What do you think is the hardest part about losing weight?

jemhh wrote: »

dhimaan wrote: »

Really slow progress. I start to question my effort. Is it something I can control or not?

I will second this. Slow progress. Seeing no end in sight.

I agree.

As soon as I wrapped my head around the idea that there is no end and became fine with that then it became easy. When I was thinking this was just a diet that i had to do for a certain amount of time it was a struggle. As soon as I accepted that this is just how I'm going to eat from now on for the rest of my life then it became easy. I've lost 70 pound since April and it's been pretty easy. It's all just a mental game.

The internal work that comes with losing weight.
This last time, I didn't screw around. I got serious with myself about why I had quit in the past, and what I was afraid of. I had some seriously upsetting come to jesus talks with myself about this deep set fear of people seeing me actually TRY at something, rather than just being naturally good at it already. Or trying and failing. Failing at weight loss sounded so public, like the big elephant in the room. "oh look, she looked so good last month, it seems she's given up" etc etc. Weight loss was scary because I didn't want people to look at me trying, because that meant that I had accepted that there was an obvious problem I had to fix (and of course, mind-reading other people on what they thought about me)

I was raised by a mom who had abusive parents, and she grew up feeling like the only love she was worth was equal to what she could contribute. It rubbed off on me a little bit. I became an overachieving weirdo at intellectual and artistic things, but for a long time anything to do with taking care of myself was trivial and selfish. Or worse, "stereotypical".

After a lot of work, a lot of struggle, and a lot of tears, I got to a place where I felt it was ok to be... i dont know. Softer. Vulnerable. And that's where I am now.

This was by far the most important and the hardest part of losing weight. And I seriously believe it's the biggest reason i've lost more this time than I ever have before. weighing food, working out, measuring, i've done all that before. I know how to do that. But this time my frame of mind is totally different. I'm not quick to give up if "life happens" anymore, and I actually want this, and am willing and eager to do the work required, and not try to hide or or fear what people think.

The time was hard for me at first too, and still sometimes is. I think about this quote every time I get down about it.

Watching the food network without wanting to eat everything I see!

Good Luck.

Machka9 wrote: »

What do you think is the hardest part about losing weight?

Maintaining it.

This.

I lost 60 lbs. 2 years ago and I managed to maintain for about 6 months. I started slipping and slowly gained 75 lbs back. I know why I gained it back though and it was not all food related. I went on prednisone for joint pain about 6 months after I started maintenance and quickly gained 20lbs in the 2 months I was on it. That derailed me and I started eating whatever I wanted again. Here I am 2 years later starting over.

Not having the freedom to "just eat what I want". I have to analyze it, worry about it, and at times, say no to it if it doesn't work.

Good Luck.

Hardest part for me was people attacking me for my success and then trying to have mods help me but shut me out completely then when I tell someone that they have no right to tell others if they can be proud I get hit with a warning. It makes me want to go to comfort foods but I try to pull through it and turn the negativity into a positive.