Guess I'm going to be starving tonight. Need support.

chicpower1
chicpower1 Posts: 169 Member
edited September 28 in Motivation and Support
Okay, so the husband came home from work and decided to take a nap. That means no walk for me, no exercise, and no way of making up the extra calories I need so I can eat a decent supper. I was STARVING at lunch and ate too many calories thinking I could go out for a nice 2 mile walk later. He'll wait until the last minute to get up from his nap--right up until the time we have to leave for church rehearsal. By the time we get done, it will be too dark out and the walking path will be closed. (my street isn't safe to walk on. Blind curves and no sidewalks) I can't go with the kids because it's too hot for the baby. I'm HIGHLY irritated at the lack of support I get. So sad when I can't even get two hours once a week to get out of the house without children so I can do something good for myself. Pep talk anyone?
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  • ambie35
    ambie35 Posts: 853 Member
    do some jumping jacks in your living room? Maybe run up and down the stairs for 5 minutes.
  • audigal2008
    audigal2008 Posts: 1,129 Member
    Seems there is never enough time in a day! Can u get out tomorrow?
    Good luck!
  • GorillaNJ
    GorillaNJ Posts: 4,024 Member
    There are so many things you can do around the house! Even something as easy and pump up the music and do some dancing with the kids!
  • katie_on_a_mission
    katie_on_a_mission Posts: 112
    I am sorry that you are not getting the support you need. Hopefully you will find some here :)

    There is a solution to getting your exercise though: work out at home! Jumping jacks, sit-ups, push-ups, planks, mountain-climbers, Turkish get-ups, squats, lunges-- you name it! Good luck!
  • JellyJaks
    JellyJaks Posts: 589 Member
    I'm sorry to hear that your husband isn't being supportive ::frown: Is there any way you can get exercise done with the kids? I do leg lifts with my toddler. I have him sit down on my feet and then lift him up and down. He loves it and I get a good workout because he weighs almost 30 lbs
  • aaaaaamyyyyyyy
    aaaaaamyyyyyyy Posts: 69
    Jogging on the spot! Just 30 mins gives you LOADS of calories :)
  • Elleinnz
    Elleinnz Posts: 1,661 Member
    Sorry you are not getting the support. Get yourself some workout DVD's I liove my zumba and Tae Bo DVD's and burn as much in 45 mins as I would on a 60 minute walk.....

    Got them as it is winter here now, so I don't always feel like going out when it is cold and wet
  • mandie26
    mandie26 Posts: 59
    Exercise at home! Jumping jacks, dancing, running on the spot, livingroom aerobics, ....anything you can possibly do to get that heart rate up! Just look up some videos for at-home exercising on youtube!
  • cessnaholly
    cessnaholly Posts: 780 Member
    I'm in your boat. My husband is sick and can't take care of the kids so sometimes they don't get a bath or go to be a little later so I can go walking. I never get enough time to go to my hour yoga class that only meets one time a week. I haven't been in months.

    BUT, I can walk when I'm at work - down to the cafe to buy lunch or even walk down the stairs instead of the elevator. I can walk at the grocery store. I can park at the last parking spot and walk to where I'm going. Take your kids to the local mall to walk around.

    I'm going to suck it up eventually and go to the 5:30 am yoga class before the kids get up - not this week though. Too tired.

    My point is, for folks like us, we are stuck but there are things we can do. And 5 or 10 minutes of walking adds up over a day or a week. Don't give up. It gets better. And if it doesn't get better, you can make subtle changes to make it better.
  • bunchesonothing
    bunchesonothing Posts: 1,015 Member
    This might be a strange question, but does he understand what this means for you? There are some times I think what I'm feeling and doing is obvious, but my hubby has no idea. Also, is he just taking a nap for the hell of it, or is he exhausted? Just trying to understand.
  • pixieval
    pixieval Posts: 64 Member
    ditto on the exercise ideas.
    I also recommend not to starve yourself tonight, that may cause future binging, either late night, or in the morning.
    Maybe eat a light dinner with lots of good things in them? Like a salad, or some yogurt and fresh fruit?
  • shamandalie
    shamandalie Posts: 21
    Get yourself some workout DVD's

    THIS :D
  • ANeWcRe8N
    ANeWcRe8N Posts: 1,180 Member
    maybe get a little workout in at home :bigsmile: I work out a home because I have no sitter (Im a sahm).. if you have cable demand you can find some good free workouts on exercisetv demand.

    oh ya or go to youtube and you'll find plenty of workouts on there :)
  • McRebecca
    McRebecca Posts: 72
    I too have an unsupportive hubby... who happens to LOVE fast food.. I always wake him from his naps and TELL him I am leaving the house on my own for 30-45 minutes here are you kids!

    But I agree with the others.. dance with the kids, be silly and have fun!
  • bunchesonothing
    bunchesonothing Posts: 1,015 Member
    Also, when I was in losing mode, I know I saw the number on the app or webpage and didn't always remember that those were the calories I needed to eat maximum for loss. If you need to, eat what the program says your maintenance calories are, which will be more. You won't "lose" for the day, but you won't starve either... and you won't gain either.
  • carpar1
    carpar1 Posts: 211 Member
    Go to youtube there are free workouts there : )
  • thurberj
    thurberj Posts: 528 Member
    I say put on some gloves and do some boxing moves on the door where your husband is sleeping. J/k, but talk to him about how important his support is!! Do some jumping jacks, squats with weights if you have them, or play some upbeat music and just make up some steps....I'm doing Zumba to latin music and it is so much fun....I'd dance to rock or country too. Good luck!!
  • pauljsolie
    pauljsolie Posts: 1,024 Member
    Get a mini trampoline/rebounder. They are inexpensive and very quiet so you won't wake the hubby. I used to get huge calorie burns on that and can watch tv or listen to musice since it is so quiet.
  • beachbum13
    beachbum13 Posts: 96 Member
    I agree with the other posters. It is hard when you your support system is not offering the support you would like. I also agree that you should workout at home. Leslie Sandstone is known for her walking videos. You can also use this tape when it is raining or for other times when you can't go outside.

