WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2015

Yay! I figured out how to select all and cut from my iPad when I accidentally quote a post (or two or three). I love reading on my iPad, but sometimes my accidentally quoting gets on my last nerve.

Renny Happy Birthday to you!!!!!!!!!!

Mary hope move continues to go well.

MNMargaret

Renny - very many happy returns for tomorrow! :flowerforyou: You young thing, you! :laugh:

Margaret - that medal presentation is great. My mother gave my grandfather's medals to my brother, but I don't think he has looked after them properly. I'd be surprised if they are safe. My grandfather won a DCM for valour and he lost a leg in the trenches. I would love to display the medals properly.
The old houses you have been seeing are gorgeous.

I have been reading the tales of difficult marriages with interest and sympathy. What travails of many different kinds so many of us have been through. If it teaches us anything it is for each of us to believe in our own worth. Group hug. ((((HUG))))

Love Heather UK. DHjust returned!

Well I know I posted Saturday, but today it is gone. I do wounder where they go. I have no idea what I posted sorry. I traded to get yesterday off so DH and I could go to a bikers church service in Albion (about 70 miles). They have this once a year and after service they have a dinner then we went on a mystery ride of about 100 miles. They gave us a list of things to find and we fill in the sheet to where they were at. There were 4 of us on our team and it was alot of fun. We didn't win for time, but we had fun. Then when we got back to the church they had apple pie and homemade ice cream. I had alittle of each. Today I am at work and work Monday -Thursday, off Friday and work Saturday. My friend who's husband got sick, he passed away Saturday morning. The funeral is tomorrow and I have someone coming in to cover so I can go to the service. Tonight after work DH and I will go to visitation. I am worried about my friend. Then this evening DH and I are working the firework stand 7-9. It is for the Cosmpo group. Last year I did enjoy the evening we worked, but it just gets to me the money people spend on them, just to blow them up. Last evening when we got home the kids around our house were shooting them off and my dogs go nuts barking and do not want to go outside. I will be so glad when this week is over.

Pip--Enjoying the pictures, Thanks for sharing. Your poem to Lenny was very heart felt. Your wedding day poem was very touching, you have a special gift with words.

Sylvia--So glad you and the DGC were not hurt. Know how scary that can be. When that guy ran the red light and hit me I had my DGD in the back seat. When the air bag went off I could not see anything, but hear her crying. Thank God we were not hurt, just banged up. Sure hope you feel better soon, feeling out of control is not an easy thing to handle. I am like you and can not cry most the time.

Heather--Sorry to hear about your train trip. Love the picture. I can tell they are family.

Joyce--Sounds like an awesome funeral. Positive memories is the best gift we can give anyone.

Carol-Peach--Sending HUGs!!

Welcome to all the new comers. You have come to a great place. Come often and get to know us, this is a fantastic group for friendship and support.

Allison--Sending HUGS!! Know you are better then that and I care very much about you.

Teri--Sounds like you had a great time.

Margaret--Thanks for sharing the pictures. I love old houses and hope I can get a loin someday soon.

katiebug--I thought the red door was for luck and health.

Nancy--Hugs!! So glad you are doing so much better now.

Mai--Glad to hear you are getting things sorted out deciding what to do with things.

Lisa--I am so looking forward to the next book, I enjoyed the first one and I admit I did not see that ending coming.

Happy Birthday Renny and Allison. Do something special for yourselves.

Am feeling kind of funky today, Can't put my finger on it, so hoping to get to bed early after we are done at the fireworks stand. Thanks for all the sharing and caring. I love this group.
Blessings, Vicki GI NE

Sorry, this is a rant and rave, so if you don't want to hear it, skip over it.

