Gym fear

I decided to start lifting about two years ago at my university's gym, which is full of bros. I was terrified. But it really wasn't bad once I got past the thought of all eyes being on me. Honestly, nobody cares that you're in the gym. They're in the gym for the same reason you are--to better themselves. You can do this! Just blast your music and think positive thoughts. Also, just go. Don't sit and think about how nervous you are. JUST GO. I promise that it gets easier.

I gym alone myself. Headphones with music that pumps you up and has a good rhythm is the best, especially while lifting. Just do what you can. My goal is usually just to get into the door. I tell myself, I just need to walk in and scan in and then I can leave and it's usually enough to get me to stay and do something since I'm there. Next thing I know it's been an hour and my workout is done.

As for the anxiety, nobody is looking. I do some pretty weird stretches there and nobody bats an eye. People are there to do their own thing, just like you're there to do you. If someone happens to notice you're doing something wrong, they will usually just help you. Perks of being a lady. I love sometimes just going on a bike, setting it and just closing my eyes and just listening/peddling to whatever playlist I decided on. It's such a good break from life. Just don't forget your towel!

I'm right there with you! I joined a gym last month but was already doing Pulmonary Rehab three days a week so I didn't have the time or energy to try my new gym membership. That was my excuse last month, anyway... I also play chair volleyball 2 days a week and ride my stationary bike at home on days I didn't do one of the fore mentioned activities so it's not that I'm avoiding exercise - I'm clearly avoiding the gym. Well, Pulmonary Rehab is over and so is all of this Holiday nonsense (the season for excuses), so it's time to suck it up and march our sagging butts into the gym. Tomorrow.

"Whether you think you can, or you think you can't--you're right." ~ Henry Ford.

I started going to the gym a few months ago. I don't know how much a stone is, but I can tell you that I've lost 110lbs from my biggest and probably have 80 to go. I was terribly insecure. I thought everyone would be judging me. I hated that there were mirrors everywhere and I didn't NOT want to see what I looked like when I was a redfaced sweaty warthog. I felt like I was "taking someone elses spot" when I used a machine, and that everyone could tell I didn't know what I was doing when I wasn't.

Instead of dreading these things, when I felt like I didn't know what I was doing, I just did research when I got home and made sure that the next time I'd have a better idea. I did careful observation of the people who are at the fitness level I want to be at, and took notes on what they were doing and decided that I would be that person one day. That one day, I'd notice a heavy girl out of the corner of my eye watching me and using what I was doing to inspire herself. I want to be my own inspiration. Caring too much about what others think of us is often times a lot of the reason we get to be overweight in the first place. Thinking that others will think negatively of us is a reflection of the critical eyes we look at ourselves with. Along with working out, work on forgiving yourself for not being perfect or getting to this point, and love yourself enough to make sure that the critical voice is no longer allowed to dominate your mind. Talk to yourself like you would talk to your best friend on this journey.

Every time you go it will get easier and feel less uncomfortable. So just go, and keep going.

Great job picking nrol !!! That's so great ! And I don't notice others in the gym , so can't really help with that part. But I do know that it is not as bad as you think it will be.

Congratulations for making this step (and a good choice of a book to get you going)! What you’re feeling is very common. We all start out not knowing our way around. I’ll share a few points below:
1) Nobody will be laughing at you. We’re all there to get healthy and fit.
2) Use the book, watch some videos on Youtube, ask here in the forums (or PM me) and you’ll have all you need to be sure you’re doing it right. Form is important to reduce the risk of injury. Start with low weights and slowly progress.
3) Follow basic gym etiquette - Don’t hog equipment (aka let people work in if need be); Put equipment back when you’re finished with it; and wipe down equipment you’ve used.
4) If you need help, ask. Most folks are more than willing to offer advice, provide a spot, etc.
5) Making friends at the gym can help you be even more successful. See someone like yourself? Offer them encouragement and you might get a workout buddy in the process.
6) Enjoy! Weight lifting can be very good for your health and spirit.

You’ve got this!

Allan Misner
NASM Certified Personal Trainer (Corrective Exercise Specialist, Fitness Nutrition Specialist)
Host of the 40+ Fitness Podcast

littlemissmetalfit1 wrote: »

I'm to go to my gym induction tomorrow I'm so scared not just about induction but just gyming alone, I've no friends to gym with and find it generally hard to be around people.
I need gym as I'm really over weight almost 15st on a 5'4 frame, but not really intrested in just loosing weight I'm wanting to gain muscle. I can not afford personal trainer (can barely afford gym membership) I have brought new rules for lifting book.

Any advise on how I can gym with so much anxiety on doing it alone, do people laugh if your doing it all wrong?

I get anxious when I go someplace for the first time too

What's a gym induction - like an orientation? Maybe prepare for this by familiarizing yourself with the workouts in New Rules of Lifting for Women so you can ask specific questions about where the equipment for those routines are and have the person orienting you walk you through them and check your form.

I've been gyming alone since 1988 and prefer it that way. I go the the gym at off peak hours like the hour before close so there are less people.

everyone in that gym is there to improve themselves, just like you, they may be further along their particular journey and you are just starting yours....but you are all there for the same reason, go and do the gym work and look forward to the results, as you travel along your journey you will see people starting theirs....just like you did.