    The big thing is to not throw in the towel! Sometimes things and life get in the way, you will continue to reach your goals if you are flexible and can adjust to changing situations that will come up

    Hope this helps!
  • FabOma08
    FabOma08 Posts: 500
    Possibly a friend or neighbor you could exchange babysitting with? Any Mommy's Day Out programs around you?
  • Sarahmeridith
    Sarahmeridith Posts: 298 Member
    Try working out in the living room, my kids dont give me peace and my husband is always at work, so most my workouts end up being only 10-20 mins at a time, but they add up, anything is better then nothing. Keep your head up you can do it!
  • deedeezplace
    deedeezplace Posts: 15
    I am gong to pray that your hubby realizes what you are trying to do is good for YOU! I agree with most of the blogs, about exercising at home, but I also know you must need to "get out" of the routine to help you energize and feel better. Sit down with your hubby, hold his hands, and PRAY aloud how much you need the walking time and how very appreciative you are when he goes with you on the walk. God will move on him to listen, or give you you another choice, like walking with a neighbor or friend. May His healing hand touch you and hubby....expect miracles. Love and blessings
  • tiggersstar
    tiggersstar Posts: 193 Member
    once hes home, cant he look after the kids and you do the walk even when he cant be bothered? that way you could get an hour a night walking whatever mood he's in?

    i would also try and do some sport type games with the older kids and do keep fit at home when you can.

    i would talk to him, he may have no idea why you are so mad.

    :heart:
  • fh1951
    fh1951 Posts: 440 Member
    620 of your 1323 daily calories allowed today (47%) are from just two items per your diary. there are choices you can make when you are hungry that can stretch those 1323 calories. congratulations on your progress so far; you're almost a third of the way to your goal!
  • BigBoneSista
    BigBoneSista Posts: 2,389 Member
    Why starve? What good is that going to do you? Make some baked fish and eat some veggies...that lite and low calories. I know you are talking about hubby selfishness but I couldn't get pass the starving aspect of it because you over indulged at lunch.
  • tiggernic
    tiggernic Posts: 59 Member
    :bigsmile: All the exercise ideas are spot on but I would imagine that if you have children you are burning off more than you realise. And if your children are anything like my son and dog trying to do anything in the house while they are both awake is near impossible. I usually have to wait until they have both gone to bed.

    If you dont have many kcals left to have what about doing a good old hearty home made veg soup which will be filling and not many kcals?

    I go to the gym once a week and I also have to wait for my husband tp get back from work but I try to make sure for that one day I am ready to go as soon as he gets back so it is one in one out. This means for me nothing gets in the way.

    Good luck and keep the good work up, the fact you are on here and asking for support means you are still going in the right direction.
  • lizzil0
    lizzil0 Posts: 181 Member
    Check out-
    http://www.bodyrock.tv/
    There are lots of quick, body weight routines Zuzana does that will get your heart rate up and get you sweating. Also a jump rope is great for burning calories. Good luck!
  • Countrymade
    Countrymade Posts: 183 Member
    If you have stairs in the house. Walk up and down them.
  • Jenscan
    Jenscan Posts: 694 Member
    Wake your hubby up and tell him you're going for a walk. TAKE the time to go for your walk. He is as much responsible for the kids as you are.
  • chicpower1
    chicpower1 Posts: 169 Member
    Thanks all. To be fair, 2 things are happening here. #1 I'm hormonal. LOL. I REALLY need a break from these kids and to just get some fresh air. I LOVE to walk and there's a gorgeous, shaded, paved walking trail just 3 miles from my house. It's peaceful with flowers growing, runs right along the river, waterfalls, the whole deal. It's my getaway place when I need to recharge my batteries.

    The second problem is that I'm a stay at home mom of a 5 year old and 6 month old. My husband works 6 days a week, and often works 9 hour days plus 2 hours of commuting. He's tired and only wants to sleep when he gets home from work on Saturdays, and just wants to sleep after church on Sundays. By the time he gets home during the work week it's too late for me to go walking. I don't want to be caught out on the trail when it gets dark (because it gets VERY dark on this trail. no lights!). I was counting on a walk today to help calm these hormones and frustrations down but he took baby duty last night and, unfortunately, stayed up until midnight waiting on her to get hungry and take her last bottle. (????!!!!) She didn't. Instead she woke up at 1:30am and ate. So, he went to bed at midnight, got up at 1:30am to feed her, then got back up at 6:45 and drove an hour to work.

    I don't want to come across as a spoiled brat. I KNOW he's working hard, I know he's tired (although for the life of me I can't figure out why he would stay up so late waiting on her to get hungry instead of just going to bed) but I sit in this house staring at the 4 walls all day and trying to get workouts done around the 2 screaming kids. I just need a break, even just once a week, to get out of this house and go do something peaceful. :/ It's too hot out to take the baby with me on a walk, even in the shade, otherwise I'd be at least getting a short trip out of the house that way. Ugh.

    Thanks for your support everyone. Guess I just need to put my big girl panties on and deal with it. It is what it is.
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