like it, make you own.
Children;
You have no choice at all, you eat what is served, or go hungry.
Yep.
Yes. This!
One compromise that could work: grilling! I grill almost every day. It gives the food a ton of flavor and a lot of the fat is drained off.
I love grilling steak with only salt, chicken breast can even be grilled from frozen, marinated, dry-rubs etc... and still be healthy.
I have two young kids. For dinner they get whatever protein we are having and a TON of cut up fresh vegetables. (They don't like cooked, but love raw) and I put the same vegetables in our salads anyway. Then, they get a starchy side like rice, quinoa, couscous.
If they don't want to eat what we are eating, they don't get a new plate with other choices. I think that just breeds picky-ness .
And, please don't take this the wrong way, same goes for your H. If you are going to ask a veggie hater, which side vegetable he wants, of course he is going to say "none"
Don't ask him!
Find great new ways to cook vegetables and put them on the plate!
If he doesn't like them, well nothing has changed. But if he does, then it is a win-win.
One thing that I've found in feeding my kids is that just because they don't like a certain item once (fish, carrots, broccoli etc...) doesn't mean that they will never eat it -- chances are that they don't care for the way it was prepared that time.
Find new ways to cook and offer it again. Then, repeat. Yes, it is a lot of work. But I think it is very important to expose young palettes to diversity.
For your kids, checkout some library books like Weelicious, Tyler Florence's Fresh Start and The Sneaky Chef -- these give great ideas on how to get toddlers to eat more fruits and veggies -- and hey! it could work on your H too!!!
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Can your husband do grilling instead of you cooking it? This will solve lots of problems. You can cook the healthy sides and he can cook grilled meat (that you've marinated overnight, etc.). No two dinners. Problem solved.
I use allrecipes.com for my marinade ideas and even baking ideas. They have every category of food you can think of. Don't use their app, just use the website. It is free and you can even start a "recipe box" on the website and save any recipe that you think is interesting. Lots of feedback on the various recipes too. Good luck!0 -
I agree with making a meal and having everyone eat the amounts of each side that they prefer. He can make something to snack on later if he's still hungry.0
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I think he's a lost cause. Let him eat what he wants. He might smarten up after his first heart attack. I know a few men who have.
Now you can cook the meat, or he can prepare it on the grill, and you can prepare other sides for yourself and your children to enjoy. I love some of the ideas presented above.
I would also gradually reduce the frying, switching to breaded and baked in the oven, switching to panko bread crumbs and so on. I've done this with hubby and he proudly pats his slimming stomach, crediting my healthy cooking. He acts like such a saint, eating better because of me.
You might tempt him with a salad once in a while by adding bacon bits or cheese. That's what the restaurants do. But let's not make this a point of contention in your marriage. You're not trying to "fix" him and as soon as he gets that straight, the better.0 -
skinny taste has fantastic recipes. something maybe you all can agree on0
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cook a main dish, and add sides. The sides are optional.0
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Bottom line is children are so impressionable and eating their vegetables is so important for them! They lead by example and sadly due to your husbands expression of not liking them or expression of not having to eat them has lead the children to be picky at 1 & 3 which is just unacceptable to me. I would cook the meat or have him grill and try to experiment with different variations of sides and vegetables made different ways until you come up with new favorites~whether he cares to try them or not. For example, my daughter will eat raw carrots dipped in hummus or dressing, but may not care for steamed carrots, but just loves carrots from a can sprinkled with a little cinnamon sugar. Now she asks for those all of the time! Try slight variations til you come up with winners. Mini corn on the cob with corn holders (fun favorite). You get the idea Their future health will thank you for it. 0
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Acg67, nice helpful comment. Obviously she doesn't fix all of that every day. Hopefully this was an attempt at you being funny.
Romyarts2014, I had a similar dilemma with my husband, except that he loved pasta in addition to meat. Fortunately, a work trip to Japan where he had no choice in what was available to eat - and that included plenty of odd veggies - completely changed that as he eats about anything now.
The kids at 1 & 3 shouldn't be directing what you fix. I agree with posters above that say they will eat what you have or go hungry. It's hard the first few times, but eventually they will find they like other things, but as long as they can get away with choosing what they want, they have the upper hand. I will also say if possible, get them to help pick the produce when you shop & participate in cooking. The 3 yr old should be able to help rinse the veggies, put the pieces that you cut in a pan, etc. It takes patience, but kids who help cook actually are more inclined to eat what they fix. Go through recipe sites & magazines to find other ways to serve veggies or sneak them into food they like...many recipes have finely chopped or pureed veggies added into the sauce, etc. Boiled mushy broccoli is about the worst but I found that sauteeing it in a bit of olive oil & low sodium teriyaki sauce made it fabulous.
As for hubs, before the Japan trip, I fixed what he wanted & used the meat more as a side dish for me. I just made the veggies that I loved. Fix the fried chicken, just don't fry your piece...cook it in the pan before you add the oil for his. Make side dishes you love & use his main course as your side. Hopefully if the kids start trying things, he will too. If not, you can still eat healthy without too much extra effort. That extra effort is worth it for your family's health.
Good luck!
Oh, she when she said that she does, she was lying?0 -
Acg67, nice helpful comment. Obviously she doesn't fix all of that every day. Hopefully this was an attempt at you being funny.
Romyarts2014, I had a similar dilemma with my husband, except that he loved pasta in addition to meat. Fortunately, a work trip to Japan where he had no choice in what was available to eat - and that included plenty of odd veggies - completely changed that as he eats about anything now.
