Food Guilt?
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withaflourish wrote: »PinkPixiexox wrote: »No more crying over eating ...Please? :]
Your day isn't ruined. Your success hasn't disappeared. You've not gone off track - you are absolutely FINE!
Moderation is key. Make sure you allow yourself a bit of every thing you enjoy (logged, if you can)! If you go over your calories one day, wipe the slate clean and use those fresh set of calories the following day for better choices. The only thing you are guilty of is having a bad relationship with food. You've got this, stay strong. I promise you'll get there!
**THIS*** is why you got such a good response to your post this morning. Things like this.
Do yourself a favor, and when you have a moment of doubt like you did this morning...take a second to re-read things like this that you chose to spend your time to write to someone else.
Oh, you wonderful person :]
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You shouldn't feel guilty about eating any food unless you stole it.
If the pizza or ice cream fit into your calories for the day, you didn't even screw up. Pizza and ice cream have vitamins and minerals and macros your body can use.
Try to get out of the mentality of good food and bad food. It is not something to link emotions to.
I always think how lucky we are that we are able to truly enjoy the things our body needs for fuel!
I eat ice cream and/or chocolate almost every day. It's all good. Keep your chin up, take care of yourself, and let yourself enjoy food! :drinker:0 -
I struggle with this too! I get a little sad feeling after eating treats at least half the time, even when I can fit them in and I feel like I've "earned" them
Not sure how to combat this, I'm hoping I'll relax over time and when I see changes happening anyway I think it reminds me of old habits, and makes me afraid I'm on the verge of going back to them, because I'm so new to this. If the mentality hasn't changed in a year or so, and I've made progress, then I would think something's wrong. 0 -
It took me a second, but so absolutely this ^^. I'm probably going to have to steal that. 0 -
Healthy eating does not include guilt and tears. I hope you exaggerated for effect!
Do you prelog? Planning may help you visualize the impact of different foods on your calories and macro budget and thus lower the feeling of anxiety.0 -
EquestrianLark135 wrote: »Does anyone else have awful food guilt? I am way too strict on myself. I had pizza for dinner the other night after a really good day of healthy eating. An hour later I was crying and hating myself for "ruining my day”.
Today I had an ice cream cone because I had a tiny, crappy lunch and I have plenty of cals left (plus I'm working out later). I still feel like I screwed up.
I KNOW I'll feel guilty before eating these things, but I do it anyway... Then get hit with the overwhelming guilt as expected. I need to figure out how to control this because this is supposed to be a lifestyle change, not a diet. I don't want to live my life scared to eat anything but salads and wraps. It's... Depressing.
Do you experience this? Any suggestions?
I don't worry about it. I think stressing too much will cause you to give up, so no black and white rules for me.
Pizza is fine every once in a while, life is boring without it.0 -
The one thing that helped me cut out my trigger foods is knowing the urge was not going away just because i eat it. The fact that i would want it again and again was enough for me to realize that it would be a downward sprial. I do try to incorporate all foods but when i feel guilt i tell myself to snap out of it and i remember how far ive come.0
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I really think your relationship with food needs to be evaluated by a therapist, there is nothing healthy about that kind of guilt.0
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EquestrianLark135 wrote: »Does anyone else have awful food guilt? I am way too strict on myself. I had pizza for dinner the other night after a really good day of healthy eating. An hour later I was crying and hating myself for "ruining my day”.
Today I had an ice cream cone because I had a tiny, crappy lunch and I have plenty of cals left (plus I'm working out later). I still feel like I screwed up.
I KNOW I'll feel guilty before eating these things, but I do it anyway... Then get hit with the overwhelming guilt as expected. I need to figure out how to control this because this is supposed to be a lifestyle change, not a diet. I don't want to live my life scared to eat anything but salads and wraps. It's... Depressing.
Do you experience this? Any suggestions?
Your profile also shows a problematic attitude to food.