What does one do, when DDnL comes in to your home and tells you to tell "your" husband NOT to make, jokingly or otherwise, any remark to a "Freshman 15+" college DGD and he says he hasn't. Admittedly the first time she came home (and had put on a few pounds, he did kid her about watching out for her weight). Easy to put on, had to take off and she is only 5'-nothing (as she says). Built like both her great-grandmothers on both sides of the family. Puts me on the spot. This DDnL is 'never' ever wrong, it (whatever 'it' is), is always someone else's fault, never hers, never ever says, "I did not know that ... I'm wrong, I made a mistake, please forgive me, I spoke out of 'turn' . . .". I'm made to feel as if I am the 'fire-breathing dragon MnL from Hell'. They live next door; I don't go there unless invited except to get in a pool that DH and I paid 1/2 on (for DGDs). She is, herself, very over-weight and has been since her first child was born - never lost her pregnancy weight and has a sweet tooth that is unbelievable. Won't even stop buying 'junk food' even though youngest DGS is overweight - for her age and Pediatrician has put her 'on a diet' before. Seem upset that I am 'on a strict diet and I have been having success at this'. DOS has paid for her to 'go to various diet places' and she has given up every time. I'm dipping into my savings in order to go through his 'medically necessary weight loss' plan in order to bring down cholesterol (very high); because I am allergic to any of the well-known lowering meds that are on the market.

What to do when DOS (who works for him - DH) '*kitten*' about his wife, to him; and, he (DH) brings it home to me to *kitten* about. DDNL calls DOS several times an hour - to ask, 'what are you doing'? WORKING, dammit, I'll see you when I get home. We can talk about it then. I can look at him (DH) and tell what type of day he is having or had. I give him a lot of room, to work it out and hopefully, when he comes in and takes a shower - his pissiness has passed. I've told him, 'tell DOS to handle it'. She's HIS wife - we're not his sounding board - but, we are - but as soon as we say anything that he takes as being a 'negative' point - he takes up for her. But, DH is passive (sometimes 'passive/aggressive') and he says, he can't say anything to DOS because 'DOS loves her, don't 'cha know' and if he does he will never speak to us and we won't be able to see our DGDs. And then DOS with call his brother and then they won't speak to us either ... is that what I really want?" She has made the comment to me before, 'that she knows if I did not like her, I'd run her off with a stick.' WHERE THE HELL IS THAT DAMN STICK? This and other personal things gets plastered all over 'social networking site' that I deleted because of her (mainly). OH $#*T - what am I doing? ... the same thing? I never know which side of the bed she has woken up on or what, if anything or 'injustice' - God Forbid - her boss has dumped on her? She left this job and because at the 'new' one, she could not pass a required testing; and went back to him. Says that 'if' she ever left - they would 'go under'. I've said, 'never say, never - everybody is expendable. Just to prove a point - stick your finger into a bowl of water and see how quickly it gets filled once you pull your finger out. Might make waves ... but when you get 'fired' again (or sent home because of a posting made on FB during work hours, you'll find yourself without work; and you won't be able to 'buy' a good referral for another job. Sometimes when working you work for someone who will take advantage of you, knowing you don't have the skills to work someplace else at a higher rate of pay than what is being made, now.

She has convinced DOS that we love our DYS more than we do him - not true. Love them equally, just differently because they are polar opposites. They have always had a very close relationship; although oldest son always fusses about being 'identified' as "DYS's brother". You'd think at times we were raising Cain & Able. DOS has ALWAYS been his 'Daddy's boy' and DYS has always been 'not a Mama's boy, in the sense of being a Mama's boy - just had to keep a close eye on him because he is 'not afraid of anything' not really a 'dare-devil' so to speak; just won't back down about things. I lost a baby during 5th month of pregnancy before DOS was born. We never hid that fact from either of them. DOS would ask, 'if you had not lost that first baby, would I have been born'? Impossible question - how do you ever expect me to answer that? You are here because God put you here; maybe I wasn't prepared to have a baby at that time in my life.

Sorry - I just had to get it OFF my chest - I've cried all day about it. On top of that I woke up this AM sick as a dog; have a UTI. Medicine, can't start working quick enough. I now have to laugh - to keep from crying some more. Just very pensive at this moment. I know that she is 'one' if not the 'biggest' [no pun intended] 'stressor' I have - which is not good for my Bipolar disorder. Round and round we go, I'd like to step away from this Carousal for a while - but I think I have a shoe string caught in it.