The kids at 1 & 3 shouldn't be directing what you fix. I agree with posters above that say they will eat what you have or go hungry. It's hard the first few times, but eventually they will find they like other things, but as long as they can get away with choosing what they want, they have the upper hand. I will also say if possible, get them to help pick the produce when you shop & participate in cooking. The 3 yr old should be able to help rinse the veggies, put the pieces that you cut in a pan, etc. It takes patience, but kids who help cook actually are more inclined to eat what they fix. Go through recipe sites & magazines to find other ways to serve veggies or sneak them into food they like...many recipes have finely chopped or pureed veggies added into the sauce, etc. Boiled mushy broccoli is about the worst but I found that sauteeing it in a bit of olive oil & low sodium teriyaki sauce made it fabulous.
As for hubs, before the Japan trip, I fixed what he wanted & used the meat more as a side dish for me. I just made the veggies that I loved. Fix the fried chicken, just don't fry your piece...cook it in the pan before you add the oil for his. Make side dishes you love & use his main course as your side. Hopefully if the kids start trying things, he will too. If not, you can still eat healthy without too much extra effort. That extra effort is worth it for your family's health.
Good luck!
Oh, she when she said that she does, she was lying?
I can't tell if you are joking or not. But I believe she meant he wanted one of those foods every day, not every single one of them every day. So, by "literally", she mean "figuratively."0 -
You shouldn't have to cook multiple meals, this is ridiculous. He is your husband not your child. If he doesn't like what you make, he can get off his butt and help.
Unfortunately kids are harder, I know I was a PITA when I was a kid. My mom just tried different preparations of different vegetables until found something I liked.0 -
Thank you all for the advice .
I am going to be more strict on the girls and there intake.
My hubby can't deal with eggs, mashed potatoes hates milk hates yoghurt... even if I make shakes I need to drain all the pulp in there left from the fruit. If I make chilli have to drain all just the juice.... going to go shopping today see if I can find some barbeque recipes . But I will Def at least be making sides for me and the kids and will try to keep getting him vitamins and so in0 -
Romyarts2014 wrote: »Hey guys,
So dinner time is getting pretty boring
My man doesn't like veggies. He literally has me cook fried chicken , gyros wraps, fries, pizza, fried snacks, burgers everyyyydayy. As well as the kids, they are still young 1 & 3 the oldest loves spinach with potatoes so we make that for them at least 2 times a week and it's really just about all the veggies I can get into them.
I am the kind of girl who would love to eat a baked potato with a steak and some green beans.
He just wants meat
The girls just want meat (and the youngest is getting even more picky on that)
I don't know what to do. We are about to move into our new home . Would like to get us all on a healthier eating lifestyle.
I have talked to my hubby about other things I can make for him that include veggies
His answer
Yeah just see if you can find a recipe with some meat... than I say with what veggies
He says none. Sometimes a paprika and maybe some onion.
I am Def at my end. I would love to eat healthier again but I also don't feel like cooking two meals
Thanks
How does he literally have you make fried chicken , gyros wraps, fries, pizza, fried snacks, burgers everyyyydayy. that's a lot of food to cook every single day
Lol not all that food in one day
One night pizza
One night wraps
One night fried snacks and fries0 -
I'm married to a 62 year old perfectionist. Not only does it have to be on 'his' menu, but it has to be fixed exactly the same way each time. Don't let it get to where I am!
On the upside I don't cook for him any more. I fix what I eat and if he wants some of it there's enough. If he doesn't, well I don't have to worry about packing lunch the next day.
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Romyarts2014 wrote: »Thank you all for the advice .
I am going to be more strict on the girls and there intake.
My hubby can't deal with eggs, mashed potatoes hates milk hates yoghurt... even if I make shakes I need to drain all the pulp in there left from the fruit. If I make chilli have to drain all just the juice.... going to go shopping today see if I can find some barbeque recipes . But I will Def at least be making sides for me and the kids and will try to keep getting him vitamins and so in
He must be of royal lineage, or at least thinks he is royalty, or is he just a royal pain? 0 -
livingleanlivingclean wrote: »Don't make two meals! Prepare a meal for the family, with protein and vegie sides. Your husband can either eat them or make his own alternatives. Your kids can learn to expand their palates - they won't starve!
Get creative with the sides - mixed roast vegies, pan fried Brussels or Cabbage with bacon, grilled Mediterranean style vegies, interesting salads, steamed vegies drizzled with cheesy sauce..
Or dishes that incorporate everything meat/vegie curry or stew, or bolognese sauce (served with cauliflower rice or steamed greens), soups, frittata, filo parcels, homemade vegie pizza with salad, homemade burgers and baked fries etc...
This. Your husband doesn't like anything you make, and is super picky? You can set boundaires! Tell him to start cooking for himself! Geez...do we live in the 1940s here?0 -
Romyarts2014 wrote: »Thank you all for the advice .
I am going to be more strict on the girls and there intake.
My hubby can't deal with eggs, mashed potatoes hates milk hates yoghurt... even if I make shakes I need to drain all the pulp in there left from the fruit. If I make chilli have to drain all just the juice.... going to go shopping today see if I can find some barbeque recipes . But I will Def at least be making sides for me and the kids and will try to keep getting him vitamins and so in
Wow. Just...wow. I would never put up with that. Girl...make him grow up!
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Lol ,
He's just a picky eater. And he can't stand the taste of the other things and won't force it down his throat. Just want alternatives I can give to him. I'm old fashioned I like to cook for my man and the kids. He is Def picky. But also stubborn. If I am not cooking he will probably heat himself some noodles lmao...
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