To all the MFP MEANIES and know it alls, this is for you

missyjg99 wrote: »

missyjg99 wrote: »

Still here

WinoGelato wrote: »

I'm glad this post got bumped as I remember when it first got posted and how refreshing it was... I hope the OP is still having success and would love if she would comment again!

Still here fighting the fight. Y'all continue to help me. So many personal struggles going on but doesn't matter. Still going.

missyjg99 wrote: »

aurora15 wrote: »

Some people can be malicious or trolls. And some will step down on others to feel better or superior themselves. I had to delete a thread too because I asked for advice to remedy an immediate problem and simply got very negative responses and told basically "you are an Idiot for doing that" I understand perfectly what you went through, and I find peace in knowing that they, just like me, are on our journey and I wish them well on karmic wellness and wholeness;)

Yep I agree, but my point is, is that's NOT what I experienced here at this post. I guess the best way to explain it is using an analogy. You have an infected wound. What you are doing isn't helping the wound but making it worse. You know that cleaning and stitching the wound will really hurt and be a long process so you naturally avoid that even though that's the cure. It's a long and painful process. You go to numerous doctors and specialists waiting for one to tell you there's a magic pill to fix your wound, but it's never the response you get. Treatment is generally always the same. You then begin getting angry at the doctors accusing them of not listening or being ignorant, so you leave that practice and go to another doctor. You try wholistic medicine and herbs, bc it worked for your friend, but the wound gets worse. You try a vitamin regiment bc it worked for a cousins friend, but although the wound improved it quickly returned to its infected state and became worse. So you go back to the original doctor bc you are now suffering the symptoms and pain of infection. This doctor says the same thing and you leave in a huff wondering WHY these doctors won't listen to you and are being judgemental and rude!! You go home and really dig deep and step back and accept the fact your behavior and your interpretation/perception may not be what is being said, simply you're scared shITless and you have to now accept this. So after a few weeks you go back to the doctors, more humble, with more courage, willing to accept help and understanding you have a lot to learn in the process. You get through the treatment and despite the pain, it's not as bad as the pain you were currently experiencing when your wound was festering. Over time you start feeling better and better and wonder how you could consider those doctors rude and judgemental to begin with. They were there to help, you just didn't like the answers they gave so your brain twisted their words and you remembered it differently then what was actually stated.
Now I love the meanies on here (forever your knickname) but in the above analogy they are the "doctors and specialists", and if you really stop and look at what they are replying it's NOT mean, just true. The wound is your weight or health struggles, and I quickly realized what works for a few won't work for most. There is no magic pill. If you accept that you have to face this head on, that you're a "newbie" despite being on this site for 6 years, that bluntness is not equivalent to meanness and that temper tantrums will produce pics and gifs of rainbow farting unicorns; you'll quickly see what you need to do to succeed. At least that was my perception and I take full ownership and responsibility for that!!
Best of luck.