Weightloss changing your mind about getting pregnant?

After I had my daughter, I lost the baby weight (and then some) bulked, cut to my goal and decided to try for our second right away, so pretty much I was at my goal for maybe a month . It took us a while to get pregnant the first time so I was worried, however it happened right away with #2. I am still maintaining fitness the best I can right now into my third tri.

kkaiser431 wrote: »

Wow, first of all thank you for those who are supportive! Secondly.. my husband is not a dick and I am not losing weight on his terms. He is concerned for my health because he watched me cry, had to pick me up off couches, chairs, our bed and the floor and barely be able to move the last 4 months of my last pregnancy...because of Pubis Symphysis Disfunction(which is cause, in part, by being overweight). I am not just 40lbs overweight..that's the point where he would feel comfortable with starting to try again. I'm nearly 100lbs overweight. Morbidly obese, according to charts.

I had a friend mention to me how I may change my mind once I've lost the weight because it's been such a struggle to lose... I was just curious if other people had thought the same thing. I didn't need comments about my husband or whether or not I'm doing this for myself...

In any given thread you start, someone is always going to misinterpret you; no big deal

I understood your OP the way you meant it - that your husband was concerned about your health due to your last pregnancy.

BusyRaeNOTBusty wrote: »

Is losing weight really that hard that you'd let the possibility of it change your idea of what you want for your family? You don't have to gain a great deal of weight during pregnancy, try to keep it to 25 or 35lbs. Lose weight when you are done. If you've lost it once, you can do it again.

This is kind of insulting and very judgmental. Yes, losing weight CAN be that hard for some people.

kkaiser431 wrote: »

I've been begging my husband for a 3rd baby for almost a year now. (My youngest is 1 haha) He finally agreed to it if I lose at least 40 lbs because my last pregnancy was miserable. I had PSD and could hardly move. Right now I'm working to that goal and then some, but my question is..

for those that were wanting a baby and lost the weight... did you change your mind on another one? Like--did you think "It took me so long to get where I am, I don't want to have to start all over again"?

Anybody that would like to add me, too.. I'm going to need all the motivation I can get..baby or no baby haha.

I just turned 30. I'm not married and no where near having babies, but I'm the most fit I've ever been in my life. The thought has definitely crossed my mind but I'm literally more worried about becoming pregnant before it's too late.

kailyw05 wrote: »

I suppose I am not in the same position as you, because we are trying for our first. I assumed back in March when we decided to TTC that it wouldn't take very long, but I also kept on losing in case it did. 9 months later and it still hasn't happened for us. Yes, I feel better after losing 32 lbs, but I'm also excited because that's the amount a lot of people gain during a healthy pregnancy. I am the healthiest I've ever been and I can't wait to have the healthiest pregnancy possible. Lots of people have babies and get their pre-pregnancy bodies back. No, I know I won't have the SAME body, but it will be a body I can appreciate for the joy it brought me and my husband.

No questions, I want a baby. Be thankful that you have the choice to make. Be thankful you have 2 beautiful children already. Some people are unable to have children regardless of what shape their body is in. I just hope that my weightloss didn't actually hinder my chances of getting pregnant.

Just wanted to say I feel for you. It took me and hubby 3 years to conceive. At first we thought it was my former cervical/uterine cancer (had it when I was 18, major self-esteem murderer during that time, thinking it was me), but then it turned out he had a super super super like HULK SMASH level screwed-up thyroid and was shooting blanks because of it. Once they put him on drugs to kill his thyroid, we were pregnant within a month. So don't give up, it happens, and if it doesn't, it may be a significantly easy fix, and even if it ain't easy, you'll get there one way or another.

It's kind of the opposite for me. I'm less worried than I've ever been about pregnancy "ruining" my body because, after losing 75bs, I now have plenty of stretchmarks, loose skin and sad breasts. I'm also not particularly worried about weight gain because I know have better eating habits and a more active lifestyle than I ever did.

Just to chime in. I am not wanting more babies. Well, at one point I did but I realized that I wanted another baby but not another child in the end. So probably best to just snuggle other babies. Lol. Anyway, I wanted to add something for those feeling like spousal or personal weight loss demands are like dangling carrots. The day I gave birth to my third I weighed 235lbs. Heavy, but not morbidly obese. So about 20lbs of that is baby, placenta, extra fluid. Well for the last 4 months of my pregnancy I was in so much pain! SPD like the op, back spasms that lasted until he was 6 months old and prevented me from carrying him(he rode in a stroller in the house), knee pain, and plantar fasciitis. So not fun! The knee pain began at about 190lbs, the plantar fasciitis at about the same time. The SPD made sitting on the toilet feel like my hips were glass, rolling over in bed was a huge production and so painful, my gait was so altered that if I walked for more than 5 min I ended up with feet covered in blisters. My previous two pregnancies were not enjoyable but I suffered way less pain being lighter. I would advise everyone to try their best to be in a healthy BMI before pregnancy! So much less stress on your body, so much easier to get some exercise and maintain health throughout! I was lucky to have natural, relatively easy labours, something that does not always happen with the added complications of a heavy birth mother. I will never regret my choices. They have shaped who I am, but in hindsight I could have saved many, many months of misery.

