Day One (once again)

matti2
matti2 Posts: 26 Member
edited November 24 in Getting Started
Well, here I go! It's not the first time, but it IS going to be the last time. I am hoping that going "public" (in a private sort of way) - joining this community of amazing and inspiring individuals, each with your own invaluable story - will help me to stay honest with myself.

Do you remember your Day One? Silly question! I'm sure everyone does! When was it? How far have you come? Any words of wisdom? I'm really happy to be joining this fantastic community! Best to all of you.

Here goes.... :-)

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  • Angellore
    Angellore Posts: 519 Member
    Good luck to you. I remember my day one this time around. It was last November and my doctor tld me I qualified for WLS - that was not the route I wanted to go down so I got serious with MFP. I am 17lbs down to date, which is slow, but suits me because I am getting lighter, and fitter, but not feeling deprived like I have in the past.
  • matti2
    matti2 Posts: 26 Member
    That's fantastic @Angellore - and very motivating! Thanks for sharing. Slow and steady is the way to go!
  • HealthyGinny
    HealthyGinny Posts: 821 Member
    Hello!!! 2nd time on here and my first day this time around was mid-May, just because summer was quickly coming and I couldn't look at myself in a mirror anymore. I'm down 11kgs so far (around 2.5 kgs a month) and I am eating between 1500 and 1700cals a day because otherwise I am the Hulk when I'm hungry haha. I only walk and get on the home bicycle as exercise but it fits me. I only weigh myself when I feel like it and when I feel I am gonna like the number on the scale so no pressure :) I wish you all the luck, you can do it!!
  • matti2
    matti2 Posts: 26 Member
    Wow, @HealthyGinny ! That's one healthy attitude! I am impressed and inspired :-) Do you feel that it's all habit at this point or do you still need to stay on top of things?
  • bozzi2002
    bozzi2002 Posts: 19 Member
    I am sold day 1, after long break
    I am fattest ever and it took me a while to decide
    Good to know I am not alone
  • Liftng4Lis
    Liftng4Lis Posts: 15,151 Member
    Welcome back. You've got this!
  • matti2
    matti2 Posts: 26 Member
    Glad you decided to give it another go, @bozzi2002 ! Welcome back! You are definitely not alone.
  • PinkPixiexox
    PinkPixiexox Posts: 4,142 Member
    Welcome back - good to see you here! :)

    My Day 1 started after an upsetting doctor's appointment. I had been denying my weight gain to myself for months and months, refusing to accept that I was over-eating or that I'd put on a substantial amount of weight. My clothes were tighter but I put it down to them 'shrinking in the wash'. I look back now and laugh at my attitude but at the time, I was 100% sure I hadn't put on weight.

    I went to my doctor for a routine appointment. As per routine, I had to be weighed. I got on the scales and was absolutely horrified to see that I'd gone from 130 lbs to around 160. For my 5 ft 2 frame, this was the biggest I had ever been. My doctor asked me how I'd gained so much and I didn't have an answer for him. Weight has always been a sensitive subject for me so I was absolutely humiliated. I burst into tears and spent the next two days in bed feeling embarassed and disappointed in myself.

    After that, I vowed I would never feel that way again and I made a pact with myself to be healthy and happy. I've lost those 30 lbs gained and I'm 8 lbs until my goal weight. Feeling fantastic for it. Day 1 is always hard - but hang in there, you can do this.
  • Healthyby2017
    Healthyby2017 Posts: 9 Member
    my day one started three days ago for the probably 4-5 time, this time I have a set goal, not just weight loss but something to look forward to, something i didn't have in the past, true motivation. looking back now at all my other "first" days felt hollow, I'm serious about losing weight now and this time will be different. I have been stuck at 110kg now for years and am finally trying to lose it the right way, no more crash/fad diets :smile:
  • SquishyVicki
    SquishyVicki Posts: 280 Member
    My day one (again!) is today. I'd gone from 213 lbs down to around 150 lbs back up to 238 lbs at my heaviest last year before I had my daughter (damn pregnancy and all those cravings!!). Determined to get back down there and it seems it's taken me a year (my daughter turned 1 last week) to find my motivation!