Today I am definitely on a roll, as ... SLUTS

Marvelous Monday to All. Welcome Newbies. Happy Birthday, Renny.

Thank you for the support and caring shared here. Sorry to hear some others went through similar painful situations. There is actually a term for that situation: Parental Alienation.

Anyway, I'm feeling much better. The IBS subsided and my energy has returned. The scale was down 0.8 lb. this am. I've been up and down on the same 1 or 1.5 lbs. for the past 2 weeks. Only -1.5 lb. to go and I'll no longer be in the dreaded obese category. I'm really motivated to keep it going. Really want to accomplish it this week.

At 6 pm CT tonight, I'm starting to make up the 135 minutes of walking that I was physically unable to do because of the health challenges last week. Since I only need to do slow steady cardio (50-65% MHR), I'm splitting it into 2 sessions. Will do 70 mins. tonight and 65 mins. tomorrow. Will also make sure I get my usual 240 total minutes of walking in this week.

Charm4u76132 wrote: »

Marvelous Monday to All. Welcome Newbies. Happy Birthday, Renny.

Thank you for the support and caring shared here. Sorry to hear some others went through similar painful situations. There is actually a term for that situation: Parental Alienation.

Anyway, I'm feeling much better. The IBS subsided and my energy has returned. The scale was down 0.8 lb. this am. I've been up and down on the same 1 or 1.5 lbs. for the past 2 weeks. Only -1.5 lb. to go and I'll no longer be in the dreaded obese category. I'm really motivated to keep it going. Really want to accomplish it this week.

At 6 pm CT tonight, I'm starting to make up the 135 minutes of walking that I was physically unable to do because of the health challenges last week. Since I only need to do slow steady cardio (50-65% MHR), I'm splitting it into 2 sessions. Will do 70 mins. tonight and 65 mins. tomorrow. Will also make sure I get my usual 240 total minutes of walking in this week.

Thank you - I knew someone would have an answer for me. "Parental Alienation". That's a good one; I'll have to remember that one.

Tuesday here in Tasmania and shopping day, need to take care as only $200 in grocery account bah!
7the day of juicing and today's is "Asthma Help", lemon juice, tomato and melon.
Need to buy more fruit for juicing as going fine
Only walking to0day, shopping and dog walk this afternoon
Food = 1636 cals OK, tracking food, exercise and household stuff IS helping

Hi all, First time here. Will try to keep up with the conversations.... Because of health issues, am having
difficulty now figuring what to eat and it's playing havoc with my past weight loss (now wt. gain!).

Mia in MI. Congratulations!!! Thank you so much for sharing about unpacking and reorganizing your home.

True Confessions Time Here, Too.

I have moved several times in the past 10 years due to job changes. The past few times, I just stopped unpacking boxes. Moved again this past Feb. but have barely unpacked. Currently have about 20 medium size boxes stacked against the living room side wall. Another small stack near the kitchen. 2 full boxes next to the TV. 2 more hidden in my bedroom closet. Unfortunately, my bathroom counter and kitchen island are completely cluttered and it looks like a bomb went off.

Part of this is obviously procrastination on my part. Some of it has truly been a physical lack of energy (confirmed by my hormone blood test and discussion with my physician). Some of it has been that I hardly have any furniture and only 2 closets in my lovely 1 bedroom apt. Although, I do have lots more cabinet space here than in other apts. Some of it has been that I went back to work on a very intense project. So, I'm working the usual 8 hours per day but also have just over a 2 hour commute each day. As of 6/1, my focus and energy is on my new health and fitness journey. So, I spend time several evenings making sure I get my 4 hours of walking completed every week. Relaxing is also now part of my agenda and I honestly don't want to spend my work day evenings working to unpack stuff.

