Heavier girls trying to loose weight

I would absolutely LOVE to be part of this too! I have tried and failed too many times before and I just refuse to quit or give up this time. This time around I am feeling so encouraged, like I CAN and will beat this. Weight has been a struggle my entire life! I'm currently 241lbs (9lbs lost so far) with an ultimate goal so 160. My first goal is to be 200lbs by my 10th wedding anniversary which is in December!

I am one week in and down 6 lbs. Go me! Yet when I share that good news with people, I always qualify it with "I know it's water weight" or "at least it's a start". Even sharing my workout successes (I reached my first goal of a 20 min. mile) I add "but only by a second" or something like that.

I sort of feel like I did this (get fat) to myself. I do not deserve to be congratulated on doing something that I should have been doing in the first place. Why can I not just be proud of my hard work now? Does anyone else struggle with this kind of self-depreciation? How do you deal with it?

Maureendonahue,

I completely understand where you are coming from. I remember last year when I first started to get control of my weight and in the 1st 5-6 weeks I had managed to lose 17lbs and when i told people proudly that I had lost my first stone plus a few lbs I got the reply 'A few more to go though eh?' or 'Really? My god you must have been bigger than I thought!' Kind of hurt my feelings so now when I say things like I've lost over 2 stone now I then go on to say only another 5 to go!!
I always remember making a point of making a joke of my weight before anyone else got the chance to but when someone else does actually say something its like a kick in the teeth.
You should feel proud of losing 6lbs in a week!! And who cares if it is only water weight you have still managed to get into the right mindset of starting on this journey to lose weight and should be proud of that!! And 20minute mile!! I don't even think i could run a mile lol so i say well done to you and I bet so do a lot of the people on here too!!

Good Luck on the rest of your journey!! And be proud of your successes big or small!!!!

xxx

I'm in! I have over 100 pounds left to lose, even after the 30 pounds I have already lost! Would love some more MFP encouraging friends! It's hard to find friends that are just as encouraging as you are!

So am i allowed to post about bad days, because i just had one. I walked for 7 miles today, as part of my 100 mile June challenge, but from there it went down hill. I didn't do my 30 day shred dvd because my son didn't go for his nap (and I was lazy) didn't want to neglect him. I met my friend for a 3 course cheap dinner. Had a nodle soup for starter but then had loads of prawn crackers, ice cream and a whole botle of wine. I enjoyed it at the time but now. Well now I'm ashamed of what I ate. I suppose tomorrow is another day. Onwards and upwards.

Maureendonahue,

I completely understand where you are coming from. I remember last year when I first started to get control of my weight and in the 1st 5-6 weeks I had managed to lose 17lbs and when i told people proudly that I had lost my first stone plus a few lbs I got the reply 'A few more to go though eh?' or 'Really? My god you must have been bigger than I thought!' Kind of hurt my feelings so now when I say things like I've lost over 2 stone now I then go on to say only another 5 to go!!
I always remember making a point of making a joke of my weight before anyone else got the chance to but when someone else does actually say something its like a kick in the teeth.
You should feel proud of losing 6lbs in a week!! And who cares if it is only water weight you have still managed to get into the right mindset of starting on this journey to lose weight and should be proud of that!! And 20minute mile!! I don't even think i could run a mile lol so i say well done to you and I bet so do a lot of the people on here too!!

Good Luck on the rest of your journey!! And be proud of your successes big or small!!!!

xxx

Thanks for your support!

I would love to join you ladies too! I have been on MFP since the end of January and have lost 25 pounds so far. I have about 50 pounds to go. But I have found since I started my journey is that it's not about the number on the scale. It's more about how you feel, how your clothes fit, the types of foods you put into your body compared to what you were doing and so many other non-scale victories. Believe me I want to be 160 again but if I am happy with how I feel and look then I will be happy with whatever number I end up at!!

I am 38 years old and the mother to a wonderful little girl who is 3.5. I work full time so it leaves little time for much. But I found that I have to prioritize and I have finally moved myself up the list a little bit! I take the time to exercise everyday. I go to the gym and do an hour of cardio and then some weights. My daughter LOVES to go to the daycare at the gym, she spends all day at home with Daddy so she is ready for some kid interaction.

Thank you so much for starting this thread, I hope we all succeed!! And one tip for some of you, open up your food diaries so everyone can see them. It will make you SO much more accountable on what you eat when others can see!! And it also help others to see what you are eating if you are losing weight.

Feel free to friend me if you would like, I am in this for the long haul!

I agree! It's nice to see POSITIVE people on here!
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