Anyone else doing this completely alone?

Kalikel wrote: »

I've had a few people say they were going to start losing because if I can do it, they can, too. They ask a bazillion questions, which I answer. Then they decide to eat like 500 or 800 calories a day, which they do for a day or two or three. Then they're off the diet. Every. Single. Time.

They're just crash dieting. They don't really want to lose weight.

So, yup! Just me. That I know, anyway.

Would you be supportive if someone wanted to reach the same goal you do, more than anything?

Yes, I'm a single mom of 4, recently moved to a small town and don't know too many people. MFP boards have been very helpful. At the beginning I was on the success stories page reading multiple times a day. It really helped.

shell1005 wrote: »

Yep. I talk very little about weight loss in my actual real life. People who talk 24/7 about their diet and exercise program....well, IMO it couldn't be more annoying. I do what works for me and don't feel the need or desire to talk about it. If a friend or a co-worker wants to chat about....I'm A OK with that, but I am rarely one to bring it up.

Same here, I save it for my MFP. I do have some real life friends who are on MFP (that's how I got here!) and I mention any victories/struggles I have to my partner. I talk to gym buddies about exercise and fitness but that's because we train together and are interested.

Yeah I'm alone at it too. I don't think my wife fully grasps it or understands it. My Mother-in-law who lives with us doing a different type of program but hers is more because of her diabetes.Thank god for my MFP friends I love them and am willing to add anyone who is serious about so we can support each other.

I did it completely alone by choice. I am the one who will have to live in this body and eat or not eat what is on my plate. Whenever I tried to diet with other people they want to do the same thing at all times. No two people are the same so no diet will work the same for any 2 people. I might want to walk 4.0 today and I don't want to go 3.5 because someone else didn't sleep as well last night. I might be ok just having a protein bar for lunch and I don't want to go get salads just so someone else doesn't eat alone. I might want to lose 1.5lbs a week and I don't want to feel guilty cause someone else only loses .5lbs. It is easier to run this sort or race with blinders on so that you can focus on your progress rather then someone else's path. Everyone is different though. I am not very social so I do not feel the need for support or sympathy the way most people do.

I have my two kids and my dad that lives in a different city other then that I'm alone.I have to few people on here.my boyfriend and my family ain't supportive. It seems like my boyfriend wants me to stay fat so he can get all the attention.

lauragreenbaum148 wrote: »

I am recently divorced, live alone, and none of my friends are currently in any kind of weight loss program. I sometimes share my successes with them, but don't want to bore them with details. I am really grateful for this discussion board because I get great feedback and support. So...thank you!!

I'm doing it alone as well. I'm glad there are community boards because I find so much information on everything almost daily. It's pretty interesting.

My husband is tall and slim, and while he wants to eat more healthily and is generally supportive by going on walks with me, I keep most of my weight loss stuff to myself. At most, I'll ask him to walk with me or point out that I only have 400 calories left for dinner when he suggests going to get fish and chips rather than cooking, and he's understanding.

My family has a lot of health nuts in it, so it's nice to have them to talk to. And the MFP forums are really great if you feel like your friends and family might be getting a little tired of hearing about it.

Losing weight is a really big deal. You have to have an outlet to talk about it somewhere or another or you'll lose perspective during the frustrating times and that puts you in danger of quitting.

I would say use these message boards to your advantage. People here are very helpful. You will get tough love, support, praise, etc. when it's needed.

azulvioleta6 wrote: »

Yep!

I think that it is actually a lot easier alone.

I agree!!!!

I am alone but I am not alone.... If that makes any sense. I have tried so many thing over the last decade till I am just lost and know I need to do something.... Just unsure of what! I do MFP ... However because I have tried so many things I am still lost. Looking for an accountability partner

Yep, all alome here. My family eats extremely unhealthy and is completely unsupportive. They scoff at me and make fun of me for wanting to eat healthy. I keep everything to my self. It can be extremely hard when someone is sitting there offering you fried chicken and all you can say is no thanks, I'll stick to my roasted cauliflower. And your mouth is just salivating. But in the end it is your battle and only you can fight it. One day they'll be asking us how we did it !

Like most of everyone, other than my few MFP friends that are doing this, I only have my mother who is doing better for herself (she's lost close to 100lbs) but not much encouragement. When I try to eat healthier, she only negatively comments about the food. And my S. O. doesn't really focus on a healthy eating lifestyle other than me preparing everything.
The managing food and calories is the easy part, it's the motivation for getting my butt put for a walk or work out.

ElisaBeth1996 wrote: »

Kalikel wrote: »

I've had a few people say they were going to start losing because if I can do it, they can, too. They ask a bazillion questions, which I answer. Then they decide to eat like 500 or 800 calories a day, which they do for a day or two or three. Then they're off the diet. Every. Single. Time.

They're just crash dieting. They don't really want to lose weight.

So, yup! Just me. That I know, anyway.

Would you be supportive if someone wanted to reach the same goal you do, more than anything?

Sure. I'm pretty supportive in general, even if it's not something I'd want. I think I am, anyway. I think people who know me would agree.

I'm not going to be anyone's coach, though. Not going to call someone up and tell them they need to go to the gym, lol. But will cheer them on if they mention they did it. But that goes for anything, not just weight loss.

I only know one person who is kind of trying to lose weight, but she's kind of back and forth with it. She will get there eventually, though.