1 month ago, I made great progress in the bathroom. I totally unpacked 4 bathroom boxes that were stuffed full of multiple personal items (various cosmetics, hair products, first aid supplies, etc.). I worked very hard for 12 hours straight one day and totally exhausted myself. Then I went to work on that Monday morning--but never finished the remaining tasks. I simply need to find places to put away the items that I wiped off and put all over the large bathroom counters, organized in groups (all make up together, hair care in another spot, etc.). There is one small plastic storage bin with assorted cosmetics that I need to sort through, wipe off and also put away. This doesn't sound like it should be that hard--or take that much time. However, I have not gotten back to it yet.

Worse is my kitchen. Barely unpacked anything. I need and want to wipe out the cabinets with lemon scented Lysol before putting away my kitchen items. However, this project never got started. I'm embarrassed to truthfully say that I have a large counter and sink full of dirty dishes. I definitely need to get my kitchen set up so I can be successful in my new and continuing journey back to health and fitness.

Also, I washed my sheets late last week. But then got sick on Thursday and have not even remade the bed yet! Will do that tonight and post my successful follow through here later.

Anyway, this work project is supposed to be completed the end of August and I will roll off (e.g., my contract job will be completed). So, I have decided to finish the bathroom and kitchen over the July 4th weekend. Also want to clean my apt. while I'm at it. The other boxes can wait until I'm finished with the work project and have time. Ultimate goal is to sort through every box, decide what to keep and what to donate. Don't think I have any items that need to be thrown away.

Fortunately, I live with my sweet Yorkie and she doesn't even know or care! Glad I can honestly share about this with all of you here.

Going to start my walking, so signing off for a bit. Thanks, Nancy in FW, TX

Good news,they shocked mom`s heart,normal rate and blood pressure.She lost a lot of the fluid.
Sounds good.Tx for the prayers and support.
hugs jane

Giggling at your dilemma, Nancy. Things just don't seem as important, do they!

stats for the day:
ride hm 2 gym - 10.24min, 17amph 2.9mi = 100c
spin - 41min, 85ar, 97aw, 10-15g, 17.2mi = 316c
ride gym - wk - 51.01min, 13.3amph, 11.3mi = 434c
ride dome 2 hm - 16.34min, 9.3amph, WINDY = 170c
total cal 1020

charm4u - as far as the stop/start/continue - i am at the point where i am on track so i guess i am in the continue mode, just keep doin what i'm doin. :0)

skeuhn - i'm from california, the central part. so i LOVE the heat, it doesn't bother me. i have been riding for a few years year round so i guess i'm just used to it, it's just what i do.

janemartin - sending positive thoughts and prayers for you and your mom

Thank you Margaret ... I'll write that one down. It is really, sometimes, hard not to 'bite' when I really want to physically bite. It was like a 'bomb' going off; did not expect her to just show up and drop that little nugget on me. By the time she got it 'out of her mouth' I was literally 'white knuckling' the kitchen counter. I think she realizes that she 'stresses me out' and tries to work it to her advantage. She has been rather 'divisive' in our family since they met and married 16 years ago. We've always been a close tightknit family unit. After a near-fatal auto accident; DOS told her that he wanted to wait for me to get a little better before introducing her to the family. She showed up and introduced herself as DOS's 'fiancée'. At that time, he was going through a divorce, not of his choosing really since he and his 'ex' had a young child. A couple of Thanksgivings ago, she and DOS were arguing in our house - I just dropped my head and shook it. She jumped up and ran out of the house saying as she went that I had said something. Son went after her and she went home in a huff. DOS came back in and said, 'see what you have done? Now what I am supposed to do?" I said, "GO HOME!" Come down later and you can take your Thanksgiving dinner home with you. DYS was not involved romantically with anyone at that time; and I heard from over the sofa; 'if THAT is what it is like to be married - I want no part of it'. Thankfully, when he did find that 'Ms. Right' he fell and fell hard. She is a lovely young lady. I emphasize 'lady'. But, in saying this ... I have 'let go' of my sons - they are ''grown" and on their own, with their own families. Sometimes I wonder 'what is the deal here'? I still think that family and in-laws ought to be required to live just out of walking-in room (for either of them). LOL! ". . . I'll think about that tomorrow ..." (Scarlett O'Hara)

Happy Birthday, Renny!