I'm Embarrassed to Lose Weight

Totally. I don't talk numbers because I'm embarassed of the numbers.

So just don't advertise it to everyone. Just do it on your own. Then when you get to the weight you want, you'll probably WANT to tell people about it at that point because you'll be proud of yourself. And if you still don't want ppl to know, whatev. Your life, right? Do what you want, the whole world doesn't have to know.

I can't speak to this specific issue, but I can tell you that we all have things we wish were different, things we are not happy with. Things that we've done to ourselves and others. Some are easy to see. Some are hidden. It's better to not dwell on our "failings" but focus on how we are turning them around and who we are now. And you've shown extraordinary strength and perserverance in turning your health around!

Be proud of what you have accomplished.

Truthfully, they already know that you are overweight and those that matter will encourage you and motivate you to be successful.

I'm embarrassed that I let myself go, but I am proud of the fact that I have lost 40+ pounds and I want people to know how hard I am working to lose the next 40. I also hope that I can motivate and encourage others that yes this is a hard journey but you can do it, if you are willing to take the time and put the work in to do it.

It's a very personal, private and emotional journey... you don't have to share it with anyone you don't want to! :flowerforyou:

I feel conflicted on the issue - I am pround and want to tell them about my hard work, but at the same time, very embarrassed about where I let myself go

maysflower - you should not be embarrassed for working on making yourself healthier. Be proud of how much you have already accomplished & continue to make yourself the person you want to be. As another person who is "ashamed of how heavy I let myself get" - I can't wait to shout it from the rooftops that I've lost 50 pounds or more. You've done an awesome job so far - so please, please, please - don't give up & don't be embarassed.

I totally understand where you are coming from ... I am the same way. You won't see my start weight on here or my goal weight ... actually not even clothes sizes for the same reason. Sad ... I know, but I can't help it.

I know I should be happy for getting healthy too, but I can't help it.

Yup. I didn't tell my hubby my weight for months and months. But just Monday I let it out. Accountability, and all that jazz. It made me cry to say my weight out loud. Afterwards (much later), he said that he probably would have guessed it at that, so it's not like I was really fooling anyone.

But you don't have to go spewing numbers to just anyone. You can just say things like "yup, I've been working really hard and I'm not done yet", or "thanks, still working on it". People can see that you're doing great even if they don't know the numbers.

Geep goin' girl - you're AWESOME!!

I wouldn't worry about it. Concentrate on how great you feel. When you feel good, & you look good, it comes across in your attitude. People gravitate toward happy, positive people. If you act like you feel bad, & you're embarrassed by how much weight you've lost, then other people will see it.

Be PROUD. Hold your head up high, and LOVE yourself. You've worked VERY hard to get where you are today, & you've proven to yourself that you can get to where you want to be. Hold THAT thought when people ask how much you've lost. Don't worry about how much you still want to lose, because that may change when muscle mass increases. Focus on what's GONE, not what's left.

You're doing AWESOME. You should be SO proud of what you've accomplished! 61lbs is AMAZING! Screw what anyone else thinks, because if they're not proud of you, they don't respect you for your hard work & dedication. :happy:

I need to know if I am the only one who feels like this.

I want to lose weight, I want to be healthy, but I am embarrassed to tell people how much I have lost or that I'm even losing weight. I am so ashamed of how heavy I let myself get and I don't really want people to know that I've lost 61 lbs but have another 50 lbs to lose. It's embarrassing.

Does anyone else out there feel the same way I do?

at first i was embarassed to tell people, but slowly but surely the more i lost the less embarassed i was and this site has helped. i have lost 54 and a half pounds, and have 118.8 left to lose. i still dont like to tell some people my starting weight, like my boyfriend, or my skinny friends...but all the people i really trust know. as long as you have someone you can tell or even someone on here, you shouldnt have to come out and say what you weighed if you dont want to. my starting weight by the way, was 323.6. you can feel free to add me if you like.

I definitely understand. When I came to law school I weighed under 150 pounds and am not 25 pounds heavier and am completely embarrassed that I let myself go like that! All I want to do, at this point, is forget about the scale and worry about how my clothes fit and how I feel. When I look in the mirror, I want to feel amazing, not see the extra fat I have accumulated over the past two years.

You have accomplished so much! Just remember that each and every day! Congratulations!

I totally understand this. It's as if acknowledging the weight you've lost is admitting that you had weight to loose... that's my perception, anyways. I fully accept I have a few pounds to lose, but am admittedly embarrassed to admit this to anyone else... an awkward sort of public denial.

I feel embarrassed BEING at the gym. I feel so out of shape and out of place whenever I step foot in the gym. I'm sure no one is looking at me, but I'm so self concious it makes me feel all eyes are on the "new girl" (I feel "new" because I go MAYBE once a week - ugh). My husband wants me to go with him and I finally had to break down and explain to him that I feel stupid being there with him. He's so supportive and wonderful with me -- I wish I could go with him and be supportive of HIM without feeling soooo out of place.

I totally feel the same way you do, I gave birth to my son back in 08' before I found out I was pregnant I weighed about 160. Which I wasn't happy with but I took it as it was, i wasn't huge. While I was pregnant, I developed pre-cylemsia which caused me to gain weight roughly 6 to 7 lbs a week. After having him with in 6 weeks i lost back down to around 165. They started me on the depo shot, when I had went back to my yearly exam, I weighed 195. I was totally embaresed. Birth Control was my worst nightmare.

I am currently at 208, and until I recently saw a photo of myself, I didn't realize how big I had become.

It is a long journey to get the weight off, but I realize to I didn't put it on overnight and it isn't gonna come off over night.

So yes you are not alone, I don't like for anyone to know my weight. But it is also our choose to tell or not to tell, But once I hit that goal, then that might be a different story. So if anyone asks just say I needed to get healthy for me and my child, and it is something I have been wanting to do.