Coworker said I looked "skeletal" and that I should "stop" losing any more weight
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ElJefeChief
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My profile pic is a very recent pic of me from a day or so ago. I'm six-foot-three, 207 (as of today) with some decent base muscle from about 20 years of weightlifting (although I haven't lifted for about a year and a half now).
Should I stop losing, or keep going? I still have an "overweight" BMI, I'm just not sure what that means at this point.
Should I stop losing, or keep going? I still have an "overweight" BMI, I'm just not sure what that means at this point.
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If your BMI indicates overweight and you aren't a solid piece of muscle, then I'd ignore the co-worker. There's so many reasons why the person might have said you look "skeletal" and they all have to do with him and none to do with you.0
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I do not think you look skeletal at all. I believe that you look a nice healthy weight.0
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I think skeletal is a bit of a stretch of a description...no offence.
If you're working out and eating healthy and the correct portions you won't be underweight and I don't see anything wrong.
If you're quite muscular BMI won't be much help to you.0 -
Being generous I would guess they meant that as a compliment, to try and congratulate you on successful weight loss. Just a very, very awkwardly phrased compliment....
Definitely not skeletal, you look quite proportionate to me.0 -
Mycophilia wrote: »Well looking "skeletal" doesn't have to be a bad thing.
Ha!
I was thinking you should put a skeleton in your coworker's office; they apparently don't remember what they look like.
I think you look fine, but I don't think you look unhealthy skinny. If you would like to continue losing a little more, I don't see a problem with that; if you're fine where you are, that's cool too. And you could always run your goals past your doctor if you're really concerned.0 -
I think you look good. I'd guess that the only "meaning" behind it reflects more on the person who said it. What's their deal? Overweight, underweight? Jealous of your accomplishments? You don't have to tell us. I'd just place the comment more on THEM than having to do with you.0
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Jealousy, my coworker I hadn't seen in 6 months said I am way to thin, although I clearly have another 40 or 50 to lose to get out of the obese category.. it was said by the guy who must have gained 40 or more since I last saw him.
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I think often that when people have seen you out of shape or over weight for any length of time that when you do become healthy they see you as too skinny. It is a mental perception. I think you look fantastic0
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My two cents: take it with a grain of salt and move on. Your body; your mind; your choice.0
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You look great. You co-worker was trying to start a conversation.0
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You're making them look bad, so STOP IT!
They were:
1) Poorly giving a compliment
2) Jealous of your accomplishment
3) Wondering what your secret is
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Drives me crazy when people make rude comments when someone looses weight or makes positive changes! I get that a lot since I'm on the thin side and am trying to be healthier and just loose excess body fat. Unfortunately those comments usually come from jealousy or misinformation. I'm also not a huge fan of BMI, especially for talker men with larger bone structure/extra muscle. At your height you'd likely look very thin if you're BMI was under 25. The whole package needs to be considered! Good luck0
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I think it also depends on who is saying it. I was heading out to run during my lunch at work and a female coworker saw me in my gym clothes and couldn't stop gushing about how great I was doing losing weight... And finished with "don't lose too much more! Men look better with a little weight on them!"
So consider the source before being offended and just do what you feel you need to do.0 -
People get used to seeing you a certain way and you changing causes them discomfort.
I am starting to get the "too skinny" comments and I still have 10kg's to go. I think they just have a comfort zone which has been disrupted. They might think of Joe as being the "solid large guy" and Beth as being "the one that can carry the extra weight off" and they are probably also comparing themselves in the range - seeing themselves as always being bigger than you or smaller than you.
I had a bit of experience on the other side of the equation when I was a teenager - my sister, who had always been overweight, lost enough weight on one of her crazy fad diets that people were starting to say "Oh look, you are almost the same size as Soo!" I must admit, I didn't like it, because she had always been the pretty one and I was the thin one. I was threatened by her weight loss and went and lost some extra weight myself to stay ahead. She ended up gaining the weight back and the contest was off, so I never really had to face the nasty things that were going on in my head at the time.
I never sabotaged her, but it was hard to support her, for selfish reasons. I probably made those sort of comments, maybe things like "look, you are losing your boobs" or something else nasty that a sibling might say.
I like to think that I would handle it more maturely now, but it gives me a bit of insight into the sort of behavior you describe.
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My profile pic is a very recent pic of me from a day or so ago. I'm six-foot-three, 207 (as of today) with some decent base muscle from about 20 years of weightlifting (although I haven't lifted for about a year and a half now).
Should I stop losing, or keep going? I still have an "overweight" BMI, I'm just not sure what that means at this point.
No offense, but I think you should keep going. You don't really look like you have an overweight BMI, but you're not overly lean either.
Your coworker's comment says a lot about them and nothing about you.0 -
You don't look skeletal. You look great! Keep going and don't listen to the co worker.0
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my two cents: none of your co workers business, at the end of the day if you have a plan of where you want to get to stick to it.0
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You didn't get fit for the approval of coworkers, don't stop your journey because of one.0
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And their opinion matters why?0
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