Enablers.....

You're not on your own! My mum is very much like your husband. Now I've stressed to her that this is important to me, she's backed off a little but she still acts as if I'm doing something silly & thinks I don't need to do it. I'd say part of it boils down to a bit of jealousy as she's also trying to lose weight & has been struggling to commit to it as well as I have. Maybe this is how your husband's mum feels? I've been there myself too. Sat eating a greasy fry-up at work, then someone comes along that's stuck to a diet & is doing really well. You get your back up - it's annoying. You wish YOU could be like that. See what I mean?

I don't believe for a moment that you're obsessing over your new lifestyle. You're just on the ball! Stick at it, you're doing really well & deserve to reap the rewards. Sticking to a low calorie diet is exciting me & I feel so healthy. I'm literally buzzing day in, day out. If you feel the same, then roll with that emotion & don't listen to anyone else's judgements. It's took some time to stop the people that enabled me, but I've finally got there (I hope!). It's little things, like people offering you a brownie at work or your husband giving you a bag of crisps he's brought back home for you as they're your favourites; but once you firmly but fairly stress that you're very appreciative but you don't want them, I think the message is received loud & clear. Just keep saying no! If it's making you happy, your husband will realise that & stop enabling you once he's used to the idea.

Well done you for taking care of your body.

Read this:

http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10134341/you-arent-always-going-to-get-support/p1

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Just explain that while the soda may give you momentary happiness, losing weight and being healthy will make you a happier person. Plus, you may feel unhappy with yourself after drinking it because you know you want to stay away from it.

Stop explaining stuff to them. They are not listening. Keep doing what is working for you.
Re the soda: Throw the soda down the drain.

Here are some of the scripts I used to retrain my saboteurs:

His Mom: "that looks AMAZING! I'm so sorry I ate before I came over!"
My Mom: "that looks AMAZING! Too bad I inherited your fat butt genes and can't eat that way any more!"
Both Moms: "Dinner next Saturday? Sounds great! Tell you what: I'll cook so you can have a day off!"

Him: "you love me and you want me to be happy? Then listen to what I'm saying to you and support--don't sabotage --my efforts. It hurts my feelings when I tell you what I want and you do the opposite. LISTEN. THAT's how you can love me well"

I'll share that just as habits are hard for me to break, they are for my lovely wife as well. For years, or decades, she would bring home cookies or some other treat to make me happy. The opposite was also true, if she didn't support my food issues, I'd reward her by pouting. Those ingrained behaviors are just as hard for her to break as she still wants to see me happy.

I'm making changes and so is she. Takes time for both of us.

If the change is hard for her, and she lives with me, imagine the surprise from other well meaning people in our lives who are used to our previous well ingrained behaviors. The fact that I was always up for pizza and beer contradicts my current desire. Just because I'm attempting change doesn't mean others will always recognize or support the change.

There is some great advice on this thread for dealing with those individuals. I'd reinforce to keep yourself focused, recognize that you're in it for the long haul and be kind to yourself if there is a set back.

another thing- if you are invited to dinner, you have control over what you put on your plate. And if somebody dishes out a plate for you, then you don't have to finish it.