Still feeling down & Guilty.

Oh dear, judging yourself and beating yourself up for being human will not help you to say the least. We all have setbacks. What led me to fail every single time was this all or nothing idea and if I didn't eat like a perfect angel one time, I wld think bad o myself and give up altogether. Don't ever give up, aim for progress not perfection.

get over it and move on...you're heading down the road to some very disordered thinking and a *kitten* *kitten* relationship with food and fitness...this mindset is not remotely healthy and this is all about being healthy...

really, in the grand scheme of things, how relevant is one day? get over it and move on...

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Yeah well.. the psychologist is only going to deal with one thing at a time.. so what do you do in the mean time while you wait weeks between appointments?

Why couldn't you email him for advice?

Sounds rough. I have no first hand experience in dealing with depression but a family member does. No one here would think you are stupid or weak though. Is there not another outlet or medical professional that would be more readily available? Something you could do that makes you feel more positive? I know for me there are activities, namely walking, that tend to improve my outlook in general. Sorry if anything I suggested sounds hollow, I dont know the specifics of what you're dealing with, but I do hope you get the help you need.

Access to mental health care sucks in most places, I'm sorry. And, it can just take a while... I still think group therapy (if it's available? Usually is, usually it's faster to get into that) might be helpful - in addition to the therapy you're doing - in that you can at least talk with real live people who get it. Some of whom may be further along in their therapy, and may have tools to share, and of course the therapist will have things to offer, too.

In terms of self-care, my suggestion is to

1) Do one thing every day that you think might feel good (and is not what you think might be destructive). Maybe it's something familiar (like painting your nails, taking a long shower, watching a movie, listening to music that uplifts you), or something you haven't done but think might be interesting (like visiting a museum or gallery you haven't been to before, or attending a free talk on a subject that interests you, or going for a walk in a new neighbourhood - a change of scene might provide at least a temporary break from the loops you might get into at home).

(Three things that reliably help lift my mood when I'm feeling down, even if it's just a little, are going to a park, swimming, and cooking. Feeling the sunlight on my skin, the sensation of water, seeing the green trees and grass, hearing the birds, all those are things I find soothing. Cooking, I like because of the colours of the foods, the rhythm of chopping, ultimately the taste of the meal. Sensory experiences like that can be very grounding and can help take you out of your head.)

What about coming up with a list of things like that today? Even if you can only think of a few activities, it's a start.

2) Do one practical thing that will improve something in your environment. Like ordering the books on your shelf, or buying a little $1 plant, or doing the laundry. It's not fixing the big problems, no. But you'll have done something that will probably make a small difference in how you feel in your place. (Even if nothing else happens that day, you'll be taking steps to take care of yourself and your space.)

Sorry, you replied to another post in the time it took me to write that long-*kitten* post