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  • kristen6350
    kristen6350 Posts: 1,094 Member
    When I started a new job in 2013, the people at work told me I'd gain weight. Office that LOVES food. I had just lost 50lbs and was lighter than I had ever been as an adult. I said "no, way, not going to happen". But oddly enough, 9 months later, I was 20lbs heavier. Mid-December I gave myself some rules. No more work food. Less snacking. If it's not prelogged, I didn't eat it. The Holidays weren't an excuse. By May I had those 20lbs back off and they never came back. Why? Because I made a promise to myself to weigh each week and if I wasn't in a 5lb range, then it was time to dig deep and do the right things. When I had lost that 50lbs I thought I had it all figured out. But I quit weighing (telling myself I'd go by my pants, then just buying bigger, because why not? LOL). I quit logging. I got comfortable. Like it seems you have. 20lbs isn't horrible, but it takes dedication and I know you can do it. Just make a promise to yourself that you'll do better about keeping it off. This is a life lesson. Everyone makes mistakes, get back at it now.
  • oolou
    oolou Posts: 765 Member
    kristen6350 wrote: »
    When I started a new job in 2013, the people at work told me I'd gain weight. Office that LOVES food. I had just lost 50lbs and was lighter than I had ever been as an adult. I said "no, way, not going to happen". But oddly enough, 9 months later, I was 20lbs heavier. Mid-December I gave myself some rules. No more work food. Less snacking. If it's not prelogged, I didn't eat it. The Holidays weren't an excuse. By May I had those 20lbs back off and they never came back. Why? Because I made a promise to myself to weigh each week and if I wasn't in a 5lb range, then it was time to dig deep and do the right things. When I had lost that 50lbs I thought I had it all figured out. But I quit weighing (telling myself I'd go by my pants, then just buying bigger, because why not? LOL). I quit logging. I got comfortable. Like it seems you have. 20lbs isn't horrible, but it takes dedication and I know you can do it. Just make a promise to yourself that you'll do better about keeping it off. This is a life lesson. Everyone makes mistakes, get back at it now.

    Now that's what I call a pep talk!

  • Nickle526
    Nickle526 Posts: 239 Member
    My boyfriend is an excellent cook. We don't live together, but we see each other a few times a week. He cooks for us when we are at his place. I recently started logging food again, because it is really the only way I lose weight. The most beneficial part of logging for me is realizing how overboard on calories I go if I am not paying attention. I have never had a good grasp on just eating what I need, and tend to eat until I am stuffed. This morning my boyfriend made bacon and pancakes. I was still able to enjoy a nice breakfast, while staying within my calories. I ended up eating about half of what I normally would, and was still satisfied. For me, a little awareness goes a long way, but I have to put the effort in, or it just doesn't happen.
  • katkins73
    katkins73 Posts: 416 Member
    Buy a fabulous item of clothing. Something that is tight but you love! Hang it where you can see it and maybe plan where you will wear it when it fits
  • SLLRunner
    SLLRunner Posts: 12,942 Member
    arditarose wrote: »
    Do it. NOW. I know moving in with someone who isn't watching what they eat must be hard. I mean, I struggle when I'm just visiting my boyfriend for the weekend. But it's already been 20 pounds. If you don't catch it now you'll feel even worse when it's 30, or 40.

    This.

    Elphie, you can do this.
  • LKArgh
    LKArgh Posts: 5,178 Member
    elphie754 wrote: »
    I need to vent and please feel free to be harsh/not sugar coat replies because I need a reality check.

    My significant other and I have made a HUGE step in our relationship, and for that I am so so excited! He moved in and a promise ring is in the picture, great right?

    Well it would be if I wasn't coming up with excuse after excuse these past two or so months in regards to food and weight. In the past two months I have put back on almost 20 lbs of the 100 I have lost. I knew my weight was creeping back up (pants were tighter, belt was tighter) but I would find excuses like sodium level and I hadn't been feeling this month. I know what I need to do (get back to weighing and logging which I have recommitted to) and I have his support, just needed to vent.

    What you describe is very common, so it just proves you are human :) I think every single one of my friends, male or female (me included) put on at least 10-20 lbs when first moving in with a partner.
    Since you realise now what the problem is, you can correct it. Do not feel bad about what has happened and just move on.
  • MelodyandBarbells
    MelodyandBarbells Posts: 7,724 Member
    elphie754 wrote: »
    kshama2001 wrote: »
    elphie754 wrote: »
    JaneiR36 wrote: »
    elphie754 wrote: »
    Psychgrrl wrote: »
    It is your responsibility, but that doesn't mean he can't have a part in it. You're becoming life partners, after all. Mutual love, mutual support. Involving him won't mean you aren't the driving force any longer or that you're abdicating your control.

    He knows my goals and does support me, but he also knows I need to do this on my own. I have a history of an eating disorder (years ago and haven't acted upon it in years) but ba trigger for me is when people get too involved in my eating habits. I start to hide/sneak binges.

    Oh, ok. I was wondering the same as she was because - what changed recently? And how can you create an environment where you're more consistent with your habits and more successful.
    What changed was he moved in.

