Love the Idea of losing weight but can't get myself to sacrafice for it

47Jacqueline wrote: »

When you're ready, you'll do what needs to be done.

This.

You can dream all you want, but unless you're ready to do whatever it takes, it's not going to happen.

You're not ready. When you've hit rock bottom and become desperate enough, it'll click and you'll do it.

In the meantime, I recommend you simply log what you eat (don't pay attention to the goals) for data purposes and then read the forums for a while and maybe something will click for you.

Oh, I have another tip!
If you can find a form of exercise you really enjoy then it won't feel as though you are making any sacrifices (and you get to eat more!)
It could be anything - learning a new skill like a new form of dancing, taking Baby swimming... anything... if you genuinely look forward to it, you'll want to do more of it :-)

While it is good to have an end goal, for me focusing on the smaller ones is what makes each hour, day, week, month easier to work through. Celebrate the small things... the first 5 pounds lost, or the first 10% of your weight gone, or the first mile you walk, or the first piece of birthday cake at work that you walk away from.

I can relate. Baby fat seems hard to purge. I have days where it seems like all I do is shovel food in my mouth. Before my last two pregnancies, I was a size 5. Now after having my twins in January, I'm still sporting maternity clothes and buying sizes alot larger than I want, and swimsuit? Yeah, right!. Its definitely depressing! This time, I am committed to losing the weight and getting my body back. Bob Harper said something on Rachel Ray the other day that really stuck, he was talking about moms and how we are focused on our kids and making sure everyone in our family is taken care of, and while we are doing that, we lose ourselves. But if we can't make time for us to get fit and in better shape, we are robbing them of something better. That really hit home to me because my days are spent running circles around my kids and husband and I make no time for me! Being the size I am now has affected almost every area of my life and I am to a point where I can't take it anymore. Its hard, I'll admit it. So far I'm making changes in everything my whole family eats. I've taken cookies, and sugary snacks off the grocery list. Its a weak spot for me because one cookie easily turns into 3, 4,5. There's been times where I've polished off a whole cake! Dinner for me is now a spinach salad with chicken and a light vinaigrette and two vegetables instead of pasta or rice loaded with stuff I can't pronounce. Hamburger Helper? Forget it! I've also turned into a label reader. I don't know if I have any tips to help you, but I'm in the same boat!

Nothing is going to change until you change.

Good luck!

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shennin001 wrote: »

SezxyStef wrote: »

define cheating on your diet?

That might be the issue...and not the cheat but how you view losing weight.

If you look at it as eating the foods you love and crave and want just in smaller portions and that you aren't cheating by eating that food it can help.

It sounds like you are over restricting your intake.

I have lost almost 60lbs...by eating regular foods like chicken, rice, pasta and yes even pizza, burgers, bacon, chocolate, beer....etc.

Check my diary it's all there....

Ok so cheating for me is both eating fast food and just over eating. I like the fact that you were able to lose weight and still eat some junk food like pizza (my fav).

yah don't let fast food scare you...just fit it in your calories...just make sure you aren't restricting too much.

I had pizza today for lunch and still have over 500 calories left to play with for dinner...

Just remember no food is bad just monitor the quantities and exercise for more calories to eat...it really is that easy.

There is a huge difference between wanting to be thin and wanting to do the work of losing weight.

At first, just honestly log. Spend a week or two logging every single thing you eat. That's it. That's all you have to do. No skipping any logging.

Then start adding things into your diet. Not subtracting or cutting back, but adding. Add eight glasses of water a day for a week. Then add a couple of servings of fruit and veggies every day for a week or two. Then add more fruits and veggies. Then add whole grain breads and pasta.

If you don't focus on taking things away and just focus on adding, I think it's easier. There's no cheating.

Remember, you really can't cheat, anyway. You do what you want to do, so even if you keep gaining, you're not cheating.

If it turns out that you don't want to this or some other way of losing, don't feel bad about it. You're just not ready. So enjoy eating yummy stuff. No guilt. You'll lose when you want to lose!

I get where you're coming from. Changing habits is hard at first. Counting calories is tedious, and disheartening when you realize you've hit your daily goal by lunch, and you're either going to fail the day, or be really hungry in the evening. So why even bother if you can't do it perfectly, right? This is not a winning mindset.

Start, just start. You will have failures; restart at the next meal. Make a deal with yourself that you'll commit to a full month of logging everything. Make a deal that you will have 5 of 7 days in the green, and that the overall week will balance. Once you start seeing the results in your clothes, on the scale, get asked if you've lost weight - that will all help you stay motivated.

I've been on MFP now since Jan 2013. I had a setback and am now having to re-lose the same pounds. I struggled with starting again this time around. And then somebody told me about dietbet. It was the kick in the *kitten* that I needed. Between counting calories with MFP and challenges on dietbet, I have lost 28 pounds since mid-March. Having reasonable goal weights to achieve by a deadline with my own money on the line? Oh ya, it's GAME ON! I've got staggered weigh-ins every week / week & a half so I can't procrastinate/find reasons to justify that cheeseburger. It's really been helping me stay focused, and seeing good results on the scale is addictive.

Good luck!

I started a few times too. Getting past three weeks is tough one for me but once I hit about 4 weeks in, it starts to get easier.

Keep trying and restarting. Try to shake that notion of "I already had one so I might as well have more". Just keep working at it and you'll get there.

I seem to have a hard time with reducing calories when I eat carbs and treats so I feel like I need to go without (as much as possible) and then I am able to control my eating easier.

Good luck and congrats on your little one!

Im sure previous posters have all given you good advice, so pardon me if its more of the same.

Part of the process requires you to commit and just do whats needed because you want it badly enough and those who cant manage it prever to make the choice of continuing the way there are and do no wnat it badly enough. No hiding from that, so overall its ok daydreaming about losing weight but you do have to ante up and do whats needed.

The next point you made was only lasting 2 days, which is a sign of poor prep and motivation. The rough rule of tum id say would be c 1 week for each 1lb you have to lose as o how long it might take, so with 100lbs that could be close to 2 years at 1lb a week. Quitting after 2 days doesnt even get past the opening credits.

Ways to get started.

1. Knowledge- understand how it all works. It should make sense to you.
2. Good planning, that incorporates the knowledge.
3. Additional prep so you understand what it is and what you have to do.
4. Mindset and contingency planning so you remain commited and focused.
5. Take it in small steps, so its achievable and manageable.
6. Keep it simple.
7. Be your own best friend and encourage yourself to be consistent.
8. Remind or understand why you are doing it. If its not importnat enough to motivate you then its not worth doing. the reason i started was for health as it was getting to a stage where I apprciated it was putting me at risk. That mattered to me.
9. Baby steps so you cna start off easily and build progress in small stages.