About Me:
I live with my boyfriend in IL with our 3 dogs, cat, and corn snake. We have always had an extremely unhealthy diet. We eat a lot of fast food, sweets, and drink a lot of soda. I happen to have a very very sensitive tummy. I have irritable bowel syndrome which requires a very specific diet as treatment. I have also realized over the last few months that I am lactose intolerant, gluten intolerant, and extremely sensitive to sweets and caffeine. (Duh) So... my diet will be free of all those things.
Why I want to get in shape
I have IBS as well as food allergies that I've discovered over the last year. I get extremely sick every day from the various, unhealthy (and healthy) things I eat. That needs to change. I miss out on fun times with my boyfriend and friends because "I'm too sick today". I miss work shifts a lot because I'm sick and I'm sure they are frustrated with me. This should have changed a long time ago.
You say you "discovered" these allergies... a doctor or specialist didn't diagnose them? 0 -
Food shouldn't make you feel ashamed.
Try to remind yourself that you DO want to eat the pizza and ice cream. That's why you eat it. It isn't really that you don't want it, but have no control over yourself. You're 100% in control. When you eat this stuff, remind yourself that you've chosen to eat it.
Once you're accustomed to choosing and knowing you're in charge of what you eat, it might get easier to chose not to eat things that will stall your diet or not contribute to your overall health. But, IMO, there is no way to choose anything so long as you tell yourself that you cannot help it.
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Food shouldn't make you feel ashamed.
Try to remind yourself that you DO want to eat the pizza and ice cream. That's why you eat it. It isn't really that you don't want it, but have no control over yourself. You're 100% in control. When you eat this stuff, remind yourself that you've chosen to eat it.
Once you're accustomed to choosing and knowing you're in charge of what you eat, it might get easier to chose not to eat things that will stall your diet or not contribute to your overall health. But, IMO, there is no way to choose anything so long as you tell yourself that you cannot help it.
Good luck.
Um, can you explain how anything you just said is helpful? Or are you just doing the neg thing?
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I used to until I realized that I can still lose weight and be healthy even while eating the occasional pizza, and I literally eat chocolate every day. 65 pounds lost! Today I ate fried cake batter at the fair and don't feel guilty at all. In the past I had the same "all or nothing" mentality as you with dieting and all it did was cause me to be so restrictive that I would just end up binging and give up dieting all together. I've been much more successful this time around including treats in my life.0
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I feel a little guilty if I go over my goal. I feel very happy if I eat pizza or ice cream and stay within a deficit.0
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withaflourish wrote: »Food shouldn't make you feel ashamed.
Try to remind yourself that you DO want to eat the pizza and ice cream. That's why you eat it. It isn't really that you don't want it, but have no control over yourself. You're 100% in control. When you eat this stuff, remind yourself that you've chosen to eat it.
Once you're accustomed to choosing and knowing you're in charge of what you eat, it might get easier to chose not to eat things that will stall your diet or not contribute to your overall health. But, IMO, there is no way to choose anything so long as you tell yourself that you cannot help it.
Good luck.
Um, can you explain how anything you just said is helpful? Or are you just doing the neg thing?
I've seen this sort of tip often as a way to work with binge eating disorder. It's a way to bring mindfulness back.
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What is awful or unhealthy about pizza? It's tomato sauce and cheese and bread, not arsenic and crack.
If you are seriously crying and hating yourself (rather than exaggerating for effect) you need to see a counselor. It's not healthy to think that way.
Best of luck to you.
Since she's lactose and gluten intolerant, she probably pays for it afterwards.
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kshama2001 wrote: »withaflourish wrote: »Food shouldn't make you feel ashamed.
Try to remind yourself that you DO want to eat the pizza and ice cream. That's why you eat it. It isn't really that you don't want it, but have no control over yourself. You're 100% in control. When you eat this stuff, remind yourself that you've chosen to eat it.