    So here was are - day 1 - tired of being fat (again) - and motivated to do something about it. We can do this!!
    Feel free to add me if you're looking to build an online support network!
  • MaryAHChase
    MaryAHChase Posts: 1 Member
    Day 1 for the I LOST TRACK time! I have an appt to discuss WLS, but I do not want to go that route. I don't judge those that have, but I don't believe I'm ready for that. This time is it. Best of luck to you.
  • matti2
    matti2 Posts: 26 Member
    Thanks @PinkPixiexox - for your words of support AND inspiration. Love your honesty! You've got a great sense of humor, which is key - especially in the face of adversity. I am also 5'2" and, though I could see the number on the scale going up, I was certain it was just temporary. It may not have been so temporary, but I am going to make sure that it's not permanent. Congratulations on being so close to your goal!
  • fatdaduk
    fatdaduk Posts: 50 Member
    My day 1 was only a week ago but like you I believe this to be my final attempt - and THE successful attempt. Not just a diet but a new way of living, I think it has to be that drastic for me.

    I'm planning on the fairly intense stage at the start to lose the bulk of my weight to a more comfortable level, then phase 2 will be losing weight until I feel I am content before the final stage of maintaining my weight so it doesn't creep (or jump) back up.

    I'm prepared for the disappointments and the set-backs but I am eager for the feeling of success when I hit my first target of getting out of the Obese section of the BMI (I know the BMI is not 100% reliable but it is a good first target to aim for). I want to reach 16 stones (224lbs) which is 28.8 on the BMI putting me in the overweight category on the BMI and out of the obese.

    After that I will see how I feel about my size and fitness and possibly set another goal from there (possibly 13 stones which was my weight when in my prime but I'm sot sure about that yet.

    I'm more interested in how my clothes fit and if I can run up stairs without requiring a nap to recover. :blush: But the BMI and figures on the scales are just a good starting point for me.

    Anyway, that's where I am. :)
  • cwagar123
    cwagar123 Posts: 195 Member
    Yep... My day one was this: In Jan 2013 I had a baby at home and went out for a date night with my hubby where I ate a copious amount of food and dessert, and a dessert coffee. I was 268 lbs. I almost had to undo my too tight jeans sitting right there at the table. I went to the washroom and couldn't even look at myself in the mirror. But when I did I was horrified. I had no neck, I was bloated, I looked 15 years older. I hated what I was wearing because I looked matronly.
    I decided right then and there that something had to give.
    I didn't want to do a fad diet - had done many. I just wanted to care about myself again. Care enough about myself to feed my body healthy food. To have pictures of myself and my baby because I HATED the camera.
    That was 2.5 years ago.
    I have lost 71 lbs... or I have lost 1 lb 71 times.
    Patience and time, patience and time.
    Welcome.
  • matti2
    matti2 Posts: 26 Member
    Hi @Healthyby2017 - thank you for sharing your story. You must be halfway to week two already! It's great that you've found your inner motivation. It's so much more powerful than some outer motivation (like a new love), which might work wonders for weight loss in the short term, but can backfire if life takes a change of course. We are each our own best partner in this, yet we rarely treat ourselves as a true ally. We doubt ourselves and beat ourselves up, rather than working together with ourselves. Realizing this was both empowering and calming for me. I realized that I am the only person who's in it with me for the long haul, so I had better settle in and establish healthy long-term habits. Such a different approach from my usual short-term, impatient, unsustainable one. It's funny how connecting with others on the MFP community increases my sense of accountability to others, while I am actually learning to be more accountable to myself. I think the support and encouragement from others rubs off and helps us to be more supportive of and compassionate towards ourselves.