    And you are spending more time with him and not logging? That's natural, but I think it will be even harder for people like you and me to pay attention to our needs over our SOs. When I committed to logging in April, I explained the whole I have a calorie budget and need to spend time logging my food so I don't go over my budget thing to my fiance. I see him four times per week and prelog as much as possible so this doesn't interfere with our time.

    More so I got lazy with weighing food since I was cooking for both and it was easier not to log.

    Do you use that process where you weigh the entire batch of food when you cook it (and log using the recipe tool), and then record the total number of servings in the recipe as the weight of the batch? Then when you serve yourself a portion, the weight in grams is then the number of servings for that meal? Something like this should help when you cook for multiple people because you log your food as normal, but for them it may not matter at all how many servings they get so you just ignore that part of it. For these kinds of foods, you'd wind up doing the same logging whether you were cooking for one or five

  • elphie754
    elphie754 Posts: 7,574 Member
    kristen6350 wrote: »
    When I started a new job in 2013, the people at work told me I'd gain weight. Office that LOVES food. I had just lost 50lbs and was lighter than I had ever been as an adult. I said "no, way, not going to happen". But oddly enough, 9 months later, I was 20lbs heavier. Mid-December I gave myself some rules. No more work food. Less snacking. If it's not prelogged, I didn't eat it. The Holidays weren't an excuse. By May I had those 20lbs back off and they never came back. Why? Because I made a promise to myself to weigh each week and if I wasn't in a 5lb range, then it was time to dig deep and do the right things. When I had lost that 50lbs I thought I had it all figured out. But I quit weighing (telling myself I'd go by my pants, then just buying bigger, because why not? LOL). I quit logging. I got comfortable. Like it seems you have. 20lbs isn't horrible, but it takes dedication and I know you can do it. Just make a promise to yourself that you'll do better about keeping it off. This is a life lesson. Everyone makes mistakes, get back at it now.

    Thank you for sharing! Makes me feel a bit better about the gain.
    Nickle526 wrote: »
    My boyfriend is an excellent cook. We don't live together, but we see each other a few times a week. He cooks for us when we are at his place. I recently started logging food again, because it is really the only way I lose weight. The most beneficial part of logging for me is realizing how overboard on calories I go if I am not paying attention. I have never had a good grasp on just eating what I need, and tend to eat until I am stuffed. This morning my boyfriend made bacon and pancakes. I was still able to enjoy a nice breakfast, while staying within my calories. I ended up eating about half of what I normally would, and was still satisfied. For me, a little awareness goes a long way, but I have to put the effort in, or it just doesn't happen.

    This is me. My natural instinct just isn't there.
    katkins73 wrote: »
    Buy a fabulous item of clothing. Something that is tight but you love! Hang it where you can see it and maybe plan where you will wear it when it fits

    Unfortunately, things like that don't motivate me at all.
    SLLRunner wrote: »
    arditarose wrote: »
    Do it. NOW. I know moving in with someone who isn't watching what they eat must be hard. I mean, I struggle when I'm just visiting my boyfriend for the weekend. But it's already been 20 pounds. If you don't catch it now you'll feel even worse when it's 30, or 40.

    This.

    Elphie, you can do this.

    Thank you!
    aggelikik wrote: »
    elphie754 wrote: »
    I need to vent and please feel free to be harsh/not sugar coat replies because I need a reality check.

    My significant other and I have made a HUGE step in our relationship, and for that I am so so excited! He moved in and a promise ring is in the picture, great right?

    Well it would be if I wasn't coming up with excuse after excuse these past two or so months in regards to food and weight. In the past two months I have put back on almost 20 lbs of the 100 I have lost. I knew my weight was creeping back up (pants were tighter, belt was tighter) but I would find excuses like sodium level and I hadn't been feeling this month. I know what I need to do (get back to weighing and logging which I have recommitted to) and I have his support, just needed to vent.

    What you describe is very common, so it just proves you are human :) I think every single one of my friends, male or female (me included) put on at least 10-20 lbs when first moving in with a partner.
    Since you realise now what the problem is, you can correct it. Do not feel bad about what has happened and just move on.

    I'm human? Shhh don't tell the cats. They are under the impression I'm just a very big funny looking cat
  • booksandchocolate12
    booksandchocolate12 Posts: 1,741 Member
    Nickle526 wrote: »
    I recently started logging food again, because it is really the only way I lose weight. The most beneficial part of logging for me is realizing how overboard on calories I go if I am not paying attention. I have never had a good grasp on just eating what I need, and tend to eat until I am stuffed.

    This is me as well. Coming to terms with the realization that I will have to log forever was a huge step for me. I simply have no off switch, no idea about hunger cues or what "just enough" feel like. Left to my own devices, I will plow right past "satiated" straight into "stuffed".

    I eat too fast--always have--and don't give my brain a chance to catch up with what I'm shoving into my face. Until I get that under control, logging is essential.

    Good luck, Elphie! Many of us are right beside you, in the same boat!

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