people can be cruel!

faithNlove212
faithNlove212 Posts: 203 Member
edited September 28 in Health and Weight Loss
The nerve of people! I swear these past few days have not been going well with my emotions.

This past weekend I attended a party where all the mothers were at least 50-60lbs lighter then me so of course I felt uncomfortable.

Then I am shopping yesterday for bathing suits for my son & I and some random woman who I dont know and didnt work at the store has the nerve to open her mouth and say something rude to me ....

I was looking at all the womans bathing suits, they were all together no matter the size. Some woman came up to me & says "plus size is on the other side of the store" ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!?! Inside I was crying but outside I was furious! I wanted to open my mouth but I know that im better then that. So I bit my tongue, looked at her & said "oh really? thanks! my boobs are huge, plus size is probably best" and I walked away like nothing :bigsmile:

My fiance was laughing his butt off from the comment I made back! :laugh: I didnt let the situation get the best of me, but of course I was upset.
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  • TiffanyDawn79
    TiffanyDawn79 Posts: 201 Member
    You handled it so well! Good for you!
  • Schraudt814
    Schraudt814 Posts: 496 Member
    Wow you are a much better person than I am! I certainly would have let her have it...Good for you and it's really admirable how you can keep your head up even when people suck (which is often, it seems!) :flowerforyou:
  • alischaid
    alischaid Posts: 46 Member
    That's horrible! I wouldn't of handled it as nicely as you did.
  • kimmerroze
    kimmerroze Posts: 1,330 Member
    I would have been on FIRE! :explode: :mad:

    I HATE unasked for or unwarrented advice. lol especially rude advice or comments like that.

    You are a better person than I.
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    :explode:
  • RILEYRED
    RILEYRED Posts: 647 Member
    PEOPLE CAN BE VERY MEAN, I WOULD HAVE LET HER HAVE IT, THEN YOUR BOYFRIEND FOR THINKING IT WAS FUNNY!!!! SORRY YOU LOOK BEAUTIFUL IN YOUR PICTURE, AND BEAUTY IS ON THE INSIDE, AND SHE OBVIOUSLY HAD NONE. RED
  • KBrenOH
    KBrenOH Posts: 704 Member
    You're definitely a better person than I am. I'm a very quick temper and that woman would have set it off. Good for you for being the better person in this case!
  • faithNlove212
    faithNlove212 Posts: 203 Member
    PEOPLE CAN BE VERY MEAN, I WOULD HAVE LET HER HAVE IT, THEN YOUR BOYFRIEND FOR THINKING IT WAS FUNNY!!!! SORRY YOU LOOK BEAUTIFUL IN YOUR PICTURE, AND BEAUTY IS ON THE INSIDE, AND SHE OBVIOUSLY HAD NONE. RED

    no my fiance thought what I said back was funny lol
  • es0torok
    es0torok Posts: 66 Member
    Maybe she was just trying to be helpful?
  • misscfe
    misscfe Posts: 295 Member
    They were only rude to you to make them feel better. You handled it perfectly, I probably wouldn't have been so quick on my feet with that response.
  • widmar
    widmar Posts: 72
    Wow, how rude! I guess I will never understand why people are so rude. She had to know that wasn't called for. Good for you for keeping a cool head.
  • faithNlove212
    faithNlove212 Posts: 203 Member
    Maybe she was just trying to be helpful?

    oh no, the look on her face and the way her body language was, she was definitely being mean. She had an attitiude like I didnt belong here.
  • massmech8111
    massmech8111 Posts: 32
    yeah,people are cruel for the most part...the worst part is ,that most people are so emotionally detatched from real people(as in people that are right in front of them as oppsed to on the other side of a screen) that they are clueless when it comes to matters of courtesy...she may or may not have meant to be insulting by her comments,however ,i agree it was rude and frankly quite bold...I do applaud you for your ability to contain your emotion in a social setting as this shows maturity that modern society is obviously lacking and an apparent de-evolution is taking place...good job:)..and dont let it hinder your goals..
  • amarie35
    amarie35 Posts: 333 Member
    Some people can be SO cruel!

    Good for you for biting your tonge. I don't think I could've been so nice. Since you didn't give her an attitiude, like she probably wanted, I bet you made her feel really bad for what she said.