Once you're accustomed to choosing and knowing you're in charge of what you eat, it might get easier to chose not to eat things that will stall your diet or not contribute to your overall health. But, IMO, there is no way to choose anything so long as you tell yourself that you cannot help it.
Good luck.
Um, can you explain how anything you just said is helpful? Or are you just doing the neg thing?
I've seen this sort of tip often as a way to work with binge eating disorder. It's a way to bring mindfulness back.
So, not helpful at all then.
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Wow. I just want to thank everyone for all the supportive replies!
I am working on changing my unhealthy mindset with food but it's a way of thinking I've had for years... So it's pretty hard.
I am in therapy for depression and anxiety as well as more recently - eating disorders. I do have Binge eating disorder which causes my food guilt (should have put that in the original post). I went through a few months of trying to control it by extreme calorie deficiency and fasting. I was eating less than 500 cals a day and losing around a pound a day. As hungry as I was, I loved seeing the progress so fast. Unfortunately, the inevitable happened... I binged. I binged a lot. I got depressed and cut (not a new thing). This is when my therapist stepped in and I told her what I had been doing.
So yeah... I have issues.
I do like the idea of pre logging my days. I'll definitely try that!
And I think a lot of you are right in that when I actually see the progress - while still allowing myself treats - will change my "bad food” mindset.0 -
EquestrianLark135 wrote: »Wow. I just want to thank everyone for all the supportive replies!
I am working on changing my unhealthy mindset with food but it's a way of thinking I've had for years... So it's pretty hard.
I am in therapy for depression and anxiety as well as more recently - eating disorders. I do have Binge eating disorder which causes my food guilt (should have put that in the original post). I went through a few months of trying to control it by extreme calorie deficiency and fasting. I was eating less than 500 cals a day and losing around a pound a day. As hungry as I was, I loved seeing the progress so fast. Unfortunately, the inevitable happened... I binged. I binged a lot. I got depressed and cut (not a new thing). This is when my therapist stepped in and I told her what I had been doing.
So yeah... I have issues.
I do like the idea of pre logging my days. I'll definitely try that!
And I think a lot of you are right in that when I actually see the progress - while still allowing myself treats - will change my "bad food” mindset.
*hugs*
I think depression and anxiety and food can interact in some messed up ways, in my experience. Having a "perfection or failure" mindset is definitely something I'm working against, and it can be very stop-go. I'm glad to hear you're working with a therapist! I really do think progress will help the "bad food" feeling, and even if the weight isn't showing it - things like not binging and feeling better are still wins I wish you all the best! 0 -
I am not sure how to express it, maybe if we say, some foods or some foods in some quantities aggravate my health condition or are less helpful in reaching my health goals. Face it, sometimes it is just easier to use the adjective "bad". The temptation for me, with anxiety and depression, it that I often think in terms of all or nothing. Something that has helped me is to think of this "lifestyle change" as a process that takes practice. I relate it to playing a musical instrument when you have an average amount of talent. You will not go from performing "Twinkle Twinkle Little Star" to "Bach" without a many years of practice. I think of everyday as a practice, not performance. When you practice, you can mess up, stop in the middle and start over again. When you practice you can work on one bit, over and over again until you feel comfortable with that and move on. The key to becoming performance ready is to keep practicing. When it comes to health lifestyle I am no child prodigy, is "Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star", music? Sure it is, but I want more, the way to get more is to just keep on practicing. Be gentle with yourself, if you aren't perfect, by reminding yourself it is just practice. Be tough on yourself when you are tempted to stop practicing, because that will not get you where you want to be.
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kshama2001 wrote: »What is awful or unhealthy about pizza? It's tomato sauce and cheese and bread, not arsenic and crack.
If you are seriously crying and hating yourself (rather than exaggerating for effect) you need to see a counselor. It's not healthy to think that way.
Best of luck to you.
Since she's lactose and gluten intolerant, she probably pays for it afterwards.
I'm assuming she's smart enough to eat pizza or ice cream that doesn't cause gastrointestinal problems.0
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