Am I the only one who feels this way?

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  • _SusieQ_
    _SusieQ_ Posts: 2,964 Member
    Oh dear gawd NO you aren't the only one! I either go to the Y to work out, or wait until he goes to bed to work out at home! This week I started the 30 Day Shred and I told him, look, I'm going to get up earlier in the morning to do this. That's your time to go take a shower and start getting ready for work, b/c I don't want you in there laughing at me.

    Of course he walks past the room yesterday to let the dog out. he stopped and said, Why would you think I would laugh at you, I'm proud of you. :love:

    But to your point, I prefer to be alone, or in a class where I'm somewhat anonymous!
  • jdoggie
    jdoggie Posts: 42
    No you are not the only one who feels like that, my husband is the same, I am like you though I am afraid he will see the real me and be turned off. So I have said in a nice way, Can I just try on my own for a while and then we could go together. So we take long walks in the evenings instead. for a while anyway.. It is our own demans, but they still feel real. He will understand:)
  • fridayjustleft04
    fridayjustleft04 Posts: 851 Member
    I'm the same way. My boyfriend is in better shape than me and he was literally running circles around me on Monday with c25k, but he's also the reason I don't quit running when I want to. He's great motivation.
  • saj96003
    saj96003 Posts: 19
    I think a lot of us are in the same boat. I am no longer married, but I remember how I felt when my ex wanted to watch or go with me. That said, I think we all need to remember that we won't reach our goals without the support and encouragement of other people. If your husband really wants to help, I would advise that you swallow your self consciousness and let him. It is easier to stay motivated when you have someone working out with you. At some point we have to quit hiding and just get out there and do it! I know it is easier said than done, though! I wish you the best of luck :)
  • mandyshell
    mandyshell Posts: 55
    I can totally understand where your coming from. The only time I'm self conscious about working out in front of my husband however is if I do a workout video at home. Like 30 Day Shred or Zumba or something like that. I definately don't want him watching me do that, lol. But if I'm running, or doing weights or anything like that, I love it when he does it along with me. It's more fun to have him there with me.
  • mosneakers
    mosneakers Posts: 343 Member
    I was the same way! Did I mention that I especially hate him because his metabolism is so super fast? The man can eat whatever he wants.
    It took me a while to get over run/walks with him. I thought he would leave me in the dusk, he didn't. I thought he wold laugh at how I ran, he didn't. I thought he would never want to run/walk with me again, we just signed up for an 8K together.

    I think the thing to remember is that you both have different reasons for doing the same exercise. Ever wonder what the thinks you're thinking when you're exercising together? Maybe something like "what will she say if I can't breathe because of my years of smoking and I have to slow it down?"

    My other problem was other people watching me. I always thought they would look at me and note all the things I was doing wrong. Hey - I was out there moving, that's better than what most of America is doing.

    BTW - are you liking C25K? I'm on week 4 and it's sooooooo cool to run 3 minutes! You'll get there!
  • flutterqueen04
    flutterqueen04 Posts: 278
    I usually don't like to workout with him. He usually likes to make comments and talk and I need to be focused or it makes the workout longer. Now if I am doing a workout video and he is in the room on his laptop or playing with our daughter then I don't care, as long as they don't get in my way.

    When I go out on walks/runs/blading I prefer to not have him there. It is mostly because I know that if I say I am tired he will coddle me and let me stop. I actually have a workout buddy I do this with who tells me to shut my whiny mouth and keeps me moving.
  • JuniperT
    JuniperT Posts: 394 Member
    So, here I am, a big fluffy girl trying to lose weight with the support of my wonderful man. And I've started the C25K and today will be my d2w1 and I had a hard time with the first day. Not a horribly hard time but it was very apparent how out of shape I really am :laugh: So, as moral support my boyfriend would like to come along for the run with me. And he has his reasons, quit smoking, started a new job which calls for alot less movement than he's used to so he's getting a bit of a belly. I know he really wants to come for moral support, and I appreciate it but here's the thing... I'm fat :laugh: and it's hard for me, I have a hard time excercising in front of him. And I know he loves me for who I am, and he thinks I'm beautiful no matter what, but I have a hard time with the idea of him coming along. I know they are my own demons to deal with, but am I the only one who feels this way?

    Well, I did it and LOVED it!!! :smile: And not only did he come but so did my son :love: it was great. Yeah at first, I was really self aware of everything I did, I mean, this guy is in awesome shape (ex-hockey player, runner) running backwards, peeking back at me but it wasn't to make fun of me or tell me I was doing it wrong or too slow or breathing too heavy :laugh: And when we finished up, he told me he was really proud of me and as nice as it is to be proud of yourself, it's really nice to have your family be proud of you as well. Thanks to everyone for helping me to realize it's okay to be a little crazy!!!
  • JuniperT
    JuniperT Posts: 394 Member
    I was the same way! Did I mention that I especially hate him because his metabolism is so super fast? The man can eat whatever he wants.
    It took me a while to get over run/walks with him. I thought he would leave me in the dusk, he didn't. I thought he wold laugh at how I ran, he didn't. I thought he would never want to run/walk with me again, we just signed up for an 8K together.

    I think the thing to remember is that you both have different reasons for doing the same exercise. Ever wonder what the thinks you're thinking when you're exercising together? Maybe something like "what will she say if I can't breathe because of my years of smoking and I have to slow it down?"

    My other problem was other people watching me. I always thought they would look at me and note all the things I was doing wrong. Hey - I was out there moving, that's better than what most of America is doing.

    BTW - are you liking C25K? I'm on week 4 and it's sooooooo cool to run 3 minutes! You'll get there!

    I really was in the same boat as you, and I can honestly say I'm better now. I may still be a little self aware on the next run but it got better as time passed last night. And yes, I'm doing the C25K, last night was day 2 week 1 and even then, I found it a little easier than the first night. I'm really excited to get back into shape and I appreciate the words of encouragment. :smile:
  • Schraudt814
    Schraudt814 Posts: 496 Member
    I feel the same way- my boyfriend doesn't work out and yet can just hit the road and jog 2 miles without getting winded...I'm dying by the first 1/2 mile! I've never been a good runner so I'm trying the C25K program too! I still don't want him to work out with me until maybe week 5...
  • isabelk
    isabelk Posts: 153 Member
    I thought I could say I'm okay with my husband + anything, but the truth is, the ONE thing I'm too embarrassed about is exercise. I exercise fully clothed but there is a slapping sound during 30 day shred (and another sound during plank jacks, some of you ladies know what I'm talking about) that I really dislike to hear and I'd be soooo embarrassed if he heard it. I would die of embarrassment. We've been through everything together and we have no big secrets. Just little ones, like my exercise sound.
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