Love the Idea of losing weight but can't get myself to sacrafice for it

I had years of being unhappy with my weight and wanting badly to lose weight but not being able to make myself care enough to control myself. I am really not sure what clicked but it really is all about the headspace. Initially, you really do have to force yourself. I love this quote and I had it pinned on my office wall for the first few months when I started out... "A year from now, you will wish that you had started today".

shennin001 wrote: »

shennin001 wrote: »

I'm 28yrs and need to lose about 70-80lbs. I had a baby 3 months ago and was already 209lbs when i got prego. I day dream of how beautiful and great it's going to be when i lose weight, but i can't get myself to even do 2 days straight without of healthy eating without cheating. I know i can do this it's just so hard to start. Would love to know who's out there that's already past this stage or is like me and just getting started.

forget to mention im 130lbs now

lol what? I'm confused. Is 130 lbs your goal weight or what? anyways..you either want it or you don't. It's hard initially to say no, I just jumped back onto tracking calories again but what I found that helps is if you get creative in the kitchen with your food. Eat foods high in protein to have you feeling full longer..lower calorie alternatives to what you normally would eat. It really isn't that hard if you want it bad enough.

230lbs, I assume you mean?

Do it for your kid. Do you want to set your kid on the path to health? Then do it. Do you want to hug your grandbabies and play with them? Then do it. Do you want to be able to keep up with your kid when he's older? Then do it.

3 months is usually a great age to start to develop habits because you're less exhausted from taking care of the baby. Diet first, exercise second. Once you get in the habit of eating a MODEST deficit, start with daily walks in the stroller. Then go faster.

A lot of people find it rough to start any regular cardio program. It just seems so impossible to do a lot of the exercises. Leslie Sansone has a lot of "walking" workouts--she calls it that, but basically, they're steady-state calisthenics that are VERY low impact and don't make you get on the floor. If you can walk, you can do them. Even better, if you have a fussy kid, you can do most of the stuff WEARING the baby in a Mobiwrap!

I attended multiple slimming clubs from I was sixteen, on and off for years. I was always losing weight and gaining it back. I got so frustrated because it never seemed to get any easier. Losing weight and maintaining is always difficult for me.

Julie is right- it's all about the headspace. You need to have the right attitude. I lost a lot of weight two years ago and have put 10lbs back on. Be I think to myself 'I'm here, I'm trying'. Take it a day at a time.

What do

shennin001 wrote: »

I'm 28yrs and need to lose about 70-80lbs. I'm currently 230lbs and 5'5. I had a baby 3 months ago and was already 209lbs when i got prego. I day dream of how beautiful and great it's going to be when i lose weight, but i can't get myself to even do 2 days straight without cheating. I know i can do this it's just so hard to start. Would love to know who's out there that's already past this stage or is like me and just getting started.

How do you define cheating? I eat chips, chocolate, candy, you name it--and I still get where I want to go because I do it in moderation and it fits within my daily calorie allotment. And if you overdo it? Exercise! Balance the calories out. Make the commitment to living healthy and formulate goals. Set a realistic deficit and make the commitment to stick to it. Weigh and log everything you put into your mouth. The best motivation is seeing progress, so stick with it for a bit and enjoy the ride

Well I think success really depends on many factors.

When you first start off do you go crazy and eliminate everything all "bad" foods - sugar, fats, junk, carbs, etc? Just like how you don't start off running a 10k when you've never managed 100m, you should start off with baby steps. Start off cutting off or reducing your sugary drinks to 2-3 times a week if you drink it every, don't drink your calories! It's the easiest way!

Then try not to keep any junk foods in the house. This is because if you're used to eating mindlessly, you will try to 'make up' for the "lost" calories by snacking on junk for the sugar/salt high soft drinks gives you. By emptying out your pantry of junk, you will inconvenience yourself to have to get up, and go to a nearby store to buy it. It's a clever way of using our own laziness against ourselves.

If you can't do that, you can start by storing away ALL junk foods out of sight. Keep them in pantries, in opaque containers. This way when you're foraging for junk during one of your munchies, you have to go through all of these containers. More importantly, there is no visual cue to 'remind' you until you actually get a craving. Keep healthy food 'in sight' like fruit. It's easier to reach for an apple or a pear if it's sitting there.

Swaps! Try to swap one or two high calorie foods for low cal alternatives. If you like fried eggs, swap it to poached. If you have full fat ranch, swap it for balsamic. You don't have to swap EVERYTHING but start off small and slowly increase it as you go along, so you build a habit.

Start moving around more. The more sedentary you are, the less cal you burn! If you have not started building a gym habit, just try to move around more. Take the stairs more often. Fidget more. Aim to walk to a nearby store or park further away to walk to a store. If not, aim to go for a few casual walks with your baby - the greenery and fresh air is good for baby and you! Gym time doesn't necessarily mean you'll lose weight - a 45 min session can be destroyed by one chocolate bar, or a "healthy" smoothie.

If you cannot manage any of these - then you have to ask yourself - am I actually serious? Am I really so deep and set in my mindset that I cannot kickstart a small step? What do I really want to gain from this? Do I want to control my circumstances, or do I let my circumstances control me?

Sometimes, we just need a trigger. For some, it is being told by a doctor that they are diabetic and will have no choice but to spend the rest of our lives on a permanent diet whether we like it or not. Basically no control or choice on the pace you lose weight and get healthy. For others, it is being mocked by someone else in a mean, malicious manner. For others, their willpower and them tiring of their lifestyle is enough motivation.

So maybe time to ask yourself - what motivates you and what do you really want?

When you're ready, you'll do what needs to be done.

Simply tracking everything I eat caused me making better choices. I just weigh everything and track, I rarely censor what I am eating and I overate lots and lots of times before I really got involved with thinking about my diet, balancing things out with sport. I am loosing at a very slow rate (1-2ponds a month), but I don't feel rushed, even though I still have 40pounds+ to loose.

As someone stated above, what do you mean by cheating?

Maybe define what you're doing to cheat and see what you can do to help with that. For example, if you're eating a lot of junk food, maybe get rid of a bunch of it or ration small helpings of snacks in baggies ahead of time, instead of grabbing a hole box.

That is something I did when I was over 200lbs and it seemed to help a lot. You then can see how many snacks you're eating.

You can do it but you definitely have to be ready.