How do you forgive bad people?

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  • salembambi
    salembambi Posts: 5,585 Member
    you have to define "Bad" it depends on who and what kind of meanness is happening


  • KANGOOJUMPS
    KANGOOJUMPS Posts: 6,474 Member
    I do not forgive. see ya later!,,
  • musclesandmusic866
    musclesandmusic866 Posts: 1,396 Member
    Not sure you have to forgive anybody but when you let things bother you....they win. So don't let them win:)
  • henshemi
    henshemi Posts: 1,977 Member
    I usually don't...but..

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  • sw33tp3a15
    sw33tp3a15 Posts: 1,674 Member
    I forgive everyone who has ever hurt me. Like the saying goes, what goes around comes back around.
  • 47Jacqueline
    47Jacqueline Posts: 6,993 Member
    Forgiving someone doesn't mean you condone what they did.
  • margaretlouise123
    margaretlouise123 Posts: 56 Member
    I used to hold a grudge but since spending a year here in Afghanistan I see that no one is promised tomorrow and to spend each day as if it were you're last and karma has it's way anyhow :)
  • verptwerp
    verptwerp Posts: 3,629 Member
    "Characteristics of toxic people: They do not have the ability to feel guilt, they are irresponsible, they thrive on drama, they brag about the last person they outsmarted, they've got a bunch of short-term relationships and, lastly, they are delusional."

    Over 60+ years, there are only 2 people I've cut dead in my mind ..... I don't talk to them or about them. And a few other people I'll avoid like the plague (like a toxic sister-in-law) ..... but I will play nice tomorrow at Thanksgiving B)

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  • jgnatca
    jgnatca Posts: 14,464 Member
    I prefer the Jewish concepts of repentance and forgiveness, which doesn't come with an automatic "get out of Sheol free" card.

    http://www.crosscurrents.org/blumenthal.htm

    There cannot be forgiveness if there hasn't been repentance and an attempt at restitution.

    So my short answer I guess is, "avoid bad people". Cross the street.
  • jgnatca
    jgnatca Posts: 14,464 Member
    Yeah, survivors of cruelty know. There is such a thing as bad people.
  • Luke_I_am_your_spotter
    Luke_I_am_your_spotter Posts: 4,179 Member
    You don't. I can forgive a good person who does a bad thing but I cant forgive a bad person. Eff em.
  • Straza66
    Straza66 Posts: 45 Member
    BraveNewdGirl wrote: »
    I generally decide that they don't deserve to rent space in my head and focus my energy elsewhere. I'm big on letting ish go, but not forgetting who has burned me in the past.

    What she said, it's just easier to forget about it than to sit on something that's hurt you and let it affect you as much as it is. Eff em, basically. Your time's more important than that.
  • beagletracks
    beagletracks Posts: 6,034 Member
    jgnatca wrote: »
    I prefer the Jewish concepts of repentance and forgiveness, which doesn't come with an automatic "get out of Sheol free" card.

    http://www.crosscurrents.org/blumenthal.htm

    There cannot be forgiveness if there hasn't been repentance and an attempt at restitution.

    So my short answer I guess is, "avoid bad people". Cross the street.

    What she said ^^ There are people who have done some pretty horrible things to me and never apologized or repented. It does not weigh on my heart or blacken my soul not to have forgiven them. If they asked sincerely for it, I might grant forgiveness, but they never will. Would I save them if they were drowning? Yes. Can I be at peace without forgiving them? Yes. Would I cross the street to avoid them? Yes.
  • beagletracks
    beagletracks Posts: 6,034 Member
    newmeadow wrote: »


    I don't think it's part of human nature, generally speaking, to forgive - especially unprovoked, severe and life ruining transgressions.


    Well stated.
  • Luke_I_am_your_spotter
    Luke_I_am_your_spotter Posts: 4,179 Member
    peppermintpudgy wrote: »
    jgnatca wrote: »
    I prefer the Jewish concepts of repentance and forgiveness, which doesn't come with an automatic "get out of Sheol free" card.

    http://www.crosscurrents.org/blumenthal.htm

    There cannot be forgiveness if there hasn't been repentance and an attempt at restitution.

    So my short answer I guess is, "avoid bad people". Cross the street.

    What she said ^^ There are people who have done some pretty horrible things to me and never apologized or repented. It does not weigh on my heart or blacken my soul not to have forgiven them. If they asked sincerely for it, I might grant forgiveness, but they never will. Would I save them if they were drowning? Yes. Can I be at peace without forgiving them? Yes. Would I cross the street to avoid them? Yes.

    I think its kinda funny that Santa concurs with the jewish philosophy. ;)
  • OliverMol
    OliverMol Posts: 46 Member
    People will always be territorial. Use a whip. Or buy secret mini bottle of skunk spray and give them a vemgefull innocent hug. Spray in Hair. Vengeance is only sweet when undiscovered. Bc they cant retaliate as easily.
    violetjin123 wrote: »
    Ok. This is just a random question. How do you forgive some people who are mean to you? What can you do to let it go and not be bother by it?

  • OliverMol
    OliverMol Posts: 46 Member
    Edit: Lol.
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