I just keep reminding myself that establishing a stronger base now - logging habits and muscles - will only mean I'll be better off when it comes to pregnancy and post-pregnancy.

dalielahdawn wrote: »

40 lbs. not "morbidly obese to just over weight" or a number that would cause big health concerns while pregnant. 40 lbs That's a carrot dangle, not health concerns.

interesting...i lost 40 Lbs and it was the difference between a whole host of health issues and crappy blood work vs. a clean bill of health....

maybe you should just stop talking.

I was big when I was pregnant with my first baby - I didn't really gain a lot (8 Ibs) as I was big anyway I knew I had to be really careful. 2 years on I lost 8.5 stone - I then fell pregnant (planned) 6 months after reaching my target weight. I did really struggle mentally putting on weight when I was pregnant but wouldn't have let it get in the way of my decision to have another second baby is now 9 months and after gaining 3 stone (!) I am 10 pounds away from target!

kkaiser431 wrote: »

Wow, first of all thank you for those who are supportive! Secondly.. my husband is not a dick and I am not losing weight on his terms. He is concerned for my health because he watched me cry, had to pick me up off couches, chairs, our bed and the floor and barely be able to move the last 4 months of my last pregnancy...because of Pubis Symphysis Disfunction(which is cause, in part, by being overweight). I am not just 40lbs overweight..that's the point where he would feel comfortable with starting to try again. I'm nearly 100lbs overweight. Morbidly obese, according to charts.

I have suffered for 12 years with this...stemming from starting my family at 16. Mine actually worsened after having my 3rd..mainly because my left hip would give out and yes partly due to my weight issues. The heavier you are, the more stress you put on your frame. Random stranger recommendation: see a physical therapist who can set you up with some pelvic/core strengthening exercises so that your muscles can help support this troublesome area...and also prepare you for when you are ready to expand your family again!

I kinda understand all of this. I had our daughter 8 years ago. I had a very emotionally trying pregnancy (I was young (18), lost my mother, and a few other not so fun things happened) and had gained 55lbs. I struggled with this weight - yo-yoing for the past 6 years until I finally decided I had enough. I weigh less now than I did before we conceived in 2006, and it took me 1.5 years to get to where I am.

I had a lot of people tell me to get pregnant (then) and worry about losing weight after because they didn't see the point in losing weight only to gain it back with getting pregnant. But I honestly think weight and safe, healthy pregnancies are very closely linked. So, I ignored those people and lost the weight anyway.

My original motivation to lose the weight was be in a healthy weight range for our second baby. I wanted to have a healthier pregnancy (not that the first one was awful) and feel "cute" being pregnant and to only gain what was recommended (25-35lbs). Now that I am where I am, I do have second thoughts about having another. After the first though, I know what NOT to do (which was use my pregnancy as an excuse to eat anything and everything I wanted) so I'm not as concerned with gaining as much this time around. I have the healthy lifestyle down pat and I'm not concerned with maintaining it and continuing it during or after pregnancy. I also plan to continue lifting and working out during my pregnancy unless I am told otherwise by my doctor.

On the other hand, I had my IUD taken out July 2014. We have been having unprotected sex since then and ACTIVELY TTC (tracking ovulation, etc.) since April and are having a difficult time for some reason despite both my husband and I being the healthiest we've been. Is it related to losing weight? I'm not sure. I personally think the IUD messed up my uterine lining, but we'll know more after the next appointment with the OBGYN.

Good luck. And no matter what you decide, a healthier you is always worth the effort - before, during, after having another child, or if you decide to not have another one.

I don't know but having a kid is a SERIOUS matter regardless of losing weight or not, and if u have to beg for it

Last year I started losing weight and I was 35 pounds down when I found out I was pregnant. It was baby #4 for me, and we had toyed around with the idea of another baby but weren't quite there yet. To be honest, I was upset at first because I had been doing sooo well with losing weight (and I'd been carrying that weight around for many many years) and I was worried I would never get back into it again. It didn't take long and I was excited about the pregnancy. Of course I gained back all that 35 pounds and then a bit more. But since baby was born in January, I've taken off 77 lbs! Even though it felt like starting over in some ways, it all worked out for the best.