    You really can do it this time!
  • matti2
    matti2 Posts: 26 Member
    Hi @MaryAHChase - It doesn't matter how many Day Ones we've had. As you said, THIS time is it! I think it's good that you don't want to go the surgery route. You know best what you are capable of and it's important to trust yourself. Be good to yourself and give yourself time. I think part of the process is learning how to invest in ourselves - be supportive, patient, and respectful - as we would with anyone else we care about. And turn to others in the community when you have moments of doubt (as well as highlights to share). I imagine there are others who have contemplated surgery and would be happy to share their stories and offer support. I look forward to following your exciting journey in the months ahead. Keep fighting - I'm rooting for you!
  • matti2
    matti2 Posts: 26 Member
    Hi @SquishyVicki - Congratulations, Mom! And happy birthday to your little girl. You're absolutely right. We CAN do this! It doesn't matter one bit how much time your motivation has needed to find you again. The only thing that matters is that it's back and you're ready. It is really difficult to find your motivation when you have a baby. First, you're body has been rented out for 9 months and when it's returned to you by the tiny tenant, it's hardly recognizable (at least that was the case with me, 18 years ago, when my son was born). Second, there is that incredible, wonderful - usually rather demanding - new being (the former tenant) who still needs you for everything, but now it's more difficult because mother nature, who managed everything during the pregnancy, has now stepped aside and it's all up to you. Third, becoming a mother is such an AMAZING experience. It's natural for our focus to shift away from ourselves and to be caught up in the wonder of it all.

    So, now you're back and it's the right time to shift some focus to your own needs. And while we all need to do this first and foremost for ourselves, wanting to set a positive example for our children can be a great motivator. As your daughter grows bigger, you will be "growing" smaller!

  • matti2
    matti2 Posts: 26 Member
    Hi @fatdaduk - Congratulations for going from Day One to WEEK TWO! It sounds as though you have a solid plan. I think pacing ourselves, being patient and trusting the process are some of the greatest challenges. Setting realistic targets and focusing on developing healthy habits that are sustainable is what it's really all about. Unfortunately, we weren't born with a user's manual, so we basically wing it most of our lives. We tend to assign negative adjectives to ourselves and feel that those "flaws" are fundamentally part of who we are and are unchangeable, when it really all comes down to habits that we have formed over the years. I find it encouraging when I think about how bad habits (that I created) are what got me here, and that I can create good habits to replace them and get myself back to where I want to be. I see this weight loss journey for myself as an opportunity to really get to know myself and what works for me in terms of nutrition, exercise, lifestyle habits, interests. There is a lot of information out there and it can be overwhelming. Learning to listen to one's inner voice can make all the difference.

    Sounds like you're in a great place to make this work!
  • matti2
    matti2 Posts: 26 Member
    Thank you @cwagar123 for the warm welcome and wise words! "Patience and time, patience and time" - so very true. And you have the results to back them up. Congratulations on your perseverance and inspiring results! While that night in the restaurant washroom may have been one of your worst, what a healthy sign that you recognized it was time to start caring for yourself. Those moments of clarity are priceless and life-changing. Thank you for sharing your story. I feel very motivated!
  • PinkPixiexox
    PinkPixiexox Posts: 4,142 Member
    matti2 wrote: »
    Thanks @PinkPixiexox - for your words of support AND inspiration. Love your honesty! You've got a great sense of humor, which is key - especially in the face of adversity. I am also 5'2" and, though I could see the number on the scale going up, I was certain it was just temporary. It may not have been so temporary, but I am going to make sure that it's not permanent. Congratulations on being so close to your goal!

    Thank you for your kind words. I have every faith in you - you can do this. Stay strong.
  • fatdaduk
    fatdaduk Posts: 50 Member
    matti2 wrote: »
    Hi @fatdaduk - Congratulations for going from Day One to WEEK TWO! It sounds as though you have a solid plan. I think pacing ourselves, being patient and trusting the process are some of the greatest challenges. Setting realistic targets and focusing on developing healthy habits that are sustainable is what it's really all about. Unfortunately, we weren't born with a user's manual, so we basically wing it most of our lives. We tend to assign negative adjectives to ourselves and feel that those "flaws" are fundamentally part of who we are and are unchangeable, when it really all comes down to habits that we have formed over the years. I find it encouraging when I think about how bad habits (that I created) are what got me here, and that I can create good habits to replace them and get myself back to where I want to be. I see this weight loss journey for myself as an opportunity to really get to know myself and what works for me in terms of nutrition, exercise, lifestyle habits, interests. There is a lot of information out there and it can be overwhelming. Learning to listen to one's inner voice can make all the difference.

