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Dear Abby is that way ->
This isn't a relationship help forum, its a fitness/healthy eating forum.
You need to seek help from the proper resources.
And like Millions of ppl on this planet, you feel like you have to somehow change them for their own good. Doesn't ever work, and you shouldn't bother trying.
You can encourage them, if they make the choice to make a change. You cant force them.
You either accept them the way they are, or you replace them.
"Not a relationship help forum".... gives relationship advice.0 -
The "Xbox LIVE friends" part gets me.0
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_incogNEATo_ wrote: »chandelierbee wrote: »So are you also opposed to interracial dating, or is that just him?
No of course not, I'm open to anything and I was afraid I didn't make it clear. He just hates the idea of it now bc she picked bad guys in the past and they happened to be black. He's got a super close black friend who's dating a white girl and doesn't care bc he's not a gangster wannabe black guy and he's not sexually innapropriate. The guy that my bf's mom is dating is black, he's a huge comic book nerd, believes in chivalry and tries to act like a father but he says innapropriate jokes in front of his younger brother and he's a big drinker that brings his friends over for late night body shots and sleepovers and his mom is too nice and let's it happen bc she's into that sort of thing, all while the boys are sleeping. In the past, my bf regularly stayed up so he could unlock the door for his mom once she got home, bc she and her bf were too drunk to open the door.
Am I reading this wrong or are you saying there's a black guy who isn't a wannabe black guy and that your boyfriend has a problem with the black guys who ARE wannabe black guys?
BTW OP was WAYYY too long to read. I will just give the MFP default answer though and tell you to dump him.
laughing so hard.
I couldn't get through the first paragraph. Good luck tho
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wow...bookmarking this thread for when I have a few hours to digest the OP0
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Can someone give me the TL;DR version?0
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williamwj2014 wrote: »holy sht, that's long..couldn't even get through the first paragraph. Sounds like you need to grow up and find yourself tbh. Go find a friend to talk to, don't post this sht here.
Of course I need to grow up, I'm only 20. But like I said, I had no one to talk to about this, not even my mom and shes my support system. This is a support thread not a "post your *kitten* here" thread :c I keep my feelings to myself for the most part but I drag things on that make me unhappy. Idk why I torture myself like this, maybe it's bc I've been too shy to make friends. If you have nothing nice to say (or suggestions) don't say nothing at all
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Jesus that was ... just painful.
If what you've said is true ... your current boyfriend is a douche. He's probably not going to become a model. You should probably focus on, as several others have said, bettering yourself. You're going to be a mess if you continue on as you have been.0 -
khaleesikhaleesi wrote: »The "Xbox LIVE friends" part gets me.
Well that is a real thing these days. My friend was about to go meet a woman he met off xbox live. Me. I am not interested in long distance dating.
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yopeeps025 wrote: »chandelierbee wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »chandelierbee wrote: »
well I don't think you are stupid. What I do find that you can see is you are attracted to some very interesting fellas. Would you agree?
I'm always open to anything. I look at either personality or looks but I swoon for looks. I just a little bad for him bc he never really had stability and having a gf is like piling on the work load
Is there any chance these relationship were build from playing Halo? That is were I used to meet a lot of online folks.
Mainly COD black ops. Halo... Never really played.0 -
trinatrina1984 wrote: »Can someone give me the TL;DR version?
Guy A (the ex) treated her well but was ugly
Guy B (the current) is awesomesauce attractive, but isn't emotionally available
Both of the have serious priority issues and one or both might be using OP for her money.
OP wants to know which one she should be with.0 -
chandelierbee wrote: »
Yeah I'm in college right now
What's your major? Psychology?
Why would you ask if it's psychology? I'm actually going in for computer science/business and manufacturing0 -
chandelierbee wrote: »williamwj2014 wrote: »holy sht, that's long..couldn't even get through the first paragraph. Sounds like you need to grow up and find yourself tbh. Go find a friend to talk to, don't post this sht here.
Of course I need to grow up, I'm only 20. But like I said, I had no one to talk to about this, not even my mom and shes my support system. This is a support thread not a "post your *kitten* here" thread :c I keep my feelings to myself for the most part but I drag things on that make me unhappy. Idk why I torture myself like this, maybe it's bc I've been too shy to make friends. If you have nothing nice to say (or suggestions) don't say nothing at all
How about instead of relying on others for help, you learn how to help yourself? Seriously. If you want to be taken seriously, write your pity story clearer and readable and not something that has the reader frustrated with how silly it sounds from the get-go.0 -
chandelierbee wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »chandelierbee wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »chandelierbee wrote: »
well I don't think you are stupid. What I do find that you can see is you are attracted to some very interesting fellas. Would you agree?
I'm always open to anything. I look at either personality or looks but I swoon for looks. I just a little bad for him bc he never really had stability and having a gf is like piling on the work load
Is there any chance these relationship were build from playing Halo? That is were I used to meet a lot of online folks.
Mainly COD black ops. Halo... Never really played.
Why own the xbox and not play the game that can sell the xbox by itself?
And black ops too? I am going to guess zombies?
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yopeeps025 wrote: »chandelierbee wrote: »So are you also opposed to interracial dating, or is that just him?