    =)
  • twooliver
    twooliver Posts: 450 Member
    Ya know, this has nothing to do with being 'christian' - in fact being christian is about setting boundaries with people and letting them know it's not okay to treat people a certain way - after all, this got Jesus crucified! It's the greatest act of love we can give to another person...set a boundary...
  • AngelsKisses75
    AngelsKisses75 Posts: 595 Member
    I do hope that she honestly meant ot be helpful and not as rude as it came out. As well I hope your comment made her very aware of her self. :bigsmile: YAY you for not punching her in the nose!! :flowerforyou:
    Maybe she was just trying to be helpful?

    oh no, the look on her face and the way her body language was, she was definitely being mean. She had an attitiude like I didnt belong here.

    *DOH* I read this after I posted. Sorry. Still YAY for you!!
  • tawny7
    tawny7 Posts: 276 Member
    You handled that much better than I would have!! I probably would've started crying!!!
    People really need to think about what they say BEFORE they say it!!!
    Don't let it get to you...you're here and are working on getting healthy!!
  • SabrinaJL
    SabrinaJL Posts: 1,579 Member
    She had to know that wasn't called for.

    I agree. I just can't imagine a grown adult thinking that going up to somebody and basically saying you think they look too fat for those clothes is ok.
  • dougstevens
    dougstevens Posts: 208 Member
    Never give someone else, especially a stranger, permission to make you feel bad. I say, feel sorry for those who cannot express kindness and choose to make snyde remarks to a stranger.
  • DTRTinAZ
    DTRTinAZ Posts: 29
    Mean people suck for sure. Too bad there is no diet for mean people to make them nice. Luckily, you will reach your goal and be the weight you want to be...and the mean lady will still be... "just mean". Good luck and stay the path!
  • SarahLovesCheesecake
    SarahLovesCheesecake Posts: 520
    Holding your mouth doesnt necessarily make you a nicer person....so if a person fires back with an equal comment does that make them bad...? I dont think so....

    However I know what you mean, just dont agree.......

    Guess you handled it well, bet she felt a goof!
  • suzycreamcheese
    suzycreamcheese Posts: 1,766 Member
    should have said, "oh really? *kitten* you very much for your help
  • Lets_Do_It
    Lets_Do_It Posts: 202
    WOW!!! I hate people like that! Great come back (I may use it once in a while if ya don't mind ;D ) but, wow... yeah. I feel asthough she didn't mean it, but the way she said it was just horrible. My best friend and I were sharing a chair (she is a stick) and I sat down first and then she did. I got up and she said "Nooo I miss my warm cocoon!" Implying I had enough blubber to keep her warm -__-" She didn't mean it in anyway insulting, but it hurt me.
  • Terri_74
    Terri_74 Posts: 90 Member
    Some people can be so rude and insensitive. You handled the situation perfectly. I wouldnt waste another minutes thought on her as she doesnt deserve your time or energy :flowerforyou:
  • trisha_moore32
    trisha_moore32 Posts: 3
    It only matters what God saw..and in this case you handled it so well. This is a perfect example of what I try my best to live by. You can not help your emotions but you an chose how your going to react to them. I had a similar experience this weekend in a completely different context but I was in tears...then after crying I prayed and it occured to me that it was a test and it was the devil trying to mess with my soft spots...once I realized that I prayed and I was over it in seconds and today has been a great day..You should be so proud because you won that day even though it hurt your feelings.
  • Elizabeth_C34
    Elizabeth_C34 Posts: 6,376 Member
    Not very nice. Next time speak up for yourself! You don't have to me mean, but don't let people walk all over you either.
  • imnotyourpal
    imnotyourpal Posts: 162 Member
    HA! Good comeback!! I really hate people (hence my username, lol).
  • Ariyasnow1
    Ariyasnow1 Posts: 117
    You definitely handled it better than I would have! I have a Texas temper like no other. :) I'm sure she thought she was just 'trying to be helpful', but still, some people don't use their friggin brains.
    Keep your chin up! This proves that inner beauty always beats outer beauty. Keep maintaining a healthy and stress free lifestyle and keep staying beautiful and kind no matter what size you are!!
  • Gilbrod
    Gilbrod Posts: 1,216 Member
    It's human nature to be cruel. Kids aren't raised to be cruel (at least the ones I raised) but they know how to be. But props to you for dealing with it the way you did. Shows me you can handle anything.
  • iAMaPhoenix
    iAMaPhoenix Posts: 1,038 Member
    Sometimes we need to let the little devil over our right shoulder speak his mind...and this was certainly a case where the little angel on ya left shoulder probably would have joind in on the cussing.
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