    Sounds like you're in a great place to make this work!

    Thank you so much for taking the time to offer your support (and to write the above post)
  • matti2
    matti2 Posts: 26 Member
    It's my pleasure! That's what this community is all about. Have a great afternoon/evening.
  • matti2
    matti2 Posts: 26 Member
    fatdaduk wrote: »
    matti2 wrote: »
    Hi @fatdaduk - Congratulations for going from Day One to WEEK TWO! It sounds as though you have a solid plan. I think pacing ourselves, being patient and trusting the process are some of the greatest challenges. Setting realistic targets and focusing on developing healthy habits that are sustainable is what it's really all about. Unfortunately, we weren't born with a user's manual, so we basically wing it most of our lives. We tend to assign negative adjectives to ourselves and feel that those "flaws" are fundamentally part of who we are and are unchangeable, when it really all comes down to habits that we have formed over the years. I find it encouraging when I think about how bad habits (that I created) are what got me here, and that I can create good habits to replace them and get myself back to where I want to be. I see this weight loss journey for myself as an opportunity to really get to know myself and what works for me in terms of nutrition, exercise, lifestyle habits, interests. There is a lot of information out there and it can be overwhelming. Learning to listen to one's inner voice can make all the difference.

    Sounds like you're in a great place to make this work!

    Thank you so much for taking the time to offer your support (and to write the above post)

    Oops! Forgot to use the quote feature in my reply!
    It's my pleasure! That's what this community is all about. Have a great afternoon/evening.
  • matti2
    matti2 Posts: 26 Member
    PinkPixiexox wrote: »
    matti2 wrote: »
    Thanks @PinkPixiexox - for your words of support AND inspiration. Love your honesty! You've got a great sense of humor, which is key - especially in the face of adversity. I am also 5'2" and, though I could see the number on the scale going up, I was certain it was just temporary. It may not have been so temporary, but I am going to make sure that it's not permanent. Congratulations on being so close to your goal!

    Thank you for your kind words. I have every faith in you - you can do this. Stay strong.

    Back atcha!
  • Ginnygirl5
    Ginnygirl5 Posts: 55 Member
    Remember this is for you and your better life! That if you have a set back, to learn from it and keep going! You can do this!
  • fatboypup
    fatboypup Posts: 1,873 Member
    i also am restarting
  • matti2
    matti2 Posts: 26 Member
    Ginnygirl5 wrote: »
    Remember this is for you and your better life! That if you have a set back, to learn from it and keep going! You can do this!

    So very true - thanks!
  • matti2
    matti2 Posts: 26 Member
    fatboypup wrote: »
    i also am restarting

    Back in the saddle. You've got it this time!
  • mylittlerainbow
    mylittlerainbow Posts: 822 Member
    I had a day one back some years ago - lost a lot of weight and kept it off for quite a while. Then I retired, and nobody could see me eating! I could eat all I wanted! 30 pounds piled back on within 18 months - ugh! So I had a new day one a few weeks ago and I am hoping that this is IT. I want all of my pretty clothes to fit and I want to be healthy! I need to learn to trust myself to make the right choices, which I am relearning. Good luck to us all!
  • matti2
    matti2 Posts: 26 Member
    mylittlerainbow wrote: »
    I had a day one back some years ago - lost a lot of weight and kept it off for quite a while. Then I retired, and nobody could see me eating! I could eat all I wanted! 30 pounds piled back on within 18 months - ugh! So I had a new day one a few weeks ago and I am hoping that this is IT. I want all of my pretty clothes to fit and I want to be healthy! I need to learn to trust myself to make the right choices, which I am relearning. Good luck to us all!

    Congratulations for trusting yourself and making the right choice to take charge again! It makes sense to have wanted to kick back a bit when you first retired. Seems a natural response to having the stress of daily work life removed. Now it's a healthy response to say, I'm ready to take on the next challenge. You've got the know-how and lessons learned from before, the motivation now and a gorgeous wardrobe waiting. Sounds like the time is right. You're in charge and you can do this!
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