Some thoughts on "Starting Over"

Jungley · June 2015

Gees what an amazing post. I like the mindfulness of it all -great Law of Attraction.

debbysatit · June 2015

Great post, Thank you!

patt0317 · July 2015

This was helpful. Thank you.
It's more than eating as we now know.

My emotions got in my way and I didn't even know it. I lost my husband, then his family walked away since we didn't have children and not of their religion. My family is just too busy to notice, they have their own life not really much difference than before but now I was alone and I noticed.

I found myself slowing losing all the good things that I had. The economy took a turn for the worst and so did I. The weight came on and it made me feel even worst.

I tried everything including weight training for 6 months 2hrs a day , Jenny Craig, on and on, I went up and down but never down enough that I felt great so I got discouraged.

Food was the most luxury item I could afford now but it kept me from being my best.

I realize looking back that being overweight and carrying this emotion allowed me to make decisions I wouldn't have earlier. It changed my life into spinning in circles. Just to be clear, I went to every grieving counseling that was available to me and that should have been enough. But it wasn't.

I think about how I was before and I want that. Just to be happy and laugh with ease. You can't feel bad or have a low opinion of yourself and have that happen.

So, I choose not to be in a state of mind of disappointment. I take noticed when I feel I am going down that path and think about how to stop it. How can I make that change ... maybe music, or looking at Pinterest ...anything to change my thinking.

The same thing with food - after a few bites the great taste goes away and now it's just an action. A comfortable one but not really the pleasure it was earlier but why do I not stop?

I have to not only change my thinking but change how I go about my routine.

I still have hope.

Thanks to everyone for sharing your story and information.
They help me keep on track!

North44 · July 2015

Totally makes sense. As a relapser myself and about to go into maintenance again I have come to a lot of the same conclusions. I've been thinking about strategies to have more success this time. Thanks for the post- I think I just might print it out for my own reminders!

BlueBeeMel · July 2015

Thanks for your post. I've also had CFS and it was then that I put on weight for the first time in my life. Until then I'd really never had to worry about weight. 6 years on I now have 20kgs to lose and all of my attempts in the past have failed. I use chocolate and muffins etc to give me boosts in energy and to nurture my emotions. I've been working on these areas for the past 6 months to no avail. I'm now going to give it a go with MFP. Thanks

Debmal77 · July 2015

bump

CarrieA180 · July 2015

Excellent post! Probably the best I've read on here. Thank you!

Moop87 · July 2015

Bump

teachergal71 · July 2015

Thank you, I needed this encouragement.

_The_Lone_Wolf_ · July 2015

I started over a dozen times in the past 4 years and always came back, this time imma gonna make it though!

enterdanger · July 2015

Love your post. I agree self-flagellation doesn't accomplish anything. I'm in the "I'm not going to weigh and log my food for the rest of my life stage."

I'm not ready to come out of it but I'm still on here. I'm still trying to be mindful. I haven't quit and I'm not starting over. I'm just trying something different for awhile.

If it doesn't work, I'll try something else without any breast beating.

hupsii · July 2015

great post - thanks for sharing

CSARdiver · July 2015

Simply brilliant post - well reasoned, impassioned and expertly penned. Bravo Zulu!

alli_baba · July 2015

Thanks so much for this post. I am not trying to lose weight anymore (maintaining), but your insight helped me with something else I am struggling with. So thanks!