non supportive people

Ok, first off, not saying you are over-eating. Just wanted to emphasize the importance of a scale vs using measuring cups.

This video will change your life... Or at least encourage you to use a food scale. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JVjWPclrWVY

williamsmommy0823 wrote: »

Not at all ment to u ^^^ other people r being so rude

I apologize if I came off as rude. That was not my intent at all. I wish you good luck with your goals and hopefully I will see you around the forums!

Didn't read all the replies but I understand. My parents were the worst, I bought your favorite cookies. Next day. Don't eat that you will get fat. Thanks.

My husband isn't supportive cause all the women he knew who lost weight divorced their husbands. I said they lost cause they were miserable with their spouse. I'm not so relax. But still criticizes all my efforts.

But I fell better when I weigh less(arthritis) and working out helps too. Also IBS is best controlled with healthy diet so I ignore him

Girl I'm right there with you! My family is the first ones to make comments about my weight, but whenever I'm counting calories and trying to be healthy they are the first to act like I've developed an eating disorder! Its very frustrating b/c family are the ones that are suppose to be there to support you 100% when you are trying to better yourself. Unfortunately, when you start to do better it makes them realize what they are lacking in themselves and thus they try to sabotage you. I know its hard but try to pair up with friends that will help you stick to your goals!

williamsmommy0823 wrote: »

I weight all my food my anger is people on here saying I need to eat more than 1200 calories . why eat more if I'm full

People are not telling you this to anger you. They are people who just know better, probably went through the exact same process as you, eating too few calories and all, then ended up regretting it.

You could eat more even if you're full in order to lose less muscle mass as you lose weight. Too much muscle loss may do you a disservice in more than one way: you might end up skinny-fat at your goal weight which I doubt is the look you are going for, and you might start burning less than you would have if your lost less muscle, causing weight maintenance to be harder. Not to mention it's hard to get most of your nutrients at such a low calorie target which could cause unpleasant things like more hair loss than usual or other ailments. It could also mess with your hormones affecting many aspects including hunger, possibly causing you to have days where you can't stop eating.

Now if you really don't feel like eating it's okay to eat low a day or two or even 3. Heck, it's okay to eat low for a week or two, but keep in mind that there is another option which may help you stay on track. Keep a record of all of the calories you did not eat (example: your target is 1600 and you ate 1200, that's 400 calories for the budget), and when a day comes when you have a strong desire to eat something too high in calories, have a food event, or simply extra hungry, you could use those "budgeted" calories without guilt, eating the thing you are craving or enjoying your event without stressing too much about food.

Dont be angry at the people on here who 1200 is too few calories - they are correct. Some of us have been here years and alot of us have done what you are doing now. Ive eaten at 1200 calories and I can do it for a couple of weeks until i get so hungry that i have a binge day, thats why people saying eat more daily to avoid the binge.

No-one is trying to anger you, they are just trying to impart wisdom. You are only on day 2 and if your not hungry at 1200 then great, but i have no doubt, that you will up your calories within the month.

Also listen to people when they say use a food scale rather than cups/tbspns - there is a phenomonal difference! And once you get used to logging, be sure to log everything that goes in your mouth.

Remember, people ARE here to support you, but we wont all agree with everything you say.

Good luck on your journey, i truly hope you are succesful!

My nutrionist said she would worry if I were only eating 1200 calories daily.

I assume you meant everyone irl and not on MFP?

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I would say for now stick to this forum for support. This is a safe place to share your journey. Sorry to hear your family and loved ones aren't as supportive as they can be. Keep your chin up!

If this counts, when I first started I had no support at all. Some kept saying I won't be able to do it. It only made me want to push on even more. About a year later I was noticeably thinner, and my family started to actually ask me for advice on stuff, how many calories are in this, how do you make this fit... etc. I never got actual support from them (as in actively trying to encourage me), and I don't need it. They just leave me alone to my ways and are happy with my achievements. If you base your dieting on support you will be disappointed because once it's gone or tapered off you will have a hard time. Even those who have support don't have it 24/7.

Just do what you need to do and treat their bad comments like noise. When the time comes and you're at your goal weight while those who complained have regained they will not be able to say anything. Fad diets tend to fade off. Soon something else will catch their attention and you won't be hearing them whine about carbs.