I want to lose 44 pounds by the end of october

I don't think you are getting any judgement here, but people are not going to be quiet and just sit back and watch someone take an unhealthy and unsustainable approach to weight loss.

ashleysolomon119 wrote: »

I really thought mfp was about helping you reach your healthy weight and support, but so far it's mostly judgement. My kids are very healthy and most of the time want fresh fruit over candy and I would never put their health at risk, I ate healthy throughout all of my pregnancies and while I was breastfeeding, I was hoping to nurse and never use formula, but I had to switch to Enfamil due to medical reasons that had nothing to do with my diet.

Seriously, no one has the right to attack another person's parenting. I think we all do what's best for our kids and most mothers I know put thier children's health before our own! The reason some of us are on my fitness pal is because we are trying to love ourselves for the first time in a long time and are looking for support. Poor form on people criticizing and shaming when A)you weren't asking for parenting advice, and B ) have absolutely no basis for judging. It's about support not shame.

excellent post Samantha, Ashley only asked if it was possible to lose 44 lbs, next thing you know, these so called experts are telling her how to raise her kids...really sad.
well Ashley, you can lose it, I did in only 12 weeks and have kept it off......and people like Serah judging her is uncalled for ,none of us are raising her kids, so they need to back off of Ashley.........

hang in there Ashely, you do have people her that do support you and your decisions.......we support you

let see, for my age, 60 my blood pressure averages 110/60 ,resting heart rate of 60, I work out 5 times a week, and I have had no problems health wise ever......never been in a hospital and according to my Internal Medical doctor, he stated ' if all my patients were as healthy as you, I would go broke"......again, I didn't do anything unhealthy when I lost 53 lbs.....just ate HEALTHY.........the weight just came off, I didn't set out for breaking a record..........again, I can sympathize with Ashley and all these judgmental attitudes.......

Seems like a high loss per week goal but it's probably doable. Just remember that it won't likely be 3 pounds a week, it might be 1 pound this week, 4 next week and then nothing for a couple weeks, weigh loss is rarely stable or even. You will have to do it the way that works for you but I figure I'll share what worked for me.

Last June I was 210ish and could not lose weight no matter what I did. Took me having to do a ketogenic diet (I don't like the term diet though because it was a lifestyle change not a diet but anyway) to lose weight. I went from 210lbs at the beginning of June (June 2, 2014 to be exact) to 160lbs by October 30th.

As for calorie intake, on keto I was taking in 1500-1600 calories a day (with some intermittent fasting of anywhere between 4-12 hours) not exercising in the slightest (literally sitting on my butt playing games all the time, being unemployed at the time) and losing pretty steadily because I was eating productive food; that got me down to 160lbs.

Before that I was eating 1200 or less calories, run/walking 2-3 miles a day and gaining weight because I was basically eating garbage, sweets, breads, pasta etc. Not all calories are equal.

I plateaued at 160 for a few weeks until I started my new job in a factory so the increased exercise (which was still like nothing, maybe 200-300 calories burned extra a day) helped me drop the next 19 pounds. Now I have been at hovering between 144 and 139 for about 3 months.

I started back at the gym about 6 weeks ago and it hasn't made me lose a single pound because I eat a lot of junky food (not nearly as bad as before, but out to restaurants a lot and I don't really want my new bf to see my semi-obsession with monitoring my food) That mixed with the fact that muscle weighs more than fat of course.

Overall I have lost about 70 pounds between June 2014 and April 2015 but only about 4 inches all over. But like I said this wasn't steady. I lost 50lbs in about 6 months then only 19lbs in the following 5ish months.

TL;DR:
Moral of my post is that not all calories are equal, not all fruits and veggies will help lose weight, exercise is amazing and you should keep at it to increase health and strength but it won't do much for weight loss right now. Weight loss is CREATED in the KITCHEN then MAINTAINED with exercise. When you get down to the weight you want to be at, and I am sure you can do it with the support of this site and the people on it. (I also suggest reddit.com/r/loseit for some support) then the exercise will have more effect. Muscle burns more calories than fat but if you still have lots of excess fat then that amazing new muscle won't be visible beneath it.

In fact if you have lots of belly fat, you can do thousands of crunches but it will just make your stomach look bigger until you lose the fat covering it.

I am new to MFP don't mind if you add me to your friends list, no judgement here. I am 224lbs want to lose 30lbs by the middle of November as going on holiday which is just over 1.5lbs a week. I work out at the gym at least 5 time a week doing a varied amount of thing but the 1 thing I have learned very recently is that eating right is the most important think you can do to lost weight. Eat a healthy diet and you with lost weight a healthy way. I had to recalculate my calorie intake as I didn't think it was correct on MFP after speaking to a personal trainer they gave me http://iifym.com/iifym-calculator/ and told me to use this to calculate my daily calorie intake. Depending on your height, age, activity level it will tell you what your calorie intake should be to lose weight.

And can I just say 4 kid and you have time to exercise big well done, I am sure if you put your mind to it you will achieve your goal, and if you don't it is not the end of the world you just have to keep going until you get there.

Good luck x

ashleysolomon119 wrote: »

I really thought mfp was about helping you reach your healthy weight and support, but so far it's mostly judgement. .

Its about encouraging people to lose weight in a safe healthy sustainable realistic way. That entails learning about weight loss and how its done. Your target is one selected by you, but is very agressive and many would say unrealistic in the arbitrary time frame you have chosen. People are pointing this out to you. If you dont have an open mind an don wnat to learn then good luck. There is plenty of info available on the stickies.

ashleysolomon119 wrote: »

I really thought mfp was about helping you reach your healthy weight and support, but so far it's mostly judgement. My kids are very healthy and most of the time want fresh fruit over candy and I would never put their health at risk, .

I say if you believe that you can attain it go for it. Once you don't go below 1200 calories a day, you're not starving or overfeeding your kids, they are happy and healthy, you are trying to get happy and healthy, then just do it.

As long as you are getting in your macros, micros and other nutrients, taking a supplement, and you feel your goal is attainable, I say listen to everyone, take the good in what they say, leave the negative behind and be true to yourself. I lost 60lbs in a little under 3 months just with diet and exercise at one point. I was not starving myself, I just increased my protein intake and it kept me feeling fuller longer than if I had been eating a lot of carbs. A lot of people questioned the amount I ate saying that it was not healthy, but guess what, when I went for my annual check up all my blood work was fine, even my iron, and that has ALWAYS been low.

Suffice to say, I got cocky, fell off the wagon and I gained back about half of the weight. Once you are not endangering your health, and you get the okay from a doctor, I don't believe that 40lbs is unrealistic for October, HARD, maybe, but not UNREALISTIC...

If you need another motivational partner add me, I will not judge, because we all are going through this journey together and sometimes you just need someone to hold your hand, not smack you on it.

tincanonastring wrote: »

Eating pizza and drinking soda will not make her kids fat. Eating enough pizza to surpass their calorie requirement will make them fat.

Yes, this. Thank you.