A 11 year old called me fat.

Ouch! I can say I understand that, have your cry, wipe your tears, get up and remember eleven very short and uneducated years made that assessment, not you hypercritical mother in-law. Don't let this knock you down. Maybe take the time to educate the 11 year old on hurtful and rude remarks. Shake it off and move forward towards feeling great!

Phone books don't leave marks! Just kidding... Don't let it bother you. It's just a kid.

Don't worry about it. Next time tell him you're just squishy and laugh it off. Kids don't know any better.

You're doing great getting healthy and dropping poundage so just keep your chin up and keep rollin'!

My boyfriend's nephew drew a picture of me one day and let me just say that it was not a flattering drawing. kids will just give you their opinion. he is a child and meant nothing offensive at the most use his comment as a motivation to keep losing. go downstairs and have a great day. you are beautiful and even more amazing because you are TRYING to lose weight. keep up the good work and keep smiling. : )

11 yr old boys are just butt heads...I have a 11 year old son, he can't say anything nice to anyone, yes I am called fat as well. he calls his sister who is 13 fat, and she is skinny thing.

I would not take it to heart, next time just reply to him, " I rather be fat then stupid, and you ain't fat!" ....see what he says.,..or reacts.

Sometimes you have to give it back to them, especially boys.

Kids just say what pops into their heads - often without intending to be rude. Maybe this will help put it into perspective (and give you a bit of a giggle). A good friend of mine is 6ft 2 and v thin. She is a primary school teacher.

On her first day in a new class one of the children walked up to her, looked her up and down and said, "Miss, you're as big as a house." Well, my friend was speechless and as she's quite consicous of her height, she was quite upset. But by the end of the day, she was starting to see the funny side as she is clearly nowhere near the size of a house!

Now I know it's not quite the same thing, but you know you're doing a great job so please don't let one child's thoughtless comment upset you.

As a middle school teacher, let me assure you that 11 year olds not only don't have social filters, but they really have a warped sense of reality. Please keep in mind that If he has limited vocabulary, he wouldn't be able to express that you're well endowed or curvy other than by saying that you're fat. It's a good lesson in connotation in our vocabulary.

As others have mentioned, kids tend to be very mean with their comments especially if the know it is a way to get your goat. You are doing an awesome job. Keep up the good work and consider the source regarding the rude, mean comment. They tend to know how to make us focus on something besides them. Have a great week!!!!

Kids just don't really have a filter. Not to make excuses, but the kid will have to learn that healthy bodies come in all shapes and sizes and it's not just the number on the scale that dictates if someone is fat or not fat, healthy or not. Keep your chin up! Don't let the 11 year old get to you.

A month ago we had a large family function and my nephew, who is 9, kept asking me "how much do you weigh?" That is a touchy subject for me as I've struggled with my weight my whole life (up, down, and all around). At first I just politely told him I wasn't going to tell him, but throughout the night he kept asking and asking. Finally I just had to tell him, "look, it is rude to continually ask a person a personal question like that." And he stopped. I think he just didn't realize that not everyone would want to answer him (he had been asking other family members the same question).

Anyway, at one point or another we all face the rudeness of a statement from a child who might not realize how much their words sting. Have yourself a cry and then let it go. Clearly everyone else thinks you're looking pretty darn good! So take all those positive compliments to heart instead. :happy:

If you are crying then that kid is thinking "Me 1; Babysitter 0". You can expect to hear it again next time you even slighly inconvenience the child.

Because children are cruel with their honesty/naivety. I went to try on some clothes today and found I am a UK size 8 - US 4, and yet my children tell me I am fat pretty much every week. They don't mean it hurtfully, but compared to a 5 year old girl, of course I am fat! It isn't hurtful, and there's really nothing to cry about.

Who cares what an 11 year thinks. Honestly, who cares. It was rude of him, but he is only 11 years old, so just forgive him. Forgive him and find peace. You are a beautiful person so be beautiful by being peace-filled.

I have to say- from the viewpoint of a skinny 11 year old boy anyone who has a normal amount of flesh on their bones looks FAT to them. I have done childcare in my home for 20 years and I can tell you when the kids are naturally very skinny they think everyone is made that way so if you are not looking like them, then their is something different about you not them. I have also seen it reversed and the skinny kids get teased by the more muscular kids. He should know not to be so rude though even if his naturally self centered brain thought it, he should never have said it because rude is rude .

But don't let it get you down. I have been asked why my teeth are yellowish, why do I have wrinkles, freckles, etc...And these things ARE true but I don't take offense, they are just learning about the world around them, I use each of these moments to teach them either -not to be mean and to watch their manners , but also if they are pointing out a truth (my teeth ARE more yellow than theirs, I DO have more wrinkles then them, I DO have more squishy parts than them etc) , I teach them that everyone is different and there is no right way or wrong way to look and that's what makes the world such an interesting and wonderful place.

Ah! You should of sat on him. He either doesnt think of you as an adult or has no respect for adults. You should talk to him and explain to him how it hurts and that eveyrone is different and unique and pointing out things in such a way will not only hurt others but get him hurt. So he needs to keep it to himself.

Yikes! By 11 yrs old the child should have been taught that something are just cruel and rude to say. I would talk to the child let him/her know what he/she said hurt your feeling and it was not nice to say that.

As someone who takes care of kids, I have noticed some parents don't know what to do when their child behaves this way. I do not let my own kids speak to people rude and I do not tolerate it from my daycare kids either.

My sons are 10 yrs old and 8 yrs old, they have been taught that words can and do hurt, there is no age that is too early to teach this.