No of course not, I'm open to anything and I was afraid I didn't make it clear. He just hates the idea of it now bc she picked bad guys in the past and they happened to be black. He's got a super close black friend who's dating a white girl and doesn't care bc he's not a gangster wannabe black guy and he's not sexually innapropriate. The guy that my bf's mom is dating is black, he's a huge comic book nerd, believes in chivalry and tries to act like a father but he says innapropriate jokes in front of his younger brother and he's a big drinker that brings his friends over for late night body shots and sleepovers and his mom is too nice and let's it happen bc she's into that sort of thing, all while the boys are sleeping. In the past, my bf regularly stayed up so he could unlock the door for his mom once she got home, bc she and her bf were too drunk to open the door.
hmmm. What is that saying again about black men?
Huuuuuuu..... Those are HISadjectives, not mine.
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chandelierbee wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »chandelierbee wrote: »So are you also opposed to interracial dating, or is that just him?
No of course not, I'm open to anything and I was afraid I didn't make it clear. He just hates the idea of it now bc she picked bad guys in the past and they happened to be black. He's got a super close black friend who's dating a white girl and doesn't care bc he's not a gangster wannabe black guy and he's not sexually innapropriate. The guy that my bf's mom is dating is black, he's a huge comic book nerd, believes in chivalry and tries to act like a father but he says innapropriate jokes in front of his younger brother and he's a big drinker that brings his friends over for late night body shots and sleepovers and his mom is too nice and let's it happen bc she's into that sort of thing, all while the boys are sleeping. In the past, my bf regularly stayed up so he could unlock the door for his mom once she got home, bc she and her bf were too drunk to open the door.
hmmm. What is that saying again about black men?
Huuuuuuu..... Those are HISadjectives, not mine.
I was on the once you go black you never go back. Well I know one girl who can say that proudly 100%.
BTW I knew what you he is talking about. Wannabe black guys I know of. You don't see me chilling with that crowd. "He's not sexually inappropriate" that one I might disagree with.0 -
yopeeps025 wrote: »chandelierbee wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »chandelierbee wrote: »So are you also opposed to interracial dating, or is that just him?
No of course not, I'm open to anything and I was afraid I didn't make it clear. He just hates the idea of it now bc she picked bad guys in the past and they happened to be black. He's got a super close black friend who's dating a white girl and doesn't care bc he's not a gangster wannabe black guy and he's not sexually innapropriate. The guy that my bf's mom is dating is black, he's a huge comic book nerd, believes in chivalry and tries to act like a father but he says innapropriate jokes in front of his younger brother and he's a big drinker that brings his friends over for late night body shots and sleepovers and his mom is too nice and let's it happen bc she's into that sort of thing, all while the boys are sleeping. In the past, my bf regularly stayed up so he could unlock the door for his mom once she got home, bc she and her bf were too drunk to open the door.
hmmm. What is that saying again about black men?
Huuuuuuu..... Those are HISadjectives, not mine.
I was on the once you go black you never go back. Well I know one girl who can say that proudly 100%.
BTW I knew what you he is talking about. Wannabe black guys I know of. You don't see me chilling with that crowd. "He's not sexually inappropriate" that one I might disagree with.
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Alluminati wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »chandelierbee wrote: »yopeeps025 wrote: »chandelierbee wrote: »So are you also opposed to interracial dating, or is that just him?
No of course not, I'm open to anything and I was afraid I didn't make it clear. He just hates the idea of it now bc she picked bad guys in the past and they happened to be black. He's got a super close black friend who's dating a white girl and doesn't care bc he's not a gangster wannabe black guy and he's not sexually innapropriate. The guy that my bf's mom is dating is black, he's a huge comic book nerd, believes in chivalry and tries to act like a father but he says innapropriate jokes in front of his younger brother and he's a big drinker that brings his friends over for late night body shots and sleepovers and his mom is too nice and let's it happen bc she's into that sort of thing, all while the boys are sleeping. In the past, my bf regularly stayed up so he could unlock the door for his mom once she got home, bc she and her bf were too drunk to open the door.
hmmm. What is that saying again about black men?
Huuuuuuu..... Those are HISadjectives, not mine.
I was on the once you go black you never go back. Well I know one girl who can say that proudly 100%.
BTW I knew what you he is talking about. Wannabe black guys I know of. You don't see me chilling with that crowd. "He's not sexually inappropriate" that one I might disagree with.
Any questions?
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williamwj2014 wrote: »chandelierbee wrote: »williamwj2014 wrote: »holy sht, that's long..couldn't even get through the first paragraph. Sounds like you need to grow up and find yourself tbh. Go find a friend to talk to, don't post this sht here.
Of course I need to grow up, I'm only 20. But like I said, I had no one to talk to about this, not even my mom and shes my support system. This is a support thread not a "post your *kitten* here" thread :c I keep my feelings to myself for the most part but I drag things on that make me unhappy. Idk why I torture myself like this, maybe it's bc I've been too shy to make friends. If you have nothing nice to say (or suggestions) don't say nothing at all
How about instead of relying on others for help, you learn how to help yourself? Seriously. If you want to be taken seriously, write your pity story clearer and readable and not something that has the reader frustrated with how silly it sounds from the get-go.
They were both close to me and its next to impossible to make friends for me bc I was so self conscious. And why would you say that? You didn't even read through the first paragraph. I wanted to vent and if I was someone else I would dump him but Ive lost so many friends just from them moving away. I think your right but your answer at the same time is mean, I could be mean and say from your "supportive" answer, I'd guess you can't keep a gf, it's mean! Just leave.
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